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What does a orgasim feel like? I am Curious. And How old should I be when I "do it"

it feels good..like your muscles down there are like contracting..sometimes with great intensity. it feels good..very good lol. and as far as how old you should be when you do it...whenever you are ready. there is no age. as long as you know enough about sex and the consequenses physically and emotionally..and you feel ready..that is all that matters.

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okayyyyyy so like sry i keep asking you questions but i heard your really good. k so my boyfriend is like really experienced and expects a lot from me, but ive only made out with a guy before. i mean, hes had like ten bjs before! so he asked me to come over and his parents won't be home, and i really like him so i dont want to let him down, and please dont answer with something like omg just dont go or something, causee i reallly want to know how to suck him right. do you know? if not can you find out for me or have any good websites?

I'm pretty sure i cant answer this question here..i cant go into detail about it or i will get in trouble. IM me on icey0990 if you like

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okay there is this boy i like alot but he just broke up with his girlfriend 3 or 4 weeks ago. i really like him but i m not sure if he really likes me he's a really sweet guy and i really wanna be with him, but he ex is a reall close firend of mine what do i do? please help me!

woah his ex is a real close friend? you definately have to take this situation slowly and with caution.is your friend ok? even if shes not..she might be very upset if you move in on her ex. be friennnds with this guy first..let things blow over with her ex..encourage her to meet new guys..and after some time goes by..ask her how sshe would feel if you dated the guy.she might not be happy with you..you gota make the choice..respect your friends feelings..or date the guy. hopefully shes completely over him though ..good luck!

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ok so i have a girlfriend and she loves me to death and i love her too but we've been together fer almost a year. Things are starting to wind down and my g/f is noticing that and she's affraid of us breaking up. What if it gets so bad that we never see each other anymore. I will admit that i'm kinda un-falling in love. i'm starting to not love her day by day because i'm noticing all these things that she does because she knows me too well. it gets annoying sometimes tho i liked it better when we were complete strangers ( well not complete strangers). If it gets that we just grow appart how would i break up with her because if i do she'll be crying her eyes out. she does that everytime she thinks we are falling apart. how do i break up with her without all the tears?
HELP ME
sincerely, someone u don't know

Hey, no matter what she will cry. but dont feel bad..its not good for you to just stay with her because you feel bad..when guys do things like that..THATS when we cal them jerks and stuff..just let her down easy and talk to her..she will be upset..but in time she will be ok again. this is something you need to do..best of luck! let me know how it goes pleeease
-melissa

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 wonderful months. he is the best, and i cant even describe him. though the other day, he talked to me about engagement, which i am quite excited for. though me and him would have to keep it on the downlow for i am going to be 16 and he will be 18. he isnt going to ask for awhile yet(falltime or beyond that time, hes thinking), he just brought it up because he wanted to see how i felt about it. i actually feel wonderful about it and i feel very ready. i love this man with all my heart and have never felt this way about someone before. i dont have much of a family, but him and his family makes up for it. im not reallt needing advice, cause i know id say yes in a heartbeat, but am i crazy for being excited at 16 y/o and i know it will be easy to hide from my parents because i hide everything from them, but is this a ridculous decision?!? thanks alot

thats awesome! but hold on a sec..what if you wait a couple of years..if you two are truly serious about marriage..wait a couple years because its a hugge decision and your both so young. if you feel truly ready..get engaged maybe..but wait a couple years for the wedding i would say. if it were me, i would want to wait a couple years so i could brag about my engagement instead of hiding it.
im so happy for you though! love is wonderful

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when me and my boyfriend are on the phone we can never think of anything to talk about. can anyone give me some things that would start a conversation with me and him? thank you ill rate and comment

this keeps me and my friends chatting and laughing for awhile!
play either or..and dont be afraid to get nasty about it hehe!
either or is a game you play..you ask him would you rather...
-eat this or this (get gross!)
-do this or this
-put him in tough situations..like would u rather kill this person or this one

etc. if you want detailed either or ideas..inbox me cuz my mom is yelling at me to get off the comp right now haha

i hope this gave you some good ideas!

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I used to be good friends with Nick and Eric, but then Nick got into drugs and smoking, Eric started drinking, and they both began having sex with girls. Eric is only 13, and Nick is 12. ( I`m 13) I stopped hanging out with them because they're only around girls to get in their pants, and their so bad. Well, my best friend doesn't realize thats what theyre doing. They even tell her they only like her cause she's got a massive butt but she doesn`t listen. I don't want her to turn out like them, HELP!

this is one of the hardest things to do as a friend..to have to watch a close friend go in the wronnnnng direction. you can talk to her...invite her over your house and talk to them on AIM or through email and get it out of them how they talk about girls..and show her this as evidence..dont let them know shes over..and mention your friend and show your friend the comments they will say about her. other than this and talkng to her..its allll up to her..its her life..and shes going to make mistakes in her life (we all do) hopefully she willl listen to you though!
-melissa

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 11 months. We are together almost everyday. My problem is, I hate when we aren't together. When he can't hang out, I get really upset and I like, minupulate him to come see me. I don't know what is wrong with me! I can never give him space. I feel bad and I try to change but I can't. How should I stop? Does anyone else have this problem? By the way- I would hang out with my friends but they are gone away for the summer.

how to stop..hmm..my bf and i spend a lott of time together also..if we skip a day or 2 seeing each other i look foward to when i do see him and we greet each other with a biggg kiss and a tiiiight hug that makes me feel sooooo insanely good :) lol
so look foward to that..because after we are apart for longer than you are used to..we always have an awesome day when we see each other again.
also maybe getting a job..making some new friends on the job and hanging out with them..little things like that will make it ok..but everyone needs a little space, you too! so just keep that in mind :)

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This is kind of random but do you think that when someone losses thier virginity they should tell thier parents?

Some people have such a good relationship..that they feel they can tell their parents. it all depends on how you feel. i personally would not tell my parents..but it all depends because only you know your parents well enough to decide that.

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Hi! i am from India. my baby is 2 yrs old and since me and my husband are both working i have arranged for a babysitter for her for 8-9 hours. my question is : how does baby sitting help her and how does it harm her? i am very confused and require advice on babysitting and what should i look in a good babysitter?

dont just hire any babysitter..hire one who has the same ideas,morals, and concepts as you and your husband. you dont want to hire someone who will teach your child wrong..because lets face it..when the babysitter is around your child so much like that...she/he is bound to rub off on your child and your child will pick up her habits..sooo make sure the babysitter seems responsible and has the same foundation as you and your husband. Ask her questions about what she would do with the child..if the activities would be something educational like looking at a childrens book together, etc. find someone with maturity and intelligence. if you find yourself hearing things out of your child's mouth that are inappropriate..it might be the babysitter's doing. whats helpful before hiring..get references on her..if you see the babysitter was fired in the past for having cursing fits, etc..then maybe the person is not a good choice. follow your gut feeling and use good judgement,.and you will be fine

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my friend ALWAYS copies me. like if i put something on my profile she puts that up too if i put something on my myspace she does that too. if i buya pair of shorts, she will buy them too. i know people say copying is a way of flattery but sometimes its just annoying. i like to be my own person. should i say something to her? if i should, what should i say?

yes definately talk to her about it! tell her you feel flattered that she copies you, but you must encourage her to be her own person and find her own style. explain to her exactly how you feel in your own words..and you cant go wrong!
hope this helps!
-meliss

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I am divorced and my son spends most of his time with his mother. I asked my son if he wanted to go to a Mets game with me (we both love baseball). At first he said yes, then a few days later he asked me if one of his friends could come along. My problem: I don't get to spend a lot of time with my son, and I was looking forward to the game as a chance for us to spend time together. I know that if his friend comes along I will feel like a "fifth wheel". My son spends a lot of time with his friends, and I don't think it is necessary for him to bring his friend along. What should I do?

You need to explain it to him how you feel..hopefully he will understand how you feel! i agree with you 100%!! tell him this time you just want to be you and him..then maybe make a comprimise that next time you two go somewhere (maybe not as huge as a met game) he can bring a friend along for part of the day .
try that..let me know how it goes!

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What is foreplay?

foreplay is the stuff you do before engaging in sex (you dont HAVE to have sex to do these things by the way)
they include:
-fingering/jerking off
-oral sex
etc.



if you would like me to me clearer..inbox me..i hope i answered your question!

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okay my boyfriend got out of this 9 month relationship ect.. and the break up was bad
he actaully hates the girl now
and like..i feel like hes not putting forth no effort in ours relationship like with him and his ex;s he was like perfect he called her ect.. got her things..

and with me he never calls
i always call him
and i get him things.
he got me a bear and hasnt gaven it to me yet i mean hello?

i feel like im putting forth more effort than him

how do i tell him?

You HAVE to be straight up with him..because this does nottt sound rigght at all. this isnt fair to you..so you have to tel him how you feel..if he reeally cares about you..he will listen to you and realize that he needs to make adjustments. if he gives you a hard time or doesnt seem to care..thats a good indicator that maybe you should dump him. no matter what,...you must talk to him..communication is the only way!
-melissa

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my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and my dad died when I was 12 and sometimes I still find myself upset about it and it makes my grades go down when iam really upset how can I get over my dad's death?

he was your father..you will never fully be over him..it might get a little easier to deal with..but you will never be completely over it..deaths are hard to get over sweetie. dont let it drag yoour ggrades down..work reeeeally hard..make your dad proud up there..he will always be watching over you :)

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I'm tring to get to disneychannel.com but there's a thing that says somthing like I don't have the right system ,blah,blah,blah so how do I get to disnechannel.com or can I?

hey im glad you stopped by my page to ask a question..but computers is nottt my specialty. im good on advice about relationships,friendships,family, etc.

my suggestion is try just disney.com or type into google disneychannel.com and click on the link that comes up?

good luck!

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me and my boyfriend have been dating not to long, but we've both liked each other since forever... I feel like crap, we haven't got to hang out, he's only called me once, and he'll comment my xanga every once in a while and he'll get online for 5-10 minutes every other day... I dont wanna break up with him, and I've tryed talking to him about it. I just miss him a lot, what should I do? please help? I've been really down and blue for a while and I cant snap out of it!

in a relationship..time needs to be invested into it..from BOTH sides. sounds to me..your trying..but hes just not finding enough time for you..you mentioned you started dating recently..so maybe give it a little more time and keep trying..if hes not showing interest..maybe consider breaking it off..you desserve someone who is putting in EQUAL amount of investment and effort into the relationship. let me know how it turns out!
-melissa

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My boyfriend treats me like gold and i have a HUGE attitude problem and i want to change. But i have no idea how to start. Dont state the obvious people like just do it because i tried and it doesnt happen. he is very annoying but i love him to death and he doesnt deserve what i do. I yell/hit/and give him an attitude. I dont really hit him just m,essing around like im not an abusive girlfriend. but I can get out of hand of messing around.

PLEASE HELP!

Well if he annoys you ..of course your going to feel frustrated. So first off you have to take care of how he annoys you..tell him to let you knoww what annoys him about you..and you do the same.
try stepping back when you go to say something mean..you care lots about him and you dont want to end the relationship right? (you might want to think about that part...because if hes so annoying..you may be considering a breakup)

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i have this really good freind, maybe a best freind, and well to ALL of my other freinds she says I LOVE YOUUUU, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. but she never says it to me. like she says it all the time, liek if you didn't know her you may think shes a lezbian.. BUT SHES NOT. why doesn't she say it to me?

maybe she feels your more conservative about the whole "girls showin love thing" I have a couple friends who if you say "i love you!" she will give you a weird look. it doesnt mean she doesnt think your a great friend. maybe if you say it first she will start saying it also.

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Okay, to make a long story short, me and my friend got into a fight with our other friend because we confronted her about blowing us off and shit because she got a new boyfriend. The whole thing was blown way out of proportion. Anyway, she forgave my friend, but not me, because I was meaner (apparently). The girl told me, "Your basically dead to me." She also told me she could never forgive me and that she didn't care what I said or did. This girl was one of my best friends. It's really hard to loose a friend, and never even get a second chance. How do I get over it? (It's definately going to be hard because we have the same group of friends.)

i know exactly what you are saying. shes blowing you off..and thats crap. friends come and go sometimes ..and yes it is sad. but you do your own thing..and she will do hers. there will be nights when shes having some of the girls over for a sleepover and you will be home..dont let it get to you..call a couple old friends up or someone who isnt hangin with her and do your own thing! live life to the fullest! you two just stay away from each other and do your own thing. best advice i can give..cuz i know what your sayin..and doing your own thing always works for me
:)

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