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my boyfriend and i are thinking about having sex for the first time in the near future. i don't really have access to getting birth control because my mom would flip out and i don't have anyone who could take me to a health center type thing to get some.
my question is, is a condom effective enough to use without me being on birth control. will it be safe?? and is it true that there is only a 2% chance of getting pregnant with a condom?
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Some schools offer birth control in their nurses offices. You do not always need an adult with you at a birth control health clinic. See if you can get a friend to take you. I don't know how old you and your boyfriend are but he needs to help out if he wants some.As far as birth control, I had 3 kids when I was using the pill. When I was using nothing I had 2 miscarriages, I get on the pill and have a lil girl, then I had twin boys before my daughter was even 2. There are a lot of factors that make the pill lose its effectiveness, do you smoke? are you overweight, even just 10 pounds over the reccomended weight for your height? These are factors that make the pill less effective. If you do get birth control use a condom also. He could also pull out, with the birth control, and condom. There are other things you two can do without actually having sex, have you thought about that?
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According to plannedparenthood.org: "Of 100 women whose partners use condoms, about 15 will become pregnant during the first year of TYPICAL use. Only two women will become pregnant with PERFECT use." Since this is your first time having sex, chances are..the condom won't be put on properly or put to its "perfect use." My opinion? Whether it's 15% or 2%, the chances are still there. & if you want to be fully protected, you need a backup method with birth control. You have a couple options:
1.) You said your mom would flip out. Since discussing your sexual activity is completely out of the question, there are ways to get around it so you can still get your hands on birth control. You can bring up the subject of with her & tell her it's proven to help cramps & heavy periods. Tell her you would like to schedule an appointment with the gynecologist to get on it because you think it'd help your time of the month. Maybe even throw in the fact that your "friend" has seen improvement on it.
2.) If you have absolutely NO ONE to take you to the health center, catch a bus or walk if it's not ridiculously far. If you can't jump on a bus by yourself to go to your local Planned Parenthood, then maybe you're too young to be having sex in the first place.
& if you can't take the extra step to protect yourself, I don't think you should be having sex either.
You can stick to condoms, but since they aren't always 100% effective, I would wait till you are on birth control before making that decision to go for it.
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Condoms are 85% effective average, but chances are if it's your first time, it could get put on wrong or something. Birth control is 99% effective, have a friend drive you to planned parenthood or wherever, but please don't take your chances with condoms.
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When used correctly, condoms are up to 96% effective in preventing pregnancy, and if it breaks you can always get morning after birth control from Planned Parenthood. The question you have to ask yourself in the event that the condom breaks and you can't get morning after birth control is, what would you do if you got pregnant? I'm not saying don't have sex, I would be a hypocrite to say that, just be careful and think about it.
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Most of the time condoms break. I always thought you could depend on them by the commercials (from what they say) but you can't. But I was being a little naiive. In my opinion, they shouldn't be permitted to say those things on commercials about condoms because they're responsible for fooling so many people for money. But that's out of the question: so anyway, even if the 2% chance is true, always remember that, that 2% is still there. It can take affect within any time. And if your mom found out she probably wouldn't trust you and you don't want that right? You don't want her to be disppointed right? I'm not trying to make you feel guilty because you didn't have sex with him yet from what you've said I'm just trying to help you think it through. Hope I helped!
Do the right thing <3
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