about

advice

What would you consider flirting for a guy who is relatively shy? Now, I don't mean shy as in personality-wise, but he's not the type who greets his female friends in hugs, and he's not the type to put his arm around a girl's hip when they're walking, and he wouldn't rest his arm on his female friend's shoulder...you know. He's not really the touchy sort. Nor am I, really unless the other person anitiates, but what would you consider flirting for this type of guy?
Thank you.

when you notice little things that they do differently let them know you notice. pick little fights with her about something completely stupid; o and be sure you let her win. us girls love stuff like that. be strong yet sensitive. girls love guys who defend them but arent afraid to hold their hand in front of his friends... i hope i helped....

[view]

okay so im 14 and most of my friends hav gotten fingered, eaten out, gave hjs and bjs, but ive only made out... like its just not my style. i only like to really makeout if i like the person.i just dont know when im ready to give a hj or bjor anything related to that. any advice/opinions would be great :]

you are only 14!! dont do that. if your friends have, then thats them. if you do something like that this young chances are you will regret it. if you are even doubting if you are ready for anything that involves sex then you are obviously not ready. dont move at your friends rates, move at your own. lots of people, including me, respect the fact that you are cautious with people you just make out with. i have seen things at my highschool with stuff like that and it is just so much drama and it seriously ruins lives. i hope that i have helped you...

[view]

okay so i was just wandering is it true kissing or making out comes kind of natrually?

well yeah part does come naturally but i mean maybe like practice on your hand or something. i know it sounds weird but it might work..lol but seriously just like be comfortable with it and just go with the flow. you will learn as you go but until then just follow the other persons lead.

[view]

There's this guy in my Spanish II class who I really want to be friends with. He went to my middle school , so I know who he is, but I don't think he knows I exist. (He's a sophomore and I'm a freshman. I took Spanish I last year, so that's why I'm in his class incase you were wondering.) He's really cute, smart, and he's amazing at guitar. In my class, he sits all the way across the room from me, so I can't really talk to himk, but I'm really shy too, which doesn't help. How do I get him to notice me? (Oh yeah, please don't say where sluttly clothes. Of course that will get his attention, but I don't want him to think I'm a skank!)

i dont want him to think your a skank either. but it might sound old but im serious. just walk up to him and be yourself. show him the true you. write him a note or something. that might help with your shyness.

[view]

im always waiting for something amazing to happen..which comes from my head. I just need to realize it will never happen and seperate my thoughts("dreams")from actual reality.

Most of it is probably about boys. Ive never had a boyfriend and never been kissed.
PLEASE HELPPPP!!!!!!!

14/f

its okay to get dreams and reality mixed-trust me. and it will happen, just give it time. and as for the kissing thing im gonna tell you i didnt get my first kiss until i was almost turning 15. even then it was awful not emabarrasing awlful but awful awful, cuz i didnt even want it. i thought i could never get kissed-wrong. i thought no guy liked me cuz i didnt have a boyfriend-wrong. Matter of fact most guys wont ask a girl out because they are too chicken to do anything about it. most of the time they will leave it up to you....so my point chances are something will happen to you. just dont worry about it and live your life to the fullest. be yourself and maybe a guy will take notice and not be scared.

[view]

Okay, so where do I begin. March the 23rd I met this wonderful guy. He was so kind to me, and we started hanging out. We flirted a little bit, and he had told my friend that he though I were really cute. Then after a few weeks I found out that he has a baby, a little baby daughter and I GIRLFRIEND! And I were like, "oh no, i must of gotten all this wrong, the wrong signals etc" So I though that I could be just his friend. But then that they came, the day when he gave me our first kiss. I was so confused. so I asked out this girl of his. And he told me, that it was'nt going good between them, and that their relationship just were fighting, and the only reason that they we're together was because of their baby. So we have been kinda "dating" the last six months. And we've been intimite and he says that he loves me, and that it's goind to get better, and that he will break it of with his GF, but it's just so hard right now because of the baby. The baby is now 8 months old. So everything were going great, he were so romantic, buying me roses, necklaces and doing stuff like that. But he were very busy, working all the time, working out, being with friends and his family. But lately, everything has been going REALLY bad. I have'nt hung out with him for 3 weeks. He rarely calls, or answer when I do. He does'nt say I love you anymore. And when we speak he says he's busy with work and stuff. He says he still cares about me, but Im not so sure. I really love him, but I dont think im going to be happy with him. He has to much responsibility, and i dont think i can handle that. He's 23, and Im 17.. Im still young, you know. What should I do?

okay darling first off if the guy is still with his GF who he says he is leaving and you have been going through this for about 6 months---chances are he wont leave her. sorry but the baby isnt the only thing keeping them together. there is a thing called -joint custody- and he could break up with her and they could both see the baby. but if he is still dating his other gf that makes you the other woman and that is not a very good place to be. maybe the other girl doesnt know how he feels about all of that...but if he is still with her after 6 months of being with you, break it off, cuz its not fair to you.

[view]

hey,,

i really need help
how do you know if a guy likes you as a sister.. and a guy likes you MORE.. then a sis and friend..
cause im confused.
thanks laterr

well in my part of the world my friends that are like brothers to me are picking on you alot and cutting up just little things like that. and those guys that like you as more than just a friend seem to do either two things. they either keep to themselves and are shyer than normal. or they want to get closer to you and if they hurt you and you say something about it they say sorry- a lot. i hope i helped!! :)

[view]

ok so my name is brittany and i am 13.. my bestfriends name is kayla and she is 13 as well.. the guy she is datings name is grey and he is 16. ok well she said she is inlove with him and he said he is inlove with her.. but what they both dont know is im inlove with him. i cant get him out of my head and i feel so much for him... they have been going out now for about 2 months and havent even had one fight yet. now every site i go on to get advice about this gives me the same answer.. like "you have to move on to other guys" "your to young for him anyway" "healing takes time" i dont want to tell him that i like him cause i dont want to get shot down. and i love kayla to death and dont want to hurt her.. but i CANT help my feelings.. do you think they will be together for a long time.. like get married? knowing that they are young ..do you think they will move on to other people? i REALLY need to know what i should do.. do i have a chance with him at all? like if i cry and tell him or if i cry in the rain and tell him then i run off... do you think i have a chance? i dont think i do at all... I REALLY NEED ADVICE

okay brittany,
no sugarcoating. the fact that it is your best friends boyfriend is really sucky. bc at the same time you dont want to break them up and you lose a friend and a possible boyfriend. not saying that you will break them up but just know that you cant mess with love. if its meant to be it will be. there is nothing you can do about that. and i mean you can tell him you like him, & if he shoots you down thats all part of the game! think of love like a football game... you dont want to sit on the sidelines and think what would have happened if you actually played the feild. you just have to get out there and try. you dont know how the game will go. if you lose the game, there are always others. Just make sure you have decided whats more important; friendship or what could be true love. And i dont think you can find that awnser on any advice column...

[view]

my ex is always on my mind. I want to cry and hurt myself and i don't know what to do. he use to love me and always come back to me, but this time no. you see i broke up with him cuz i thought he was cheating again, but he wasn't so i took him back, two weeks later he broke up with me and tol me he found someone better. he hasnt called or anything. he threw away our 4 year relationship for another girl. well its been about 2 months and i have a bf, but i dont' want to be with him. but everyone wants me to and my mom keeps telling me that if i dump him for my ex that she will send me away. she is talking about me and him getting married when i turn 18 in 9 months, and i cant imagine anyone with me but my ex. i just want my ex back. how do i get him back. and keep my mom happy and my friends.

well your mom cant decide who you love and who you dont, so as for her maybe just sit and talk with her and try to get her to understand what your going through and maybe that you think the guy your dating is a great guy just not the guy for you. And as for your ex, im gonna tell you straight up. dont hurt yourself-its not worth it. if he has told you that he has found someone better than you, he isnt worth it. He has made up his mind, im sorry to say. So just act confident, and here's a tip guys love things they cant have. But just dont let anyone choose your decisions for you, they are living their own life and when it is their chance to go through something like this then they can start making decisions- for themselves...
hope i helped!

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker