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eh. problems at home
well me and my mom we have our moments where we dont get along very well
i really dont like her that much, well at all and i dont want to live here anymore
so she yells at me for stupid things
so she was jokingly going to hit me right
but then i grabbed her armm and twisted it. ok i want to emphasize jokingly.
so then 5 minutes later i jokingly slapped her face but i barely touched her at all! she flipped out and was like IF YOU EVER DO THAT AGAIN YOUR GONNA REGRET IT. then i was like umm no i wont regret it or somethhing i dont remember but i guess it made her mad bc she punched me rly hard and it like broke my thumb or something...idk but it really hurts so i punched her back but not as bad and shhe just did it again to me
shes not always liek this its just sometimes lately
i dont know what to do
SHHES NOT ABUSIVE, just to point that out
i just dont know what to do
my life has really gone down the drain
the guy i like is an asshole and he will never like me again. well hes really nice but it just seems like hhe doesnt care. and friends are really shallow now a days...
eh i like this other guys kind of but it wont go anywhere and i just dont knwo what to do at all with anythhing. i basically need advice on everything in my life.
it seems like the only thing i really have in life is myself, i love myself because its pretty much all ive got
eh i want to get out of my house
what should i do before it gets worse?
i cant take this anymore.
ps. im 14 & a girl
im really sorry its soo long but i have a lot of problems in my life right now :[
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I am sorry to hear about your troubles. If you say that this altercation between you and your mom is VERY UNUSUAL, then please, lets keep it that way and don't go down that road again. You say you both were just fooling around, the hitting part anyway, but it seems you both were in the middle of an argument. So don't let arguments get to that point again.
A problem I see is that you are getting older and have an interest in boys, and that is normal. But it also seems like a lot of the problems that started with your mom, started when you became interested in boys. As your relationships with boys go bad, you may be taking it out on your mom. Or at least you are not acting like your normal self. Happy and sweet and I'll bet that when you were much younger that you and your mom got along well. Boys can be jerks. That won't change until boys become men, and remember boys mature much later than women. So you have a long wait. Your mom could be hurt by your attention to boys, and neglecting her. She could also be anxious for you, as you get hurt by boys. She doesn't want you to get hurt. She knows that just avoiding boys will save you a lot of heartache. WHAT SHE FORGOT was that no one could tell her that when she was your age. So a rocky relationship with you mom is normal at this time in your life.
You say you have a lot of problems in your life right now, but if the problems stem from your mom being strict, I can tell you that you will do the same with your young daughter when your turn comes. Disagreements with your mom are not
a reason to leave home. Though that doesn't mean that some parents DO give us reasons to leave home at a very young age.
Life on the street is very very hard. You can go to a website called www.covenanthouse.org Read the stories about kids who ran away from home. This is a place that takes in kids off the street. Most of the kids are throw aways. their parents didn't care about them at all. They come from homes where they were neglected, ignored, beaten, molested, starved.... Homes so bad that the streets were a better alternative. The lucky kids end up at a home run by Covenant House. the others, especially girls, get caught up in forced prostitution, drugs, kidnapping and beatings. You'll be surprised what you will do when you are hungry and cold.
I am not saying that you don't need a break from each other. Most likely that would be a good thing. DO you have a friend who you could stay with a couple of days?
I am not trying to make your problems trivial. I know that they are real to you. I think your mom is upset too, with the break down in your relationship. But she is afraid to tell you. Like you, she is afraid of rejection too.
I hope this helps. These are adult problems that you are stuck dealing with, when you should just be enjoying your life as a young girl. If your mom were stronger she would guide you through it with patience and understanding. I hope things get better for you.
Michele
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Hi hun, The last thing I want to do is upset you but I am going to be totally honest with you - you say your mom is not abusive, well I would consider any parent who punches their daughter "really hard" to be abusive! Its fantastic you've got self-respect and you come across as an incredibly strong person but you can't be expected to live like this and you defiantly can't bottle all this up any try and deal with it alone! Its good that you've come to this site to ask for advice but you really do need to talk to someone face to face who is in a position to help and do something about it! Also its times like this when you really need your friends - talk to then and let then know what's happening and your true friends will be there for you. Keep me informed and let me know what's happening! stay strong - you can do it!
Chan
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Well, I can't help you with all the things going on in your life, but I can tell you one thing- joke fighting comes to a screeching hault when you slap someone in the face. Weather you meant it to be a joke or not, people take offence to being hit in the face. I know I would, even if it was playful like you said it was. Next time avoid that, ok? Your mom likely took offence to that. Your mom is someone you NEVER slap in the face, joking or not.
And it is a good thing that you love yourself, because you are realistically the only person in this world you know you can rely on. The only person you SHOULD rely on. It gets you nowhere in this world to rely on others.
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