Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
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Well, I run a lot & my thighs are not that big. I also do crunches like 50 a night or sometimes 100 if I skip a day. So my stomach is not that flabby. However, I still have lovehandles. I want to know if there's anything I can do that focuses ONLY on lovehandles. They're embarrassing in bikinis! My hips are kinda wide, could this be why? I just want to get rid of them because they're the only thing that bugs me A LOT about my body. (link)
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WEll try this exercise and cut the fat out of your diet. Read the nutrition label on the foods and snack that you eat, and if they contain more than 3 -5 grams of fat, avoid them.
Kneel on the floor with left knee, the other foot (right) flat on the floor, right knee bent. Now hold the small weight in your right hand, If you don't have a weight, grab your right wrist with your left hand. Pull your arm over your head and as far down towards the floor as you can go. Go slowly. you will feel the muscles on your right side s.t.r.e.t.c.h. Pull gently and do three sets of 10. Do the same on the opposite side.
DO this every day, increase the number of times you do it, and/or increase the weight.
Also you can stand up and do the same exercise, bending as far over as you can to one side, while you feel the s.t.r.e.t.c.h. on your other side.
Try to keep your body in line. do not bend forward.
Good luck to you
Michele
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im going to sing at my cousins funeral.
any good songs? (link)
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The wind beneath my wings by Bette Midler.
Maybe too old for you, but it is a great song. There won't be a dry eye in the place.
Michele
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ok so my mom is soo overprotective and i dont know what to do. here are some examples, she looks over my shoulder and reads what im typing to my friends on aim, if i say liike "wow today was so much fun" so one of my friends, my mom would be like "Why, what did you do today?" oh my gosh all the time and then i was looking at myspace layouts and she saw one[the myspace layouts on the internet are just previews, so they have TOM on the top 8. and my mom is like who is that man? im like oh my gosh its the owner of myspace, he is always on there. like ughhh she wonders why im always upset, and its because she doesnt trust me. she says its not a trust issue, but all of the apove, pretty much spells it out. theres other things she does but i dont know please help me, what should i do? (link)
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WEll here are some suggestions. The other advisors are correct your mom is trying to protect you, and some day you'll do the same thing for your daughter. So don't be to hard on her. But these suggestions may help.
First she needs to trust you, that may take time,(she may trust you, but doesn't trust other people) she also needs to know that you are level headed enough to avoid trouble. Some girls go looking for trouble. I am sure you do not, but she is not convinced that you would know the difference if someone were leading you on, or intent on hurting you. First, before she has to ask you how your day was. Tell her. Tell her so much information, that before long she's holding her hands on her ears and yelling STOP! Information, makes parents feel that they know what is going on in their kids lives. Because NOT KNOWING can make parents feel really guilty. One good thing to do, when a student at school does something really stupid, share it with her. Tell her how you ALSO think it was realy stupid of that student to do that. This will tell her that you have more sense than most girls your age. As she begins to trust you more, and you'll know because she will be behaving like she trusts you more, then when she is budding in, or looking over your shoulder, it is ok to say, hey don't you trust me? And maybe she will back off. Because parents do NOT want to invade your privacy, and they won't if they know you behave sensibly. Here is the one problem though, if you break the rules, and your parents find you....you have to start over. You don't get to keep the trust that you earned. That is the price you pay for violating their trust. I believe that kids should have their privacy, But they need enough information about what to avoid out there, in order to stay out of trouble. As long as my boys are behaving sensibly, I stay out of their way. And they are very good kids. I hope this helps.
Michele
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i am horney all the time and i fingure my own self... what is wrong with me? (link)
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Sure it's normal. Most of us would do it too, but many of use have found more important things to do with out time. Here is what I learned in my first psycology course, in school. IT IS NOT WHAT YOU DO THAT MAKES YOU CRAZY, IT HOW LONG YOU DO IT. So maybe you just need to find something else to do that can occupy your time.
Get your mind off of it. Something that feeds your mind rather than your body.
Michele
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how much is tax on $285.00? thanx (link)
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That depends on what state you are in. The sales tax (I assume that is what you mean) is 6% here in CT. The tax on 285.00 would be $17.10 in CT.
Here is a hint to help you figure it out in your head. What is 10% of $285.00 that's easy.
$28.50, what is 5%, half of $28.50 so it would be $14.25. So maybe your state's sales tax is somewhere inbetween.
Now if you mean Payroll taxes....like how much payroll tax would come out of your paycheck if you earned $285.00. Well Social Security and Medicare tax is the same for everyone inthe USA, 7.20% So that would be $20.52. I assume you are single, and would claim S-0 or S-1 on your W-4 form, so the Federal Income Tax that would be withheld each week from $285.00 would be $28. to $18.00 . That is IN ADDITIION to the $20.52.
Now I don't know what state you are in, but many states also charge income tax.
Basically, after taxes, you'll take home about $225.00.
Hope this helps.
Michele
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I love my dogs alot, but i want more. My best friend is selling a couple and i asked for her to save one for me. Well, my mom says no, we need money. I'm trying to raise money, but it's too hard with summer school. My dad says the only way we're getting another dog is if we kill our current dogs. I got scared and said no. All I want is just one mroe tiny puppy. One of my current dogs is 7 half way through his life. My other one is only 4. She's not too nice, but anyway, I really want this puppy, but don't know how to get my mom to say yes! HELP! (link)
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HOney, this is putting a big burden on your parents. Dogs are expensive, and require a lot of attention. One visit to the vet can cost over $200.00 And a new puppy will require shots and worm pills and rabies shots, and distemper shots, etc. etc. Your parents are being responsible by not taking on more pets than they can manage and be responsible for.
I know you won't like this answer, but if you really love dogs, when you grow up, you can have as many dogs as you are able to take care of. That is take care of in full. Love them, exercise them, feed them, get them neutered or spayed, get them all their shots, take them for regular check ups. nurse them when they are sick. And yess I know they will love you right back, unconditionally. The love of a dog is a wonderful thing and there have been many popular books written about it. Some day you will have the chance to experience it yourself. I know when the time comes you will be a great dog owner. Good luck to you.
Michele
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ok, i'm gonna tell you straight out, i have alot of money. I'm 15/f and my mother's family is very wealthy. I'm really not a snob or anything, i don't have fancy designer clothes, i'm down to earth and i do community service and donate time and money, and such. The problem is, there is this guy that works for my family. He is 27, and a few years ago he was hired to clean our house once a week. Well me and my sister go to school that is 30 minutes from our house, so a lot of days he also drives us, which is really annoying. For the past year, he works like full time for my parents, he cleans our house like EVERY DAY! he walks our dogs, runs errands, helps with landscaping. It's ridiculous! I hate it, plus he is a total show off and is always doing flips and handsprings in the yard! wtf. and everytime i walk downstairs he starts talking to me and commenting like "oh, your going for a run? i like to run" or "those peach yogurts are good aren't they?what other flavors do you like?"
It wasn't that bad during the school year, but now that school is out i just wanna go outside in my bathing suit and read and practice soccer in my sports bra and stuff, which wouldn't be a big deal, except that he is ALWAYS AROUND!
please help, it is totally ruining my summer! (link)
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This guy is totally invading your privacy. What are your parents thinking? Now that you are home for the summer, you want some peace and quite and I don't blame you. I wouldn't like it either. Why is he around? Can't you talk to your parents about it? I don't think they want you to be uncomfortable, no matter how easy he makes their lives. You should come first. No I don't think you are being a bitch about it, or selfish. You want your privacy, and he invades it. Good servants, ( and I can only imagine, because I never had one) should behave as if there are not even in the house, and only be around when called on. They are not members of the family. Of course if they do a great job, that is with work and behavior) they should be well paid.
If your parents won't listen, can you arrange to spend the summer somewhere else? Can you tell him off and maybe he'll leave you alone? Does he talk to your mom like that?
If he behaves totally differently infront of your folks, then I would be worried. I would be worried that his intentions are not good. And it won't get better, who knows what he is thinking. What if he convinces himself that you are in love with him, and want him. (don't laugh, it happens) and makes a move. I know you would rather avoid that. Does your sister feel the same way? Together can't you get your parents to let him go. Offer to do some of the work yourself.
Well I hope this helps. But I think your biggest problem is that your parents have their heads in the sand. Servant or no, money or no, I would have a 27 year old man hanging around my house, where my two young adult daughters live.
I hope they see the light
Michele
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Ok, I really like this guy. Only the problem is, he hates my guts. I used to hate him too. I was in like 3rd grade when i started to hate him and he started to bully me. Now, i'm 13 and I really like him,but he only dates girls older than him and he's dating some high schooler. My friends tell me to forget him. He's... how should I put this... a bad boy. But i still like him. I'm a not too into dating things. I've only dated 3 times since 5th grade. My first experience was bad. My first boyfriend physically hurt me, but anyway, I want to date this new guy, but he hates me, what do i do?! (link)
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OK, your first dating experience was bad, and now you want so bad to date this other bad boy, you want us to help you. And you say he hates you. Well, it may very well be that in time he will show an interest in you. You have to be patient, but I hope not. Sometimes when God wants to punish us, he answers our prayers.
Well you can't make him like you if he doesn't want to. If he likes older girls, girls that are more mature, they must be girls who don't go around saying they want someone who doesn't want them. They put their energy into someone who likes them, and the relationship is mutual.
So growing up and becoming more mature and sensible, may get him to like you more, BUT, if you grow up and become more mature and are more sensible, you should ALSO realize that dating this boy is a bad idea.
If you want your life to be full of chaos and emotional pain and heartache, continue to persue "bad boys". But if you want a life with a boy/man who cherishes you, who brings you flowers and can't do enough for you, then find a boy who doesn't have a reputation of being bad, and pay some attention to him. He'll think your the great!
Michele
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I'm friends with at least 6 Athiest people. I don't really want to change them. It's just why doesn't people believe in God? My one friend say me wearing a cross to school one day and told me to take it off. I asked her why. She said some very unkind things about God. Then she said, How can God be real if he doesn't save anybody from death? I couldn't answer that. SI asked around and found out she wasn't always Athiest. She used to believe in God until her grandparents were murdered. Since me and my friends live in a town with drug dealers, malesters, and murderers, it's common for people to get hurt, but i'm not scared of the people in my town, but my friend scares me saying too many rude things about God. What do I do?! (link)
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It is too bad about your friend being mean to you about your beliefs in God. You have the right to believe what you want, in this country. We have FREEDOM of Religion. And she does not have the right to tell you to take off your cross. YOu must know that God has asked us to believe in him even when no one else does, even when bad things happen, and even when we have doubts. There is a good book out called When Bad Things Happen to Good People. It kind of explains why we should still believe in God even when something bad happens like your friends grandparents being murdered. I do believe that everything happens for a reason. We are all here on earth to learn lessons. The lessons of human emotions. until we are pure. So we need to learn to LOVE unconditionally, (ourselves and our fellow man) be charitable, be kind, have hope.
Not be selfish, and do not break God's or Man's laws. It is not unsuall for young people to think they are atheists when they learn about all of the bad things that happen in the world. But often, when the find true love and happiness, and marry, and then give birth, they realize the miracle of life. Often they pray to God that their child will be healthy. Remain Safe. etc, etc. You must give your friend time to find out these things for herself. You can be an example. Let her see how your love for God does not waver even when things go wrong for you. Good luck to you. It is nice of you to care about your friend in this way.
Michele
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14/f
This will probably sound weird, but I have this really odd paranoia problem where I go into these modes where it's like I'm reliving a situation I had in the past with another person. It's like being there, like just now I was reliving an embarassing time I had when I was 13, only this really scares me and I have to like breathe really deeply and assure myself that I'm not really there.
Another part of this is how I sort of talk to myself a lot, only I'm not really talking, just mouthing what I would say if I were really talking. And it's always like I'm back in a situation that I was in before, such as a random conversation I had. And I can even feel people looking at me, like I feel like a bunch of people are staring at me even if I'm completely alone.
I've been this way for over a year, and I don't see why. What is wrong with me? (link)
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It sounds to me like you were really traumatized by that experience. The difficulty breathing and the anxiousness that you feel, are a clue to me. And while you may be OK now, safe I mean, or whatever. You may not be sure 100% that you might not find yourself in that same situation again. Because it remains unresolved. This is PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
I think the reason you talk to yourself about it, is because you re-live the situation and try to make it have a different outcome. One where you are not harmed. Where it turns out OK.
While time can make things better, here are some things you can try.
1. Tell yourself that the whole incident was not your fault. You didn't do anything to invite it, and you most certainly would have stopped it from happening, or made it have a different outcome if you could.
2. While you may have been very embarrassed. How do you think the other people involved felt at the time. Were they concerned about you. Did they tell you no need to be embarrassed. Have they forgotten about the whole thing by now, long before you have been able too.
3. Are you the only person who is still dwelling on this incicent? (and if violence was involved or trauma then I can see why, and that is normal.)
Can the steps you are taking, 1) reliving the situation, and talking yourself into a different outcome....really work to change things? I think not, so you have to find another way. Therapy may be an answer, if you can bring yourself to tell someone else of the incident, and hear from them, that it is all in the past, and you can stop re-living it now.
If the incident involved violence, trauma, or some sort of injury against you. You may need to speak to authorities, and resolve this matter through the law, in order for it to go away. But I know you are young and this can be very hard too. I you want to give me a little more information, even in a private question, maybe I can help further.
Michele
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ok be warned this is a crazy unusual question and i would really appreciate it if you take it seriously. i am looking for anyone who knws about anything concerning getting a new identity....
so ok i am 21/f from a very traditional yameni family. and i really really really want to change my identity (even go as far as my nationality). i have no control over my life what so ever. i am not here to talk about that i just want to know who or how or where i can find the rite sources to just escape and start a new beginning. i know it sounds like i am asking for something impossible out of the movies. but it's not uncommon for girls with my situation to actually fake a death (fire, drowning...etc) and flee... i just don't know how to do it.................. so if anyone knows.... (link)
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Hi, I hope you can succeed in this quest. The link that the other advisor gave you is a good one. Too bad the text is full of bad words and encourages kids to buy booze. I know that is not your goal at all. But what he is saying about the death cert and the birth cert is correct. I hope you can accomplish this. Does it seem doable to you? Try to find a name that will go with your looks. You know, not an irish name because you must have dark hair and olive skin. But an Italian name or Spanish name would be good. For a girl about your age. She should be 21 or over. That is best, because you will be an adult and no one can question you. As long as you don't break the law. Please don't follow the advice of the other person, about faking your death. Starting a fire is against the law.
If I am correct, then it is most important that you not ever get caught and return to your family. Things would go really bad for you if you did. (I believe) If you want to leave me a private question. And give me a little more information, like what state you are in. I will do some more research and let you know what I can find out. Maybe a battered women's shelter. I do hope you live in the US. I don't know if we can help you if you are in another country.
GOod luck to you dear. Please ask again for help and I will try and help
Michele
EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE IN CANADA, I THINK I CAN HELP YOU, I WILL TRY, CAN YOU STAY IN TOUCH? YOU CAN LEAVE ME A PRIVATE QUESTION. I WILL DO MORE RESEARCH AND GET BACK TO YOU. VIA THIS SITE IF YOU LIKE. I KNOW THAT THERE IS HELP OUT THERE FOR YOU, MOST LIKELY IN THE US. MAYBE CANADA, ARE YOU WILLING TO COME TO THE US. GO TO A WOMEN'S SHELTER, SOME OF THEM DO HELP WITH NEW IDENTITIES. LET ME KNOW.
MICHELE
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Okay, well this is as basic as it gets.
I have two choices, one go to a [certain place]
for 3 days and be happy with my life. Because i REALLY REAALLY would like to go to this place.
The thing is that there are other certain people that don't want me to go, for personal safety and such. Even though i know nothing bad is going to happen.
The person said that if i go, it would never be the same with us again and so on.
But i still really want to go.
I just don't know what to do.
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WEll you are not giving enough information for advisors to advise you. But I think I can guess why. Because if you gave us all of the information, our answer would be the same as that person (could it be a parent?) who doesn't want you to go. Or could it be a boyfriend, who doesn't want you to go somewhere without him.
Self-Happiness???? Is that what life is about. Well that is what Paris Hilton thinks. She is beautiful and rich and very popular so that gives her the right to lord it over everybody else. her happiness is more important than anything else. We have enough Paris Hiltons in this world. There are too many people who only care about themselves, and no one else's feelings matter. If it makes you happy, you should do it, and everyone else be damned.
Is that what you think we should tell you? This person who says that your relationship will never be the same if you go to this place, is someone who perhaps you made some promises too.
Who perhaps had certain expectations of you.
Who perhaps loves you and wants to keep you from harms way. THEY are not thinking of their happiness, they are thinking of YOU. That shows their selflessness and devotion to you. While you show the door.
Go ahead, go, have a great time. just be prepared to deal with the consequences, the hurt and the pain. BEcause I am sure that once you get back from your three day trip and made yourself happy. You'll want to be happy again, and have your old life and friends back. Their trust and devotion and respect. But that won't happen. You'll have lost it. All actions have consequences. Sometimes we have no idea what they will be and we are blindsided by them. But in this case, you KNOW what the consequences will be. So decide.
Michele
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well me and my mom we have our moments where we dont get along very well
i really dont like her that much, well at all and i dont want to live here anymore
so she yells at me for stupid things
so she was jokingly going to hit me right
but then i grabbed her armm and twisted it. ok i want to emphasize jokingly.
so then 5 minutes later i jokingly slapped her face but i barely touched her at all! she flipped out and was like IF YOU EVER DO THAT AGAIN YOUR GONNA REGRET IT. then i was like umm no i wont regret it or somethhing i dont remember but i guess it made her mad bc she punched me rly hard and it like broke my thumb or something...idk but it really hurts so i punched her back but not as bad and shhe just did it again to me
shes not always liek this its just sometimes lately
i dont know what to do
SHHES NOT ABUSIVE, just to point that out
i just dont know what to do
my life has really gone down the drain
the guy i like is an asshole and he will never like me again. well hes really nice but it just seems like hhe doesnt care. and friends are really shallow now a days...
eh i like this other guys kind of but it wont go anywhere and i just dont knwo what to do at all with anythhing. i basically need advice on everything in my life.
it seems like the only thing i really have in life is myself, i love myself because its pretty much all ive got
eh i want to get out of my house
what should i do before it gets worse?
i cant take this anymore.
ps. im 14 & a girl
im really sorry its soo long but i have a lot of problems in my life right now :[ (link)
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I am sorry to hear about your troubles. If you say that this altercation between you and your mom is VERY UNUSUAL, then please, lets keep it that way and don't go down that road again. You say you both were just fooling around, the hitting part anyway, but it seems you both were in the middle of an argument. So don't let arguments get to that point again.
A problem I see is that you are getting older and have an interest in boys, and that is normal. But it also seems like a lot of the problems that started with your mom, started when you became interested in boys. As your relationships with boys go bad, you may be taking it out on your mom. Or at least you are not acting like your normal self. Happy and sweet and I'll bet that when you were much younger that you and your mom got along well. Boys can be jerks. That won't change until boys become men, and remember boys mature much later than women. So you have a long wait. Your mom could be hurt by your attention to boys, and neglecting her. She could also be anxious for you, as you get hurt by boys. She doesn't want you to get hurt. She knows that just avoiding boys will save you a lot of heartache. WHAT SHE FORGOT was that no one could tell her that when she was your age. So a rocky relationship with you mom is normal at this time in your life.
You say you have a lot of problems in your life right now, but if the problems stem from your mom being strict, I can tell you that you will do the same with your young daughter when your turn comes. Disagreements with your mom are not
a reason to leave home. Though that doesn't mean that some parents DO give us reasons to leave home at a very young age.
Life on the street is very very hard. You can go to a website called www.covenanthouse.org Read the stories about kids who ran away from home. This is a place that takes in kids off the street. Most of the kids are throw aways. their parents didn't care about them at all. They come from homes where they were neglected, ignored, beaten, molested, starved.... Homes so bad that the streets were a better alternative. The lucky kids end up at a home run by Covenant House. the others, especially girls, get caught up in forced prostitution, drugs, kidnapping and beatings. You'll be surprised what you will do when you are hungry and cold.
I am not saying that you don't need a break from each other. Most likely that would be a good thing. DO you have a friend who you could stay with a couple of days?
I am not trying to make your problems trivial. I know that they are real to you. I think your mom is upset too, with the break down in your relationship. But she is afraid to tell you. Like you, she is afraid of rejection too.
I hope this helps. These are adult problems that you are stuck dealing with, when you should just be enjoying your life as a young girl. If your mom were stronger she would guide you through it with patience and understanding. I hope things get better for you.
Michele
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hi im ashley and i am 13 years old
i am mature for my age. i know this isnt just a phase
ive been bi for a long time now years.
my parents dont know yet though and im not sure weather i should tell them or not.
my brother is homophbic
my mom thinks its kinda wrong or gross but isnt like homophobic or ayhting
i dont know about my dad
i mean i think least im only 13 they wont take me seriously!
i have alot of gay/bi/lesiben freinds and all my freinds a cool with it and know about it.
i dont know....i dont want to have to hide it from my parents if im dateing a girl, but alo i dont want them wierded out by it.
im scared my parents wont respect it. or think of me the same way.
part of me wants to wait cause i think if im older they will take me seriously.
but part of me also says "its not a big deal theres nothing rong with being bi so just come out to them about it"
im not sure if im too comftrable about telling them.
but there my family and they should love me no matter what right??!!
please help!
--ashley (grayrainbow) 13/f (link)
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Hi honey,
Thanks for leaving me a question. I do understand how you feel, but you are just 13. If your parents have a problem with your being bi, it will mostly be because you have made this decision at such a young age. Though I do believe you and agree that childen that age and even younger can have a idea of what their sexual preferances are. My advice is to wait. I mean if you told them that you were experiementing sexually with a boy, that would upset them also, and it is because you are just 13.
If you wait until you are say 16, they still may not like it, but you will be that much more mature in their eyes, and you will have that much more freedom and you'll be more self-reliant. And you'll be able to stand up for yourself. Right now just being 13, what if they go overboard and forbid you to even leave the house for the next 3 years? I guess anything could happen.
I do agree that they should love you no matter what. I have often thought about how I would feel if one of my sons turned out to be gay. And I decided that I would love them no matter what.
I just think you will be coming from a position of strength and maturity and more experience, if you wait a few years to tell them.
They may also think that at this age, it will be easy to change your mind, and they will try to brain wash you. That will not be pleasant for anyone because it doesn't work.
So my advice is to wait a few years. And talk to some friends who are older, to have told their family and find out what it was like for them. This could help you in preparing for whatever may happen. I wish you well.
Michele
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I am a 17 year old female who is dating over the internet a 14 year old male who lives in Texas. I live in Canada. We have been dating for over a year now. I was wondering. Because we can't have sex and the law in Texas were as it is legal if there is a 3 year age differance. Is it legal? And could criminal laws get in the way? We are very much in love.
Thankies (link)
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Some states do overlook sex between minors if there is ONLY two years between them, but not three, so no I don't think it is legal at this time. But if your relationship, over the internet lasts, until you are BOTH 18, then no one can stop you.
Michele
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i'm 14 and i haven't had a boyfriend yet. i know that's not to bad butmy best frienddoes and i get so jealous because she has one and it seems all nice and so cute. when it comes to getting a boyfriend (like if i hear someone is going to ask me to a dance or ask me out) i'm like no way and i just stop there. i don't know why because if i just randomly think about it i just want a boyfriend so bad i don't know anymore (link)
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Well of course you want to have a boyfriend, but you don't want it to be just anybody, do you? that is why you say "no way" when you do hear that someone wants to ask you out. It's cause that boy is not appealing to you. He's not your type. I know it's hard, but it is still a good thing to be choosey. You have to look around at the "older people" who are still together today, and have been for a long time. I am sure that they had lots of chances to do things with guys or girls that did not measure up to them. They waited for the person that really made their heart beat fast. It will happen. Don't settle for less. Find that guy that makes you crazy, and if you make him crazy too, all the better.
Michele
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i recently had a sleep over and i asked my friend b4 bed if she was gunna take her bra off and she said no, she wears it to bed, and its bad not too. then my other friend said you shouldnt wear one to bed cuz its bad for you or something. should you? will it change anything if you dont?
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Wearing a bra to bed is a personal preferance. It's not bad and it's not good. It is up to you and whether or not you feel comfortable. If you have large breasts and want to feel more comfortble, they make sleep bras that are softer and have less elastic so you can move better in your sleep.
Michele
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Everytime my boyfriend has fingered me, Ive never orgasmed or anything. Like the first couple times, it felt good but never like "WOAH AMAZING." and the LAST couple times, it just seems like hes tryna get too into me and it starts to hurt. Or is it just that Im too tight?
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Well, I think your boyfriend is missing the spot that when stimulated, will bring enjoyment to you. Have you ever masterbated yourself? Why not try that, you find the spot, then you can direct him. and I'll give you a clue, it is NOT inside you. It is your clitoris, and the clitoris is outside of your vagina. Go to goole images, and type in vagina or even clitoris, and you will see a medical photo of a womans genital area and it will show you where the clitoris is. That is what he needs to stimulate. A lot of lubrication, like KY jelly, helps too.
Michele
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does drinking milk and orange juice get you taller? (link)
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They both have excellent ingredients that will help you reach your full potential. But mostly genetics are going to determin how tall you will be. That does not mean you can't surpass your parents, because you can, and a good healthy diet, including milk and OJ, will help. Excercise too.
Michele
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I need help. I've been watching my weight for an extremely long time. I do ok, I eat about 1200-1500 calories a day & run 4 times a week for about 20 minutes. I eat a lot of fruit, yogurt, cereal, veggies, etc. I was really depressed today. I'm not sure why. I went downstairs & I just started eating. I had 100 calorie pack chocolate chip muffins. I have no idea why I ate them. That's usually not the way I behave. I don't eat those sort of things, but they were in my house because they're 100 calorie packs. After I finish eating them & drinking milk, I just lose it. I start crying & basically have a panic attack. I work so hard & randomly I just eat something I know I normally wouldn't eat, but my mind just does it's own thing & I end up eating something I don't want to. I'm going to be upset for the rest of the day & I'm not sure if I want to eat dinner. How can I get over this? (link)
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It could be your horemones honey,and you are just going to get your period. All women go through that, that is why women are so notorious for loving chocolate. And since you made sure you only at a 100 calorie snack, don't be so hard on yourself. Overall it sounds like you are doing a great job taking care of your health and keeping your weight down. When dinner time comes you are going to be healthy. Drink more water for the rest of the day.
Remeber, your weight fluctuates thoughout the day, week and month, You should just weigh yourself, once a week, at the same time every week, and let it go at that. Maybe some vitamins will help you through the monthly PMS and weight gain and cavings of getting your period. They worked for me.
Michele
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