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13-year-old boys
There's this boy I've liked for a long time, since Bush won his 2nd term (I'm 13/f, by the way). Over that time, we've become pretty good friends. Yesterday, he asked me who I liked and I wouldn't tell, because I didn't want him to know. Especially considering the fact that he just got a girlfriend (he's also 13). Then he kept begging and nagging and kept saying that he wouldn't tell anyone and that he keeps secrets well (I know that for a fact, but still I didn't want him to know). After a while, I decided to tell him, because if he kept it up, he'd find out eventually because if it seemed that I sincerely didn't want him to know (even though I've trusted him with other stuff), the truth would be very plain. So I told him, and I said I was sorry. He's really really nice, but I'm really worried that he thinks I'm an asshole. I don't know what to do! I've never liked anyone in my whole life. Do 13-year-old boys usually think their friends are assholes in this kind of situation? How can I stay friends with him? CAN I still stay friends with him? This is long and will most likely get rated down, but I don't have anywhere else to get help! And I know that problems of a 13-year-old aren't as important as questions asked by older people, but this IS an advice site, and the site IS open to 13-year-olds.
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I can probably help you in this type of situation. Well, if he was sincerely a good friend he wouldn't think you're an asshole for liking him. Especially because you don't control your feelings for whomever you like, they just develop over a period of time. I've told a boy i liked him and i was pretty good friends with him. Everything stayed the same. We acted natural. Maybe after a certain amount of time he'll probably like you too. But i can't guarantee it. And the way you describe him makes him sound like a very gracious, understanding guy so he'll probably understand that you like him and you guys will probably stay friends for a while. i'm 95% sure. If you still think that he thinks your an asshole ask him if you and him could talk for a while after school or something. Tell him how you feel about you telling him you like him. Confront him about the asshole thing. and if he were a true friend he would tell you the truth. Hope i helped.
-Lizzie
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I can sooooo answer this im the same way i can help you without a dobt im im in 6th grade and the bay i like is in 8th. hes good friends with my older sister and a boy i know in the naborhood. wellhes (the guy i like)is realy nice to me. you can tell if the guy u like likes you back when eather
A)you ask him
b)he tells u
C)you can tell if he shows more intrest in your friends and you,he will cut in on your confersations and aswer them be nice look at u and try to be near you as much as possibel
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Ok i was in the same situation. Well just give him a few days and then try to hang out with him just like friends. If he won't talk to you, then in private get it through his he nicely that you still want to be friends and that even though you like him things should not change you should still a least friends.
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13 year old boys are very hard to read but when you finally get the hang of them you get used to it. i think you should tell him how you feel.if he thinks that you are an asshole just for that reason then he really isnt a good friend.obviously he thinks you are something special if he wants to know who you are going out with or who you like.pick your favorite day of the week and wear the cutest thing that you have and just walk up to him and start a conversation.sooner or later you will talk about something really personal.when that time comes you will all of a sudden fell comfortable telling him.trust me i am 15 years old and i went through the same thing you are going through.{exept my experience was worse}
all i can say is good luck and go get him!!!
sincerely,
sexybabe13
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I dont think that you should worry about it to much. Boys are pretty simple for the most part and dont get worked up over that kind of thing. If he wanted to know so bad, he cant get mad at you for telling the truth. He might even like you back! He probbly just feels a little bit uncomforatable around you now(guys get like that sometimes)but im sure he will get over it soon and move on. Hope it works out for you.
Sarah
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It may have shocked him a little if he wasn't expecting that answer, but I sincerely doubt he thinks you're an asshole. There is no reason why you can't still be friends...you were just being honest. I think it will give him something to think about. :)
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Tell your friend the reason why you could not tell him who you liked he should understand if he were in your shoes it's not easy to just tell your secrets to some friends because some just go on,tell people your stuff which is wrong.I don't think friends would think you're an asshole for this situation they may just get upset at you for not putting your trust on them but if you say he is really nice you should of probably give him a chance to see if he is a person you should trust and share your secrets with.But it is not too late just apologize and give him an explanation and that it won't happen again.
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i think that you should nworry about it.he probably dint think about it after wards.so just take a break continue with your friendship as if this never happened.act like you dont think about .i dont think that he thinks you are an asshole.ok
it all will fall into place
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listen he has no reason to think your an asshole most likkely he doesnt! if he askes y ypu told him...welll he asked u and you were being honsest you cannot help you feelings trust me its better to let him know and its good that he is the same age as ypu cause i just currently got out of a sseirous relationship and it was with a senior i am a freshman it was bad we were really really good friends then he broke my heart 3 times 4 sum other chick who is notttt pretty at alll! oh my gosh that was mean but true i am so sad but n/e ways he doesnt hate you just yall will prob end up going out! it will be awsome if he does think ur an ass hes really immature
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Boys will always be boys. Keep being friends with him no matter what. If he thinks your an asshole then he's no good and isnt a true friend. Maybe in the end things will work out but keep being friends because what if he breaks up wit hhis gf then you might have achance and relationships start out as friend ship so keep being friends.
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