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no effort
okay my boyfriend got out of this 9 month relationship ect.. and the break up was bad
he actaully hates the girl now
and like..i feel like hes not putting forth no effort in ours relationship like with him and his ex;s he was like perfect he called her ect.. got her things..
and with me he never calls
i always call him
and i get him things.
he got me a bear and hasnt gaven it to me yet i mean hello?
i feel like im putting forth more effort than him
how do i tell him?
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Just go up to him and say, "I don't know if you're truly over your ex. You seemed like the perfect boyfriend with her. You would get her things and call her, but with me it's like the opposite! ALl I'm saying is, it feels like I'm putting more in our relationship." I hope ths helps!
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listen just say to him are ureally in this reation shi or not and if you are showme that u are ..
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You probably are working harder at this relationship than he is, but it sounds like he's not completely over his last relationship yet. Just talk to him about it when he's in a good mood. Tell him that you feel like you're not recieving anything from this relationship. If he's serious about dating you he'll try to work harder on making the relationship between you better and less one sided. If he refuses to even acknowledge the problem, you should probably just take your losses and go. There's no reason for you to keep spending your money and investing into a relationship that you don't gain anything from. I don't mean material posessions.. I mean emotional things like common intrests, enjoying being together.. stuff like that...
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No effort,
Well if you want this relationship to be fulfilling and happy for you, it is important to communicate your needs. You can express it by first finding out if there is something wrong or why he may not be feeling motivated to further the relationship. A lot of times women fear doing this is because of what their answer might be...but in reality do you really want to be with someone who doesn't care enough about your needs? No...there isn't a woman on this planet that wants a mediocre relationship...but sometimes we settle for it because we are afraid of speaking up. So speak your needs and then the ball is in his court...see if he wants to make a basket or just dribble.
More importantly you need to keep in mind is that he just got out of a long relationship and it ended badly...he may be wanting to take a break from the whole commitment thing and that is a big reason why men don't put effort in a relationship...how serious is he? When you communicate your needs you should make sure to find out...then you can decide if he is worth investing in, instead of being the "rebound".
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You HAVE to be straight up with him..because this does nottt sound rigght at all. this isnt fair to you..so you have to tel him how you feel..if he reeally cares about you..he will listen to you and realize that he needs to make adjustments. if he gives you a hard time or doesnt seem to care..thats a good indicator that maybe you should dump him. no matter what,...you must talk to him..communication is the only way!
-melissa
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