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My boyfriend and I get invited to the same parties, and he tells me that he doesn't want me there, so I don't go (even though i really want to), and he does go. When i say that i am going to a party he is also invited to, he will say he doesn't want to go. Should i take a hint from this or not? It just makes me feel like he doesn't want to spend time with me. Also, we have gone to parties together and it was fine, so? (link)
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Well that is a bit of a crappy thing to do to someone. Have you said anything to him? If not, you should probably say something to him or confront him about it. If this is a constant thing I would consider moving on from this guy. A boyfriend is suppose to want to spend time with you and you are suppose to be happy being with your boyfriend. Think about it and think about how you wanted to be treated in a relationship. You deserve better than that!
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I'm 19 and a virgin. All of my friends have many partners and I'm still a virgin. Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude, I've done my share of things with guys and have had 2 long-term serious relationships and many opportunities to have sex. I feel like the reason why I'm still a virgin is because I'm afraid I'm going to get too close to that person. I guess I'm just one of those people who always have their guards up. But I feel like whenever I go to parties and we play never have i ever NOBODY is a virgin, and i mean nobody. People have made fun of me before saying things like "she's 19 and still a virgin!" and "i hope she loses it this summer"...but to be honest I don't want to until I know I have the right person. One of my "friends" always brings it up that I'm still a virgin at parties and I feel like its not necessary to just flat out tell people about my sex life. She has slept with 40 guys and I don't tell people that...I'm tired of being made fun of and looked down upon. How would you handle this? (link)
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I was in the same boat with my friends. People have to realize sex isn't everything in a relationship, the relationship needs to have trust and communication. Some people feel the need to press the issue and make it more than what it really is. You have your reasons and you don't need to justify it to anyone even your friends. If your friends or people aorund you make it a big deal just brush it off they are probably jealous that you still are a virgin. Its important and you don't feel you have met that perosn yet and thats fine. If they continue to say things like that I would either ignore it or don't hang out with those people anymore. I can tell you now I bet half of those people are jealous of you and envy you. Don't let stupid people put you down be proud of who you are and what your beliefs are!!
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Okay, I'm having an movie night on the 18th and my boyfriend and I have been planning this for about a week. We're really excited to get our gang of friends together again to just hang out, but recently, one of our friends, D, got a new boyfriend after she broke up with her awesome one about two months ago. Unfortunately, the guy she chose is the one that we all hate. He was a complete jerk to her when she chose another guy over him, telling her that she was a heartbreaking bitch! It was unbelievable, and he's like twenty-years-old or something! She's bringing him over, without actually asking my permission either, which she ALWAYS does. And we're all kind of wondering what the heck we're gonna do when he comes over and everyone is just awkwardly glaring at him... How can I tell her 'no'? She'll throw a hissy fit and it'll probably ruin the mood...? (link)
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Well first off, its a bit rude of her to bring someone without asking especially if its at someone's hosue or something. Then again its a bit mean to not include her boyfriend just because your group doesn't like him. If she is your friend you're goign to have to be supportive no matter how much the guy is a jerk. If you continue trying to avoid this guy you may push your friend away and your friendship may end up paying the price. Think about it...do you want to lose her as a friend? If shes happy then be happy for her no matter how much you can't stand the guy. "Guys come and go...friendship is forever." Good luck!
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i fell in love with this jerk and he broke my heart 3 years ago. i never talk to him anymore but i see him sometimes. recently i've had sexual dreams about him almost every night and i actually like them! its awful and makes me feel like crap. i even fantasize about him occasionally when i kiss or do anything with my current bf of one year!! how do i stop these dreams? (link)
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Not sure what your dreams are telling you but it seems that you still have something for him. Maybe the dreams are describing how you want the same passion you had in your past relationship to be the one in your current relationship. I would also consider though if you have feelings for your ex when you're with your current boyfriend that isn't a good sign. Its also a bit unfair to your boyfriend that you are thinking of another guy while being with him. You may need to take sometime and figure out what you want or even need. Another thing is maybe you haven't found closure with your ex yet. Hope everything works out. Good luck!
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So my best friend Kendall and inhabe been good friends for a few years. She recently became friends with this other girl Mikayla who seemed pretty cool and we'd all hang out. Well, this one time Mikayla tottally ditched us so Kendall & I had nothing to do so Kendall suggested going to this guys house that Mikayla and her met. Mikayla got really pissed we went. Ever since then, Mikayla hasn't really liked me. Mikayla gets mad about EVERYTHING. If you joke with her and you're like haha you have no friends. She will freak out and not talk to you for days. So now, kndall doesn't ask me to hang out with them and basically switches off between us. Kendall lies about what she is doing. But I don't know why she is luring when they post a status about it every five fucking minutes on facebook. It's just rude and hurtful to not include me.
I'm not saying they have to all the time, but I atleast don't like getting lied to about it. I've just been through this before and it sucks and I'm sick of being pushed around.
Should i say something or no?
Mikayla will also be gone slot this summer and is going back to college early (link)
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If you are best friends with Kendall you should be able to say anything. Tell her how you feel because if you don't she won't know. Stand up for yourself. And if gets defensive or doesn't change I would move on from her and let her be.
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I feel like my love life is falling apart :( Long stories short..
I have always like this one kid, we've been friends for a long time but he has an ex girlfriend of 3 years who he still hangs out with like every day and basically I feel like he doesn't give a shit about me.
Then there is this other guy who I recently used to talk to for about 4 months but then he said he didn't want to "talk" to me anymore and we haven't talked since he texted me a month ago asking if we can be friends still (i said yes of course). About 95% sure he is talking to a different girl.
I can't stop thinking about all of this. It makes me want to cry. I don't know what to do anymore...
I am doing online college so I basically only have one best friend so I don't get out that much to take my mind off of all of this. I have the worst luck when it comes to guys and relationships... (link)
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You are good enough :) even though you don't think it. Just because that "guy" isn't around right now doesn't mean you're never going to meet him. If you want to find someone you got to get out there though...try meeting new people or even go on meetup.com and join some groups make some friends. I met my current boyfriend through my best friend and we've been together for awhile now. I went through the same thing as you and its tough. I would talk to guy after after guy and I felt like I wasn't good enough. There's one quote that I love and it goes "Rejection is god's protection". There is a reason why you aren't with these guys. Its not you don't blame you just brush yourself off and keep looking. Its funny there was this one guy I took to prom my junior year and I liked him. I told him I did and he didn't feel the same way. I told him I felt stupid for saying a thing and that I should have stayed quiet about it. He told me that I should say how I feel and to take risks. He also said that when one door closes another one opens. And he was right. Don't put yourself down pick yourself back up and keep going! Good luck and hang in there! :)
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I've done a lot of things sexual, but I've never really had real intercourse. When I was young, I had a quick fix with an ex, but I'm not even sure if he went that deep. I'm a little scared if I have sex I will bleed or something if the guy goes deep.
But one of my other fears is prevention. I've never had sex with a condom, and I am a very worrisome person. I've been reading tips online, but my nerves won't calm. I'm scared that even if I used a condom, something bad will happen. I cannot afford birth control and my parents would surely go ballistic. I know how to be responsible, and I feel ready now.
Any advice? (link)
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Well I'm glad you're being smart about this and mature. If you are nervous about having sex chances are you aren't ready. Thats okay if you aren't don't feel the pressure to have sex because everyone else is. Make sure you are ready when you do make sure the guy has a condom and you can talk to your doctor about birth control tell the doctor your concern with the cost. If the cost is too much you could always go to an unplanned parenthood clinic they have birth control for cheap sometimes. You maybe ready physically but are you ready mentally? Think about it. Good luck!
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So recently I found myself face to face with my ex that I'm like still in love with..we started texting again and now flirting too. He's really sweet but he lives a town away abd in a totally different school.
My friends dislike him, say he's a gang member --which he's not..he does smoke&sell weed but told he wants to stop.
I still like him. But should I trust my friends and leave him alone, or rekindle what we both feel is so real.
15/f 16/m (link)
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Well you have to think about this! An ex is an ex for a reason. There was a reason why you guys broke up and there is a reason you're not together. Think about it before you start things up again. I had an ex that I always connected with and we always wondered why it never worked. We found out that we were better as friends and that we wanted different things. Just because your friends don't like him doesn't mean you can't but maybe there is a deeper reason of why they don't. If he's selling and smoking weed do you really want to get involved with that? Its his lifestyle. Again think about yourself and what you want. It's all about you. Good luck!
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I know this really sweet guy, but he lives in Illinois. He is very smart, patient, and cute, and I think I'm starting to like him. I live in Florida, though, and right now I really can't travel.
I really think I'm beginning to like him though, and he said he likes me too. He told me he has had a long distance relationship before with a girl that lived in San Diego, and she moved in with him and he found out after a year of dating her she was cheating on him the whole time. He seems like a very sensitive, emotional guy, and I want to try to make a long distance relationship work, but I know it will be difficult for both of us. Any advice? (link)
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Well long distance relationships can be tough! The best advice I can give is to call the person everyday and use all your communication tools (facebook, texting, twitter, email, etc). Its not easy and you probably know that going into this relationship. Sometimes its going to be hard because that person is not always going to be there when you want them too. If you really care for this guy though and if you think he's worth it then go for it! Good luck!
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I'm really just not into this guy at all any more... we've been dating for like six months or something and I can't stand him. He likes me way more than I like him. But he recently moved like an hour and a half away and we're still dating i guess and I have a car but I really don't want to drive an hour and a half there just to break up with him and then drive back so is it completely cruel if i just text him? I'm just so done with him UGH (link)
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Well you have been going out for 6 months. I think to be respectful to both him and you I would break up with him face to face. Texting is not the best way to break up with someone. I feel the more mature approach would be to do it face to face. Now if the guy was a jerk to you I would say call him and break up. By your description though I would say you should go hang out with and tell him how you feel. Good luck!
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(long distance) I am a junior and my boyfriend is a sophomore, he is homeschooled I am not.
Sometime it feels like he has his life going in this great path. He is already taking college courses got a major picked. Yet I am just starting my junior year and I really don't know. It just seems like his life is great right now and I love him but I don't know if he will have time for me anymore, we hardly have time now. I know things will just get busier over the next few years, and I guess I am worried whether or not we should be together, because I don't want to slow him down. Why can't this be easier, why do things have to be so complicated? It also feels like sometimes I am more in this relationship then he is, idk. I'm confused and I am not really sure what I am asking at this point. Advice would help a ton though. (link)
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High school is tough its where you start figuring things out and thinking about what you might want in the future. I remember when I was a junior in high school I had no clue what I wanted heck I've been out of high school for 5 years and I still don't. Thats okay no need to beat yourself up over it! As for your boyfriend there are just people in the world who know what they want and just because he does doesn't mean you need to. Just because he knows what he wants doesn't make you less of a person...don't put yourself down. A relationship is tough its never meant to be easy. Although a lot of people think they are the truth is they aren't. Its a lot of work and its got to be both people working together. I've been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 and a half years. Its been a struggle but I feel this time around we have really gotten close and figured out what we wanted. Sometimes does my boyfriend not have a clue? Of course. Does he sometimes get way to busy with things? Of course! Heck he's in school still and I'm working trying to think about how I want to finish getting my bachelor's degree. That doesn't make me less then him. We're all people and we're all human. We all do things differently and that makes us who we are as individuals. Take it easy on yourself! Good luck!
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All of a sudden my friends are like desperate for guys and hanging out with these gross guys. Were all 18, and they're like 20-25. They aren't in college. Their like drug dealers and just basically ghetto losers. I'm repulsed by them and I can't stand when they want to go to one of their parties. The whole time I'm worried im going to get shot, they all think I'm the hottest and constantly want to hook up with me, but I refuse too and they don't really like me because I won't drink or smoke. But obviously I'm not going to put anything in my body that they have possession of. My friends are acting like whores and they'll probably end up with stds and it's ruining our friendship because I never want to hang out with them anymore because of this.
What do I do? (link)
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Well unfortunately you can't change your friends or who they want to hang out with. If its not your scene and not the kind of people you want to hang out with then you need to remove yourself from the situation. I have two friends that are going out with guys right now that I'm not to fond of. I have my reasons for not liking these guys but if my friends are happy thats all that matters. If you want to continue being friends with these girls then you need to accept their lifestyle. And if you don't agree with it then you need to move on and hang out with another group fo people. Maybe hang out with these friends seperately and on occasion if you don't like what they are doing. Good luck!
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I'm asking this question primarily out of bemused interest, as someone from the UK.
Why are Americans so obsessed with the royal wedding?
I understand why so many British people are interested in it, because it the royal family are an important British institution but I don't understand the American fascination. (link)
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I'm an America. I'm not obsessed with the royal wedding though. I find it to be way too commercialized especially because its in another country. I guess the reason that some are obsessed with the royal wedding is that its almost a fairy tale in the sense that there is this beautiful gown and it has to do with royalty. Here in America we don't have a Queen or a Princess so I guess its all about the royalty.
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My bf and I (both 18) decided to mutually split up after our five month relationship started going downhill. He is a sweet guy but sometimes he doesn't understand me and it was hard to make days to see eachother. We live an hr away. After we split up he didn't talk to me for four months (understandable) and we both havn't dated anyone else. We had a pretty good relationship up to that point. I poked him on facebook a week ago and then today he texts me and asks how Im doing. I say im alright and he says hes ok. The convo went pretty good. He is in college so he does get swamped with homework at times and studying. I am just wondering why he would text me out of the blue? Has he been thinking about me? Thoughts?
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It could be taken so many ways. No one really knows except for him. My guess is as good as yours but usually when someone is thinking about you or you are on their mind then they go out of their way to get in contact with you. For example my current boyfriend and I have been and on and off for a few years. We brok up last year in July. I broke up with him and he wanted nothing do with me after because he was so hurt and angry. Long story short I tried getting in contact with him and he kept denying me. I ended up stopping all contact with him. It wasn't until Thanksgiving that I got a text message from him saying he missed me. If you still have feelings and what have you then talk to him. Other than that I would move on! Good luck!
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They say all good things come to those who wait.
And I am in such a situation. Although it has only been three days broken up from my boyfriend, it's very hard. He says to wait for him until Friday, and he'll tell me whether he wants to get back together or not.
But really, is waiting worth it?
I've waited for someone before and it ended terribly. I'm aware because my boyfriend treats me so respectfully even if we broke up, I shouldn't treat him as a past boyfriend. I know if he makes me happy then waiting IS worth it.
But I don't know. I'm afraid I will put all my hopes in the scenario he will say yes, and then be let down. So stumped. (link)
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In this situation you need to worry about yourself. I was with a guy and we went through a similar situation and in that time I was thinking about him and what he wanted. You need to think of what you want...looking from the outside in I don't think its fair for him to put you in that position. Its up to you and how you feel!
Good luck!
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I'm constantly suprised that I actually look good.. like in all honesty. But then I seem to forget and feel self conscious and like I'm ugly or something.. fu390urqprfpcaspfka. i guess i have low self esteem now but idk. What can I do about it? It's even been hard for me to accept compliments sometimes. I don't want to be cocky, and I really don't like cocky people. I see beautiful traits in all people, but idk.. I guess I think a lot of negative thoughts like people are thinking about me in a negative way and ugh. (link)
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I know what you mean. I've been told I'm 'pretty' or 'beautiful' but I never believed anyone when they said it. There are some things in the past that have been said about me that have stuck in my head. It was not until my current boyfriend that he made me believe and feel beautiful. You don't have to be cocky but be confident in yourself and don't let anyone tear you down. I have been through a lot in the past couple of years and it has made me see what is important and whats not. Be confident in yourself!
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My boyfriend of four months broke up with me because his dad, who lives in California, doesn't approve of us going out.
I was very upset. I told him all my thoughts. I told him I couldn't believe him. I freaked out. And an hour later, he said he loves me but now he knows I don't want to get back together. He never mentioned it being temporary. He is trying to put the blame on me. I know I most likely hurt him but he never specified. Now he thinks I hate him. I really do love him and I don't want to lose him. He said he'll never have me convinced that he won't hurt me. I love him so much though. I never meant anything I said.
He wants to meet me in the morning so we can talk.
Guys I need help. Like urgently. Because I don't know what to do. He thinks I hate him when I don't.
What do I do? (link)
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Just tell him. Be sincere and be honest about how you felt and what you thought about the situation. That is the only way you are going to figure things out. Communication is the key aspect in any relationship no matter what. If there is no communication then there isn't a relationship. The fact that his Dad diapproves of you shouldn't matter if he loves you then thats his choice on whether or not he wants to be with you. Love is crazy I know first hand! Good luck!
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18/f and hes 19/m
ok so i really like this guy, usually he calls me bub, bubba, gorgeous, hun etc etc like cute nicknames...then today i say
"hello lovely :)"
and i get back "Hey kid"
kid? like seriously? im only a year younger then him and i dont see how that is cute at all =/ in fact its actually making me think he doesnt like me in that way...or as much as he did, because everyone keeps telling me its not a good thing if a guy calls you kid.
advice? x (link)
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I'm going to be honest with you I think you're thinking way too much about it. Just relax and and have fun! If he likes you he likes you and if he doesn't well thats his fault. The word "kid" is not necessarily a sign that he doesn't like you. I forget what movie this line is from but it goes: "Here's looking at you, kid!". Back in the day it was a version of "hun" "baby" or "babe".
Just relax and keep being you! :)
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You're a pretty girl. What do you do when creepy guys talk to you? (link)
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Why thank you! Well I usually just talk to them unless they start to invade my space or are too pushy. Then at that point I start to ignore them or get one of my friends involved. Or if I'm hanging out with a guy friend he'll be my 'boyfriend'. Depends on the situation!
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What time is the right time for sex? (link)
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Whenever you feel is the right time. There is no specific time or age that is right. Everyone is different!
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