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Decisions, self-happiness or others.
Okay, well this is as basic as it gets.
I have two choices, one go to a [certain place]
for 3 days and be happy with my life. Because i REALLY REAALLY would like to go to this place.
The thing is that there are other certain people that don't want me to go, for personal safety and such. Even though i know nothing bad is going to happen.
The person said that if i go, it would never be the same with us again and so on.
But i still really want to go.
I just don't know what to do.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
WEll you are not giving enough information for advisors to advise you. But I think I can guess why. Because if you gave us all of the information, our answer would be the same as that person (could it be a parent?) who doesn't want you to go. Or could it be a boyfriend, who doesn't want you to go somewhere without him.
Self-Happiness???? Is that what life is about. Well that is what Paris Hilton thinks. She is beautiful and rich and very popular so that gives her the right to lord it over everybody else. her happiness is more important than anything else. We have enough Paris Hiltons in this world. There are too many people who only care about themselves, and no one else's feelings matter. If it makes you happy, you should do it, and everyone else be damned.
Is that what you think we should tell you? This person who says that your relationship will never be the same if you go to this place, is someone who perhaps you made some promises too.
Who perhaps had certain expectations of you.
Who perhaps loves you and wants to keep you from harms way. THEY are not thinking of their happiness, they are thinking of YOU. That shows their selflessness and devotion to you. While you show the door.
Go ahead, go, have a great time. just be prepared to deal with the consequences, the hurt and the pain. BEcause I am sure that once you get back from your three day trip and made yourself happy. You'll want to be happy again, and have your old life and friends back. Their trust and devotion and respect. But that won't happen. You'll have lost it. All actions have consequences. Sometimes we have no idea what they will be and we are blindsided by them. But in this case, you KNOW what the consequences will be. So decide.
Michele
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Well, it's kinda hard for me to give you advice on this, considering I don't know what certain person you are referring to (parent? sibling? boyfriend? friend?). Parents can be quite protective, as well as siblings, and friends and boyfriends can want to talk you out of going for fear of you moving on with your life without them. See my dilemma here?
It's hard for me to advise you on weather or not the place you want to go is truly safe, or if you are blind to it's lack of safety out of your great want for going. Get it?
Otherwise, I would have to say that it is your life to do whatever makes you happy, though I wish I had more to go on to give you better advice with your particular situation.
Remember: When you ask questions on this site, it is completely anonymous. I have a paid account, so I get a little more information than those who don't. But the most extra information I know about you is that you post as a female, age unspecified. So no worries on giving more detail, ok?
ygs-29/f
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It's your decision. If you feel 100% safe of going to this place, you should go. If you feel that you'll have tons of fun and it will make YOU happy... go for it! If it doesn't, then it's a useless trip. If it's something you really want, fight for it. If it's just something that would hurt others but you'd be an okay person afterwards, I don't think you should risk it. Just... realize what YOU WANT, not what others want. :) Understand your point of view, and others as well. If it really is a safe place because you have to be cautious about where you go because anything can happen at anytime so just be sure that you'll be all good and that you'll have fun. :) Know yourself. Believe in yourself, ok? :D
Take care & I really hope that my advice works.
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