Iam a girl with black hair and gray eyes. I like to go to the gym to workout because it relieves stress. I like to help people no problem whatever they ask I won't judge people I'm just a person willing to give you some advice that's all. I think its important to have a good education and a good carrer in life. I want this world to be peaceful which is one of my biggest dreams!I'm back!I apologize to you all for not being able to help you guys in need for help whatever help you ask for just write me in my inbox,I'll answer as soon as possible.
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There's this boy I've liked for a long time, since Bush won his 2nd term (I'm 13/f, by the way). Over that time, we've become pretty good friends. Yesterday, he asked me who I liked and I wouldn't tell, because I didn't want him to know. Especially considering the fact that he just got a girlfriend (he's also 13). Then he kept begging and nagging and kept saying that he wouldn't tell anyone and that he keeps secrets well (I know that for a fact, but still I didn't want him to know). After a while, I decided to tell him, because if he kept it up, he'd find out eventually because if it seemed that I sincerely didn't want him to know (even though I've trusted him with other stuff), the truth would be very plain. So I told him, and I said I was sorry. He's really really nice, but I'm really worried that he thinks I'm an asshole. I don't know what to do! I've never liked anyone in my whole life. Do 13-year-old boys usually think their friends are assholes in this kind of situation? How can I stay friends with him? CAN I still stay friends with him? This is long and will most likely get rated down, but I don't have anywhere else to get help! And I know that problems of a 13-year-old aren't as important as questions asked by older people, but this IS an advice site, and the site IS open to 13-year-olds. (link)
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Tell your friend the reason why you could not tell him who you liked he should understand if he were in your shoes it's not easy to just tell your secrets to some friends because some just go on,tell people your stuff which is wrong.I don't think friends would think you're an asshole for this situation they may just get upset at you for not putting your trust on them but if you say he is really nice you should of probably give him a chance to see if he is a person you should trust and share your secrets with.But it is not too late just apologize and give him an explanation and that it won't happen again.
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Here's the deal;; My parents have always kept a good eye on me, and I love them, but they've always held on a little too tight. I mean, my parents still dont usually let me go to the movies at night with my friends!
My friend Sarah has a boyfriend that her mother used to not let her see because ...they moved too fast and she knew it. Her mom even got a restraining order against him for the next four years! But out of nowwhere this year, her mom decided that they could see each other again.
Since I've always been held on a tight leash, and my mom knew about Sarah and her boyfriend, I can't go anywhere where he is. Now since it's the school year, my friends all go to the movies everry friday night.......and Sarah brings her boyfriend. I've always been honost with my mom, but when I asked her if I could go to the movies, I mentioned that Sarah's boyfriend was going, and she said N-O. But it's not even about this, my parents have always normally said I couldn't do stuff with my friends at night, since they feel it's "unsafe". I want to be honost with my parents, but It'd be so much easier if I left little details of my plans out. I don't want to though, but I'm so sick of getting left behind while all of my friends go out and have fun on friday nights and I'm stuck at home, I mean, I'm 14! That's a reasonable age, I feel.
What can I do to let my parents a.) loosen up b.)let me be around sarah when her b/f is around
Please help me! It's starting to drive me c-r-a-z-y!
If anyone is actually willing to listen to the whole story (yes, it's longer than this) please leave your screen name. It's really upsetting me now because I'm worried they NEVER let me do ANYTHING :[.
x0 Ally. (link)
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You have to fight for what you want didn't you ever heard that saying?But it's true at times when you want to be able to have fun like a normal teenager,not be overprotected,tell them that they should trust you that you won't misbehave,that you will do good in school,do other small things like chores,what did you do bad that they wouldn't let you,if they want to see you happy to let you go to the movies with your friends because if you don't have fun you'll be sad,depressed,left behind which is not good.Parents should be supportive in their child's decisions like if they want to go somewhere for entertain themselves or be with their love one stuff like that.Iam willing to hear your whole story I have no problem with that just write in my inbox about for any advice if you like.
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these two guys (one is my X who i never liked) think that i am a slut now because of a note that they misunderstood or something. i really dont care about theyre opinions but now theyre telling the whole school im a slut and thats theyre away message! what can i do? (link)
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Prove them wrong!I can't believe they would say such thing to you talk to them and tell him that you're a decent person and not what they called you.You could tell them to ask your friend that if you are in which you're not or tel them to ask other people that may know you to prove them wrong or tell those people to do you a big favor to tell,convince those two guys that they are wrong of what they refer to you as you know.That is really messed up when people just judge others without even getting to see their true self like your case.Those guys will regret and be very sorry when they find out that you are a nice person.
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Ok so i don't know whats wrong with me! its been like a year since i saw my x bf and i am beginning to miss him. Everytime i think i miss him.. ok but i don't understand why because he was horrible to me! he did not care for me. He never even gave me a card for my birthday but i miss him. What shall i do, I don't think i want to talk to him again because i want him 2 miss me. But im not sure if he does!! help. (link)
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What it could be is that you are really into him,even probably in love,and you don't know it.So nothing is wrong with you but you need to get over him only time can help you forget him but if you keep seeing him it will be extremely hard .It's like a shadow on your body you just can't get off if you know what I mean.You must find someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated he is not worth it.Talk with other people,make new friends,chat,or other interests you have if you see a guy you like see into the personality because if you just go for the look you may wind up going to illusions with someone who is like your ex and also be very controlling so keep your eyes wide open.Ask a friend of yours to ask your ex if he misses you so you know but tell them not to say it was you because he may lie saying he doesn't miss you.
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I just started going out with this guy and it already seems like he's losing *some* interest in me. I think it's mainly because I'm not enthusiastic or flirty as he is. What are some things I can do to spice it up and show him I really do like him? (besides tickling.) (link)
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Keep your focus on him if you see another good looking guy don't bother to stare so he would see that you really like him,ask him about his social life,what are his interests, tell him what you like about him,and what really caught your attention about him.Express yourself to him and tell him about your social life as well and interesting moments in your life as well.That will make him want to get closer to you and start to have interest in you trust me.
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tomorrows the first day of school *sadness majolry* and i HAVE to wear jeans cause thats like all i have that looks good on me, lol. but if im gonna be to hot or wutever it will be ok to change. will it be to hot? im too lazy to answer this myself (link)
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Jeans is the type people feel comfortable in and boot cut jeans would give the person a good shape.Depends on what type of jeans you will plan to wear like fancy or plain if you wear nice,fancy jeans it will look hot on you for sure.If jeans look great on you then wear them.
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I need serious help fast. I have a job, and I didn't tell my bf(for what reason I don't know), but anyways when he would call me I would be at work I would just tell him I was in town, so now he thinks I am cheating. He thinks I am cheating because we haven't had sex in like forever and he thinks that I am getting it from someone else. Y'all I love him and he knows that he just thinks this, he like he trust me but not like he used to because I am never home and always in the other location. Help ASAP how can I get him to believe me? (link)
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Why don't you give your work number and tell him he could call you to see that you really are.Or if you can take him where you work and to ask your boss the hours you work.Hope everything turns out alright.
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well......tommara is my first day in the 8th grade!! woopii!! im excited.. but the problem is that half of my skool is moving 2 a different skool becuzz they decided 2 move the skool border line things...well the line is on a road..that is about a mile away frum my house!!! and only pepl i no frum my elementary skool n sum other pepl r stayin but i donno who 2 sit with for lunch!! lmao.....and my best friend...i hate all of her friends....and they dont like me very much... (which is weird i no ...but me n my firend have been friends since... we were alive!) and another 1 of my really good friends has a lot of pepl i no...and i donno if i wood get along with them...but they seem really fun.... then ther is my cusiin......the most popular girl in skool...pretty much....shes that popular that last yr in 7th grade.. her boyfriend.. has anger problems..but her guy friends were flirting with her...the next day him and a friend brought a knife 2 skool and threatened the guyz... thank god she dumped him and he got expeled so0o yay!! but her friends...are all popular but ther all nice... so0 i donno... they all get... sorta sluty (they almost all r) so i have 3 choices nad i donno wat 2 take...im thiknin with my friend...with summ of thepeople i donno very well....but help!!! pleez! lol (sorry its so0o long lmao)
thanx bii
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You could still hang out with your best friend somewhere else and let her know that her friends don't like you so you don't feel right sitting with them.Go try sitting to the nice people ask them anything about school,life,sports,etc..Don't sit near people you don't feel comfortable sitting near bring something with you just in case you get bored there.
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The kid I like has a girlfriend, which hes told me he doesnt really like her anymore. And he wants to go out with me, but hes afraid if he breaks up with her, she'll get the whole school and all her dumb friends after him. He said hes going to hug me, thats hes not afraid to show that he likes me too. But I don't even compare to his girlfriend! Soo....should I ask him to break up with her? Should I just wait? Someone please help me! I'm going crazy! (link)
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Just wait for him until he breaks up with her so you too could be free to show your love to each other.But first tell him to break up with her because he can't be with two people at the same time!Don't go crazy just calm down and tell him that she can't touch him or the others if he breaks up with her but if he cheats on her that's another story.Also tell him not to worry.
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There's this girl who's my friend. I have this really big crush on her but i don't want to tell her how i feel because it might ruin the friendship that we have right now. then i went to Summer School and i met this other girl that i also really like, but i don't like her as much as i like my friend. but i'm starting to get the feeling that this girl i met at Summer School likes me, too. Should i tell my friend that i like her and forget about the girl i just met, or should i go with the new girl and forget about my feelings for my friend? (link)
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You should tell your friend that you have a crush on her don't lose it because then you'll regret it and more because you know her well it's always good to go out with someone you got to know.Have faith that everything will turn out right.But you could tell her little by little wait for the right time but try not to take long.You could even write her a little but it is probably better to tell her in person.Good luck!
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Yesterday was my birthday, and i went over my boyfriend's house. He gave me a card and a braclet that i loved. Everything was going great until we started to get into a little fight about something stupid. I didn't know he would get so upset over it. He acted like everything was fine for the rest of the night. He told me that since i wasn't leaving for a while, he was going to pretend that everything was fine. We've been going out for almost 5 months now, and we broke up a few times during that. We get into the stupidest fights, say mean things to eachother, then come running back to eachother eventually. I hate breaking up, and i always get to upset over it. But i love when we get back together. I really love him more than basically anything. We both go threw stages of breaking up. I know all of his stages, he gets mad then breaks up with me, and then later on he calls acting like a moron saying all of these hateful words and things he doesn't mean. Pretending that he doesn't like me anymore. But then either a few hours, or days later, he calls me and says that he loves me and that hes sorry and stuff like that. Then we tell eachother nice things, and he wants to go back out with me. Right now, i am really upset over this and i was crying alot before. I talk to my mom about everything, she helps me through it all. But sometimes i just like to talk to people and get their advice. I hope everything works out. But i get so attatched to certain people. And it's so hard for me to get over them. So whoever is reading this, please help me with what i should do. Thank you so much.
Brooke
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I must tell you that this can't keep on like this you too should be able to not say anything on something that you don't like so you don't whine up arguing because that is just a pain.But the good thing about is that you too are able to forgive each other have a talk with him that you don't want to argue with him because you feel that you,him are drifting apart,that you don't want to lose him,and seek therapy for you too if necessary.
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Ok, I have a friend named Sarah*. Sarah came to my house the other day and we talked and I thought everything was fine (because we wern't best friend a week ago). Then I hear the phone ringing and Sarah picks it up (which is unusual) and I must have picked it up at the same time. Well anyway it was Jamie* A bitch that I hate and is bad news. I herd her wanting Sarah to come up to her house to ride fourwheelers. So after they get off the phone. Sarah calls her mom and goes home! Well then about 15 or 30 minutes later. She isn't home and guess what I found out that she was at Jamies!!! What do I do? Confront her!? (link)
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Let her know you don't get along with Jamie and if you don't want her to hang out with her tell her not to but if she refuses then she would have to pick between the two of you.Try to calm yourself down when you see this girl Jamie even though you hate her so she won't think you don't have class but if she wants to act up all on you then speak up for yourself and defend yourself and so should your friend Sarah if she is a real friend.
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Why are people so obsessed with being trendy? Why does everyone feel the need to wear the latest clothes, or listen to the latest music(Rap usually). What happened to people being individuals, and being happy with who they are? This isnt really a good question, but it gets on my nerves how people act sometimes. (link)
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Some people want to look like others or talk like others I mean but other people have their own style which I think is pretty cool.If it bothers you then just ignore it if those people who are not happy of who they are it probably is a good reason why don't you think?You act on your own and just be individual so people could see that you work your way out it is also good that you let out what's bothering you about people these days it starts off a good discussion.
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I'm 16/F. I don't know what to do! First I broke 2 of my Mom's glass bottles while hanging something up. Then I knocked into a glass flower 2 months later & broke that. Now I just spilled nail polish all over the new bathroom mat my mom just bought my sister & I. My mom makes practically sucicidal remarks everytime I do theses things, and I feel awful. I really do not mean to, I am just such a klutz! I don't mean to break anything & I try hard but somehting always gets ruined! and now even worse my sister & I aren't alowed to use nailpolish in the house ever again, & it wasn't even my sisters falt! I offer to buy my mom new things & I feel so bad that my heart hurts eveytime she yells at me, but I don't know how to stop brakeing/ruining things. Don't tell me to try harder...I do. I just don't know what to do anymore, & I need some better advice. (link)
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What you need to do is use plastic bottles instead of glass so when it falls down by accident it won't break anyways don't feel alone on this other people have that problem that's for sure.If you have to carry something that will break,you are obligated to do so then tell your mom that you're afraid that you'll break it so let her handle it or someoneelse who doesn't have that problem.
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I was on here like a month ago saying that the baby of my ex's could and couldnt be his child, well it is. I mean I am happy but it's like a feelingof insercurity. He tells me he is not going to leave me and he loves me, I don't want the baby to break us up, can someone please help me. I think about it every minute of the hour and when I think we are going to break up I start eating like a pig. Should I just break it off and suffer a longtime hurt or stay with him and see how things go please help. If you need more info or facts to help me say so. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Feeling that he will break up with you will only make you feel more upset I mean he will still take care of his baby but he told you that he won't leave you so stay with him and see how everything goes with your relationship.Stop eating a lot because you don't want to start gaining weight feel confident and trust that things will turn out fine a baby does not mean you too have to sacriface your love the baby will still have his or her father but I know you could be like a second mom you seem like a nice person no wonder your ex is in love with you!
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A few days ago my friend hurt her foot. Now its all swollen and she can't walk! But her parents refuse to take her to the doctor, saying that she's blowing it all out of proportion. How do we get her parents to take her? (link)
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Try insisting to them that she really needs to or have a parent of yours to talk to them that it is very important but that they are not trying to teach them how to be a parent but are only trying to help and how can they convince them.It is probably better for the adults to convince one another I'm sure they will listen to one of your parents.
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okay i have a friend and i am on the phone with her and she wants me to come over and i dont know if i want to go bacause i dont really like her sisters and i dont want to go what are some good excuses you can think of that I can get out of this i really need this help my mom said i could but i dont want to so she asks me and i say i dont know but i need a excuse but i dont want it to be mean so please give me some good excuses
love brittany
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Tell her that you have to go with your mom for an important meeting she is having,she expects you there or you're punished so you can't go because you got mad at your mom,yelled at her or you have to meet a family member at the hospital but make sure your parents cover you up don't forget.
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I talked to this kid that goes to my school and like a year ago he IMed me and we talked and then i started to IM him back and stuff and one day he must have gotten annoyed by me and stopped talkin to me but all the time at school ever since he has always looked at me and stuff but has never came to me and talked to me at school or anything. Do you think he likes me?? or am i getting the wrong idea. hes 1 year older then me but i kinda think i like him now and i kinda think he likes me. like when i was in a school play i was sitting on the stairs getting ready to go onstage and in the corner of my eye i seen him looking at me. He doesnt make it seem obvious when im around him. (link)
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Maybe he just needs some time there must be a reason why he stopped talking perhaps he wants you to go up to him and start a conversation but if you try talking to him and he pushes you away than he must of got the wrong idea.Or maybe he just doesn't want to show it like a guy who liked me didn't show it then I found out he liked me and he told a classmate right in front of me!That could be your case you never know.Try not to worry.
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Ok there is this senior in my art class and I know him from our mothers because they work together.By the way I am a senior.I told my mom I think he likes me because of the way he acts around me and she said dont even try it.I wouldnt anyway because I only like him as a friend.Then on Friday he gave me his number and said call me if you want to hang out.I dont want to be mean but I want to hang out with him but I am afraid he will ask me out and I dont want to so does anyone know what I should if he does??Ill rate high for any answer (link)
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There are options to this situation you could talk to him on the phone,tell him that you see him only as a friend and nothing more.Second option is invent any excuse what so ever to get you off to hanging out with him like you are busy or you're sick anything.Or when you will meet him somewhere always bring in somebody with you so you won't be alone.
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okay well i just got out of a relationship. and i like this other guy a lot. but he is taken .. and his girlfriend is one of my best friends. he also a very good friend. I am afraid if we did go out it would be weird. He alwayz tells me how he feels like he is getting distant from his girlfriend though. But everytime him and I get closer he mentions her. It seems like he has feelings for me too but is trying to convince himself he doesn't. what should i do ? (link)
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Talk to him ask him if he has feelings for his girlfriend.If you find out he does like you then tell him you do too but that he would have to break up with her in order to be with you.If you choose to be with a guy who has a girlfriend you will be heading the wrong path and eventually somebody will spread rumors that you're going out with him and your friend will eventually find out one day so don't do that to your friend because that is betrayal.So think about this real well before making any decisions because you may regret things you do if you know what I mean.
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