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Told my close friend I like him and now he is ignoring me
My crush, who is also a friend, asked me who I liked and I told him that it is him. Now he is ignoring me. It is really hurting me. Only twice has he fooled around with me (I think because he saw I was upset) but other than that he has said nothing and it has been two days. Why is that? What should I do? I am thinking of sending him a message asking if we can still be friends but my other friend says I should wait until after the weekend to see if his behavior changes. Should I send it today or follow her advice? I'm a high school female, just saying. I would also like some males to answer because they may know what is going on in his mind.
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In this case, it's probably best to wait for his reaction which may take some time. In the meantime, continue to act exactly the same as you did before you revealed your heart.
High school boys are notoriously unpredictable. Most of them don't even know their own mind.
Be sweet! be kind but don't bring the subject up again. The ball's in his court now. Wait until he's willing to address the issue. I'm sure that your friendship is still intact.
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He might be just in shock right now and unsure of where to go from here.
You might just want to give him some space and then once you see him again act like nothing happened. Dont let him see that this was THAT big of a deal if you dont have to. why do that? play it off and say "well i was open and honest and i DO like you but if you dont like me i dont care and we can still totally be buddies. Then see what the reaction is. If he thinks its a big deal, play it way down and say its not so at least that way you can maintain the friendship still. ((ive done it this way and it works))
Give him a few days, say nothing, and see if he hits you back up first. If not see if you can "run into him" somewhere and stay calm the whole time be happy to see him and say "HEYY!" likes nothing has happened. It might make him feel better that your not acting like its a big deal. You can also take that moment to talk about other things and invite him to go out somewhere like FRIENDS would do and then wait for him to bring it up if he wants.
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What may be happening is that this is only one sided attraction, only on your part. Since he doesnt' have those kinds of feelings for you, it may make him feel uncomfortable being with you if you are just going to sit and moon over a love you can't have. It is awkward. It may be something to do with his personality, why he won't explain better. I don't know of many people who warn a person that they are going to stop talking to them and explain the specific thing that made them want to s top talking and then actually stop talking. You are basically jumpping to conclusions with the 48 hr silence, assuming it must mean something bad. To apologize or beg him to still be a friend makes you look silly if he was not bothered by what you said after all and had a good reason for not having time to call or ability to call. So wait a bit and see if he contacts you, if he doesn't you can always write, not bringing up anything about what you said. Assume it wasn't that. So what other reasons could there be for him not being able to contact you or get together? Theres a lot I bet. And have you have to do is ask. Call and say, Hey I've missed hearing from you the past couple days. Wondering if you're okay and everythings alright. It's not like you so I am concerned. This sounds like a friend concerned whether a friend is ill or grieving cus a relative died. You wont' know until you say something but remember its important what you do and dont say.
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