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What Seems Like the Right Thing to Do?
I am female and a freshman college student. I am an English Major and took up free Karate classes last semester. However, as much as I love the Japanese culture and I think Karate is great, I really don't have the time, stamina, or will to continue in these classes. I'm pretty wimpy as it is, skinny as a bone, and my thyroidsm doesn't help much - which is why I took the offer of these classes, I wanted to become stronger; both physically, mentally and spiritually. Unfortunately I'm not like one of those people that have all the time in the world - I wish to engage in music classes because I want to learn how to read music so I can play piano and the guitar - along with college this is a lot. Plus I also wish to go into dancing - in other words I want to defend myself but karate takes too much time that I could divide between other things I am interested in. The thing is that I don't know how I should tell my Sensei that I wish to leave the classes - I could send him an email which is the way in which we all communicate through, or go straight to him the next class, on Wednesday. I just don't want to have to wait so long and I'm a little scared about how he might react (just in case, "Sensei" is "teacher"/"master", etc. in Japanese. I just don't know what to do. I thought about sending him the email but also asking him if he would like for me to go to him to say it face-to-face, at least so I don't abruptly just say it on Wednesday. Of course, whichever way I would do so respectfully, he's a really good teacher and I wouldn't treat him irrespectfully. Just... what seems like the right thing to do?
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I'm going to take a slightly different view than the previous advisor.
Is your reluctance in how to inform your Sensei of your thinking of quitting actually an excuse to delay quitting?
Time management is something many of us have a problem with and more so with freshman college students. I was very fortunate to meet up with someone who had mastered time management skills and taught me how to manage my time. Once you learn how to manage your time properly it is very possible to, as they say, have your cake and eat it too.
With proper time management and proper planning you can do everything you want including staying with the martial arts program your in, which I believe is important. One thing though if you started the program without consulting your doctor the problem with stamina may be related to your thyroid Problem. This the doctor can help you with.
IF all you really want to do is quit the program today's etiquette says an Email is sufficient and appropriate. IF you would like to try for having your cake and eating it too then I suggest the following.
First see your doctor and inform him or her about the Martial arts program your in and your stamina problem. Then if you wish contact me in a private message and I will gladly help you with time management and a workable plan.
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Your hesitation on how to go about it may be from wondering if he will try to talk you out of quitting. He can do the same in an email response or in person. In person, before class, he won't have the time to sit and discuss with you. After class he might. A good teacher may want to understand first what your reasoning is for quitting, and like any advice giver, offer some other options that you may not have thought of. What really is highest priority, feeling safer knowing you have the knowledge on how to stay safe, avoid situations that are dangerous, and how to defend yourself if it still occurs, or as you said earler, wanting help with thyroidism, wanting to build muscle so you don't look at skinny. I don't know if you're seeing a Dr. for it but medical doctors will make their recommendations, then you can search online to see what other things you can do to help with your thyroidism that are easy to incorporate into your busy life style. Some people, with or without your issue, are naturally skinny due to having a fast high metabolism. If you are eating a diet that is good for your heath and getting enough excercise without Karate. You have a lot of interests pulling you in different directions, so it will take the willpower to stick with each one through the the end of class. If you find yourself, opting out halfway through dance or music classes, either you thought you had an interest but immerging into it showed you that you really don't, then don't stick with it. Although if it keeps repeating with everything you try, you may lack having enough commitment to carry through, and may want to focus with a therapist getting past the road block of not being able to commit fully to anything.
If you write an email and invite him to respond to you, that you'd like to hear what his thoughts and suggestions might be, that would be good, giving him the opportunity to speak with you as he might have in perso but lacked time to, due to the class.
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