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The Question
Hai i am 21yrs old my foreskin is not opened.
is there any problem with the foreskin?
Please tell me how to make the foreskin to go back and to make galas to look out?
my penis gets erect when in pleasure it sizes upto 4inches to 4.5inches rock hard.
Is there any problem with the size of the penis with the foreskin?
tell me how to enlarge the penis.
Please answer to me
The Answer
If your foreskin has not opened to allow the head of the penis you must see a doctor. That is a problem, and only a doctor can help you.
There is no good way to enlarge your penis. Anyone that says they can enlarge your penis is lying to you.
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Ok, So I am going out with this guy. He is 26 and I am 16, well soon to be 17. But people keep saying that he is to old. But he makes me happy. Then again he makes me annoyed sometimes but then again thats life. lol.
So I really like him and I just keep thinking that it is just like Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moor.
The Answer
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moor are both adults.
You aren't an adult yet, he is (theoretically).
The age difference is really big, in my opinion too big, and it puts you in a very vulnerable position in this relationship. I don't have a problem with differences in ages in a relationship as long as the two people are always equals. It's very difficult for a teenager to be an equal with a twenty-six year old.
Watch out for yourself.
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ok about 30 min. ago me and my best friend 3-way called my boyfriend and she told him i want to break up and still want to be friends and he said "im very mad and i dont know if i want to be her friend".now im still on the other line.well then he hung up i thought.i told my friend that i fell really bad but a little happy.i said alot of other stuff also.then we hear someone say my name and it was my b-friend.i guess he did not hang up.as soon as i heard that i hung up the phone.then he called me back and was like pick up the phone i know your there.well now i fell horrible and sick to my stomach.i know i dont still like him so why do i fell so bad? i cant talk to any one because my mom is iraq and dont want to tell my dad.we start skool in three days and i dont want him to hate me.HELP!!!!!i need help!!!PLEAZZZZZZZZ
The Answer
The reason you feel so bad is because you made a mistake.
What you did when you three-way called your boyfriend and made your friend give him the bad news was very very mean to him. He deserved to hear from you, hearing it from your friend only hurt more, especially since you mislead him and let him think you weren't listening.
It doesn't matter if you don't like him anymore, it still wasn't nice, and it sounds like the pit of your stomach knows that.
Call him back and apologize for misleading him with the phone call, then tell him you just don't want to be his girlfriend anymore. He might be angry and upset, but I bet you'll start to feel better because you'll know that you have done the right thing.
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i'm 19 and i'm about to go to college. there is a problem though i am currently always sad and down all the time, it seems that i can never be happy.. i always fake my happiness. i can't sleep and my eating habits are weird sometimes i'll eat sometimes i won't. i have a hard time sleeping too! i cna only sleep during the day but i have trouble sleeping during the night. i don't like any around my friends as much and i don't know why. i told my mom i wanted to talk to someone. i cut myself also.. but i haven't done it in about 3 or 4 weeks. i'm scared to tell my mom. what should i do?
The Answer
Look at it this way: You are sick, not incredibly and unbelievable sick, just a bit sick, so you'll need to ask for help and see a doctor.
Darling it really is that simple. The fear you have about telling your mother, the shame you feel about being unhappy, and the silly idea that you should somehow be able to fix this on your own. That's all part of the illness trying to keep you ill. It isn't true.
This wont go away on it's own, it never does. It gets worse until you ask for help. If you can't go to your mother, any adult who cares for you will work, a neighbor, an aunt or uncle. Anyone who will listen and help.
In the meantime, force yourself to exercise a bit, and eat regular meals at proper times. Just taking a good walk each day, eating three decent meals, and forcing yourself to go to bed a decent hour might help you bring your body back on track. You have to want to get better, but if you do want to, exercise and a proper daily routine is a good place to start.
But that will only help; it won't solve the core problems. You are going to need to tell someone.
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my boyfreind are thinking about sex. and we know we are both ready for it so please dont say anything along the lines of "you might not be ready".
but anyways. we are going to be safe about it. but my boyfreind doesnt want to buy condoms, he just thinks its embarssing. and isnt that supposed to be the guys job?
The Answer
Nonsense.
Safe sex is incredibly serious, and it's BOTH partners responsibility. If you want to have sex one of you is going to have to buy condoms, period.
In my current relationship I take care of nearly all of the birth control. Why? Because it's important to me and I want it done right. My boyfriend and I talk about it, but I do the bulk of the research and buying.
If your boyfriend isn't confident and secure enough in his sexuality and decision to walk into a store and buy a box of condoms, maybe he isn't actually ready. People who are ready for sex squash any stupid feelings of embarrassment and realize that no only is birth control important, its vital to responsible sex.
You really think both of you are ready for sex, great, go buy condoms yourself, or go with him. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, and until one of you matures enough to take their sexual safety into their own hands, you aren't going to be able to have sex.
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So there's this girl I like from school. We are totally close, like almost best friends and a little while back we would be passing each others notes in class and I told her I liked her and she sadi she liked me back! I was so happy.
So then we would secretly hold hands and just keep passing notes. And she invited me over to see a movie and we totally cuddled together while watching it. After that I was thinking we should go out...but I never told her .So then the hand holding continued until summer break.
Now I live in a small town and she lives in the city so its kind of hard for me to go there so we didnt really get to see each other. So just recently I went to a party and a bunnch of people were there. And she was there too and so was a guy named Brandon. Now I heard stories of them getting "married" as a joke but when I got there she was totally flirting with him and barely noticed me the whole time. Turn out i'm old news and she has a crush on him.
Now obviously i'm jealous but...what happened? I know we weren't going out but...we were getting there. So should I still hang out with her alot? Or will that be just awkward.
Very confused,
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The Answer
Hang out with her anyways.
You are right, you weren't going out and there is nothing wrong with her developing a new crush. She was totally free to do that, but that doesn't mean this new guy is the love of her life and the only guy she will every even look at again.
Hanging out with her doesn't need to be awkward, just let her set the pace. If she is still technically single and wants to snuggle or hold hands (and if you are okay with that) go for it. If she is now dating this guy, you can respect that, but still be a close friend to her.
Just take a deep breath and let what happens happen.
And if you get a chance to ask her out again, just do it!
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Ok, so I am a 16/f. The problem that I happen to have is this boy that I was supposed to be with (who is also the father of my child) all of a sudden changed his mind about how he felt about me when we started hanging out with my best friend. It all started a few days ago things between me and him were progressing and we were very close to getting together and then we started hanging out with my friends and he got a crush on my best friend, well me and her decided we wanted to mess with his head and make him think she likes him a lot and so now the problem is that she is really starting to like him and I have been pushed to a back-up girlfriend in case things between the two of them don't work. I don't know what to do because I know my friend doesn't like him and she's just messing with him but it still frustrates me because shes basically stealing him from me and now I have no one, it's hard enough as is for me to get a man considering I have a child and I just don't know what to do...HELP!!!!!
The Answer
Sometimes, when you play a stupid game, like getting your friend to lead on your boyfriend, you loose the stupid game.
Do your best to let it go for the moment. This situation is nearly entirely of your own causing, so deal with it with some grace. You don't seem to think the relationship will last, and I'm inclined to agree. If the boy is basically good one, he will still be there for your child and be good on his responsibilities. Make sure that happens first and foremost. Having another girlfriend shouldn't be an excuse for not seeing baby.
What you might want to learn from this however, is that your guy is fickle and chicken-hearted. It took him how many days to decide to dump you and go with your best friend? Who in the beginning was only playing with him? Do you really want a guy for yourself who is that uncommitted to you, whose heart can change completely at the drop of a hat? At sixteen, you have plenty of time, child or no, to do way better than that.
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i work with this guy and He came back today. he was on vacation all summer in florida. I have had a thing for him since i started working there in august. He is 8 years older then me & he has a girlfriend But when we work together he flirts i guess you can call it. Like if im standing down one of the isles he'll throw something at me to get my attention just to laugh at me. We have a squirt bottle of water & he'll go up behind me and squirt me with it. He'll grab my side. Or if there are no customers in the store he lifts his shirt up & says noone you know can compete with this.or something like that lol.
Its just a bunch of random things he does. And that all happened tonight.
Is this flirting? Is he leading me on? Im not going to tell him to stop doing this stuff because i love the attention. I just dont want to fall for him.
The Answer
He is flirting and being a show-off.
Don't take it too personally though, he probably just enjoys getting the attention (much like you do) and means nothing by it. I doubt it has much to do with you as a person, and more do with the fact that you are the audience he has right there.
Just realize it's just friendly joking and you'll be fine. Don't get caught up in it.
Playful flirting can be a fun way to interact with someone, just make sure it stays in check. If you feel he is going too far for someone who isn't really interested in you (the fact he has a girlfriend would indicate he isn't really interested, unless he is a jerk) stand up for yourself, tell him and back away a bit.
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The Question
how do you guys get your summer reading done? the library has a hold list of books &
going to the bookstore for extended periods of time is hard to do &
borrowing from people is annoying
do you just buy the book? i dont like to since i might not like the book or reread it ever again.
The Answer
If you aren't willing to borrow or use the library then it looks like buying is your only opition left. Finding a decent second hand bookstore in your area would be an absolute godsend.
A lot of summer reading books are sort of 'classics' and you can come across a good many of them at a second hand book store for about half the cost of buying them new. If you are done with them you might even be able to sell them back to the store for a bit of money.
That is how I always managed my summer reading, but now with the internet, you have even more options for finding used books.
Good Luck.
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okay so i want to become a member of beinggirl.com but in order to sign up i have to tell them my mailing address, and i live with my dad. so i dont know what their gonna send me, i mean i dont want them to send me something and my dad get the mail and come up to me and be like "what are you doing getting these" or something like that. i havn't my period yet either.
so what do i do, i really wanna become a member, but i dont know what will come in the mail.
what should i do, thx a lot!!!
The Answer
If you are under thirteen, you'll need a parent's permission to use the site. So if you are under thirteen and don't want to tell your parents you are on the site, you are out of luck.
But if you are over thirteen, I just checked it out dear and to sign up as a member of beinggirl.com you don't need to give out your real name or your full address, only your postal code (which is pretty typical just so they can fit you into a demographic). Using your postal code alone they shouldn't be able to mail you anything, it would be illegal for them to look up the rest of your address based on that alone.
Besides that there are three little boxes at the bottom of the sign up form that you need to check in order to receive e-mails, samples and offers from the site. Simply don't check them.
If you are really worried about them using your postal code, just put in the postal code of your local mall or youth center. I used to do that, that way the site gets the area you live in for their information, but not your home.
Just know, that whatever you choose, you wont be able to receive free samples from the site unless you give them permission to send them too you and your correct shipping address.
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My 50-something year-old boyfriend lives in a household with his 80+-year old mother and a brother, also in his 50's. Last year his 50+ year old sister moved in with her daughter (his niece) and the daughter's 3 year-old son. (The niece has four other children who reside elsewhere.)
Recently, the niece moved out to live with a man but did not take the child. Now the family is in an uproar, claiming they don't want to take care of the 3 year old left behind by his mom.
I don't plan to get personally involved because these are dysfunctional, toxic people with bad attitudes. He keeps asking me for advice on what to do with the child, and he's angry that the niece (who obviously has problems) has left them with her responsibility. He also doesn't want his sickly 80 year old mother involved in the day-to-day care of a 3 year old child.
I am worried about the long-term psychological effects on a child who's being rejected by both his mother, grandmother, his uncles, just because they are angry with the mother. What confusion that child must be feeling, with all the hostility around him and an absent mother (his father is in jail)! This is how criminals and serial killers are made...
I say the kid gets abused if they force the mother to take him, gets abused if he's forced into foster care by the state, gets abused if the family is forced to keep him when they don't want to.
Do I sit and watch this horror unfold, walk away from them all and/or secretly call the authorities? I just can't seem to turn my back on this child....
The Answer
In your position, I would call child protective services. There doesn't need to be anything 'secretive' about it. You can tell the family you did it, or not, but it is certainly nothing that you should be feeling guilty of or uncertain about. This family has fallen apart and failed this child, so the government steps in. Judgment or shame doesn't come in to this; all that is important is that the child gets the care he needs. The adult's involved (yourself included) need to shove their conflicting and complex emotions away, and just do what's best for the little boy.
If nothing else whatever agency your state or province has in place to protect children like this one could monitor the situation and provide counseling and resources that is family sooo desperately needs. They are the ones who are educated and sanctioned with the power to control where this child lives.
You don't need to get personally involved. In fact, I wouldn't even suggest it, the child doesn't stand to benefit from one more strange persons voice screaming in this messy drawn-out argument that she is embroiled in. Just get the proper authorities involved, and use what small influence you have in the family to keep them involved.
Good Luck to you all.
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The Question
Does nicotine effect body development. I think I'm too short for my age and my doctor said that i should wait till I'm 20 before I start working out because it slows down your growth. I'm wondering if smoking also slows down my growth. Please respond with any imformation. Thank You!
The Answer
There is no evidence that smoking cigarettes slows down your growth as far as your height is concerned. Smoking as a teenager will definitely decrees the growth of your lungs, leaving them underdeveloped for the rest of your life (in addition to all the other wonderful things smoking does) which will of course make working out less pleasant when you do start.
Just make sure you are eating properly; never smoke a cigarette instead of eating a meal, and keep in touch with you doctor about your development and any problems you might be having. Genetics are the biggest factor in how tall you will get, and you will probably keep growing a bit until the end of puberty in your very early twenties.
Oh, for your information though, smoking significant amounts of marijuana will stunt your growth.
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how many of yall would think its slutty and/or givin out the wrong idea if i bought a playboy bunny necklace? im bout to be 16 & im like a 'good girl' or w/e i mean ive only barely been to 2nd base but i jus think the necklace is pretty cuz its the little bunny head made out of [fake] diamonds. so, slutty or no?
The Answer
Although I don't think it is wrong at all, I do think if you are uncomfortable wearing the symbol of a magazine featuring women in various stages of undress, you might not want to get it.
Symbols are extremely powerful things. Think of it this way: If you weren't a Christian, say you were a Hindu or a dedicated atheist, would you choose to wear a crusader's cross around your neck? Probably not. Even if you thought it was a very pretty cross, you would probably avoid it because you would be uncomfortable with what it represented as a symbol.
Everybody understands symbols and nearly everybody who looks at your necklace will know it's the playboy bunny. If you are cool with that and like it anyways, awesome, go for it! But if you aren't comfortable with what the symbol stands for, you might want to look for something else. There are a lot of cute necklaces out there.
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I met this guy at a party back in May. I knew him before but didn't really like him, but this party made me think he was a decent enough person. I wasn't attracted to him in a romantic sense though. Anyway, he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. He was okay at first, but then I started hating him. He is really immature. I tell him that I don't like him at all and to leave me alone, but he won't stop. He calls me about 394834 times a day and at odd times since he knows I'm awake a lot. He even calls the house phone where my parents are sleeping at 4am. One time I went to the store and there were twenty seven new calls on the phone. Going to the police isn't an option because I'm not exactly their favorite person ever. I've told him many times but he just won't listen. The only reason he talks to me is because he thinks my interests will fit in with his image. It's pathetic. He pretends to like every movie and band I like, even if he knows nothing about them. How do I get him to leave me alone?
The Answer
If you can, block his number.
You have been clear with him telling him you are not interested; now let your silence speak for you.
If you can't block his number, end all contact anyways. Don't pick up, don't speak to him, and do not respond to messages, text messages or e-mails NO MATTER WHAT. He might try desperately to get a rise out of you, say stupid, insulting or even frightening things trying to get you to talk to him again.
But I got to tell you, the moment he threatens you in any way, the spilt second he shows up at your work or school or home, call the cops.
It doesn't matter if you have not so nice relationship with the police. They will take you seriously; they could get in big trouble if they didn't. I have had to call the police twice now, once for myself and once for a friend of mine, because of issues like this and I was actually a bit surprised how seriously and immediately the police acted on it, so don't let that hold you back.
Keep yourself safe.
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Well, I have to shorten this a bit, as I could go on and on, but basically the story goes like this: One day, as I was sitting in my apartment, I began to hear some teenage girls talking about me throug the walls of the building. I found this strange, but stranger as I came to find they were discussing my thoughts. As time went on, I started hearing them in the shower, then at work and while doing other things. They told me they were psychics at first, and that I was psychic as well. I started hearing family and friends drop by every once in a while in my mind as well. It took me a while, but I finally realized the whole thing was a sham, and that I was being spoken to not by man, but by spirits. At that point, I addressed them as demonic, but having little faith in the idea (Christianity being abandoned due to a hypocritical upbringing), was NOT able to banish them in the name of the Lord. Their words are mostly torment, or "taunting" as they once put it, but at times they are nice, and joke around or have even encouraged me. The thing is, they are liars, and always have been, and they will NOT leave. I don't see any good here, I'm sure these spirits are unclean. Any advice? Looking for something unconventional, if possible. Thanks.
The Answer
I would suggest you look for something a bit more 'conventional'.
As a young teen I was sure I was telepathic. I heard voices regularly especially at calm moments like when I was about to sleep or was trying to read. Some of people I heard claimed to be dead, some said they were demons, sometimes I thought I was hearing the thoughts of family or friends or even teachers.
I'm not telepathic. I had residual schizophrenia. The belief that I was 'gifted' or had a sixth sense was part of the illness.
Disbelieve me if you will, hate me and rate me down, but what I do know beyond a shadow of a doubt was that the characters in my head, who started out as friendly and supportive, became more and more violent every day, more and more persistent and damn near constant, until I got professional diagnosis and help.
I see people on the street now, grabbing at the air, arguing loudly with figments of their imagination and I am so grateful that my friends and my doctors saved from that fate, by breaking down the delusions that had a telepathic gift and making me deal with reality.
I hope you find peace and happiness in some way. I feel I had to tell you how I found mine.
Edit: Just to clarify a bit: I never suggested 'mind-numbing' medication as you called it. I never required medication to be able to overcome the skewed perceptions I was having and I remember very well the days with I was frustrated with the world for not sharing the belief that I was experiencing something spiritual. To today however, I have a very active and questing spiritual life and very happily accept the possibility of spiritual intervention in this world. However, spiritual intervention is not what happened to me as a teen and our stories do have some surprising similarities in the way the voices and beliefs developed.
I also wanted to add, since you seem to be newish to asking questions here (or you could have deleted all the other ones, so please forgive my assumption if I am wrong) that rating a 1 for advice you simply disagree with is ratings abuse. A 1 rating is reserved for harmful or abusive advice (a deserved 1 rating should nearly always be accompanied by a report abuse from the asker, because it means the columnist did something seriously wrong). Rating everyone who doesn't give you the answer you are looking for is a good way to get yourself reported. I'm not going to do it, but sooner or later someone will, and the moderators will probably agree with them. You could probably avoid that simply by changing your ratings to 2s.
Again, Good luck.
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i have this friend and we are really close shes one of my bestfriends and i have a feeling that she might be racist against caucasian people because like all of her friends are black and she like only has one caucasian friend and everything to her has to be black and it really bothers me im colored myself and i have friends of all different racis and when someonelse is another race or color i dont notice it until she brings up the color or race that they are and it really buggs me because it kinda insults me because i am a little bit caucasian and my family is mixed of different colors and i asked my friend if she was racist and she said no and got mad that i asked that and she also doesnt like black and white couples she thinks theres something wrong with that but honestly i dont see anything wrong with it and i really dont know what else to do she says she's not but i think that she might be a little bit racist but not a whole lot so what should i do because i dont wont to have a friend like that and i also dont want to stop being friends wit her
The Answer
It's fine for friends to have different views from one another, even on something as serious as this. As long her views don't make you loose all respect for her and you can manage to respectfully disagree with her and maintain your friendship, then you are fine.
Of course you are completely free to argue with her! Respecting the fact that people have different beliefs doesn't make hers correct. If you hear her say something that you feel is wrong, talk about why you see it that way. If she says something that offends you, point out you are just as proud of your Caucasian heritage as the rest of your bloodline. If you feel strongly that her thinking is distorted, speak up!
Many people fall into slightly racist ways of thinking without even realizing it. They simply learn racist views from others and accept them without thinking. So raise some good points, argue calmly and respectfully, and maybe when your friend stops to think about what she is saying she'll realize it doesn't make as much sense at she first thought it did.
If she doesn't change her mind, or if you discover in talking to her even deeper seeded racial hate, you might want to consider getting some space from her. As it stands though, just be true to your own beliefs and listen to your conscience. As long as you can do that and still be her friend, you have no problems.
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i think that i might have a little bit of anxiety. i'm almost certain that if i just went to go see a phsycologist, he or she could just tell me whether or not i do and/or if i can take something for it. the problem is that my mom won't take me. she says that it's normal to experience anxiety when you're PMSing. But, i'm not always PMSing. i think i even know why i have anxiety. iv'e tried explaining it to her, but i'm sure if she heard it from the phsycologist, she might stop doing what is making me feel like this. how can i convince her? cuz she needs to hear it from someone else i think
The Answer
Talk to your regular doctor or to a school counselor about what you are experiencing, help explaining it to your mother and about what you can do to seek help from others.
Your mother is basically right, a certain amount of anxiety, especially during the teen years, is perfectly normal. Being stressed, in response to stressful things, is actually completely healthy. Medication is rather extreme and so is seeing a physiologist; a counselor or a therapist can give you great tips on how to manage your feelings with simple exercises and they would be able to refer you, if your situation is serious enough, to a doctor who would be able to prescribe medications.
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The Question
these masks are for pollen/dust/etc. can it help block out tobacco smoke too? if not, what can that i can buy?
example: http://www.jwz.org/images/mdf248353.jpg
also, do you know if morning glory sells them?
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Those are mostly surgical masks that you have a picture of there and sadly no, they don't protect agianst smoke. The only one there that *might* provide any smoke protection is the second one from the left in the second row. Pollen and dust molecules are gennerally pretty big, smoke moleculas are just too small for fabrics or thin plastics like that to provide any protection agianst.
In order to filter out smoke you'll need a respiratory smoke mask. Those look more like a small gas mask that fits over the nose and mouth.
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Today i started school and my teacher gave us this form that we have to fill out. one of the questions was 'what do you anticipate pursuing as a career'. i want to be a physical therapist, so is that what i put? how would i word it? and another question was if i plan to attend college, and i said yes. then it said explain. so what im wanting to know was how many years do you have to go to college to be a physical therapist, what do you have to major in, how many years of post-graduate school do you have to attend, is there anything else you have to do before you can become a physical therapist? your time would be highly appreciated, because not only do i need this for my teacher, i need it for my self.
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You've got a few options when looking to become a physical therapist.
A Physical Therapist Assistant only requires a 2-year associates degree to begin working.
Although there are a few four-year bachelor programs left in Canada (where I live) I am pretty sure in the states you required to have a master's degree. Normally a it's a M.S. in Rehabilitation Sciences that you actually receive but I know there are some specialize M.S is Physiotherapy (another name for physical therapy). So that is six years in school in total. You could also stay in school a bit longer and receive a doctorate.
The American Physical Therapy Association or APTA controls all the certification of PT's in the US (you must pass their licensing exam after graduating in order to practice) google them and you might be able to find some more information on education or schools in your area.
You might want to look into some similar jobs as well. Occupational therapy is very similar to physical therapy (I think it's more interesting actually) and jobs like recreational therapists, rehabilitation counselors, respiratory therapists, and speech-language pathologists might be interesting to you too.
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My girlfriend broke up with me a few months ago (reason cited: my arrogance was getting in the way of our relationship). We are involved in a lot of the same clubs (both officers) and so forth at school and so somehow or another, we will need to get along.
Recently I IMed her just to ask how she was doing and what she's been up to. (Have to start somewhere, right?) "I'd rather not talk about it with you," was her reply. Ouch. Cold.
So anyway, ideas? I really don't want to fight her on commitees and such all year. I mean should I just ask her how she's doing until she answers? Should I give her (some more?) space?
The Answer
There is no reason you need to fight with her all year.
Yes, her response was a little cold, but it was also honest and straightforward. She wasn't playing any games with you; she simply and honestly told you she wasn't interested in discussing her personal life with you.
It is quite possible for two people to work together and be very successful without being friends. If she doesn't respond well to your attempting to contact her on a personal level, then keep it professional and don't reach out to her again unless you have something about the club or school business to discuss.
Sure, you could contact her and try to discuss this sort of arrangement, or tell her you want to try and be friends, but I think it might be best, if she doesn't want to talk to you right now, just to let it slide for a while, and deal with issues as they arise when you are back at school.
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