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Q: I broke up with my BF at this dance we have in my city...this was only because he was dancing with other girls....(girl) and I was jealous, so I broke up with him, but I have been walking with him and I really really like him a LOTTT!!!!!!!!
what should I do???

Talk to him and just let him know that you were hurt and you didnt want for him to dance w/other girls. Just admit that you were kind of scarred. Maybe he will ask you back out. Just talk to him that is the main thing! And if that doesnt work out im sorry!!-trix

Q: my friends are always asking me to do stuff but not together like they all want me to do something with them sepratley. i never no witch one to choose i just want to hang out with all of them but they kinda don't get along wat do i do?

Plan it out like have one on sat. one of fri. and have one on sun.-trix

Q: Today on AIM I had an away message up. It said that I was doing homework and I'd be back in about 30 minutes. I was doing my homework right in front of the computer, so I saw the IM's. All of a sudden this random IM comes up that says you're beautiful. My auto response that said my away message popped up, then I put a ? to his message. He said ok about the away message, then quickly added ummm to my response with the ?. He got offline. Then he got on and asked me if I'd go to the dance with him. I didn't reply so he said haha you suck. So later I asked if it was supposed to be funny. He just said don't talk to me please. Do you think this means that he was kidding or what?

He is probably emberassed. Feels like he got turned down or something. And is trying to make you look dumb. but in reality he's the one who looks dumb!!-trix

Q: What if you think your falling for your best friend and its not a guy and you know she BI do u tell her how you feel? or what Help i kno this sounds gay but please help!!

Umm just let her know im sure she could understand. Anyone can find room to understand-trix

Q: Do you think its wrong for a tenth grader to like a seventh grader even if the seventh grader is supposed to be in eighth grade? Im a female tenth grader and theres this male seventh grader thats hella kewl....what do you think?

Umm its a lil odd. But anything is possilbe! I think you could possibly give it a shot-trix

Q: Hey yall im in need of help. I cant explain how i feel fo my friend riana. but i cant stand when people talk bad bout her.plz help and tell me whats goin on i think im in love. but i dont know if she likes me.what should i do.

Well if you are staying by her side im sure she loves that. Just be with her alot and talk to her and what not. Bring the topic of you 2 maybe going out-trix

Q: im 13/f my bestfriend is 13/m and i like him so much!! he knows i like him but he wont ask me out! no one will ask me out because im "uglY" but the guys ive been out with say im beautiful but i dont think so anymore. my self esteem went down, i use to think i was so pretty but the guy i like dosnt like me! but i look alot older than what i am so i get all the older guys but i dont want older guys because they want more from me! how do i get him 2 like me? i know thats a stupid question but ive known him 4ever and ive liked him forever and he use 2 like me 2

please help

thanks

Well you really cant get someone to like you they have to like you themselves its nothing that you can push on to them... i dont know. This is a really hard question. But its just like this quote here " You never find the right guy until the end cuz its just a fairytale" hope i helpd -trix

Q: heyy, omg i am really gud frends with my frend...and well she has everything i have ever wanted..like shes so hot, has no pimples, darklong thinck eyelashes...and well nice hair...all the guys i like fall 4 her, she says she likes them after i do FIRST! then wen they ask her out, she says NO!! and i have told her 2 stop flirting with my crush but she does it even more...how do i stop the crazyness?!!

well i think you shood just not bring her around the boys that you like or just dont tell her who you like cuz obviously wen she knows you like them thats when she gos for them so i think you shood keep your crush to urself. I know how that feels though because my sis got this guy i liked awhile back it sucked. But i got over it and plus he dumped her so that was all good but anyways.. I am really sorry i really dont no what to say i really hope this does help in someway The only people you need in your life are the people that prove they need you in theirs and if she isnt proving that because of this... then she isnt very loyal.-trix

Q: okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions?

Me comming from a Christian family believe that going to church and reading the bible does really help you grow in faith...Dont get me wrong I myself at points have had my doubts but If you really do believe you no that there is a God and he will someday save you and take you to heaven... I strongly think you shood get ur self into a chruch that u feel comfortable in and you like... I found that talking to the priest can really help you out!! I went and talked to him to ask why we should confess are sins and what now and he gave me alot of reasons. I mean you dont have to go for that reason but you could just talk to him!! When i was born my mom wasn't suppose to have kids. It was either me or her to die. She left it to my dad. My dad couldnt decide of course a normal person wouldnt pick there wife because they dont know the kid my mom said let me try to have this baby even if it kills me. Well we both are alive n healthy today. I cut my 4 fingers off the dr.'s I had in training said i would only be able to use my left hand 10%. But within 3 weeks i was picking things up and throwing things and playing like a normal kid w/that left hand. They had to put me to the real test and that was to try and do everything possible with it. I could do everything that put me to it. I think that was a miracle. I was a miracle. and thats a thanks to god! I think that this will really help you-trix

Q: ok heres the issue-
theres this guy at my school(lets call him josh) and me and josh always hang out at school. about the second day after we started hanging out, josh started to flirt with me. ALOT. the problem is hes a senior, and i think he has a girlfriend, but she doenst go to our school. should i flirt back???
thanks

Well I think that if youu like him and he likes you then you 2 should be together and flirting isnt really a bad thing but dont get to carried away wth it... just stay flirty and fun but dont take things to far in case you cood get hurt or something i really hope i helped you in some way. Just try and take control and get help if you feel things are getting to carried away!!-trix

Q: i liked this guy and all of my friends knew about it. i was talking to my friend one day and she said that he had a girlfriend and today i was asking my friend who she liked and she said that she was going out with the guy that i like. i'm really mad but i dont know if i should tell her.

Ok i think that you shood tell your friend exactally how you feel about what is going on and ask her why shed do that if she knew u liked him... I really think that if she has a problem with how you feel then she really wasnt a good friend in the first place. Now if she had no idea who you liked and what not then its a different story and you cant get mad at her for going out with him but you cant help how you feel so.. just make sure you dont get in a huge fight over this cuz friends come first!! Its not pretty when you lose a friend because of a guy! hope i helped-trix

Q: First, let me preface this by saying that this is going to a bit long and that I'm not highly religious. I always believed that if you lived your life morally and right, God or the cosmos or what have you, would reward you in a way. You would be able to affect people's lives by the way that you live.

So I've lived my life well- I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, engage in pre-marital sex, am always kind, and work hard helping others, however, I'm losing my faith that its all meaningful. It seems to me that people in general are becoming too superficial. There is no more great search for knowledge and truth and TRUE beuty. People don't trust people anymore- always thinking the worst ulterior motive, even when there is none. I feel like I'm fighting a dying battle to keep a little bit of innocence and purity. Am I just being naive thinking that if I keep living my life the way I am, will "reward" me in the end? Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I the only one who thinks that we're not progressing but rather giving in to our most carnal urges? I'm losing faith and I know eventually all the people I help will feel it by the way I treat them. Your input would be appreciated.

Dont give up because someone will really really appreciate someone like you. And will NEED you. You could just keep someone breathing for being that. I dont drink, smoke, steal, or have sex. I am kind and loving. But sometimes i get grouchy (totally normal) And my friends tell me that they admire me (when some have sex, smoke, steal, or drink.) (or even do all) So im sure there are those who admire you for what you are and who you are. So dont let how you are die! I admire you and your just like me!! Keep it real!! -trix

Q: I'm 17 yrs old and me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 months and i love her alot. i've been pouring out my feelings to her, tellin her how much i love her n everything, but i dont feel like she feels the same way.. what do i do? i dont wanna dump her cuz i love her alot..

My first off Idea is to talk to her about it and let her know that you feel your not getting anything back. You'd love for just a simple aww thanks i love you so much you mean alot to me! But i guess she may be shy so you have to except that and its very hard for some people to open up and share feelings. Usually it is for guys so good job on that!! and just stright up ask her if she feels the same way.-trix

Q: heyy! i wentout this this guy who was basicly my 1st real boyfriend..we broke up about a year ago, but though crushes and boyfriends have come and gone since then, i cant keep him off my mind! is it just a "1st love" kinda thing? i need help!

Well if you loved him you never really forget or stop loving your first love. That is always and has always been the most truest thing ever. So the best you can do is just try and move on and trust me you will move on and love someone again!! there is this quote and it says "Pe0ple are always lO0kInG f0r the right pers0n instead 0f BeInG the right pers0n." so try that and u will find the perfect guy that will help you get over your first crush!!-trix

Q: isit true that girls that dont grow up with any type of male figure in their life wil often cling to a possible male figure that pays alittle attention to them ?
srry if it doesnt make sence..

Yeah i would think so cuz its somethinng they long for and want in there life-trix

Q: Ok, I'm not entirely sure if this is the right category, but yeah. So I was sitting with my Girl on the porch, and she was kinda Lying kinda sitting on me, with her back toward me, and I had my arm around her, and she grabbed my arm and put it down her top onto her breast, (This is while I was nibbling on her ear... I'm 17 and not really skilled in this area.. What am I supposed to do?

She wants you and her to move to the next level. its good that you know she is ready otherwize you would feel the pressure and wouldnt know if you were pressuring her. At least you dont have to wonder if she wants to move on or worry about making the move and getting dissed. So your good with that. Most guys wish the girl would make the move. Anyways just move on and go for it she will take the lead sense she already pretty much did-trix

Q: im a 13/f.....no one likes ne at school everyone speards rumors and talks about me, my friends r backsabing bitches!!!!! no one knows how i feel im really depresserd, if one person doesnt talk about me its the other!!!!!

Please help!!!

I RATE 5'S 4 every answer that doesnt piss me off!!!!!

Thanks aton

Well 13 is a hard and painful year im not going to lie. Its all blunt. Well girls as i am one to so take it from me or any other one who has been 13 b4. Well its hard to get along with girls at this age well between 12-16 because are we just kinda snotty. Everyone knows it. Guys are easier to get along with. I would just be nice to everyone smile and act like everything is okay. And go to talk to your school counsolar. -trix

Q: I invited a friend to come with me on April vacation and my other friend is meeting me there with her fam! but now all our other friends are pissed! and talking behind my back and stuff calling me not their friend! What do i do?! I didnt mean to hurt ANYONES feelings!! i just chose my best friend to go with me.

Yeah i had to do the same with who i picked to go with me to NJ. I just said now i want all you 2 go so whoever gets to me the soonest... well.. then you get to go! So maybe you should have tried that. Its still hard I know but just remember that for next time. And be like well i was doing who i was closer with and you can come next time whoever gets back to me first-trix

Q: OK guys please answer this.. girls u can help too...
for v-tines day i think im getting my bf...
sliky boxers... cologne... and maybe like a movie gift certificate?
is that totally stupid???
if so tell me... and also can you guys give me some ideas on somthing to get him!!
thanx in advance!!!!!!!!!
**Sammie**

Haha this is crazy! im doing the same thing :-P except switch your movie idea with a I love you cookie :-P!! nice i love it!!-trix

Q: when are you "old" enough to wear makeup (not just lipgloss and glitter)

Alot of people would say when you become a teen. I would say that age-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"