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Q: I can't help what I do..
I'm tired of people telling me there problems, and acting like I have none. I'm always in the middle of everything. I lovee my friends I cant live without them but thry expect me to be perfect, and always be on the side and I can't.
It's multiple cases, couple break up, a fight happens over the weekend, people aren't friends anymore and they tell me. I say oo that sucks and give my opinion and say where this might've gone wrong.. and they expect me to be on there side.
I refuse to chose sides. And they get mad at me..
Soo I think last week I snapped! Call it PMS, call it me being bitchy but I couldn't help but tweakk on everyone who came to me with problems.
So people (friends) that I know mean wellstart asking questions. Questions I can't answer. And I know there trying to help, but I don't need them getting into the middle and trying to fight my battles. There trying but they wont succeed. I'm a lost coase. beyound help.
I don't know whats wrong with me.. one day ill be soooooo happy, flashing smiles to everyone and its contagious.. Next day you dont want to be around me. I can't handle peoples voices and bitch about everything. Weird this is i know I do it. and i try to nipp it in the butt and stop it from happening.. but it does anyway.
I've tried starting the day before again. Mimiking some of the things I did the day before.. make fun of me or not im desperate, Im moody...
I have my own problems.
I can't be on every side, I can't have my own opinion without someone being like WHAT!...
I cant be me.
I dont blame the people around me..
Hmm. My brother got in a car accident. Walked out scotch free. Day after get's a DWI and I frove him outa the house. I knew he was drinking, I knew it wasn't safe but i went on and On... he blamed me for my Dads heartattack.
I knew he did tat because he was drunk but i could just walk away. No. I threw every little think about him I hated.
Like him calling me Katie-Kat... It was cute when I was 7. Now just annoying.. But yesturday I wouldn've cared, you know. One day nothing can dent me.. you can't tear me down from them cloud that comes and goes. The next day when I hit the ground Ill point it out adn how it annoys the hell outa me.
I know its not PMS. I KNOW>>>>
Stevens come to me about Olivia.
Olivias come to me about Steven
Ariele come to me about how Steven and Olvia are going out.
Cole came to me about liking Ariele.
im tired of the stupid drama.. I dont say that to there faces... but when im in this distructive mood.. I cant garentee i wont haul of and beat someone..
how am I going to explain there moods. Or what I say to people. ill think oo shouldvent said that in my head but my mouths flying..

GRR HELP

Everyone needs advice and someone to vent to. Just say "You should definitely ask her/him" when someone asks you what someone else would think. And calm down. If they're really that annoying, don't be friends with them, and if you want to, them deal with it.

Q: Okay so i got my cartalage peirced and i got it on my right ear ( im a girl) . I heard that it has to be on a certain ear or soemthing. like Gay or lesbian for both genders. Im totally confused; does that go for gilrs or just guys??

Okay, what??? On a certain ear? I never heard that, just keep your earrings where you'd like them to be. And the gay and lesbian thing? What does that have to do with ears? Just ignore that piece of stupid superstition.

Q: my friend, ill be like mad at her over something. and like ill act cold. and then she just doesnt even care. its like ,it doesnt matter if i get mad or not. she just acts like its no big deal. uhh i hate her so much right now.

Well, if my friend acted all like cold and mad and stuff, I would ignore her too, cause I would be upset that she was acting like that. so what's your question...?

Q: Do you think it's possible to "Fully" trust someone again after they have lost your trust?!?!?

Thanks

IDK, maybe, it depends on who you're trusting and what they did to lose your trust and how nice you are.

Q: ever since missy elliot made that song "we run this" a few years ago, at every school dance i'd request the song.. by the way now i am in 8th grade and i've requested it in 6th and 7th grade dances. and i just went to a dance yesterday and they STILL NEVER play the song! instead they play the dumber version "Jump on it" by some rapper guy in the 80s or 90s. i am so mad.. why wont they ever play We Run This, but they can play other songs like Crank That, and lots of other rap/hiphop songs? grr.

No one can answer this question but the DJ. Try requesting 2 or three times until they finally play it. That's all the help I can give you.

Q: Sorry this may be long and confusing.

Ok this girl we'll call her 'Ann' well I use to hang out with her some now she is acting so stupid ok and then my best friend, we'll call her 'Danielle' starts hanging out with her since I was hanging out with my other friends too. My other friend, call her 'Wendy' doesn't like Ann. But my friend Danielle likes this guy and so does another friend,'Jessie'. So Ann goes and asks this guy if he likes Jessie. So she comes back and tells Danielle that he obviously likes Danielle and said that Jessie was forward and a flirt. Of course Ann doesn't like Jessie either. Danielle tells me that Ann said that and Danielle knew what she said about him probably liking her wasn't true but she didn't know what to believe about the whole Jessie thing. So I told my friend Wendy about that and Wendy wanted to confront Ann about it because she knew what Ann said was not true. So we all walked up to her and asked her. She said she did talk to the guy. So Wendy said ok lets ask him so she says Wait no I didn't ask him and so on. Then later on she asks me, were you on Wendy's side? I say well you did say that to Danielle. So now she is all mad at me and she is mad because she asked why did I even need to tell Wendy. What bothers me so much is that she causes so much drama! But I can't just forget about her because Danielle hangs out with her and Danielle is my best friend. I think Danielle actually still likes hanging out with her even through all those lies! What in the world am I supposed to do with this girl?

Ignore her. It was a whole lot of drama, but it's now in the past. Even if Danielle is friends with her, just try and let her be friends with her and move on. Still be friends with Danielle, just try and ignore the fact that she's friends with Ann. Hope I helped.

Q: how do i get my hair like this?

http://cache.viewimages.com/xc/73278622.jpg?v=1&c=ViewImages&k=2&d=17A4AD9FDB9CF193875DCB1DD8387ABB227928584DBAA969A40A659CEC4C8CB6

Ask your hairdresser to cut it in long layers, the shortest at your jawline, the longest just below your shoulder. Try a wave-enhancing cream, like Frederic Fekkai Wave Creating Hold, http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P37513&categoryId=C7244&shouldPaginate=true
Also, try keeping your hair one color, not brown and blond. It really looks bad, and that's a fact, not just an opinion. Try just the light brown.

Q: Please read this article first (not boring at all):

http://www.squeezeoc.com/blog/fashionfix/2006/09/the_skinny_on_d.html

Well, I have the similar problem as hers with the legs and hips even though I'm a size 1, My legs are kind of what she explained about hers and I want good legs like the ones in the picture so I don't have "chicken drumettes."

I never actually tried on skinney jeans before but I have a similar pair of jeans JUST like that one but more bright blue and it flares at the bottom..so maybe it'll look ok?

But all my tops go like halfway down my butt, not up the wear the jeans start so maybe it'll like pop up at the top/front?

http://www.exrx.net/Lists/ExList/ThighWt.html
That's a URL for upper leg workouts. Most legs work in skinny jeans, only with less... fit legs, it's less obvious that they're skinny jeans and not bootcut. Before you start major workouts, try on a pair first to see how they would look. Hope I helped! (P.S. Long tops actually look good with skinny jeans; it helps them look less severe).

Q: Ok... Im 17 turnning 18 in febuary... and i want to do something good... the problem is im not quite sure what to do... I'd like to have a big party, but im affraid to have it at home caus i know the place would get trashed... that and my parents would be there...
I was thinking i could rent a hall...or maybe even a cotege and invit fewer people...

What did you guys do for your 18th? Or other birthdays? What are some good party theems? or ideas?
anything is apreciated!
thanks!

I had a dance party for my last party. There's a sort of... room in my town, that's like just a really big room with a stage. It could be like a hall, I guess. I hired a DJ, and that just pretty much kept everyone entertained. There was no real "theme" besides the balloon and cake and whatever. Hope I helped.

Q: I am 14 and never have had a boyfriend nor kissed a guy . Is this bad?

No it's not bad. There is no "right" time to kiss a boy or have a boyfriend besides the time that's right for you.

Q: for homecoming girls give the guys crasauges and guys give the girls mums right? and i know what mums are but what are crasages? r they just the same thing as mums except theyre shorter and theyre worn on the arms of the guys? and are the crasages supposed to be kinda girly and pretty?? i need answers soon please!! and if you can even give me a link to pictures of crasages!!! please help!! thanks!!

Corsages are traditionally worn by girls at school events, such as homecoming and prom. A picture of a basic corsage follows:
http://us.st11.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.com/I/bevfabriccrafts_1884_84430134
I don't know what "mum" could refer to besides crysanthemums... which is a type of flower...Yeah so corsages are worn by girls, and I don't know what the flower guys wear is called. I do know that guy's flower goes in like their lapel though. Hope I helped.

Q: If you select ''get album artwork'' do you pay for it...or is it free?

Thanks.

It doesn't cost a penny. Just click on it, wait a couple seconds, and if it doesn't come up, just right click it, go to get info, and make sure the album title and artist name are in the right categories and spelt correctly.

Q: what does fingering mean?? i was reading a book and these two people were making out and the guy put his arms under her shirt and it said he was fingering her bra. what does that mean? and what does it mean to pop your cherry?

This is rather sexual, so please pardon me for the sake of your question. The term "fingering" means when a boy, or girl if you are homosexual, uses his finger to dig around a girl's lady parts. To "pop your cherry" is when the one devirginizes a girl, causing her hymen to break and make it bleed a little. I'm sorry if my terms are rather explicit, but I answered the best way I could. If you have anymore question like that, that sound like slang that you wouldn't find normally, try urbandictionary.com

Q: Okay, so for the better part of a year I've been messaging/texting this guy who I met through a mutual friend. He lives in North Carolina, so even though we've been talking for almost a year, we've never met face to face. He's hysterically funny, and we have the same taste in music and movies. He's really smart, and all around, he's the kind of guy I'd really go for. But because of the distance (I live in Illinois), I never really thought pursuing anything would be worth it.

But then::: He texts me the other day and he's passing through my town on his way to his sister's. So he and I and some of my friends are going to be actually hanging out for the first time ever, for an entire day!! I'm really nervous.

So here's what I need:: I need a way to impress him the moment we meet with something really funny/clever to say or do. He's always making me laugh, and he once told me that a girl who can be goofy and not care about what others think is a major turn-on.

Also, any tips you can give me on how to just be cool and funny and remind me to be myself around him would be great. thanks!

-Nervously Waiting

You don't need to concentrate on impressing by being cool and funny. Just say the kind of thing that you would normally say via text message. Try a really nice, but laid-back outfit and try to look your best. Joke a lot, tease by jokingly jabbing, and be yourself. If you start to realize that you're acting differently, start acting like you normally would. Good luck!

Q: well i just went to my 8th grade dance, and lots of girls are becoming more physical with boys.. like some kids were already grinding, or some others were dancing together like it was nothing.. I dont have any guy friends like that that I could dance with them and not get embarassed or always see it in the romantic way.. Ive never even had a boyfriend while all my other friends mostly have.. I mean I'm not ugly or anything but its weird.. I guess I can be choosy with some guys but how can i be more comfortable with guys and become good friends with them and stuff? thanks. cause usually im with my gal pals.

At my school dances, some people grind or whatever, but I personally find it rather low and like some popstar-that-dresses-like-a-ho-on-MTV-esque. I usually go there to have fun, not try to think about the way others are dancing. Just dance with your friends, and you can have a lot of fun. I feel the same way you do, I could never bring myself to do the dances that some other people do. There's nothing wrong with it, just have fun. Hope I helped. : )

Q: so im 14/f im being hannah montana for halloween =]
haha i know that like every 6-12 year old girl is being her as well but whatever.
How can i look like her for halloween?
i have brown hair btw.
thanks!

Buy a blond wig, a miniskirt, go-go boots, and a pink jacket. No offense intended, but I am dreading seeing anyone dressed like someone who acts horribly, and whose singing makes grown people want to cry. But I hope I helped with the costume (vomits). Just trying, but I have some better ideas: a nurse, a maid, or something more specific, like Bionic Woman.

Q: Is there anywhere that I can find the theme song to Gossip Girl? I really like it. Is it even a song and if it is, does anyone know the name of it?

Yes, it is "Something to Believe In", by Aqualung, just a confirmation.

Q: I like this guy lets call him "Phil"(random name). I have a crush on him, he's at my new school. He plays guitar, is short, but cute, and luvs the same music i do(fob, mcr, p!atd). So today he sits next to me and my friend Tori for lunch. He says I remind him of his ex girlfriend. Now, from what I know from talking to him, he only has had one girlfriend and she and him were together 3 weeks ago, but he asked her to go to homecomeing with him, she said no and she brokeup with him. He was evidently head-over-heels for her.

FYI: I have a short attention span. So i just hear him say creepy and point at me. So i turned my head and said 'What's wrong with me being creepy?' He threw his hands up in surrender and said "I said it's just creepy how much you are like my ex-girlfriend"

He's SO nice and cute! There's a Sady Hawkin's dance comin' up, so i was wondering what do u think he meant by that I'm like hisex, is that good or bad given the past.

If you say he was head-over-heels for her, then I suppose that it would be a compliment, and the fact that he hangs out with you is pretty much an "okay, i really like you" move. see if he asks you to the dance within 2 days of it, and if he doesn't just ask him. it's just a beautiful relationship waiting to happen.

Q: so I read your answer to the person with back acne and I was wondering if you had anything for leg acne!!!
I have acne on the tops of my legs!!! like above my knees!!!!
It's way weird and I can't wear skirts!!!!

thnx in advance ur the best if you have any thing that works

-Sondra ;)

I actually get that too. What I would do is dab some spot acne treatment, like Clean & Clear. Put on a small Band-Aid, or instead of acne medications, you could try a dab of toothpaste. I works for me, but it doesn't work for some other people, so don't be upset if that doesn't work. When you spot it, don't break it or anything. For fast acne relief, try taking a cotton swab and wet it. Press it down on the pimple until the swab is only slightly damp. Do this over again until you've been doing it for 30-35 minutes. As soon as you're done, IMMEDIATELY apply benzoyl peroxide to it. Make sure you do. Let it dry for 5 min. Then squeeze it lightly. It should be gone. Hope I helped! And thanks so much for a question. I never get them and it's a real compliment. : )

Q: 13/F

I'm sure your thinking, how can a guy be stupid and cute, well, there's this guy in my school. I asked a question on this before, by the way, and you guys told me to ignore him... I CAN'T!!!!! he's in all my classes and... Anyway! He scares me a lot now. I mean, he's been to prison 6 freaking times! Well, I kinda like him. he's cute, but he's scary. out of all the guys in the school, I've never teased him. I can't bring myself to do it. I'm a guy teaser by the way. I liek to make them mad at me, then make them laugh and stuff like that. BUT, this guy is different. Harley (The guy) is cute, but scary and STUPID! I hate him sooo much! And... yet...

--Izzy Uchiha! ^/_\^

p.s yes, i am married to a cartoon character! whoever said luv was NORMAL!!!!!!!!!

Okay. Jail 6 times? Please just stay away. Go after other guys and occupy yourself with something else. It may seem hard, but in time, it'll become easy and you'll forget all about him. Good luck!

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Happy 2008! My name is Dana for those of you who don't know, and I obviously love to give advice, because if I didn't, I wouldn't be here. I will pick at anyone who doesn't bother to capitalize their "I"'s or the beginnings of sentences. Proper grammar and spelling is very important to me. bcuz it Just loooks soooo sloppie when u type lyke this. So a word to the wise, and for the majority of you that it doesn't apply to, think about it, and watch yourself. Second of all, I will never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever write something that is not true. So therefore I am always right. So stand down and accept it. (Note: that also means that my "opinions" are actual facts. At least the ones I bother to write.)

Never ask me anything about how fat you are or love life. Cliched, I know, but I am heartless when it comes to the truth. If you don't know what to do with your cheating boyfriend that you still love, go ask someone else since I could not care less. Seriously.

Have a nice day!
Love,
missbananafontana

Favorite artist so far: Bob Marley
Favorite movie ever: "Breakfast at Tiffany's"
Favorite actress: Grace Kelly (as you can tell)
Favorite brand: Vineyard Vines (as you can tell)
Favorite song: "No Woman, No Cry"

WARNING:
My answers will be based on a preppy lifestyle. I am the clean, preppy sort, like the person who looks clean and classy and doesn't really notice anyone who isn't, regardless that some weirdos think that preppy people hate them. Also, if you wonder about the corrections on the answers I give, no worries; they're just simple corrections to those who don't know where to put a period, or that they have to capitalize the beginnings of sentences. Please don't be offended.