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Confrontation?
I have been thinking for awhile about this topic and it's been prompting me to ask for some help. I met a new friend in the fall semester of college and we've gotten super close. My problem; my best friend. She always tells me to ditch her and claims I spend too much time with my new friend. And I've been meaning to ask her what she thinks of my new friend. But I'm not sure if it's a good idea because I don't want to start any more fights because we already went through one and it got really bad. What should I do!
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It sounds like i know where this is heading. Your old friend is jealous of your new friend. this is VERY common among females, and happens way more than you could ever imagine.
The goal here may be to try to include activities with both friends so that your old friend doesnt feel left out, and after that if she still "doesnt like her" then you can say that your "trying to include you in things your doing with that new friend because you want all your friends to be ok with each other and never feel left out" but if shes determined to act childish after youve done everything you can to except your new friend then youll no longer include her in any of the activities you and your newer friend do together.
Its OK to have more then one really good friend. When you get older youll discover that theres no real thing as just ONE "best friend" because in life everyone is so different that youll have many different friends because theres things about those people you relate with, where as other people may not understand because they arent in that place in their lives yet.
Some females just dont know how to "share" their friends and can become passive aggressive and angry with you because they feel like your being "taken away" from them. What you can do here is try to make sure that if your old friend is feeling this way when she calls you to do something and youve already made plans with your new friend, offer to do something with just her after or the next avaliable time so that she feels like your still putting just as much energy into her friendship with her as you are with your new friend. Try to do something special with her when you guys DO get together, and hopefully in time she will except (but not nes. LOVE) your new friendship and she'll stop giving you a hard time.
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good luck
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