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when someone is a camera whore, does that mean that they're really pretty and would be perfect for pictures or a slut that takes dirty pics of themselfs? I see many nice looking people that takes pictures but people would call them cam whore and it sounds mean it me..
It's not really a mean term. It just means someone likes to take tons & tons of pictures of themself - dirty or not.
I am 14 female my boyfriend's 15. And we have been together for 7 months on tuesday. I love him so much and he loves me. And if please dont mention how im to young to be in love blah blah blah i dont wanna hear it please. But we have done everything except for have sex. that's the only thing. He bought condoms we know how to do it. We have a safe and comfortable place. I want to do it but im getting scared. We are most likely going to do it next sunday. I am getting cold feet, but i dont wanna tell him that because im afraid he'll never do it. When im with him i want to so badly but when i am alone and can think without intruptions i get frightened. Like for example im worrying about if i get pregnant, we arent even supposed to be doing it anyways. Is it normal for me to be afraid, not just of getting pregnant but just nervous?
It's normal to feel a little nervous about your first time because you don't know what to expect. But if you're scared & having cold feet, you're not mentally ready. I'm glad you are giving some time to think about the consequences unlike most people who make the mistake by acting on hormones. You may love him, but if you aren't ready to deal with whatever consequences may come along, you aren't ready to have sex. If you want my honest opinion: you're only 14. It's natural to have those urges to have sex when he's around. But if you have time alone to actually think about it & it doesn't sound like such a good idea, it probably isn't. When you're ready to have sex, you might be a little nervous, but never afraid. From what you have said, I'm almost positive you aren't ready to make such a big step. But it's your decision & if you want to go for it, protect yourself. Don't just use a condom alone. Get on birth control as well so you have 2 methods of protection. I hope you make the smart decision though. If you don't, you might end up regretting it later in the future.
does anyone know where i can get a part-time job? i'm 15 yrs old, i live in new york. Or, does anyone have any ideas where 15 year olds could work, like in a library or something? thanks
When you're under 16, your options are limited. Places like the grocery store & food places are your only options.
where can i buy short board shorts for girls? thanks
Pacsun, Quicksilver, Zumiez.
me and my bf are both 13 in 7th grade. we were going out last year we broke up over the summer and 2 monthes ago we got back 2gether. he keeps telling me about how were so in love and were getting married and all of that. and usually im like so in love like he says we both are but a lot i feel like hes just using me. he always tells me please dont break up with me id die but i think its all a game how can i tell? because im really getting sick of feeling like its not real.
You're 13! Even if you know what love is..you should not be talking about marriage so soon. You should be flirting shamelessly & having fun being young! You have plenty of time to worry about those things. & if you're not happy in a relationship, then either fix it or move on. But you can never take relationships at your age very seriously. Go have fun, girl.
hey so im really wondering if im doing the right thing here. ok so i used to drink ... for like 6 months but during this time one of my friends (amanda) found out about it and was like i won't be your friend anymore if you drink.. so i didn't stop immediatley but now i've stopped.. but she still doesn't beleive me/has moved on to other friends so i've basically lost her. i also have this other friend (christy) who i drank with and we were really close but now that i dont drink anymore she just hangs around this other girl all the time and never with me... except at school because she hates amanda and all the girls at the lunch table we used to sit at with amanda (because amanda told these girls that we drink and now they dont look at us the same anymore) so me and chrisrty just sit alone together at lunch (basically cuz i have no one else to sit with) oh and then i have this other friend (liz) who i had been really good friends with for the past two years but i kind ditched her because amanda/christy were more fun... and i would go back to hanging out with HER except she kind of makes me feel uncomfortable because she told me she was gay so yeah. so now i have basically no friends because i've lost all of them from both crowds... i'm starting to wonder if i made the right choice by stopping drinking since it hasnt gotten me anywhere and it used to make me feel better about my life when i did.. any advice? please?
In my eyes, quitting drinking was the right choice. What you do is your own decision & you should do whatever makes you happy. But just because you are in a position where you're finding out who your real friends are, does not mean you should go back to your old drinking habits just to hang out with your friends before. If you have to drink to be socially accepted with them again, then they aren't really your friends. I can guarantee you almost everyone will end up in a position where friends will drift apart & you're left in the center; I know I have. When you're out of high school, you'll realize what things were important & what weren't. The important thing is to make something of yourself & become friends with people who will accept you for who you are & will love you unconditionally. I suggest sitting with your friend Liz. If she was your really good friend, that's all that should matter. & if you ever feel uncomfortable around her, just tell her & I'm sure she'll understand. So far she seems to be the only one who hasn't been a horrible friend.
How long do you typically makeout for?
Because my bestfriend told me whenever she sees me makeout it seems like it's really really short.
Thanks :]
There's really no good answer for this because it all depends on the people. Typically, I'd say ATLEAST 10 minutes. I know with me, it can usually last more than half an hour. We're not down eachothers throats the entire time (we do come up for air! ha), but that's about how long I'd say. (& yeah it seems really short because time flies when you're having fun.) :)
everytime me and my boyfriend go places, i always drive, and either ill pay for everything, or we'll split the cost, we've been going out for a while, and its always been like this, it's starting to really get on my nerves. what should i do? he's really senstive so i don't wanna be really harsh.
If you've been going out with him for awhile, you should be able to discuss this type of stuff with him. Maybe he simply doesn't have a lot of money & has other things to put money towards. Maybe he rather spend money on priorities than luxuries. Don't feel offended. There are plenty of things you can two can do that don't involve your wallets or any kind of argument about who pays. Have a movie night, cook eachother dinner, go to a lake beach, party, or park. Make an agreement with him that when you do decide to do something that involves money, then both of you will equally split up the cost.
When should I start looking for prom dresses and trying them on? Because it's almost February and my prom is in May. I want to start looking but I have and will be loosing more weight.
I'd suggest a week or two before prom.
I'm confused, whats the difference between kissing and making out?
It's pretty much the same thing except making out involves feeling/touching/rubbing & more tongue.
last week we had a history quiz on the computer (like joepardy but with history) and i wrote down some dates about the civil war on my hand (just in case). so beore the quiz i studied it and i was talking to my firneds about how i wrote it on my hand for studying purposes. then during the quiz i never looked at it. then the next day in history i was the only one left in class and my history teacher cme up to me and asked me to show him my hands. so i showed him and it had all washed off by then and he asked me if i had anything on them the day before and i said no. then the next day in science my science teacher told everyone that we weren't supposed to write on ourselves and we would get a d-hall if we would.
does this mean my history teacher knows i was cheating or was he just following the rule to not write on ourselves? hes always liked me and chose me for student of the month but im not sure, help please!
He either knew you did or the suspicion was enough for him to bring up the subject.
im 13.i went to 3rd.is this slutty?
Your decisions are your own, but "slutty" isn't the right word unless you do this carelessly with multiple guys.
There is NO ONE in my school worth dating. I keep reading guy's questions on here about "what should I get my girlfriend" and stuff, and it's driving me crazy! I want a nice guy... where can I meet someone at? BESIDES MY SCHOOL!
Thanks.
I think most of my friends were made through other friends. So see if your friends know any guys from other schools. Parties or any kind of local events like concerts are another option. Just don't try to hard to meet someone. Be yourself & you'll meet someone when you least expect it. :)
I'm a female, size 11 shoe, and about 5 foot 8 inches tall. I need some low dress shoes in my size for the winter formal. I am going with a guy who is about 2 inches shorter than I am, and he is scared to death that i'll tower over him. I need to find shoes fast!
How about trying a pair of flats? Normally, they are just considered casual. But depending on what kind you get, they can be worn as formal.
Or maybe try a pair such as these:
http://www.bakersshoes.com/images/us/local/products/detail/03321341_WHITE.jpg
My best friend invited four girls, all who i'm friends with, over to her house right in front of my face while I was talking to them during lunch. She didn't even invite me even though I was standing right there talking to all of them. I was confused, so I asked her if I was invited and she said, "I don't care. You can come if you want. I knew you'd end up coming anyways." And she said that I always invite myself over, when I don't. Normally at lunch I always say, "Hey, do you wanna do something after school today?" or whenever I get off the bus I say that. But, she always starts walking to her house, so I just follow her..I didn't want to get in a fight over it, so I just said sorry even though I didn't do anything. Now she made me feel really bad, mad, & I'm not happy at all. I'm trying to just forget about it though. Anyone have any ideas of something FUN I can do this weekend?
You're right, it doesn't appear that you did anything wrong. You're her "friend" & it's kind of rude to invite a bunch of girls over in front of you. If she didn't want you coming over, she could atleast have the courtesy to ask when you weren't right there. You've apologized & if she's still going to make you feel bad or excluded, then maybe she's not your friend. Atleast not a very good one. You can either talk to her about it & tell her you have no intentions of being rude & "inviting yourself over" or following her around all the time. Just give her some space for now & in the meantime, try to find some friends who will include you & make you happy. This weekend? Have some "me time" - get a pedicure, pick up a hobby, rent a movie or do something you normally wouldn't get to do (or have time for) with your friends. Or maybe hang out with someone you haven't seen in awhile. Just try to enjoy your weekend & not worry about anything. :)
i was thinking about my pasts relationships, and they're all with boys i didn't know really well. like, we were "companions", but right now, i like this guy who is like one of my best guy friends. and it feels completely different. so i was wondering. would you rather go out with a companion or a best friend and which do you think lasts longer and is just a better relationship?
I believe you'll have a better relationship with your best friend. Also, in my opinion, I think your boyfriend/girlfriend should posess the qualities that a best friend would have. You need to be able to trust them & be comfortable sharing things you wouldn't normally share with just "companions." The longer you know someone before having a relationship with them, the more you know about them (obviously). But I think that by knowing more about them, you're able to know them on a deeper level & know what kind of person they are to actually connect with them. By going out with someone you hardly know, you're almost wasting your time trying to figure out what kind of person they are & whether there is some kind of connection ON TOP of trying to make this "relationship" work. To keep it simple: in order to have a good relationship, you need to know the person before commiting to them.
would it be rude if i broke up with someone in a letter?
I'm not sure if "rude" is the right word for it. But it's much more mature to do it in person.
14/f i really want to get my belly button pierced, but how do i convince my parents to let me? and also where can i get it done and how much will it cost?
1. Research the procedures, the cleaning process & facts that might convince them that it's completely safe & non-permanent.
2. To find places, look for local piercing & tattoo places by going on yahoo.com or looking in the yellow pages.
3. For prices, call those places you find or visit their websites. My guess for a belly button piercing would be $50 on average. But it all depends on where you go.
my boyfriend and i are thinking about having sex for the first time in the near future. i don't really have access to getting birth control because my mom would flip out and i don't have anyone who could take me to a health center type thing to get some.
my question is, is a condom effective enough to use without me being on birth control. will it be safe?? and is it true that there is only a 2% chance of getting pregnant with a condom?
According to plannedparenthood.org: "Of 100 women whose partners use condoms, about 15 will become pregnant during the first year of TYPICAL use. Only two women will become pregnant with PERFECT use." Since this is your first time having sex, chances are..the condom won't be put on properly or put to its "perfect use." My opinion? Whether it's 15% or 2%, the chances are still there. & if you want to be fully protected, you need a backup method with birth control. You have a couple options:
1.) You said your mom would flip out. Since discussing your sexual activity is completely out of the question, there are ways to get around it so you can still get your hands on birth control. You can bring up the subject of with her & tell her it's proven to help cramps & heavy periods. Tell her you would like to schedule an appointment with the gynecologist to get on it because you think it'd help your time of the month. Maybe even throw in the fact that your "friend" has seen improvement on it.
2.) If you have absolutely NO ONE to take you to the health center, catch a bus or walk if it's not ridiculously far. If you can't jump on a bus by yourself to go to your local Planned Parenthood, then maybe you're too young to be having sex in the first place.
& if you can't take the extra step to protect yourself, I don't think you should be having sex either.
You can stick to condoms, but since they aren't always 100% effective, I would wait till you are on birth control before making that decision to go for it.
I lied to my doctor when he asked me if i was sexually active i told him i wasn't. He did a UTI test, and it came back positive, but he said there was blood in my urine. He repeatedly asked me if i was a virgin, and i kept saying yes. (im not) Does that mean i could have an STD ? or is something serious going on? And is it impossible to get an enternal STD even if you use a condom everytime?
1.) A UTI is a Urinary Tract Infection, not an STD. I cannot tell you what your test results could be because I am not a gynecologist. But you can call the office (or wait till they call with your results).
2.) Condoms aren't 100% effective, meaning it is still possible to get an STD even if you wear protection everytime.
3.) You need to be completely honest when your doctor asks you questions. I know you said you didn't want your parents to find out. But this is your health. Whatever you discuss between you & your doctor is kept confedential unless you have a life threatening situation. Otherwise, it's illegal for your doctor to discuss your history or any information shared during your visit. Next time, be honest. That way your doctor can do the appropriate testing & catch things right away if you were ever to have anything.