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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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I've heard people talking about the movie Thirteen, and I was going to order it on TV (I have digital cable) but I dont really know what its about. So, will someone describe the movie to me..without giving the whole story away??

i love that movie !!! its awesome ! well its about this girl tracy and shes unpopular and she really wants to fit in with this eve girl and she is popular and she does drugs and sex and that stuff and later on they become best friends and they both do that stuff and tracy cuts ... its rele good then at the end of the movie you have to c what happens to both of them ... its really good trust me !

yes.. ok so i poked my mom's eye with a clothing hanger.. it was by accident. we were taking about how she sits at home and does nothing while my grandparents hafta take care of my brother and sister who is 2 and 5... ya she started hitting me and then i was all like "stop hitting me" and then i accidently poked her in the eye and then i said sorry and then she started crying really loudly like how she does when my dad and her start fighting and they make eachother bleed and bruise all over.. yes.. screwed up.. neway ya.. after she called my dad to gimme crap about poking her she started dragging me across the floor and hitting me and crap and then i told her to go to hell.. ehh.. ya.. so wut am i supose to do now? i'm not calling child helpline or w/e..

I know what you're going through. When you're caught in one of those situations, talk to your best friend about it. It always helps. When there is fighting going on, go to a friends house. I don't think you would want to listen to any of it. Just talk to your mom because I'm sure she also feels awful.

For v - day... if i got my boyfriend two little teddy bears... (ones a girl and ones a boy)... that have magnetic noses so its like they are kissing... would that be too girly like giving him teddy bears and stuff?

It's a cute idea and get hiom a cute card.

ok well me and my boyfriend are 13..and i heard from like a bunch of people that hes getting me a necklace and flowers but i have no clue what to get him..like i was at the mall yesterday and i went into like every store and i couldn't find anything..i dont want to get him something to expensive cause i really dont have that much money..but like can anyone give me any ideas and like the price they might be? thanks

Cologne at Abercrombie or Hollister which isn't that expensive. Make him a CD or a gift card to his favorite store.

Ok WeLL i like This gUy aLoT N hE HAS A gF N I JusT Talk To hiM N his Gf YeLLs at ME ANd gETS all Mad bUT He lIKES me tOo...BUT is ScarEd tO TELL hEr..WAT DO i DO!

She's just jelous that he likes you better than her. Don't be scared to tell her because she can't and won't do anything about it so you have nothing to worry about.

I loathe myself, every tiny detail about myself. I hate my appearance...My
hair, my face, my teeth, my hands, my eyebrows, chest, stomach, back, arms, etc...I
hate every characteristic of my personality, every last one. I think of my self
as stupid, incompetent and worthless. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. I
suck at every thing I do. Seeking professional help is not an option for me, and
neither is getting help from a trusted adult. Even if either were an option, I’m
much, much, much to timid to ask for help...I don't think I even deserve to have
people waste there time on me to help me anyway.

Why do you hate everything about yourself? God put you on earth for a reason just like everyone else. Don't always think that everything is your fault because it's not and just try to go out with ur friends like the mall or something .. if you don't want to talk to anybody then maybe you culd start a journal or a diary and write your feelings down.

What do you get for a Male who is 16 likes heavy metal music, likes family guy, and doing dnagerous stunts?!

Maybe you should make him a CD with some of his favorite songs and get him a Family Guy DVD.

who gives you promise rings? and what do they mean?

Guys give it to their girlfriends as a sybmol of their love.

My crush knows i like him and he likes me too! should i get him something for v-day?! what if he doesn't get anything for me?! what do i do?!
(( i'm so CONFUSED ))

Ofcourse you should get him something to show him that you really care about him and if he cares about you, he will get you something in return.

I'm fed up with life and I just want to die, but how exactly can I kill myself - I don't know how. I'm 14 and never had, never will have a boyfriend - I'm ugly, short, boring and shy. I think I have social anxiety but I just can't face troubling someone with my problems, I'm not worth that. I don't have a life, I spend my life going to school, eating, sleeping, and on the computer. I moved house about 8 months ago, and before when I was with my mates I could be confident and loud, and not care what people thought of me. But my new friends are really immature - we're in year 10 and they chase year 7's and are REALLY loud. They think I act like a 50 year old because I don't find acting like a 6 year old fun. I can't say what I think because if I offend them then they'll leave me and I have no one. I can't get new friends because I'm too shy. I want to move back to where I used to live, so I can get my old life back, I miss my friends so much. My dad kind of wants to move back, but my mum is happy here and she won't move. There was this boy at my old school who I liked a lot since year 7, and I miss him but have no way to contact him, I couldn't ask my old mates to get his number 'cos it'd be embarrassing. I have nothing to live for, what can I do?

Don't try to kill yourself or anything. Stop thinking everything bad about yourself and try to make a lot more friends. It's not always good to be boring so sometimes it might be fun to be a crazy or fun, even if you think its acting like a 6 year old. Try not to be shy by not caring what other people think about you. I no life may suck at times, but think about how good you have some things. Some people don't have anything. No freinds, family, no where to go stuff like that so you shuld be happy with what you have and with the friends you have now. Try to fit in with them and maybe you could call one of your old friends and ask them for that guys number.

what happens to the soul who commits suicide? what is life after death?

Well, I wouldn't really know but most people belive that they go to hell for it since it's a sin.

im about 4'11'' and i always have a really hard time finding clothes that fit me especially pants. im like size 1 for most jeans and stuff and i usually wear extra small shirts. where can i go to get clothes that fit me? if u need more info tell me. i rate 5s to answers that dont piss me off!

Hollister, Abercrombie, American Eagle and Aeropostale.

Okay, in the state that i live in, there is a really good highschool. i took the entrance test to it and i think i did pretty good. I got the letter telling me if i got in or not today and i cant open it until my dad gets back from California. i want to stay where i am because of my friends, but i want to go to the other highschool because its a really nice school and i feel that i can get more out of it. I'm afraid that if i go to the new highschool, ill lose all my friends. But im afraid if i stay, ill be missing out on so much.(education wise).So my question to you is: Which school in this case should i go to?

I can't just make your decision but you won't lose all of your friends. If you go to your new school then you can meet a lot of new people there and still keep your old friends.

last night was my first time getting fingered. i was wondering...what are like the bad things that could happen from that? are there any consquences?!

Nothing bad can happen to you.

okay so im going out with this boy and im kinda the one givng all the giving...he is just taking! its driving me crazy but i really like him what should i do?

Stop giving him so much until he gives back.

Ok, im 13 year old female and just broke up with my boiifriend!! the main reason i did this is because i like another boii!! lets just call him "bob"! all of my friends think that i shouldn't go out with bob cuz he is a player!! but one of the security gaurds at skool told me that i can be the one girl to set him straight and that my friends should beleive in me. they should beleive in the fact that i could change him. but they still don't they say it's because they don't want me to get hurt!! sooooo..... wat should i do?

Try not to care what your friends think. Do what you want and what you think is best for YOU, not them. Give it a try.

There's this girl at my school who's two-faced (she got a bf a little while ago), and I pretend I like her, but I really don't. What should I do?
-Falon

Not to be rude or anything, but you're being two-faced. Tell her the truth if you don't want to do that then don't talk to her at all.

i have orangy-red hair, brown eyes and pale skin. what color eyeliner would look good on me? if you need more info just tell me! i rate 5s to answers that dont piss me off.

Dark brown, green and just try other colors.

well i went out with a guy for about 7 months. then we broke up. i really love him and he always tells me that he still loves me and misses me. he was acting like he wanted to go back out w/ me. so i tryed to get him back but last night i found out that he wouldnt go back out w/ me. now there are two really hot guys that want to go out w/ me. but i still love my ex-boyfriend. i like the two other guys a lot but i dont want a boyfriend because im still not over my ex. now i dont know wut to do!! what do u think? what guy should i go w/ or none at all?

You should try to go out with one of the other guys because you really like them and it will give you the chance to get over your ex.

I have a friend that ive known for several years. She lives a very long distance away from me and theres nothing i can do physcially for her. Her father makes her have sex with him on a nightly basis. Is there any way i can help her get help. Shes afraid of going against him, because he is paying for her college and everything. I love her to death. What can i do?

Tell her that she needs to call the cops. There are schholorships so she shouldn't worry about collage right now. She defenetly needs to call the police or talk to someone because that's rape.

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