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I am 16 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years. Lately me and him have been fighting a little bit. He tells me that I don't think about him and that I only think about me and that I never take him into concideration when I want to do things. He tells me that I treat him like crap sometimes. When I feel the same way only about him. He never really seems like he cares about me like we use too. Like when he says I love you he doesn't sound like he means it. And I just don't know what to do because I don't know how to tell him because i'm afraid that he will blow up in my face and say that it is my fault. Please Please Please help in any way I just don't know what to do anymore because I love him so much and I don't want to break up with him but I just dont know what to do.

well honey, maybe because you guys have been dating for two years, he just might feel like there is no more flame. Or maybe he is just getting jealous. When you guys do get into a fight just stay calm- dont yell (not saying you do) no matter how much he yells or freaks out just stay calm. And maybe take him to a quiet spot all by yourselves and explain to him how you feel. and if he still dont listen then throw in a lil tear...lol...but and if he does blow up in your face just walk away. you dont have to take that. if he isnt gonna listen and try to help you make this thing better then he isnt worth it.im sorry to say it but its true. hope i helped
xoxo
teardrops7

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One of my best friends... Last year, Gr 7, was fine. She was nice and we were all together. Now in Gr 8, she doesnt even talk to me. Though i have another best friend. All she ever talks to now is another 2 girls. Which are also my friend and THEY DO talk to me. She is like such an anime freak now. Sometimes , shes all gloomy. I ask her whats wrong and she ignores me and sometimes pushes me away. Today we went on a field trip and then I wanted to take a picture of all of my friends and stuff and she just pushed me away, same with my camera. Last year, she wasnt that much of an anime freak. Not that I don't like it, she talks aobut it every day, this and that. We are also in seperate classes. I know shes a good friend but I just can't stand this of her being talking about anime, everyday, every lunch, every time! I jsut hate it. she just never talks about anything else now. She doesnt even hang with us. She ignored me and my other friend who likes anime but isnt a freak, like me. What should I do?

Thanks :)

your not a freak! she is just becoming who she is. I really dont know what anime is but i think that it is a cartoon thing right? that is what my lil bro told me so if its wrong sorry. but if it is like a cartoon then someone talking about it would be annoying. If you dont want to hear it though then just ask her to talk about something else, or start up a new topic to discuss. and if that still dont work then just exclude yourself from the conversation. She is probably just beginning to fill her shoes and experiment with new things and trying to figure out who she is. People just change at different rates. hope i helped
xoxo
teardrops7

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im 14 and ive asked the same girl out in 4th and 7th grade both times she said no im now a freshman in high skool and i cant stop lookin at her what do i do?

okay first, sorry i took so long but my computer fried! but im back and i must say that all you can do is try. if she dont like you back then that is all, but you just have to try. i mean you asked her in like the 4th and 7th grade; a ba-gillion years ago. maybe she feels different about you now?! i say go for it, because if you dont, you will be sitting at home always wondering what would have happened if you would have said something. and trust me, you dont want to go through that. it just feels better to say what you feel, and get it off your chest. I hope i helped, and sorry it took so long to awnser!!
xoxo teardrops7

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How did you get da backround

you go to column settings under your welcome, (username)then it says "create your own style" and then like further down it says "your column colors" and in one of these blank spaces, next to it, it should say "Page background image (URL):"
in that box you put the code which you recieve from this little hyperlink thingy above all the boxes and it has the website http://www.advicenators.com/backgrounds.php and you click on it and it takes you to all of these background samples and when you find one you want it should have a little code in the box as well as a "see this on (so & so's site" and you copy the code above that and put it in the box that says "Page background image (URL):" which you will find back on your column settings page!! hope i helped, its difficult i know but thats the best way to explain it...
xoxo teardrops7

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14/f
i think i'm gay.
i've been thinking about it a lot lately and really think i am. like ok when all the girls in like fifth grade started liking guys and getting "boyfriends" i was just never interested. i know that could be normal for a kid but still. and like when i'd play with barbies or some doll like that with my friend a long time ago she'd have the boy and girl kiss, ha i'd have the two girls kiss mostly. and now my friends always sit around saying how hot guys are and i just sit there you know? i'm normally thinking about the girl nowadays. i've gone out with guys but it just never felt right to me. i alwyays felt uncomfortable.

but what i don' get is how on the internet most lesbians say they knew when they were like 7 or 10. i'm just now starting to realize it. maybe it's hormones? but i think it's more than that. maybe everyones different? what do you think? what should i do?

-anyone who answers thanks. =]

okay honey everyone develops at a different age, what 7 year old is gonna say "mommy i like girls!' lol i mean seriously. but if you like girls then you like them, you cant control your feelings, you could be bi?? but whatever the case follow what you feel, dont base your decisions on someone elses okay!
hope i helped!!!
xoxo
teardrops7

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Okay, well....I started going out with this guy named Dustin last Friday. Just today, I decided I didn't like him. And I felt like a jerk, because I like a bunch of other guys (im a flirt lol). So I decided to break up with him. I didn't think it was fair to me that I was going out with someone I didn't like, and I didn't think it was fair to him that I liked other guys. So I dumped him. So I like this other really hott kid named Derik. I told some people, because I figure he'll go out with me. Well, Dustin is convinced I'm going to go back out with him. But he's going to hear that I like Derik. I honestly don't know what to do. :(

okay well if just today you decided you didnt like him, then wait a few days before you go after derik, cuz then you might send out a message you dont want to send out. And you will always like someone else, its human nature, if we didnt it would be weird. so just dont take that into consideration. wait a little while and make sure that you are completely over dustin, you dont want to get mixed feelings.
xoxo
teardrops7

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What are these bees called?

Green body.. black and white stripes. I'm having trouble using google. I'm finding -every- OTHER bee.

Here's a picture of mine:
http://yummygermsstock.deviantart.com/art/Lovethis2-64304185


I've been curious of their name. I think they are stingless..? Not quite sure. I don't like bees so I didn't stick out for long :P

Any websites would be helpful. I don't seem to have researching skills. [Any tips?] Thanks!

Genus Agapostemon a type of sweat bee, they do sting but not severly just like a sweat bee (not bad)
xoxo teardrops7

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i'v asked a question called does he like me? Well this is somewhat like it execpt it's just about one guy. Lets call him #2, I really like him ALOT! But we hardly talks. People say he looks at me sumtimes. We've talked a few times. Not alot. And i alway start the conv make the move but he does respond to it. After everyday i hugg him and he's like bye ashley see you tom. I'm like okaii bye. But he talks to every other gurl but me .. Do you know why? i try to approach him but i get a little shy. He's quite shy around me and i don't know why. I want him to ask me out but he hasn't talked to me about the dance soo i geuss he has another girl in his mind. We talk a bit but thats it. Like he kinda teases me once in awhile. When i say hi he does blush and the thing is everyone says he likes me and i'm really like umm comanding and when i command him to do something he does it! In this lazy blushy kind of way. Soo... is their something their?
does he like me at all? Why does he talk to every gurl but me? SHould i talk to him more?

he likes you girl go for it!!!!! maybe he dont talk to you about the dance or strike up a conversation because he likes you he is just shy! so state your feelings cuz he is feelin you!!
xoxo teardrops7

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i have a friend, j, and i really, really love him. he's so nice and really funny. i just love to just be around him. i just want to know how to know if he likes me, or how to make him love me. any answers are greatly appreciated.

just ask him!! you really should :] and if your scared dont be cause it isnt as bad as it seems! trust me! you might not believe this but it is straight up true, on friday i walked up to the guy i really really like and told him how i felt. and it feels really great to have it off my shoulders. now everytime he sees me he smiles at me. its not a hey date me but its a start. So get a start!!! it might surprise you!! You could just walk up to him and say "hey how would you rate me on a hot scale, seriously, 10 being fine and 0 being drop dead ugly...be honest cause you dont want to see me cry!" and then see what he says!!
hope i helped you! :] xoxo teardrops7

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ok there is this guy and he likes me and i have know him since kindergarden and he ask me out and there is a word going wround at my school saying taht he has herbies nad usually when a "rumor" goes around like that it us true because it is not common ok?
and then there is another guy and we all think that he likes me too and i dont know for sure though.
but the only thing is that he is my ex best friend and if i go out with him then it will set a image that i am trying to getback at my ex and i dont want that and it wouldnt be true!!!!

so watch should i do!!
i like both these guys!
please help!!!!!
softballbabe2610

okay well as for the herpies i dont know what to say but go and ask him. he might be embarrased if he does but sometimes honey, there is this thing called anger and anger can cause some rumors to go around that can really change a persons rep! so dont believe ANYTHING you hear and you should be good. and as for the other guy so what, it really isnt any good to go through life and think about what others think! what do you think? that is all that matters honey. if you go through life wondering what everyone else thinks, you will go nowhere, i have seen it. its not good. but i cant tell you if you like them or not, only you can decide that...just listen to your heart, it WILL tell you. hope i helped :] xoxo teardrops7

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all my life i've had weird dreams. for example i had a dream that i was talking to one of my friends. i had forgotten about the dream but two days later i'm talking to my friend that i had the dream about and he's telling me something i already know and i say "you already told me this" and he says "that's impossible it just happened 5 minutes ago." last night i had a dream and this old man was in it, today i watch a movie that i have never seen in my life or heard of, and the old man was in the movie. he wasn't a popular actor so it's not like i had a dream about brad pitt and watched a movie and brad pitt happened to be in it. does this happen to normal people? i don't really believe in fortune telling but this is just weird.

DEJA VU thats all--i get em all the time! their really awesome! xoxo teardrops7

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earlier in the year, around february i liked my best guy friend but he was going out with someone, then he broke up and me and him became friends with benefits. a lot of drama started because of it and i didn't like him anymore so we became just friends. then suddenly we started the friends with benefits thing again and a month later he started going back out with his ex. i was totally cool with it but two nights ago i had a dream about him where we were going out and now im starting to like him again. liking him could cause a lot of drama that i really don't need. i need to get him off my mind. help!

maybe your not 100% over him. but dreams are dreams sometimes the people in them can be representing things you have done before. Maybe a dream about love means your craving a better love life you just dont know it yet. But dont be one of those girls who run back to a guy everytime they say something sweet or sit by the telephone at night waiting for a call...you dont want to be that girl. Just go hang out with your friends at like football games or at the mall, something fun that you like to do. that should get him off your mind...hope i helped xoxo teardrops7

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Ok, i really like this guy named Shawn at my school. but there are some problems.

1)We really don't talk very much.
2)He is a grade above mine
3)There is this chick who "claimed" him as her's.
THEY AREN'T EVEN DATING!!!!! So why in the hell does she get to have him? My friends say that I shouldn't even try because I dont wanna mess with her because she'll kik my butt. Which is probally true, because i aint that strong. But still, why can she "claim" him?

some girls are like that, they are just bitches, but we all have bitches in this world, we just gotta stand our ground! now i dont know if i would try and dating him just yet, but maybe just talk to him a little bit...that might help. maybe ask him if he knows about this girl, and that she "claims" him. Just remember though honey, you cant claim a man, they are not a pretty object on a shelf! lol...i hope i helped :]xoxo teardrops7

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soo theres this boy who i have been talking and well last june we started talking like everyday and got really close like bestest freinds coz he told me evrything and me to him like literalyy everything! until november when my best freind went out with him for tw days and then broke up and then i started feelin bit jelsous but i triednot to..i duno i was feelin different! but he kinda gave me the impression b4 hand that he likd me coz he would say all this sweet stuff and say like bf and gf things to me! anyway, he stopped talkin to me in december for some reason - when everyone asks him hes like i dnt like 2 talk bout the past anymore!
soo.. recently he started talkin to me sayin that he dont want 2 keep a grudge with anyone..he used to go to my school but left because he failed and had to go some place else..every time i talk to him i feel happier..but i dont think about him that much at all! and recently he kissed my best friend and didnt even call her back!
ive been trying to move on but i just cant and i dont know what to do at all!
so can somebody tell me how to handle the problem? if i like him or if were just friends?
and what to dooo?.. and recently again hes bein really rude to me and cuttin the calls when he sees my number or if i all hed hear my voice and cut the phone? lately i have been thinkin bout him
im soo confused thanks in advance and fast please thanks honeys x plus hes never there for me he always worries about his stuff thanks x

well ima girl but i will tell you my view in the nicest way i can possible. i think you have been played honey. I think you do like him, you just probably didnt notice it until after you saw him with another girl, but i mean maybe he dated your bff to make you jealous and he got mad when you didnt take action. and as towards the end of the story is where you sound like a girl who has been played... i hope i helped- really. im sorry if it isnt what you wanted to hear its just what it sounds like to me...xoxo teardrops7



THANKS FOR THE FEEDBACK!!! and i mean just hang out with your friends or do something you like to do, just stay busy and if his name comes up or he comes up just walk away.

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hey people
listen
well im 13 and i like this boy whos 16 year old..
anyway
last year we used to be GREAT friends and we used to like have this little group but you know we were joking around and stuff
so he went to another country this year and so you know my summer hasnt exactly been so fun cause i missed him and all by the way he doesnt know i like him and im not chosing to tell him because i know that itl just break off our friendship and no i cant let that happen..
anyway so this year i went to skool rite
and we are not close
AT ALL
we are alwyas like not talking even if we re around eachother its mostlys hi's and bye's
we brely talk
and i laready told him im like
hey why dont you like alk to me anymore? hese like
no its nothing blah.,.
i dont wanna bring it up again.
i told my friends about it
some tell me get over him and some tell me he likes me
he gives little eye contact but he never tends to talk to me
like today i ws talkin to this other guy and he was like rite there next to us just like a lil away and then im like to the guy ooh you got a new phone can i check it out? hese like yeah sure so while i ws playing with his cell phone..
i look at the corner of my eye and i find him like lookin at that guy giving him A DIRTY ASS LOOK
and just walkin away..
nd i was like what the hell? '
all my friends saw it
and i asked them if they saw it
and they told me he was probably jeaoulouse by the way he likes this other girl but she has a boyfriend already and stuff
he doesnt know that though but now they barely talk
i know hese proly just sad that that other girl ignores him and stuff but i see him when hese around other people and hese not exactly the same with them
the way he is with me
can u guyz just tell me whats going on
what do i do!!
pleasee
im sorry for this is long
but i need help
thanks yo

well my friend zack told me that when a guy finds out you like him, sometimes they wont talk to you cuz they dont want it to be akward. apparently thats not the case here if he dont know...but yeah maybe he does like you but he doesnt want to talk to you because he thinks of it akwardly and doesnt want to say something wrong? guys can be like that i guess, it sucks, but if he wont talk to you just tell him, "hey i dont know why your not talking to me but i am getting sick of it and im not waiting around any more, so if you got something to say you need to say it cuz your really making me mad." just tell him something like that if you want, maybe he will say something like "i like you" or something! hey its worth a shot! hope i helped! :] xoxo teardrops7

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Okay well theirs 2 guys i like. I'm stuck inbetween them one moment they act nice one moment they dunt. Like seriously it's so confusing and i really want to know does it seem like they like me?
Teh two guys are lets call them #1 & #2

#1 tried holding hands with me for like two days. And i didn't respond so he stopped. He started ignoring me. So i did the try to get him jelouse thing. He stares at me ALOT! He always asks me to site with him in class. He asked what if i asked you to the dance? . He has this thing on his msn like iloveyou and junk but we never talk on msn. only in person. He doesn't act the same around any girl but he does flirt kinda. Is he trying to make me jelouse. But he acts like i'm invisable alot. Only sometimes he notices me.

#2 we don't know eachother that well. But i love to play with his mind and flirt with him. He's so shy. When i say hi he blushes. He doesn't talk to me alot. But he tells me some personal stuff. He stares at me alot and always blushes when it alk to him. I usually make the move he's to shy but he always responds to it. [flirts back] when we pass by he always stares at me. & When we hug he talks.. He tells so many things to me. but he doesent talk as much and i'm a blabber mouth soo.. yea

yu think any of them like me?

#1 seems as though he likes you but #2 seems to have his eye out for you...so take it by the horns and ride(but not in a perverted since)

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My best friend and her boyfriend have been going out for 11 months. I know he means everything to her and she genuinely loves him.
Well, I heard today from a friend that he has cheated on her twice, once relatively soon after they'd been going out and once about a month ago. The thing is, this friend heard it from another friend, who in turn heard it from a friend of the boyfriend. I don't know what the likeliness of it being true is, to be honest - although I've never really liked him and it does seem to fit his character.
This would ruin my friend if it was true. I was wondering whether I should tell her or not - if I told her and it wasn't true, she'd probably hate me forever as it would mess up her relationship and really upset her in the mean time. But if I don't tell her, and it is true - isn't that worse?! I really have no idea what to do, I don't want to lose my friend but I don't want her to get hurt either.


xxxx

dont tell her if your not absolutely sure. surely you know how teenagers are, if not your in the wrong time zone... they feed off gossip! its like the telephone game we used to play in preschool where the teacher tells a student something in their ear and they whisper it to each other going down the row and the person at the end says it and it comes out completely different. yeah well its like that so just be sure before you tell her cuz it could be devestating to you and her...hope i helped
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teardrops7

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I have a broad forhead..would leaving peices out of a ponytail help with taht? i hate putting my hair up because of it.
my hair is layered with the shortest being a little ways past my chin...and it goes down a little past my shoulders. its pretty straight, the layers make it somewhat wavy.
any tips are greatly appreciated ^_^

thanks!

well whats in style now is sidebangs if you care about what everyone thinks or if you just think they're cute... or you could get bangs that cover your whole forehead down to your eyebrows....
xoxo
teardrops

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ok im 16/m and im really shy. there is a girl i like and i always think about her and i just dont stop. but i never even talked to her. she likes someone but i dont know if she is gonna end up going out with him.. can you tell me what i should say to her to start being friends then be a little more than friends? thanks!

aww thats sweet! :) but let me tell you something! i have been through this and there is one thing i have learned from it- it might be hard but you need to decide your future before the future decides itself for you. I hope that made since... but i like this guy too and i never even talk to him, but i still like him, so i know where your coming from. but me myself am in the process of telling him. lets see i have my cousin, my two best friends and me telling him. so just dont be afraid to tell because how will you ever know how she feels if you dont make it clear that you like her? so yeah! my point- just be her friend and show her the true you- then maybe it will be easier tell her than just how you say walking up to her and telling her you want her more than a cherry popsicle on a hot summer day! lol... but yeah other than that just dont be a jerk, or a pervert, or mean, cuz girls like a guy who will be strong enough to protect them and always do the right thing, but not so strong that they cant hold the girls hand in front of his friends..... i hope i helped!
teardrops!!

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14/f so ive never kissed a guy but i wanna make out with someone without every one knowing. i know this sounds shallow but please just tell me. THANKS

well dont rush into something first of all your only 14. and you would just have to make sure that the guy and you are both wanting complete secrecy, but it is bound determined to get out sooner or later honey. ecspecially at school because most teenagers feed on that kind of stuff. but just make sure that when you do make out with a guy its not just a one night stand, cuz that can get out and make you seem "easy".

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