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Scar tissue has no character. It's not like skin. It doesn't show age or illness or pallor or tan. It has no pores, no hair, no wrinkles. It's like a slip cover. It shields and disguises what's beneath. That's why we grow it; we have something to hide
what movie is this quote from? (link)
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That quote is from Girl, Interrupted. The main character is played by Winona Ryder.
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i think im fat ive always thought that i was fat eversince i was like 11 and now im 14. my weight dont matter its just that i have a lil bit of stomach. im not scared to wear tight shirts no more accually i just started being confortable with what i look like,like 1 month ago. but he wants to see my stomach and im scared to show him because i dont know if he will think im fat. i have love handles and i dont like them. is there anything i can do like exercises. because my boyfriend works out like lifts weights and stuff and he has a 6 pack. i just want to be skinny like most gurls. just not too skinny. can you help me? any kind of advise is great! thanx so much! if i dont get this stomach away i think i might just take a knife and cut it off! just joking but i do want to do that sumtimes! sorry so long! hope you can help
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always kayla (link)
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Sit ups & crunches work really well to tone your stomach. I do about 50 sit ups & 50 crunches before I go to bed each night & it really helped me tone my stomach!
If you do that & you still aren't happy, you can try selecting a healthier diet. You don't necessarily have to knock all junk foods out of your eating habits, but you can try eating healthier foods too. Like salads, fruits, & vegetables. Drinking a lot of water is good too!
Hope everything works out & hope I helped. If you need any more tips just leave your e-mail in my inbox & I'd be glad to send more!
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Hi I'm in the 6th grade but anyways well wen i'm in skool there is this boy who whacks this chair against my chair, calls me stupid all the time, hits me and kicks me and all that crap and yet hes nice to me but i just dno if thats a sign of flirting and him wantign to get my attetion or just him hateing me and we are friends he sed it himself...plz help i'm just real confused (link)
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Aw! He definitely likes you. I remember when I was in 5th grade, this boy that I was friends with kept doing that to me & I was afraid that he hated me, but he admitted to having a big crush on me once we got older! Anyways, boys are weird like that & they're too shy to let you know how they really feel so they tease you instead. Don't worry - they'll grow out of it!
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this isn't really a ? but a survey for guys. what do guys like best in a girl
looks
blonde or brunette?
color eyes?
height?
skinny or average weight?
populararity or just a nice average girl?
i'll give everyone who answers everything a 5.
thanks Kate (link)
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I asked a few of my guy friends:
Nate:
1. blonde
2. green or blue
3. shorter or the same height
4. either - doesn't really matter
5. nice average girl
Andy:
1. brown
2. blue
3. same height
4. average weight
5. nice average girl
Tom:
1. red or brown
2. brown or blue
3. shorter
4. doesn't matter
5. nice average girl
Bryce:
1. brown
2. blue or green
3. shorter or same height
4. either
5. nice average girl
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looking for a song. i dont know any of the words except . i am pretty fly for a white guy? helpplzz (link)
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Like everyone else said, it's called Pretty Fly (For A White Guy) by The Offspring. You can listen to it for free at http://cdzinc.com/K/16/rock/M_R/offspring.html
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idk why but lately i have beenreally depressed i talk to my freinds and everythng and cousins but i just want to tel them something but i cant and thenit makes me depresed i dont cut myself or anything i just dont know what to do anymore and when i need to talk to my freind or some1 they are at work or leaving or something nad im really close to my cousin but the problem is that the 2 that im really attached to they dont live by ne they lvie in other states like ATL and LA and i talk to my best freinds but they just odnt understand
wat do i do?
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I went through the same exact thing. None of my "best friends" would listen or even try to understand what I was going through. I became friends with a few other people & now I'm really close with them & I can tell them everything. That helped me a lot because I didn't have as much on my mind. I also kept a journal & I felt much better after writing everything down & getting it out of my system. Hopefully that will work for you too. I hope I helped & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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My friend Alex told me he didn't like his girlfriend Katie anymore. I asked why and he said it was 'cause he hadn't seen her all summer. I was like "well that's okay, you guys'll get back together at school." The later he told me he just didn't have feelings for her anymore (still summer). I told him he hadn't seen her and to just wait 'till school before he broke up with her or anything like that. Then later he told me he took his other friend's advice and broke up with her. At first he said Katie took it well, but then later Alex told me she IMed him saying she was gonna kick his ass at school. Now he's pissed off at ME for, in his words "not telling me clearly enough what to do." BUT I told him not to break up with her! How do I make him realize it's his own fault and not mine without just... well... accusing him of it being his fault? I RATE VERY WELL!!!! (link)
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Your friend shouldn't be mad at you because you kept telling him that he would probably feel different once school started up again. It was his choice to take his other friend's advice.
If he was afraid of the outcome, he should have made the decision himself instead of making his friends do it for him. Besides, even if you would have told him "more clearly" - he's the one that said that he didn't have feelings for her anymore. I would just try telling him all of that & I'm sure he'll get over it.
Hopefully everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in the inbox. & if you ever need/want to talk - just leave your screen name or e-mail in the feedback comment or in my inbox & I'll IM you/e-mail you!
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ok this is about my boyfriend
well....ok my boy n I have been going out since that last week of school but after that we haven't talked!!! but one of my friends (a boy) called him and he realli didn't seem to care about me!!!!! and i had the biggest crush on him toO!!! so it hurt and i love him! and everyting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and like i want my friend who called him to dump him for me but he hasn't done it and now i am having second thoughts......i am soooooooo confused!!
PLZ HELP!!! b4 school starts lol (sept 12)
-ConFuSed Chiica (link)
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If you haven't talked since the last week of school, I would end the relationship. It doesn't seem like he cares about you or the relationship very much, otherwise he would have tried to get a hold of you.
I know it might be hard for you to move on at first, but if you stay with someone who doesn't really care about you - you could be missing out on a lot of great guys who do care a lot about you.
I hope everything works out & if you need anything else leave it in my inbox. If you ever need to talk - just leave your screen name or e-mail in my feedback comment & I'll IM you or e-mail you. Good luck with everything!
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about 3or4 days ago i started dating one of my best guy friends. we sort of had some sort of crush/flirt thing going on for a while. but starting an actual relationship with him never crossed my mind. until my cousin (who i recently found out was friends with him) started talking to him about "asking me out" and when he was going to and all that jazz. so when we hung out again. he asked me. it hasnt hit me until now that.. i dont want a relationship. but hurting him would be the last thing on my mind. hes been hurt before.. and is pretty sensative. so i dont know what to do. i know i should give it a chance.. but i dont want to wait to long. and start lying to myself about when im feeling. i dont know what im feeling.
anyone andive on what i could do? (link)
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If you honestly don't want a relationship, I would end it as soon as possible. Leading someone on always hurts more because you're giving them false hope for something that could never happen.
I would just tell him that you're afraid of having a relationship with him because his friendship means so much to you & you wouldn't want to do anything to ruin it.
I hope everything works out for the best & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox - or if you ever need to talk just leave your screen name or email in my feedback & I'll contact you!
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i hate myself i really do. when i look at myself i just want to end my life. i feel so ugly. and i have no friends. i never had a bf and no one ever liked me before. But that is not why i am crying. i stop caring about my uglyness. i was in my bestfriends house and she was talking to her mother about me. I guess they thought i wouldnt hear it. Her mother goes i know u feel sorry for her and all but now that you made new friends its time to let this one go. my friend goes yeah eww gosh i hate her. She smells bad and wow shes very ugly. my new friends dont like her and i just dont know how to leave her with out sounding me! wow i started to cry. that hurt so bad. the only perosn i loved and cared about hates me and never liked. she just used me!!
what do i do? how can i change for her? i need to be her friend (link)
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Wow. First of all, I'm so sorry that that happened to you! That is terrible & no one should be treated like this.
I don't think you need to be her friend. Don't change who you are for someone like that. Always be yourself - no matter what. The great thing about being yourself is that you know people like you for who you really are. You might not have that many friends, but it's better to have a few true friends than a bunch of fake friends.
I hope everything works out for you & again, I'm really sorry. If you ever want to talk - just leave me your screen name or e-mail in the feedback comment and I will IM you or email you. Good luck with everything hun!
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sigh. ive already asked a question about this guy, but i feel the need to ask another. I still really like this guy, but it seems that he likes another girl, we'll call her "L" he has a bunch of stuff in his profile and away messages about "L" . he knows i like him, and i was pretty sure he liked me too. whenever i asked him about "L" he said it was a joke between him and her and that he had no chance with her. does that mean he wants a chance with her? shes probably a lot more prettier than i am, also. also, i know a couple of his good friends smoke weed & get drunk quite often, and i really dont like that. now drinking a little i can get over.. but i dont like the whole drugs thing. as long as he doesnt do it, im fine. so i had my friend tell him she heard from someone that he did, and he denied it. hes never done anything to lose my trust, so i didnt question it. but i still think that he does / or has done it before. please dont tell me to get over this guy, because i still think there might be a chance for us.. im not ready to move on (link)
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It sounds to me like you still have a pretty good chance with him.
He might like "L", but like you said - he said he doesn't have a chance with her.
About the drugs & the drinking, I think you should just take his word for it. If you have actual proof about it, I would confront him & ask him if he does it & see what he says.
I'm not going to tell you to get over him because I know how hard that is & I think that you still have a pretty good chance with him. I hope everything works out though! If you need anything else, leave it in my inbox.
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My boyfriends' ex is pregnant, she isn't trying to break us up or anything. She stays out of my way and I stay out of hers. I love my boyfriend very much, do you think that the baby could break us up or make us closer. Please help. Should I talk to the ex or just leave things as are. (link)
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I don't think that the baby could break you guys up unless you honestly had a problem with the fact that he shared a baby with his ex. Things might get hard with money issues & things like that, but I think that you should just stay with your boyfriend if you truly love him. As long as his ex doesn't try to cause problems for the two of you, I don't see why the baby should be a problem! I hope everything works out for the best & if you need anything just leave it in my inbox!
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ok well there is this guy at my school he i really like him he isnt in any of my classes but gym and im too shy to talk to him lol but he knows i like him but ive never talked to him i really wont to meet him thought like talk to him... so maybe then he would go out with me but im too scared to talk to him (link)
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He already knows that you like him, right? Just go talk to him. It won't be as bad talking to him because he already knows that you like him, so atleast you don't have to tell him that yourself. Just introduce yourself & make conversation & maybe you guys will become friends & things will go from there. I know that you'll be shy at first, but sometimes you have to take chances & you only live once so you can't let him slip away! Good luck with everything & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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my friends keep trying to set me up with all these different guys all the time... but hello IM TAKEN!! i tell them that everytime but they wont listen to me. They say that it doesn't count because he lives so far away and i never see him. And recently me and my bf are going thru a hard time in our relationship and according to my friends going out with other guys is supposed to make me "feel better?" um ok what's up with that? They aren't even acting like friends, they should be supporting me and telling me everything is guna be ok but instead they are already assuming that we're guna break up. And i hate it when they tell all these guys that im single... IM NOT!!! how do i get thru to them?? (link)
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Just talk to your friends & tell them that you don't want another boyfriend because you already have one & you want to stay with the one that you have. Then tell them about the rough time that you're going through & tell them that you could really use your friends through this & that they aren't helping by trying to set you up with other people. Maybe then they'll stop & help you out. I hope everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
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my best friend is like fading away from me. she just never calls me anymore. she used to call me every day. now whenever she calls she asks for my sister. i dont know why shes mad at me but i thnk it may be because im not a vegetarian. as stupid as it sounds i think so. any way she is a vegetarian and she believes in it very strongly and i told her that i wasnt a vegetarian any more and she was like "WHAT!" and hasnt really called me and actually talked to me since. and in her profile it used to say my name is Sarah (not real name) but my best friend Anna (me, not real name) calls me spanky. but now it says my name is Sarah but my friends call me Ess. she doesnt talk to me when my sister invites her over. i dont know what happened shes just mad at me all of the sudden. what an i do to get her back (link)
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I would just talk to her & tell her how you're feeling. I think that you not being a vegetarian is a stupid reason to end a friendship. I would talk to her & tell her that you being a vegetarian has changed but YOU haven't changed. You're still the same person you were before - but now you eat meat. I hope everything works out for you & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox.
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oh of my best guy friends likes me, and he has for a while. at first i didnt like him but now im starting to. but im afraid if we go out, then break up,that i'll lose one of my best friends. but im also afraid if i dont tell him i'll regret it. so my question is shold i tell him i like him or not?
plus i dont know if i really like him, or if im just really flattered that he likes me (link)
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I would tell him but I would also tell him that you don't want to lose him as a best friend either because he means a lot to you. Then I would just go from there. Hopefully everything works out & if you need anything else just leave it in my inbox!
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Alright well Just a fiew minutes ago this guy asked meh out. And a fiew weeks ago I really wanted to go out with him till I did stuff with him ( i sorta reegret it ) and I felt like he used meh. But he was pestering meh and all this stuff. and he was like we can hang out Ill bring you to movies and take you out to eat and all that stuff.. So I finaly just said yes. But I have a feeling he is still using me and I dont want that. I want a real relationship. Im suposed to hang out with him tomorrow but i dont know what to do cause i know he is gona ask me to do stuff and he is gona be like well we are going out now. so he will use that as an excuse. And I dont want to do stuff cause I know it will be because he is using me and doesnt really like me! What do I do. HOw do I know if he really likes me at all or if its ALL just for sexual stuff?
Love maddie
Ps im 14/f (link)
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Just tell him that you want to get to know him better & try to get to know more about him before you do the sexual stuff because you aren't ready for all of that yet. If he gets upset that you aren't ready, then he is most likely using you. I hope that isn't the case and I hope everything works out! If you need anything else just leave it in the inbox.
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I got a lot of my friends mad at me for a stupid reason (long story) and now i only have....hm....2 friends.I think. I'm really bored because I have nothing to do. I don't really care that they don't like me but it bothers me that they think I did something really "bad" when I dissagree. This is a stupid question....I need help on what I should do about my "friends" and what I could do in my spare time by myself.
Thanks!! (link)
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Try talking to them & telling them that you don't think that what you did was so bad. If they don't forgive you, I'd just give it time because they should be able to forgive you if they were your friends. In your spare time, watch movies, go shopping, listen to music, & try to make some new friends. I hope I helped & I hope everything else works out for you hun!
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My boyfriend just broke up with me because he said' " i dont think it will work because, you know im going into to high school & your still in middle school" because im in 8th grade and hes in 9th. Plus insead of me being in his profile now its about another girl. and im really reallly sad because i think hes cheating on me. is there anything i can do to make me feel better :( thanks. xoxo (link)
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First of all, I'm really sorry. I know how tough break ups can be. About what to do, I think you should just try to move on. I know how hard that is, but what I always do when I'm upset is keep busy as much as I can. Keeping busy usually takes my mind off of things & I get a break from being upset. Maybe when you're in the same school as him, he'll feel differently about the situation. I hope everything works out for you & I hope I helped. If you need anything else, don't hesitate to leave it in my inbox.
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i've liked this boy for about a year now and i told him i like him and i THINK he likes me but once i got the feeling that he liked me i started to dislike him mroe it was wicked weird..and i liekd him so much when he didnt like me that i actually cried..whats wrong with me??? (link)
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Sometimes people want something that they can't have until they know that they can have it. Once they can have it, they don't want it anymore. If this isn't the case, then maybe you're just nervous about being more than friends with him. That happens a lot. I hope everything works out & hopefully I helped.
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