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I am 16 years old and me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years. Lately me and him have been fighting a little bit. He tells me that I don't think about him and that I only think about me and that I never take him into concideration when I want to do things. He tells me that I treat him like crap sometimes. When I feel the same way only about him. He never really seems like he cares about me like we use too. Like when he says I love you he doesn't sound like he means it. And I just don't know what to do because I don't know how to tell him because i'm afraid that he will blow up in my face and say that it is my fault. Please Please Please help in any way I just don't know what to do anymore because I love him so much and I don't want to break up with him but I just dont know what to do.
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Yes, you love him, but it really isn't healthy to be with a guy who will blow up in your face if you so much as mention that something is wrong.
Right now you need to be strong. Remember what a wonderful person you are outside of the relationship, that you don't need it. The only way you should still be with this guy is if you truly enjoy spending time with him, and not because you are scared or are holding on to something you had. You may want to be in a relationship, but if anything happens, remind yourself that you will be alright afterwards.
That is the only way to get through this. You have to risk your boyfriend getting upset or a potential break up because honesty is the best thing, that and communication. You seem scared of losing him but the only way to truly hold on is to be okay with letting go, in some ways. Talk to him, nicely, sincerely, and tell him how you feel. Say that you want to talk about your relationship. Unless you can both open up to each other about how you feel as a couple you won't be able to understand each other and be happy together. If he blows up when you try to do this - he really isn't worth it.
And besides, what right would he have to be upset, if all of this time he has been ranting about how inconsiderate you are, and how much you treat him like crap. Although it's important to you that you are with this person, make sure that your most important goal is to always be in a situation where you are treated with respect.
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hey,
dateing this boy and being in love with him for two years really doesnt mean anything and i can tell you that rite now because when it comes to love i think i have benn through everything that there is!The best way to handle this situation i think is to just call him or when you see him tell him how you really feel and tell him that what he is saying isnt true!
love,
sarah
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well honey, maybe because you guys have been dating for two years, he just might feel like there is no more flame. Or maybe he is just getting jealous. When you guys do get into a fight just stay calm- dont yell (not saying you do) no matter how much he yells or freaks out just stay calm. And maybe take him to a quiet spot all by yourselves and explain to him how you feel. and if he still dont listen then throw in a lil tear...lol...but and if he does blow up in your face just walk away. you dont have to take that. if he isnt gonna listen and try to help you make this thing better then he isnt worth it.im sorry to say it but its true. hope i helped
xoxo
teardrops7
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