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gay/lesbian whatever
14/f
i think i'm gay.
i've been thinking about it a lot lately and really think i am. like ok when all the girls in like fifth grade started liking guys and getting "boyfriends" i was just never interested. i know that could be normal for a kid but still. and like when i'd play with barbies or some doll like that with my friend a long time ago she'd have the boy and girl kiss, ha i'd have the two girls kiss mostly. and now my friends always sit around saying how hot guys are and i just sit there you know? i'm normally thinking about the girl nowadays. i've gone out with guys but it just never felt right to me. i alwyays felt uncomfortable.
but what i don' get is how on the internet most lesbians say they knew when they were like 7 or 10. i'm just now starting to realize it. maybe it's hormones? but i think it's more than that. maybe everyones different? what do you think? what should i do?
-anyone who answers thanks. =]
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Sexuality is a tricky thing. Some lesbians do claim to have known from a very early age, while other women might not realise until they are well into their forties, fifties, or beyond!
All of these are normal.
People are socialized from a really young age to be heterosexual - this means that it's the 'normal' thing, the expected thing, etc. This can make it difficult to realise what your feelings might mean.
The only one who can define your sexuality is you. If you feel like you might be a lesbian, stay open to that and just see where your body/mind/heart lead you. It's quite normal to begin to question your sexuality in the teen years, as sex becomes a much bigger part of awareness.
One other thing to keep in mind is that many lesbians who do not come out (to themselves or others) until their twenties or thirties can look back on their childhood/teen years and suddenly 'see' they were gay from a young age...forgetting that at the time, they had only a vague idea or no idea at all!:)
I wish you the best.
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Give yourself time to figure it out. You don't have to be absolutely positive right away.
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dont be so sure about this yet, you could be but you also might not be. maybe you just haven't liked guys yet. but if later on you feel like you definitely are gay, and you decide you want to tell a friend, tell someone who you think is worthy of telling it too, that would still accept you for who you are and that they're not gonna feel awkward around you. hope i helped :]
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okay honey everyone develops at a different age, what 7 year old is gonna say "mommy i like girls!' lol i mean seriously. but if you like girls then you like them, you cant control your feelings, you could be bi?? but whatever the case follow what you feel, dont base your decisions on someone elses okay!
hope i helped!!!
xoxo
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Every person develops differently, so just because you didn't have a moment when you were 7 when you said," Ahah! I like girls!' does not mean that you aren't one.
It really does sound like you are gay by your description. Making two Barbie girls kiss at such a young age suggests that it was always there. But it's also natural to not squeal over hot guys and all that. None of my friends do it, and we aren't all lesbians. ;D
Keeping that in mind, you are not finished sexually developing at age 14. I am 15 and I have never had a boyfriend (except in first grade, but that didn't count). I may be a lesbian and you might be a lesbian too, but at this age anything is possible so in a few years you might like guys and girls or maybe realize that liking girls was temporary.
The best thing you can do is give it time. There's no need to rush to label yourself. Let things happen as they will and eventually something may happen (like falling in love with another girl) that will make you realize that you are undoubtedly gay, straight, or even something else entirely. Good luck.
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not all people realize it when theyre that young because of pressure to conform into what society thinks is 'right'
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