well....this guy i know from school,we are friends and we had "cyber sex" and i dont know how i feel about it or how i should feel about it....i dont like him or anything and it was the first time i had "cyber sex"
don't worry, he won't tell, unless he wants to be made fun of for being a "cyber-fag" cybersex is just bullshitting while you're masturbating. If any friend of mine came up to me and said "hey I had cyber sex with that chick last night" I'd slap him in the face call him a cyber fag, and tell him thats how nerds have sex. then the whole day I'd ask him whether he "cyber-came on her cyber-face" or if she does "cyber-ass-to-mouth". so don't feel too bad about having cybersex with some dude who isn't going to say anything for fear of the chop-busting his friends will dish out. so whats your screenname? I'm great with one-handed typing...
-Gunner
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I just wanted to say thanks. Not for any advice you've given on the website, but for being the kind of person who will fight for your country. Whether you do it just to shoot guns, or you actually want to make a difference doesn't really matter to me, at least your doing it.
I am a centurion, This republic will not fail while I still live.
-gunner
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I am in a relationship with a man who has been divorced 4 years. I have children, and so does he. We all have a good time. I really love this man, and we live together. His family thinks we are good together, and we both can see the long haul.
His ex hates me, and will do anything to keep me from being around her children. She blames me for the separation, wants me to go away. In three years I have seen her twice, but each time she has flipped out, caused a scene, and been really angry.
She punishes the kids if they are around me.
I think they just wish I would go away so everything would be simple.
I have known his kids for about two years, and we have a good relationship, but they really love their Daddy, and he is their hero.
She is fighting him in court, and her main goal is to get me out. If I weren't in his life, they would be fine. He wouldn't get back with her. But she would leave him alone and let him be happy, and the kids wouldn't get used in the middle as pawns. This woman will never accept me, and will fight with all she has to keep me out of her life, and in twently years, at the youngest's wedding, it will still be a problem. She once called my house and told my son that I better stay away from her husband or else she would have me "taken care of." I wonder if she would. She doesn't care about anyone's feelings, and emotionally abuses the man I love and his kids while I watch. I have tried to talk to her, but she just starts screaming I'm a "whore."
alright, this woman is nuts. you are probably not the reason they broke up, unless there are details I don't know about..... but look, y'all are happy together, except for this crazy ex. you're not the problem. she's going to act like this all the time, so you're just going to have to cope with this grown up child. best advice I can give you on this is what my stepdad gave me (similar situation with my dad), here's what he did. I dunno if you're into the whole god thing, but he'd just pray for my dad, even if it was one of those days where he'd had it with him and had slammed him into the wall by his neck. it doesn't have to be all daisied up, even if its "please god, give her what she deserves", it helps with keeping a little inner peace. and thats all that matters, is your serenity. some folks are like that, and its better just to accept the things you cannot change and cope with it, than remain constantly frustrated. she wins if you do that. everybody reaps what they sow, I've done some awful things in my life, I've eventually paid for them, and I'm pretty sure some of my deeds will eventually lead to a bitter fate somewhere on a soon forgotten battlefield. but I'm okay with that. She's going to get a hell of a shock when everything comes back at her.
Now as for her threatening shit like that, thats illegal, go to the cops. do not put it beyond the capabilities of this woman to do something crazy like that. and it'll surely help your spouse's court case against this lunatic.
good luck, don't give up, and no matter what she does, have the dignity to keep the moral upper hand.
-gunner
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ok so i have been friends and a little more than friends with this girl. for like 7 to 8 years. we have talked about dating but for some odd reason things always get in the way... right now i am in college and i see her on the weekends. which is great but its not enough time to spend with her and build a solid boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. i was offered a management position at a very well known company but the problem is that she doesn't want me to take it because then we wont see each other at all!!! a part of me wants to take the job but then the other part of me is saying that she means way too much to me to not see her... tell me what would you do if you were in my situation???
you know, there's a movie about this starring nicholas cage. dude, unless you guys get together time now, take the job. its not worth a career to keep dicking around waiting for it to happen. sorry dude, everything's got a time limit, and her time has run out.
-gunner
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My boyfriend of 3 years, "Dave" and I have recently moved into an apartment with his friend, "Bob" and Bob's girlfriend, "April".
Bob has to go to basic training for 4 months so it is only Dave and I plus April.
I have to house sit for my grandparents for a week while they are on vacation and am over an hour away from the apartment so I'm nervous leaving Dave and April alone.
I trust him, but I came over to visit yesterday and walked in the room and he was on the computer in our room (he had no shirt on and pj bottoms) while she was on the bed watching him.
I don't know her that well and it freaked me out that a stranger is in our room with my personal stuff and on my bed with my boyfriend, alone.
What I want to know is am I over reacting and should I ask him not to have her in there alone or is that too controlling?
What would you think about this?
Thanks.
I'm going to give you a straight answer.
but first, it depends on the reaction to your arrival, if he was just like "oh hey whats up" and didn't give a damn and her reaction was the same, no worries.
I saw dozens of dear john letters come in when I was in basic. this is a setup for failure. she's gonna get lonely for those four months. its the first of many endurance trials for the army spouse. and trust me, the failures are amazing. If he deploys, do not live with her. thats a 12 month no sex trial by fire.
-gunner
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my mother is constantly talking about my father and me because now she knows we talked after he malested me ....my dad says that i can runaway and come live with him but i am scared but on the other hand i want to get away from my motyher although i love her ahe is a pain in the a@! so im not sure if i should goim torn i have not seen my dad in almost three years and since i have not seen him i have not seen my brothers or sisters tell me what i should do please
Before i lose my mind!!!!!!
you have got to be crazy. no. this is not a legitimate option. your mom's being a parent. parents have to be assholes. its their job. now put the worst mental image possible in your head of your father and what he did to you. now ask yourself, whats the smart thing to do? your sick fuck of a dad has ulterior motives, and I'll come out and say it "she looked great in a bathing suit back then, wonder what she looks like now...." let me be more vulgar, he's looking to tap that ass! listen sweetie, men are not like this, he is scum. animals don't even act like that, a real father would die before he let anything happen to his baby girl. This is disgusting, and I'm infuriated. report his ass, put him in prison, unless you're in a blue state where they have special prisons for diddlers and bad cops, he'll be in general pop. they'll fuck him up. the only thing in my mind worse than what he's done is genocide. I'm sorry that you had to grow up without a real male father figure, I'm sorry that this heinous shit happened to you, and most of all I'm sorry that I can't get my hands on him and torture the fuck out of him before I kill him. But please, for the love of god don't run away from your mother, she loves you more than you can understand now.
-Gunner.
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I am a 52-year-old woman married to a 54-year-old man. Last year we "semi-retired" from well-paying corporate jobs to become long-haul truck drivers. The intent was to see the country, spend time together, and sock a lot of $$ into our retirement fund. Over the course of the past year my husband has stopped bathing, dental care, etc. He is attractive, witty and the love of my life, however, I am finding it revolting to be near him and he thinks it's my problem. Am I missing something here???
god damn, I've had to go a month without showering and that made my skin crawl with a vengeance. thats not right, we had crazies in my unit a while ago that did the grunge. one reason may be he thinks its inconvenient to waste time hunting down a shower, or even finding some baby wipes to take a "whore-bath". some dudes get loopy like that when they get older in the right conditions. how about you guys take a week off of trucking and stop in a nice hotel somewhere and see what he does. it'll get that time allotment stress off of his mind if its there, and it'll get you out of confined spaces with him. unless y'all are already home from the road now(stupid me), in which case, by all means bring it to the attention of a doctor. the only way to live with the stinky kid is to be just as stinky as him, and I don't think that rates high on your option chart.
-gunner
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When I was 16 i began dating my first boyfriend that i later lost my virginity to. Just before my 19th birthday we called it quits and i became very sexually active with different guys outside of our small town. Last year i met an amazing guy that i fell head over heels for. Wanting to be the polar opposite from our friends i deliberately gave the impression that i was a sweet innocent young lady who was very reserved. It's been over a year of dating this guy and I am now 22 years of age. I've been checked for STDS and VD and came out clean. My boyfriend and I are living together and deeply in love, but he still thinks I've only been with 5 guys including himself!!! When in reality my 'number' is around double that closer to 10 or 12!!! Yuck!! I know he doesn't care about my 'number' but i know he would care about my lie and revamping. He would never meet or run into any of the men I've been with, but I cant keep my secret anymore. Should i tell him the truth and how????
This is like how I'll never tell any of my girlfriends that I was a total whoremonger until the army banned prostitutes last year. whats to gain from telling him? nothing except honesty. now if you're one of those people who do that, well and good, whats his reaction going to be? the worst, judging by what you've said, is that he'll not trust you as much for a few days. me personally, it'd be an "oh, so thats how she learned to do that thing I like" moment. big deal, he'll get over it. about the only way you can piss a dude off in dealing with your other sex partners, is if he finds his chick in bed with another dude. then, is the moment when the girl wishes she hadn't gotten him that springfield XD 45 in the underwear drawer for his birthday.
enjoy the pancakes you won't be getting served in bed this sunday.
-gunner
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21/f
I'm frustrated with people thinking I am much older than I am. I feel like I'm still young and should be able to experience youth while I still can. However, there are a lot of fashions I like but am afraid to wear because they might be "too young" for me.
I was wondering: How do you know what is appropriate to wear for your age?
Should I be more daring so people know that I'm 21, and not 35?
sun dresses are always a classy move, with a nice small wicker purse and some sandals. its a fetish of mine, the world would be a better place if more girls wore sun dresses. and they're groovy no matter whats going on in the fashion world. mmmm.....hippie chicks....
good luck
-gunner
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ok. so me and my boyfriend can be in public and like kissing and hugging and holding and i always want to go farther and the way he handles me and kisses me and stuff always makes me wet. what can i do to make hhim hard besides like super obvious like grabbing him? i dont want to make it obvious i want to simply hint it. and i want to know why i get all hot and heavy and wet and stuff but he doesnt get hard. why is that? so someone please give me ideas.. thankyou
yes, gentlly brushing anything, though preferrably your ass or thigh against his crotch will do the trick. hell, grab his ass too.
-gunner
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after a guy comes in me it comes out when i stand up is it suppose to do that? does that happen to everyone?
also,i was having sex with a guy and i queefed it was really embaressing . do guys think that its disgusting?
god, I just had to answer, its like a train wreck, I can't look away! hahaha
not laughing at you, kid. thats the most awesomely hilarious question I've seen in a while. anyways, chicks who use donor sperm are told to lay on their backs and elevate their legs for a half hour after shooting it in. no wonder...
as far as queefing, that is hilarious, its like one of god's jokes on humanity, I'm not grossed out by queefing at all. but maybe you should start having your knight wear some rubber armor the next time you guys want to hear some queefing.
you're awesome.
-gunner
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19/m
Me and my girlfriend (18) have been going out for about 10 months. She wants to move at the end of the summer. While I originally told her im on board with it I have had feelings of not wanting to do this.. but I'm not sure what to do. We argue quite often but other times we are great but I feel like in the long run I would not be as happy. I have been feeling this way for about a month now but I have not been able to tell her this because I have needed time to confirm that this is truely the way i feel, and I feel incredibly horrible about it. A big problem that I see is that she never wants me to go on trips with just me and my friends, without her for a few days. I have tried twice to do so and she became extremely upset because I was going to leave for three days to go work on a friend's property and make money, and said that I don't love her as much as she loves me because she feels like no trip is worth taking without me, and that she is worried something could happen to me while I'm there if she isn't there. Both times I have ended up backing out of going and telling an excuse to my friend as to why I couldn't go. I feel like I can't hang with just me and my friends as much anymore because if I do she will be upset. Much of what I feel that I want to do during the summer I feel that I can't because she wouldn't want to do them or want me to do them, and I am starting to feel restricted and controlled. If I am going anywhere where there might be a more attractive girl than her she does not trust me. While I have brought up all of these issues in the past she says that I don't understand and that I should just not want to go on trips anymore because it is immature and hurting her, and that if I loved her as much as I say I do I would just understand and not want to go on them anymore. The more I change to prevent her emotional bouts the more i feel imprisoned.. I am not sure what to do because I love her very much and we have talked about having a future together. While I feel like I want her to change, I know that she is stubborn and feels that she is right in this, so I'm stuck on what I want or need to do... she also has anxiety problems which is a probable reason as to why she acts this way, and does not have really any close friends at all. I love this girl, and if I end up breaking up with her it would be the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I am afraid of confrontation and seeing her cry or the thought of never feeling her close to me again. This is my first love, my first everything really, and I have never had this happen before... I am stuck and unsure of what to do. If you took the time to read all of this, I deeply appreciate you. Im sorry it was so long. I'm just feeling desperate for help right now.
yeah... dude.... the only way you're going to get her to stop that kind of nonsense is to just say in the middle of one of her tantrums "alright, well I'll see you in a few days. love you dear."
and just walk on out of the conversation, turn off your cell phone, and have a great time. and no offense , but its like training a puppy, behavior that is not wanted is not to be tolerated, pissing in the house earns a nose in piss, a smack on the ass, and a day out in the yard. before she moves into your turf, she needs to know not to be running your life. so for one weekend, load the truck up with fishing gear, beer and some buddies, and say the hell with her for two days. she'll either get the message, or be really pissed, if she's still pissed, do it again. if she still doesn't get it, tell her that she's not running your life, and that she'll need to learn to deal with it if she moves in, and do it again. you obviously like this chick, but your life is yours. sure she's supposed to be your best friend, but I'm not calling him telling him he needs to hang out this weekend, I ask him if he wants to drink some beer and play Xbox. if he's got shit to do, he's got shit to do, and thats what single player missions are for. clingy needy girls may be cool chicks, but they're still clingy and needy. get her used to you having better shit to do than cuddle and watch chick flicks, or she'll walk all over you in your own house. and besides, crying is a natural reaction that chicks have to get attention, and more importantly, their way.
I hope it works out for you dude.
-gunner
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will a yeast infection go away on its own
this isn't like an oil change on a car. I'm pretty sure if I had yeast growing on me I'd have a doctor look at it.... sorry, I just thought of the primus CD title "sailing the seas of cheese" god, I'm sorry... go hit up the drug store, vagisil or something....
-gunner
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Do guys really care whether or not girls have pimples? I don't have a lot, just small ones on my forehead. I always feel uncomfortable when I don't have makeup on because I feel as if a guy is just absolutely appalled. I don't want anyone to think that I'm unhygienic or anything. Maybe it's just because of my age. Guys don't really care about some pimples, do they? (Again, mine aren't massive and red. But they're there.) I just need reassurance. I also have some red spots from previous acne (again, I use makeup to cover it up).
you should see me after a week of wearing camo paint and sweating. I honestly don't care too much. if they were huge boils, that would probably classify as a complete turn off. with your situation, guys probably don't even notice, unless your skin is really shiny and then its easy to spot like lint on a mirror. as long as you don't attract attention to them, you're fine.
-gunner
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hi. i just wanted to say your advice is pretty straight foward and the no nonsense type which is cool. i wnat to know what is it like being in the war? i see the army wives show but i can never get the full sense of what it's like. you might say i should try and join the army so i can see for myself but i am way too sensitive and i might not be able to handle such an experience. i want to know the ups and downs of being a soldier. good luck with the war!
the ups: I've fired every weapon from the M9 pistol to the AT-4 anti tank rocket to the 120mm mortar, my paycheck is nearly 100% profit, meals are free, housing's free, healthcare's free, I live in germany, been to seven foreign countries on two continents, and I've fought and won against a worthy adversary in several battles.
the downs: losing friends, being emotionally and physically battered, starving, losing control of your life, not being able to have a stable relationship, and being considered bat-shit crazy by most people you meet.
I'm proud to have done many of the things I've done, but war takes a lot out of people. every day, I woke up and watched the sun rise and thought, this may be the day that I die, and then as the sun goes down, I'd wonder if I'd be alive to see the next sunrise. Thats not healthy by any means, but as long as you're ready for whatever comes, its okay. sort of fatalistic, but you can never be sure when the taliban would attack, and no matter what you do, if there's a bullet or RPG with your name on it, then its just your time. and there are fates worse than death.
it all comes down to one thing really, if you can sit down next to a dog thats badly wounded, look it in the eye, and after about a minute, pick up a rifle and shoot it in the face to put it out of its misery, you're capable of doing what I do. and yes, I've had to do that several times.
-gunner
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I just got my first car and I totally love it but I don't really know anything about cars. I know that from time to time there is work that needs to be done to them like oil changes (and more than that, I'm sure).
Anyway, how do I know when my car needs an oil change?
I know this is not the answer you're looking for, but I think you might be interested.
okay, here's how I do mine: go down to the auto parts store, grab some of the engine oil in the purple containers my engine takes 10w 30, check your owner's manual for the right type of oil for your car, or better yet, buy a chilton's manual, it shows you how to fix anything on your specific model of car, I just changed my brake rotors without anything but that manual and a pile of tools. anyways, so you go back down to your house and put your car on jacks(if needed) and slide yourself under the car with an adjustable wrench, and a large drip pan, your car has around a gallon or more oil in it, so be prepared. once you get under the engine, there should be a lone bolt on the bottom of the engine, start with the adjustable, get that thing loose, then undo it the rest of the way with your fingers. once you're almost fully backed out, get that drip pan in place to catch the oil. back it out the rest of the way and don't lose that damn bolt. once the oil has completely drained, unscrew the oil filter (really hard to miss, its a little cylinder on the underside of the car about four inches in diameter and about six inches long). and set it aside so it won't drain oil everywhere. then replace the filter with a new one(shoulda put that up at the top, sorry), and screw that thing in as tight as you can. replace the bolt, then start filling the engine, your manual will tell you how much to put in. check for leaks, fix any, stick the dipstick in to double check the level, and you're set. the oil will have to be disposed of properly of course, but self reliance is the point of this excercise. there's one thing I've learned about oil changes, is that the car will tell you if its gone too long without an oil change. the engine will make a light clitter clatter sound, this is from the oil getting too thick and not lubricating the mechanism thats opening and closing the valves at the top of your engine. if you let it go on too long it will damage your engine permanently. the purple bottle engine oil is made for high performance, and I've noticed a nice change in gas mileage from using it.
enjoy your new car, never hesitate to tinker with it, and get a Chilton's manual, its the picture book for adults, and it will tell you just about everything you need to know to fix your car, except things that require serious know-how and special tools.
-gunner
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I really want to have a special song with my boyfriend and he thinks it's a neat idea too. We both tried to think of neat songs to "have" together but we're not coming up with much, really.
We've thought about:
"The dance" by Garth Brooks
"You're still the one" by Shania Twain
"Remember when" by Alan Jackson
"Holding you holds me together" by Gretchen Wilson
"I'll Look After You" by The Fray
"Truly Madly Deeply" by Savage Garden
"Lovesong" by The Cure
...but nothing is really sticking as a great song to have together. :\
Does anyone have a good suggestion for our song together?
The cranberries came out with some good stuff back in the 90s, I just found them after over a decade of searching for them (heard them on a tv commercial in 1996). "dreams" and "linger" are pretty damn good.
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Are energy drinks really bad for you? What are the health risks, if so?
2491 is right, I've seen two dudes go down from kidney stones because of those things, one had to have part of his kidney removed. my buddy jesse was being an idiot and drinking nothing but red bull shots. it took four days to give him thumbnail sized kidney stones. thats bad juju.
-gunner
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Ok here's my problem. When I first buy socks they usually feel soft, flexible and all of that...but after washing them they begin to feel tighter when I put them on and don't feel as soft as a brand new pair of socks. It's almost like they get thinner, too! Is it because I use a washing machine? Is it the detergent I use? Is there something I can do about it?
it basically comes down to three things:
1: quality of the sock
2: amount of wear they're getting
3: detergent and fabric softner
socks are not created equal, if you're going hiking(or in my case, a long combat patrol), you want some heavy duty socks. walking around at work or school, you can do with white regular socks.
I buy my patrol socks from Bass pro shops, I had six pairs of them last me through from april 2007 till now, they're still soft, still awesome, and its because they're ten bucks a pair. I've never maintained them with any softeners whatsoever, and I've on occasion had to wear the same pair for a week straight (battalion operation in a place called the To'Chee valley, nowhere near a washing machine). my white socks, I replace them every couple of months, because I only use them for running, and its cheaper to replace them. if you want quality, buy quality. maintaining them and not using them as often as I have will probably make the socks I've had for two years last you a decade. depends whether you can deal with forest green socks too.
-gunner
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Is there any way to make your feet smaller?
I have big feet and it is hard to find cute shoes that fit right. My feet are probably done growing or whatever so I don't know if I can, like, lose weight in them or do some sort of feet exercises to make them shorter. I know it sounds stupid but I thought maybe... ?
Anyone know or am I just out of luck?
If there isn't a way to actually make them smaller is there a way to make them LOOK smaller? Certain styles of shoes or something..?
to be frank, you're screwed, sweet pea. the only culture that even attempted to address this issue mutilated generations of their women. there are usually stores that sell shoes for women with "big" feet. I personally have no problem with shoe size, probably because the only women with feet as big as mine are in the WNBA. lemme guess, you're a size ten or something in the vicinity. thats still nowhere near as big as a guy's foot. look to hell with getting smaller feet, your body has deemed them as necessary for propulsion, and last I checked, NAPA auto parts doesn't sell those. course, you could always try a pair of heels, the mystery of how girls walk in heels is half the fun of watching a girl wear heels. so dudes will be looking no matter what.
-gunner
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