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cheep boyfriend...
everytime me and my boyfriend go places, i always drive, and either ill pay for everything, or we'll split the cost, we've been going out for a while, and its always been like this, it's starting to really get on my nerves. what should i do? he's really senstive so i don't wanna be really harsh.
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sounds like a cheapass. then again does he have a decent job and make money? i mean if you make more than him, or if he has zero income i could see why he'd do this. but in this case i dunno. i guess your best bet is to pull the old "oops forgot my wallet" trick and make him pay sometime then discuss things with him later. he might be pissed a bit but dude's gotta learn somehow.
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If you've been going out with him for awhile, you should be able to discuss this type of stuff with him. Maybe he simply doesn't have a lot of money & has other things to put money towards. Maybe he rather spend money on priorities than luxuries. Don't feel offended. There are plenty of things you can two can do that don't involve your wallets or any kind of argument about who pays. Have a movie night, cook eachother dinner, go to a lake beach, party, or park. Make an agreement with him that when you do decide to do something that involves money, then both of you will equally split up the cost.
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He is not that sensative. He is using you because he know he can. If he has a job he should be able to pay every once and a while. You should ask him "how come you never pay for me" in a nice way, and if that doesnt work, continue spliting the check.
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Are you on equal footing, financially? Would his paying for part of dates mean that he had to choose between either not going with you or not paying the rent? Do you make more money or live at home to save money while he's responsible for living expenses? If not, and you're on the same footing, I'd just mention to him that you like him a lot, but the dates are becoming a financial burden. If he wants to continue to eat out, etc., he'll have to be the host (pay the bill). With my boyfriends, I paid one time and he paid the next. If one of us paid twice in a row, it wasn't a big deal. We ate at Taco Bell a few times or made dinners at our apartments or had picnics in the park. If he's someone you can have a future with, he should be someone with whom you can talk money.
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