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Q: ok im being a naughty school girl! and well i dont no how to do my makeup any ideas my skirts i plaid red and black with a white top...i have no clue how to do my make up? plz help fast!

This girl at my school was a school girl and she wore bright red lipstick, and lots of eyeshadow and glitter around the eyes. White eyshadow on the lid and a little red eyeshadow on top. Dark black eyeliner, top and bottom, bright pink blush...and there ya go! I kinda hope I helped, sorry if I didnt! Good luck and be safe!

Q: I am a sophomore in high school and in love with dance. I am currently on my school drill team and I also dance for a studio that I've been at for about 7 years.

My parents have recently noticed a drop in my grades because of dance. I'm usually an A student with an occasional. But, for the past 2 grading periods (the only 2 of my sophomore year so far) I've gotten C's. To some of you that doesn't sound bad but I don't get Cs...ever. I care about my grades very much and so do my parents.

And that brings me to my problem:
My parents aren't making me quit dance but they are making me choose between my dance studio and my school drill team.

I can't quit my studio because I've been there for what seems like forever and I love it too much. I've made so many friends and I can't imagine not dancing there.

But, I also can't quit my drill team. It's what keeps me sane in school. Plus I love belonging to a group that is looked up to at school. If I quit this, I won't be able to rejoin or retry out for the rest of my high school years. Once you quit, you can't come back.

I have until Wednesday to decide because if I do end up quitting drill team, I have to give my coach a 2 day notice before the next football game. What do you guys think?

Since you can dance at a studio anytime in your life when drill team is only in high school.. I think you should stick with drill. You can always come back to the studio after high school or when your grades are higher. Just my opinion =) Good luck !!

Q: Can you tell me eyeliner and liquid eyeliner brands? Oh and I want to see you're opinion on what is better to use.
And is there any COLORED mascara? Like.. purple, pink, etc? If yes, what stores are they in?

MAC (expensive, kinda) and NYC (cheap) eyeliner pencils work soooo awesome. They both go on dark and stay on a long time & dont smudge. Liquid eyeliner that goes on nicely, and looks good is Mac. Mac eyeliner is sort-of expensive...but you can go to www.maccosmetcis.com to look at what their prices are. There is different colored mascara like blue and brown..but you cant really tell the difference. Oh and go to your local target for the cheap stuff--sometimes it works better than the really expensive stuff. Good luck =)

Q: ok so everyone at my school wears a thong. Tey tell me that wearing a thong is sexxy and it makes you cool.Well i tryed one on and i hated it. I could not stand it!! So I dont wear thongs. Not wearing one makes me look like a loser and i know im not one. plz help me and tell me if im sounding like a loser or if thats normal?

Okay whoever says wearing a thong is "cool" and "sexxy" is retarded. Please do not listen to those stupid people. Do what you want, who is going to know that your not wearing a thong? Nobody. If its uncomfortable to you, then dont wear it. Trust me, you could be cool and sexy without one too. Your not a loser. And by the way, hit those people for me and tell them to get a life =)

Q: Ok. I'm 14 and I resently had sex with a guy I had never met before. He was around 21. I have rented a book over being pregnant and I have all the symptoms. I took the pregnancy test and sure enough I am. Well anyways I don't know who he is and i'm really scared. I don't know how to tell my parents and I want him to be there when I tell them! Well if you can help me or give me ideas to tell them and find him...Please HELP!!!

I rate 5's on every one

Wow, because this guy is 21 and the fact that you dont have his number, address or anything is going to be hard. Maybe you can ask your friends or ask anyone who was around you at the time you met this guy how you could contact him. Please be preprared for the worst-he might deny that the baby is his and not talk to you at all. Actually you should tell your parents first so they could help you find him. Good luck and remember, ask people that know who he is if they know how to reach him. Update me if you can! =)

Q: Does anyone know where I can find a friend survey that I can just copy and paste and give it to some people. I mean the survey that has quite a lot of questions asking personal questions such as favorite color, movie, have you ever drank, smoked, etc...

http://www.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=1443343

Go there and look through a collection of websites that have tons of great surveys=)

Q: I dated this guy a year ago but I had to go to jordan for about 7 months. we broke up a month before my trip. Since then we have been talking on the phone especially when i was there. 4 months in to my trip he was like dont call me anymoer b/c i was making weird sounds when i was scared about sometning. when i came back to america i called him but he never told me why are you calling me when i told you not to. instead we talk on the phone occassionaly some days or weeks more than others. he told me he has a girlfriend for about 3 months. last week he told me that he broke up with her and now sends me text message to see what am i doing. i still dont no if he went back with her but he told me he is going with her down to the city. Two days ago he calls me at 3:15 am only to make a prank call where he makes me think that i am talking to him but it was his friend. I caught it was not him and told him that its not him and they both laugh and my ex was like i will call you tomorrow. what does this mean? does he weant me back? or testing me or what

He is just teasing you, I think he likes you, and he might still like that other girl too..since their hanging out. But you will only find out if he likes you by talking to him and asking. I really dont know the answer, because I'm not him..but either he likes you, or just calls you because he knows you like him. Just go ahead and ask, and dont be nervous because you dated at one point so nothing should be awkward. If your too scared, go ahead and have a friend ask or ask him online or whatever makes you feel more comfortable. Sorry I couldent help much, but the only way to really know is by asking him. Good luck, update me if you can? !

Q: I'm a virgin. I thought I would start out with that.

I am 15 years old and I masturbate sometimes. But the thing is, after I do it, I feel really guilty and stop and don't do it for about a month.

It feels good when it's happening but after, I feel sick to my stomach.

I have never had a boyfriend and I'm not sexually active at all besides masturbating.

People say it's normal but it's not really publically accepted for teenage girls.

I just want to know if it's normal how I feel.

I read somewhere 40-60% of women masturebate, but never talk about it. Compared to the 90% of guys that do, and talk about it too. It's normal. Dont worry about it, I just wouldent tell anyone or talk about it openly because you'll probably be looked upon as weird or something. Thats just how it is for girls, so yeah.

Q: Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

Depends on who you ask. This question will get many different answers. So really you need to ask yourself because you shouldent base whats wrong or not wrong by the people on this site. Personally, I dont think it's wrong because the person cant control what they feel. Anyway, you have to answer that question for yourself because there is no right or wrong answer. =)

Q: alright so i have this friend named ben. ben is dating this girl named jenny. me and ben havent been known each other for too long, but we both feel like we've become the best of friends. well, jenny is starting to really really hate me cause she thinks im trying to steal ben away cause im always hanging out with him and walking with him and stuff. i kinda understand how she feels but i dont wanna lose benny because of her. should i just lay off of ben for a while? or tell jenny to get lost?

Dont tell her to get lost, but hang out with him anyway. I lost a good friend because of his girlfriend and I hated it. You'll regret not trying to hang out with ben and stuff... Be friends with him, who cares that shes jealous? She needs to calm down and be assured by Ben that your just friends! Really dont give up a great friendship just because of that!! tell me how it goes if you can=)

Q: I am almost 15 and i have only had one real relashonship with a guy. it lasted about a year.
all of my friend have great boyfiend relashonships. but i don't, the only advice they can give me.(is to be the one to move first.) well i gess im a old fashion girl. i like the guy to ask first.

Nothing is wrong with having the guy ask you out first, just make sure your giving him the messages that you want to go out with him. You know flirt and all that good stuff. I'm 15 too, I've never had a boyfriend and all i keep thinking to myself is it'll be worth it when your with someone special!! Dont worry, were young and we will have plenty of boyfriends. You cant look for a boyfriend, he'll just come to you somehow. For now have fun and flirt! =)

Q: I just got my work schedule for a new job. The store is having it's grand opening on Thursday. I have my first shift from 5-10. I'm sure the store will be jammed pack. I'm working in the clothing department of the superstore.

Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the customers? I've never worked in retail before. I know the obvious, like be friendly and work hard, but what can I do to really impress my supervisor and make me relax a little?

Make sure your nice to the customers, especially in front of your boss be like "How was your day?" and "Thank you for coming!" Stuff like that. Customers are not that hard to deal with, unless your too slow or somebody complains. Dont worry, just be a nice person and it'll work out great. The only way to break nervous-ness is if you practice..so after a while you will be a pro! Have fun=)

Q: Hey I'm a guy and was just wondering about something...
I know its normal and not exactly their fault and everything, but when a girl goes through monthly stuff, what are we, the guys, supposed to do. I really don't mind it, but sometimes I feel like I need to help out my g/f with whatever the problem may be...but I can't. Should I just be there to talk and listen? That's what I've been doing so far. I mean I can't think of any good advice other than lie down, take some medicine, try to relax, and stuff like that. Should I try to help, or just stay out of the way? Is there any way I can help or no? I know I don't or ever will understand what it feels like or anything, but I'd still try to help with anything. Will rate, thanks in advance.

Well you get brownie points for being cute and trying to help your girlfriend. =) But yeah, all you could do are the things you said in your question and just listen to her when she needs to talk to someone or let her cry on your shoulder and comfort her when shes being emotional or anything. Other than that, theres nothing you can do but again, brownie points for caring!

=)

Q: okay well.... theres this one kid i like and we can say his name is... george well george*my age* knows i like him and he just wants to be friends but i also kinda like this other kid... and we can call him bob*a year older* well i dont know bob too well ... well not much at all but he seems really awesome but i dont get how i like him so much when i hardly even know him... we have alot in common maybe but the problem is.. my other friend we can call her suzy*2 years older than me and 1 older than bob* likes bob too.. well bob liked suzy but now isnt really sure some people say he says he doesnt but others are telling suzy he isnt sure yet but im pretty sure he doesnt like her.. but me and suzy were talking today and she has no idea that i like bob she just thinks i like george so she suggested that me, her, bob, george and another couple that were friends with go to the movies and mall or whatever next weekend... and i obviously was like sure that sounds like alot of fun... but then shes like yeah ill have bob talked to george about you and everything and i dindt wanna say no to her bc she was all like thinking it was a great idea so i like was alright.. so no i dont know what to do bc 1. i hardly know bob, 2. i kinda like george still but like bob more..somehow, 3. dont know if i should tell suzy bc i dont want her to get mad or upset bc shes already taking the fact that bob might not like her hardly and 4. if bob were to want to get to know me and then we ended up wanting to be more than friend i wouldnt know what to do bc i wouldnt want suzy to be sad.... let me know what you all think thanks SOOOOO much

xoxo*

Guys always get in the way of friendships. I think you should tell Suzy that if George doesnt like you, then Bob shouldent talk to George to change his mind. Say stuff like "He doesnt like me, and Bob wont change his mind. So lets just leave it alone". I think you should all go out together, but try to talk to Bob more. Get to know him, stuff like that. Suzy shouldent be mad at you for just talking to him. If you end up liking him because he seemed cool and all. Talk to Bob and ask him if he wants to hang out or anything. Suzy might get mad, there is a good chance she will get mad but...you cant control your feelings. If you and Bob go out, then obviously Suzy and Bob were not meant to be. But if it ends up being Suzy and Bob being together, then you were not meant to be with him. It will all work out the way its supposed to. I say go for it, the worst thing that can happen is not having him as a boyfriend. You need to try thats all I'm saying. Good luck, oh and I totally understand how you feel about the "liking him so much when I hardly even know him" thing. Update me if you can =)

Q: ok,me (Amy, 13), and a friend just got over a fight (her friends who are very popular, said that I said some stuff about her, but I really didn't say it and her friends said she shouldn't be my friend because they don't like me and so she broke the friendship) well we got over it about a month ago and the fight lasted for about 2 months. Since then she apoligized and said she didn't know who she was without me being her friend, we used to be the best of friends but ever since that fight, even though she apoligized, we don't talk as often and aren't as good of friends anymore. I don't know why since she was the one who apoligized and wanted to be best friends agian, but now she doesn't talk to me that often, I am willing to be best friends agian, too.

Please help me,
Amy

Call her up and ask her to hang out at your house or at the movies. Just you and her. If she doesnt want to hang out, or insists on bringing her "popular" friends..then she might not want to be your friend anymore. But if she does hang out with you, then great..your friends again. Fights like that usually having a lasting effect and things wont be the way they used to anymore. You could be close again, but you'll always remember that one fight. I hope she wants to hang out with you because if she doesnt, I think she thinks shes too cool for you now with her new, popular friends. Tell me how it goes if you can...??

Q: I'm 15/f.
Usually a couple days before I start my period, I get this feeling like I really want to beat someone up that I hate. Lol, it's really weird. I'm not psycho or anything. I'm a really really happy person usually, and I'm super nice. It's just like 5 days or so before I start my period I just want to beat someone up. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel like this?

Thats the wonderful world of PMS. You always get moody before, during, and after your period. It has to do with something about your hormones. I always yell at people for no reason haha. So if your ever feel like yelling or something try to stop yourself because I always yell and people hate me. So yeah its normal =)

Q: hey is it true that when you sleep you're supposed to take your bra off?

Well it's reccomended that you do. At first I would sleep with my bra all the time and nothing happened. But now it just annoys me so I take it off. So it really doesnt matter. As long as your comfortable you can sleep in it.

Q: Does anyone know how to make your picture smaller? I tried this one program Adobe Photoshop and zoomed out of the pic then saved it. But it was back to the normal size. Please Help!!!

www.photobucket.com
Great place!
Sign up, upload pictures.
Above each picture it will have a button that says "edit". Click that, and re-size it 75%, 50%, or 25%. Depending on how big the picture is. If you accidently make it too small, you can start over by uploading the picture again. If you need help, you can ask me.

Q: Would you consider being fingered, given a head and gotten eaten out 'sexually active'? Or is that just sex?

Well most of the time if you say your "Sexually active", people would believe your going all the way. So I think it just means your having sex. But if you want to use the term "Sexually active" make sure the people your telling know its oral sex.

Q: does anyone know any good stores to buy Knee-High socks? like wild ones. Not just ordinary white, black and grey ones. Like with patterns and things of that nature. I need stores/websites of stores that are like .. chains? does that make sense? stores that there are in many different states, not like an indivualy owned store.