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Hi! I'm a 13 year old girl in Year 9/9th Grade. It's coming up tovmy options now and I really want to be a Primary School teacher. I love kids and really want to give them the best starts in life.
But, the problem is, nobody wants to support me and always has to be a complete a** whenever they can about it. Not even my dad! Because he's a police officer, he thinks he's all high and mighty and below all other people. Please bear in mind that he has treated me like a trophy all my life, think of the embarrassment he would have to endure if I became a Primary School teacher! That was sarcasm by the way...
My friends all want to become doctors, vets and lawyers and always say that that is where all the failures end up. After all 'those who can't do, teach. And those who can't teach, teach at Primary.' Again, sarcasm.
But I really want to do this! I get straight A's in Year 9 and it's just over a quarter of the way through the year. I believe I can do it but everybody hates my decisions and always have to bring me down about it. It is actually starting to make me feel depressed now.
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I dont know what its like for my family to hate my carrier choices but i DO know this. Children are ALWAYS going to be our future, SOMEONE had to teach them everything they know about this world before they can grow up to become decent people in this world.
Thats the real job of a teacher, youll grow up, teach and then after years have passed, youll see that little girl or little boy that sat in your class room on tv because they came up with some amazing invention that saves lives, or something like that! you have no reason to be ashamed or feel badly about wanting to be a teacher. The most amazing teachers have gone on to teach people who are now very important in this world, and hey if your lucky one day youll hear your name on tv from one of those kids THANKING YOU for being the kindest, funnest, most cool teacher they can ever remember during their school years! = )
ask your mother or father to think back on THEIR school years, and tell you who their favorite teachers where. The one who was understanding, cool, and a joy to be around, that one teacher that made getting up and going to school everyday NOT so miserable ya know?? ((sarcastic there))) ; )
then say "dont you wish there had been MORE of those types of teachers when you were in school mom and dad?? well i can be ALL the kids "favorite teacher"!!
weather they want to admit it or not teachers are important people and play an intricate part of this world.
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Please what can I use to add more weight
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maybe go to a weight lifting store where they sell all sorts of vitamins and ask if they carry weight gainers??
They help you to "fill out" more so you dont look real skinny.
I definitely agree with making sure its ok with a doctor though. but if youve already spoken with one about your weight then i dont see any reason why not. Just do your research first and talk to the person in the store and ask the if its right for you.
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thank you so much for the advice! I have been spending time with my new best friend so much lately because we have class together every day (with the exception of Fridays). My other best friend (the original first best friend I had) honestly doesn't know how to share because she believes I spend too much time with my new best friend. I will try to balance out spending time with them both because I love them both so much and I care for them a lot. I want them to get along as well! (link)
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tell you first best friend how you feel, and that ITS OK to have more then one really good friend. she should probably learn this now while shes still young because when you get older youll discover you will have many different types of friends and be friends with each one of the those people because theres something special about them that allows you to feel like you connect with each other on certain levels more so then others.
she will live, you will live, and be the better for it. good luck sweetie, and never forgert that your other friend doesnt mean any less now because youve got a new friend. she just needs to hear that, after that if she cant except it then it might be time to give her some space to think things thru. she'll either come back and realize you were right, or she will not except it and continue to be a selfish person for the rest of her life. (((and who needs a friend like that anyway))
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Hi Im a girl who's attracted to my boss. Im 22years old. I dont know if its crazy but I dont know if he's also attracted to me. Not to mention he's married.. He keep on staring of me. But I always break thr tension coz im too shy too look back. But I always saw him staring at me. One time I told my self not to look at him. But i cant coz he keep on wawalking in front of me. He still keep on staring at me. And then ine time his wife came at work. But I dont know why he have to look at me while he's with he's wife? Is he trying to check how am I going to react? But before then we used to talk. He's approaching me. But I dont really into talk. They told me that he might thought that I shut him down. Or what thats why he's not talking that much to me anymore he just keeping staring at me like im melting.. I just wanna ask is he attracted to me also even tho he's married? Or Im just assuming coz I like him.. (link)
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Yeah i wouldnt mess with this, the guy might like you and you might like him but he is married. So for the respect of the wife dont touch him. He can talk to you all he wants but thats it. It would be wrong to take it any further without the wifes knowledge or consent.
Youll find your own guy soon, just stop focusing on him. ; )
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My crush, who is also a friend, asked me who I liked and I told him that it is him. Now he is ignoring me. It is really hurting me. Only twice has he fooled around with me (I think because he saw I was upset) but other than that he has said nothing and it has been two days. Why is that? What should I do? I am thinking of sending him a message asking if we can still be friends but my other friend says I should wait until after the weekend to see if his behavior changes. Should I send it today or follow her advice? I'm a high school female, just saying. I would also like some males to answer because they may know what is going on in his mind. (link)
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He might be just in shock right now and unsure of where to go from here.
You might just want to give him some space and then once you see him again act like nothing happened. Dont let him see that this was THAT big of a deal if you dont have to. why do that? play it off and say "well i was open and honest and i DO like you but if you dont like me i dont care and we can still totally be buddies. Then see what the reaction is. If he thinks its a big deal, play it way down and say its not so at least that way you can maintain the friendship still. ((ive done it this way and it works))
Give him a few days, say nothing, and see if he hits you back up first. If not see if you can "run into him" somewhere and stay calm the whole time be happy to see him and say "HEYY!" likes nothing has happened. It might make him feel better that your not acting like its a big deal. You can also take that moment to talk about other things and invite him to go out somewhere like FRIENDS would do and then wait for him to bring it up if he wants.
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So I have a good idea of what to give my boyfriend for valentines day but no idea where to buy the materials!
You know when they do football draws and use a round fish bowl thing and pull out different numbers on mini balls? Like this http://2012olympicsblog.co.uk/2012/04/olympic-football-who-will-represent-team-gb-and-what-are-their-chances-of-olympic-gold/london-2012-olympic-football-draw/
I was thinking of writing something I love about him inside each of the balls! So how would I go about creating this? He's a massive football fan !
I also thought about doing 52 things I love about you on the back of playing cards. What do you think?
p.s. I live in England so know suggestions like Walmart please!
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fish bowl from a pet store, plastic ping pong balls from a 99 cent store for the balls. cut the balls open and stuff in little pieces of paper with the reasons why you love him written on each one. DONE! ; )
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So, I have a "friend." Honestly, she has stressed me out for so long now, and I still don’t know how to resolve this issue. We started out the semester as basically best friends. But then I got to know her personality, and it’s the type of personality that demands that other people be pushovers. I am not a pushover. I have been a pushover when I wanted to get others to like me. But by nature I am far from a pushover. My issue in the beginning was that my group of best friends all seemed to like her and hung around her still, so I tried to ignore my negative feelings toward her. I didn’t want to lose my other friends, so I pretended to be okay with her. Still, I would make subtle efforts to hang out without her. More than once, she would manage to tag along when I’ve made plans with other people. And it’s hard for me to say no to her tagging along because 1) I don’t want her to hate me, causing my other friends to hate me and 2) I don’t want my other friends who like her to think I’m mean or something. It’s just that we are in so many of the same circles. We have a lot of mutual friends. I feel like it’s impossible to be rid of her completely because I always have to see her. I might as well be civil toward her right?
It just bothers me to be around her lol. And I don’t know how to deal with it. I feel like I’m the one who has to make all the personal sacrifices (reluctantly letting her tag along when I make plans with someone, especially if I’m crucial to the plans; for example, once I was the only person who would be able to get us in to a certain party, and I did NOT want her coming, but I didn’t know how to say no. So I felt used. She always makes me feel used, and I despise this feeling), and I hate it.
It’s not like she’s an evil person or anything. Like, I’m sure she’s kindhearted enough. I just don’t like her personality. She can be extremely selfish and manipulative. It annoys me to be around her. I always feel like I’m the only person giving, and all she does is take. I hate feeling like I’m being taken advantage of. I don’t think I deserve to have to put up with this. Some of my closest friends recently told me that they felt the same way about her. So that’s good, I guess. But our mutual friends don’t just extend to my closest friends. Most of my friends are also friends with her (not sure if they also secretly don’t like her).
I just can’t come up with any solutions. I’ve already started to ignore her, and we haven’t talked in a while. But a few days ago, she managed to tag along again when I made plans with someone else (not one of the close friends who also dislike her). Of course, the friend was the one who let me know, not her. That just annoys me so much. I feel like my only choice is to continue being civil and acting like I don’t come very close to hating her.
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I have to agree, it seems like you just need to find a way to find the right way to say this.
Usually what ill do if im having this problem is get everyone around this person on my side first by asking them if they ever feel the same way, then once they agree youll have that persons back up should another situation arise where you can TELL no one else likes what shes doing and their just not saying anything.
Then you can ask her why she felt the need to do this or that and then say "ok well im just asking i mean you could have hurt someones feelings or endangered someone" if you have made crucial plans and she tags along then start asking the person you made plans with if shes planning on bringing this person you dont like and say "oh that sucks i kinda wanna to just spend some time with you is all" and it might make them reconsider inviting her. and simply ask if theres anyway they can make something up and change plans so you and the person you made plans with can go and not bring her.
Then once your with that person, tell them you dont mind her but "does she HAVE to be with us like every single time we hang out??" and things like these comments will start to get people thinking about their relationship with her as well. Little off handed comments usually will do the trick, get people on your side, and then when you DO finally feel the need to say something then you can without fear that no one will back you up on it. In fact they will probably agree and leave with you or come to you later and say "you were right"
Just stand up for what you believe in, if she cant respect that then shes not your friend in the first place and you dont need her, or anyone who agrees with the way she uses people.
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how do i find a gay boyfriend? and where should i find him at?
codycontreras (link)
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Im not sure what you mean by "find a gay boyfriend"??
are you saying you want a gay boy thats a friend? or are you saying that you want a sexually confused guy thats 99 percent gay and unsure enough about his sexuality still that he will have sex with you?? because those are rare and not likely to happen. sorry.
to find a gay guy FRIEND, start going to gay bars with other friends, meet people, zero in on some you like and be friends with them. Gay bars arent gay only places, they welcome everyone with open arms usually so even if your straight it wont matter.
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If he has a baby and I'm 10 years old, and he's 18 do you think it'll work? (link)
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Yeah i have to back up what the other posters here are saying. Basically in a nutshell "it aint gonna happen sweetie" Your too young and hes way too old and even if anything COULD happen he would go to jail and im sure thats not what you would want for him.
its ok to fantasize about celebrities though we all do to some degree. ; )
hug your pillow and dream of your celebrity crush like the rest of us! welcome to the club!
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24/f. My mom has been emotionally and psychologically abusing me for as long as I can remember. Because she is a narcissist, no one believes me in my family. First and foremost, I can't report emotional/psychological abuse to the police. However, it has affected me a great deal and has put my mental health in danger. She has stolen my identity, which could ideally put her bind bars for some time. But, if I did that, no one in my entire family would speak to me. My mom has BIG issues and I don't think jail is the answer. She needs to go to therapy. She needs to be forced to go to therapy. I have one family member, my cousin, who believes me. She's only 11 and she says that my mother is unstable and that she would consider the way she treats me as emotional abuse. I don't live completely at home. I have an apartment about 30 minutes away. However, I do come back home to see my grandparents, pets, and my niece and nephew. However, my mom does not stop calling me. She calls at all hours and told me that she has a tracker on my phone to see where I am. EVERYTHING is a problem for her. She is a stalker. The other day, I was at CHURCH and she said that she wanted me to leave immediately and that she was angry. Then, she made up some story saying she "KNEW" that I was with someone and just didn't want to come see her. I am not willing to speak to her until she gets therapy. However, she is dangerous, it seems. She is scary. She'll make threats like she is going to hurt herself. Pretty soon, my family will come knocking on my door dragging me out telling me that I have to come see her that I'm the wrong one for whatever I did. I want to go off the grid with the condition that my mom gets the help she needs, and my family, for the most part, gets help too. I am tired of being in such a dysfunctional circle. It has ruined my relationships, friendships, and even my jobs. These people are intense. If I don't answer, they WILL come find me. My dad is the commander of the city and he has trackers and will find me in a second. There has to be a way that I can do this legally... like literally go off the grid, be able to continue my studies online, and her to be told that she can't see me until she goes to therapy... like maybe some kind of restraining order. i don't know. Please help!
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Ok, first off find the number to your local "Adult Protective Services" and call them and tell them whats going on and what action they could take to help her if at all.
Then if anyone comes to your door dont answer if you dont want to talk to them. if your phone is on their plan then get it off, get your own cell phone even if its a prepaid one and toss the other one in the trash. Change churches because if your mom knows where you go then she will come there looking for you.
Change cars, sell your current car if you have one and buy something else on craigslist for close to the same amount, that way they wont spot you when your driving around and even if your car is parked outside your house and they try to come there they will think you moved because "theres someone else parked in your spot outside". Take anything out of the car that might tip them off that the vehicle is yours AKA charms, clothing items, shoes, anything.
then move asap and only allow them to call your prepaid phone that you can have disconnected at anytime if need be and change the number.
if they are on her side then this is probably the only real way your falling off the grid plan will work. Make yourself ONLY available by prepaid phone or facebook allowing you to contact them back when its most convenient for YOU. make sure your house phone if you choose to have one is unlisted, and dont go to any of the same places you went to alot before.
true your mother needs help but it also sounds like the rest of your family does too. Get away from them asap, get a job if you dont have one already, save up, and execute the plan here.
that should be enough. dont let ANYONE who will tell your family where you live or what kind of car you drive over to your house. just say its nothing personal im just trying to deal with alot right now and youll get back to them about getting together. Once you know you can trust them then its fine and you can use your own judgement.
good luck.
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Ok i am a 12 1/2 year old girl and I love a boy and he loves me too. Should I date him? Am I to young? Simone please help me. (link)
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i love the last posters idea. Thats great. you could also have him come over and have a girlfriend there TOO! so it comes off to your parents as a group thing. find a friend that doesnt care if you two are together and have HER come over so it looks like "nothing will happen with your friend there" and "its not like youll be alone together your friend is there too"
i also would not say anything about the dating word, and if you get asked by one of your parents if you like him "like that" then say "idk hes good looking but we're really just friends right now and idk how i feel about all that just yet".
its a good neutral answer and wont give away too much. ; )
good luck!
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So I've been dating a guy for about six months now. And everything has been going pretty good until recently, i mean this is what I need your opinion on. So I found him calling a girl pretty on Instagram. I asked him about it and it made me pretty upset! He apologized a lot and I don't think he was cheating on me or anything. So I accepted his apology! Then when he came over to my house that a girl he was talking to on his phone had a bunch of heart emojis and stuff by it! I know that they are "best friends" I guess I'm asking should I be more concerned about this? I just don't know if I'm being insecure, and overreacting. (link)
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I completely agree with dragonfly here. You might just be a bit insecure (alot of girls are these days because they tend to not get raised in a home that reinforces that they are priceless and to NEVER settle for anything less then a guy that only wants YOU))
A girl sending my hubby messages with hearts and all this in them WOULD get my attention, i wont lie there. I would be asking who she is and laughingly say "why is she sending you hearts? is she like in LOVE with you or something?? lol"
I would be assuming that SHES trying to get at a guy thats taken, but not that hes necessarily initiating it. Girls can be just as dogged when it comes to trying to get a guy that want as a male can. So try not to assume that its all him doing it.
I would tell him that its OK to communicate with her as long as she knows who YOU are and that he is taken. He can even hang out with her if your there, and just ask that he never hang out with her alone.
My husband and i trust each other im 28 and hes 34, we both have friends who are of the opposite gender and the general rule of thumb is its ok as long as you never allow them to try anything, and draw a line in the sand with them if they do. And try to never hang out with them alone.
Part of a relationship is learning to trust your partner, if theres no trust that he will do the right thing by you and NOT mess around with her then is he really worth being with?? not really. and the same goes for you, he should trust you enough to know that if a guy friend of yours was going to try something with you KNOWING that your taken, that you will law down the law with that guy. He needs to have just as much faith in you around the opposite sex and you do in him. period.
If theres no trust then your in the relationship for the wrong reasons and it wont be a long lasting relationship because youll both always be wondering in the back of you mind "are they going to cheat on me" EVERYTIME you go out or not with them every second of the day. lol.
i think its a really great idea to paint a scenario like the last poster said about you talking to another guy and try to gauge what his reaction to that is. Then use that as your guide to how much he trusts you and how he would feel about this. You can also use this as a learning moment within the relationship to say "this is what im comfortable with you doing and i'd like to hear what yours is so we can straighten this all out now"
good luck
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My best friends mom is super strict, like she is now making my friend pay rent and for food when she can't even get a job yet, and her mom doesn't care. It doesn't even seem like she loves her at all. She just wants her to clean the house all the time. My friend is 16, and when she tells me about all the fights she has with her mom, I never know what to say except that I'm sorry and how unfair it is. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can help her? (link)
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I totally agree with the other posters here, but also make sure that your friend isnt just trumping up the stories shes telling you because ive had this happen with a best friend before and after i had my mom call CPS on her family she later admitted that she was lying about the things her mom was doing to her and that none of it was true and she just did it to make people feel bad for her.
Because she was so upset with other things in her life she over exaggerated what was going on in her home life.
Now ive ALSO had other friends who really WERE going thru this same type of abuse and even though i encouraged them to speak to someone they were just to scared to reach out and i had to take her MYSELF to our principal and introduce her and make her tell them what she told me and that i was "concerned about the things she told me" and "thought you should know" so that maybe they "can help her". ((a few key things to say if you have to resort to this because your friend is just too self-conscious to approach someone on her own)) ; )
They will then probably ask you to leave them alone to talk for a few minutes and the school will handle it from there. If the friend gets mad at you for having introduced you to the principal because you were concerned for her then she might have been lying about all this and/or she might not want to face it.
If this happens you can talk to her and ask her if she lied about the things she said because if she wasnt then she shouldnt be mad about it but feel a sense of relief over knowing other adults will make this right and she now has nothing to worry about.
hope this helps some.
good luck
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Hello,I would like to ask if masturbation is a sin or not because my boyfriend and I have decided to wait till marriage for us to have sex. I'm only 16 years old (girl) and get horny every now and then. Is there a way I can control my hormones without sinning? (link)
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This is a perfectly natural human instinct that all humans have. If they didnt they would be lying.
You cant stop the urge from happening because your young and your hormones are raging. Actually, the safest thing you CAN do is just masturbate instead of having sex so at least that way you wont risk getting pregnant.
If your boyfriend is young and feeling the same way i would suggest mutual masturbation so you'll both be satisfied and no one will feel left out.
hope that helps some. good luck.
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Everyday when I take the bus home from school for the past 2 days I've seen some weird kid just walk around a park I pass on the way home that is near my stop and he walks then turns his head then walks to the sidewalk and starts staring at me and no one else seems to notice him he did the same thing Thursday and Friday and I'm afraid that when I have to tale the late bus Tuesday because of a club and the closest stop near my house will be that house and I will have to confront him should I beat him up? He looks 16 though so should I punch him and run away? (link)
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Why not just give a friendly hello and keep walking no matter what he says?? is he really that awful?
usually if your not interested in talking to someone all you have to do after they've initiated contact say hello and NOTHING ELSE. maybe give a slight smile and keep walking and if he continues then say sorry i gotta go, see ya!
keep anything you say back short and do not allow him to start a deep conversation with you if thats not what you want.
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So I know this is kind of weird but I like to have sex with my teddy bears. I don't take off my cloth but it still feels good. But after I do it I feel guilty. How do I stop doing it. Please help me (link)
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I agree with the first poster here, its NOT wrong. Your body has needs and it sounds like its driving you nuts not to be able to relieve it so you grab the thing closest to you which i at the time i guess was a teddy bear. Thats ok.
If your not old enough but know someone who is, it might not be a bad thing to have them go and buy you a vibrator or something from a store that will help you with that urge when you have it and your alone. An understanding, chill friend thats old enough to buy one for you would do that. Or you could buy something online and ask a friend if you could have the package mailed to their house instead of yours and you could repay them in cash or whatever money you can get your hands later.
I get the guilty feeling because you know whenever someone comes into your room that you did that with that object and they might pick it up and touch it and have no clue.
my advice. wash the teddy bear, and get someone you know to buy something for you on the down low that is small and you can hide in your room or a drawer away from prying eyes.
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good luck.
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I have been thinking for awhile about this topic and it's been prompting me to ask for some help. I met a new friend in the fall semester of college and we've gotten super close. My problem; my best friend. She always tells me to ditch her and claims I spend too much time with my new friend. And I've been meaning to ask her what she thinks of my new friend. But I'm not sure if it's a good idea because I don't want to start any more fights because we already went through one and it got really bad. What should I do! (link)
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It sounds like i know where this is heading. Your old friend is jealous of your new friend. this is VERY common among females, and happens way more than you could ever imagine.
The goal here may be to try to include activities with both friends so that your old friend doesnt feel left out, and after that if she still "doesnt like her" then you can say that your "trying to include you in things your doing with that new friend because you want all your friends to be ok with each other and never feel left out" but if shes determined to act childish after youve done everything you can to except your new friend then youll no longer include her in any of the activities you and your newer friend do together.
Its OK to have more then one really good friend. When you get older youll discover that theres no real thing as just ONE "best friend" because in life everyone is so different that youll have many different friends because theres things about those people you relate with, where as other people may not understand because they arent in that place in their lives yet.
Some females just dont know how to "share" their friends and can become passive aggressive and angry with you because they feel like your being "taken away" from them. What you can do here is try to make sure that if your old friend is feeling this way when she calls you to do something and youve already made plans with your new friend, offer to do something with just her after or the next avaliable time so that she feels like your still putting just as much energy into her friendship with her as you are with your new friend. Try to do something special with her when you guys DO get together, and hopefully in time she will except (but not nes. LOVE) your new friendship and she'll stop giving you a hard time.
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good luck
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last weekend i locked not only my main key but also my spare key in my car. i had absolutely no way of getting my key out so i decided to call the number on www.247locksmithallentown.com. they sent over a foreign locksmith and he was very suspicious to begin with because once he arrived to my house, he called me from my cell phone and asked me to come out instead of ringing my doorbell. once i came out the front door, he asked me to get into his van to fill out papers. he claimed he didn't want me standing out in the snow and cold. he opened the door for me and i felt awkward so i put half my body in the passenger seat but left the door open and he said "come on you can shut the door." i declined and said no thank you and he still persisted "don't be scared, it is just cold." i declined again. and he was like "are you sure?" i remember him starting up the car. he could've done this to "put the heat on" but he also could've done this and drove off with me.. once i declined several times he started joking about how i am nervous and after i walked away from his car, he got out too. he accomplished the task of getting my keys out of my car, but when he asked for payment i went inside and told my mom i was nervous and so she suggested he come inside and she pay him. he left on a friendly note, but i sense that he was eyeing out my mansion. not only that, but i sense he was eyeing myself out as well. ever since, i have not felt safe in my house. i don't live in a house- i live in a mansion. i am nervous he will return. i have severe anxiety and the situation from last weekend is NOT helping in anyway. being abducted is my worst fear. how do i handle this situation? am i being dramatic? should i call the company and inform them of my situation? do i call the police with my suspicions? help. (link)
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I doubt he remembers you, these people get calls all the time with these types of emergency's.
If your really this scared though maybe you should get an alarm system, you can also buy the sensors that go off when a door is opened and the sound on it is really loud unless you can turn it off in time.
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My husband is an ex crossdresser and had relationships with men before we met. I have seen pictures of him as a female and he was actually very pretty and looked the part. He has never to my knowledge crossdressed since we have been together these past 3 years. I would like to get him to crossdress for me as I find it so arousing. I almost wish he was living as a girl full time now. I am not sure how to bring this subject up and am looking for ideas (link)
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Just tell him that you want to see the way he used to dress when he would dress up as a female, and tell him that youve thought about it and it really gets you going.
have him dress up for just you in the house when your alone together and then encourage it.
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I have a crush on my 19 yr old brother I've been fantasize about him since I was 13 what should I do ask him out or seduce him? (link)
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OK. You shouldnt do EITHER of those things. Thats called incest and its wrong.
I can understand having dreams or fantasies because your body is changing, but its definitely NOT ok to try to have a sexual relationship with your sibling. If you were to ever get as far as having sex and end up having a baby, that child would have major birth defects, and could come out mentally retarded because your DNA is too alike.
I think you should stay away from him, or try to keep a distance for now until you get over this. It could just be a phase (you didnt mention how old you are now) so i can only guess this has been the span of maybe a few months to a year or two at the most??.
You will find someone that has all your brother best traits in the future thats NOT related to you, and you will love him a ton promise. ; )
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