okay this is a continuation from my previous question so your going to have to read my previous question first before you answer this one...okay so i decided that i was going to tell my crush how i feel...i went up to him and i told him that i needed to talk to him and he started to smile and said: about what? then this guy interrupted us so i didn't get to tell him then i told my friend about it and she said that i should go tell him but i was scared so then she went up to him and told him that i wanted to talk to him then he said: i'm coming soon...but he never came and from that day, he just stopped talking to me...but i noticed that he's everywhere i go these days, he's by my locker area often nowadays and he stares at me in the hallway when i'm talking to my friends...i don't understand
You should try talking to him one more time. Don't randomly go up to him at school and say, "Yo. I have a crush on you." That's too aggressive and puts him on the spot in a really bad environment. School isn't a good environment to tell people you like them because all of their friends are there judging them. Don't say, "I have something to tell you" either. And definitely, definitely do not have any of your friends talk to him again. That will just make you look obsessive and immature.
Make one more attempt to talk to him, but this time try to find his MySpace page and start up a chat on there or if you get total privacy at any time during school, talk to him. But do not tell him you like him in your first conversation. Don't even hint around about it. He'll get the picture. Wait until you guys talk regularly before you tell him you have a crush on him. And don't say "I have a crush on you" when you do tell him. Tell him that you like him. "Crush" is an elementary school thing.
If your final attempt somehow doesn't work, don't try again. If he likes you, you'll know about it. If he doesn't respond well (or at all) just try to move on.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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Me and my ex broke up a while back because "he got bored". all we ever did was go to the movies or hang out at one of our houses. we are recently talking again and i heard he's been telling people he just wants it to be more interesting than just doing movies or hangin out at houses. Of course there is also going out to eat,, but we usually are together longer than 2 hrs when we do hang out.. but not always. Anyways, i am needing some advice of fun things to do with him. I really love him and want to keep him interested. We dont have a whole lot to do here, but there HAS to be something we can do here. We have alsoi gone bowling and stuff.. but i'm kinda looking for something more out there,, sweet, romantic, that kind of thing i guess. Thanks! i ratee.!
It sounds to me like you guys need to start doing things based on similar interests. If you both like basketball, why not go to the park and shoot around? If not, you could always just go to the park and have a picnic. (swings and merry-go-rounds never get old :p) Rollerskating, laser tag, and golfing are also some fun things you could do. My ex boyfriend and I liked to aimlessly wander around town for hours. We would just walk around and talk. Observe people and see different things. It always sparks creativity to see the world around you in action. At night we liked to go outside and look at the sky. Night walks are always fun too. (As long as you live in a safe area) There are plenty of simple things you could do like that. Summer is nearing so your local pool will probably be opening shortly. (Assuming you live in the U.S.) Swimming is usually fun. Instead of staying in the house and watching movies, see a movie in theater next time. The surround sound and big screen makes any movie better.
Hope this helps or at least sparks a couple ideas!
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i have this friend, N. shes on medication for depression and goes to see a theropist once every week or something. her mom is an alcoholic, and that being said, N drinks and smokes pot mostly because her mom wouldnt like it. her mom also emotionally abuses her and yells at her all the time, and their level of communication is -10. N sometimes gets on my nerves, for instance: she'll call herself a junkie because she took a sleeping pill and liked the effect. she'll call herself a stoner because she'd smoke a little weed every night for a week and get kind of high, and actually thinks shes addicted to it. and she'll call herself a slut just because she made out with someone she wasnt dating. she tries to be all these things that shes not, just to get on her moms nerves, or just to go against her wishes.
and usually when she does this, im very cold to her and give her short replies to her questions and stay mad at her for a while.
well, tonight, i guess it all broke loose. she took 5 shots earlier before going to church to see her best friend, S. S and N have been best friends for a long time, and they both come from disfunctional families and get along great and always have fun together. N's mom doesnt like S because she thinks shes a bad influence on her daughter, and therefore wont N see her. N has been upset about this for a long time, and her relationship with S has gone down the drain because of it. they still talk, but they arent best friends anymore. N had a fight with her mom earlier and texted me about it and i was still mad at her from something stupid she said earlier, so i wasnt there for her when things were going bad. next thing i know, N is texting me, telling me "goodbye" and saying she loves me and that shes sorry for everything. we had just started texting, so i was confused as to why she wanted to say bye...
i called her up and she was bawling her eyes out and was about to kill herself. i offered to ask my parents to come and get her, but she said it'd just make things worse with her mom. i didnt know what else to do! i couldnt give her any advice, and my mind just went blank. all i could tell her was to not do anything she'd regret, and that i love her. i made her promise she wouldnt OD on anything, and we hung up. ive been kicking myself in the ass for this for hours. i dont know what else to do.
what can i say to make her feel better? all her friendships have gone to hell because of her mom and her mom is ruining her life and i dont know what to do or say to make her feel better. i just feel like a bad friend because friends are supposed to help eachother, but i cant help her! what do i do?!?!?
*sorry this is so long, but it was a long story..
It sounds like your friend is crying out for attention and not finding it anywhere. It can be annoying when she's saying those things, that's totally reasonable to think that. It probably sounds to you like she's bragging. It sounds like she's cutting herself down in order to get attention. "If people think I'm a slut, a stoner, a junkie, they'll see how much personal turmoil I'm in and someone will help me. Someone will see what's going on and be there for me."
I really think the biggest thing your friend needs right now is a friend. Her confidence is obviously very low and her home life is getting to her. The next time she says she's a junkie or a slut say, "N, I really don't like when you say things like that. Don't cut yourself down that way because you're better than that." As the person below me said, make sure you let her know that you don't like that she's doing drugs.
Tell her that you are there for her no matter what, that she can talk to you whenever she wants, and that you believe things will get better. You need to stay strong and positive for your friend's sake.
You didn't mention her mother saying that she wasn't allowed to hang out with you. If she is allowed to hang out with you, plan a sleepover. Watch some movies, pig out, laugh and gossip. All the things normal teenagers do. (I'm assuming you're in your teen years.)
Doing this will make her feel like there is some calm in her life. You need to be the calm rock for her. Someone that is stable that she can come to for support. You'll see her reciprocating the same acts. She'll start being there for you more and wanting you to share your problems with her too.
Hope this helps, and don't beat yourself up too badly. Understanding why she's saying these things will make them seem much less annoying.
Darby(:
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okay so i know that you can't technically make someone fall back in love with you, it just happens...but what can you do to help it? if you dated someone for like almost a year and they say feelings changed...well if feelings can change then they can change again right? is there anythingg i can do? proms coming up and im going with my ex thanks so muchh
All you can do at this point is be yourself. Let your ex know how you feel, let him know that you want him back, and leave it at that. Don't be clingy, possessive, or pushy. This will just be annoying and make him not want to get back with you at all. Your first sentence was correct, you can't make someone fall back in love with you. If he has stated that his feelings have changed, the chances of them changing back are slim. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. You deserve someone that wants to be with you. Pushing your ex back into a relationship with you will only lead to more pain. Give him his space and time to think about things. All you can do is leave him knowing that you love him and that you want him back. From that point on, it's his decision to make. You can't make that decision for him (although it would be nice, eh? :p)
Just give him his time. If he decides that he wants to be with you again, that has to be his decision or it won't be 100% pure and truthful. If some time passes and he is still not wanting to get back together, it's time for you try to move on. Keep your eyes and mind open for new relationships. It will be hard at first, but with time, you'll get back on your feet.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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18/F
I have noticed that everyone has their own little ways of soaking up attention when they lack it in their childhood or something, for instance if they do not get enough attention from their parents or something some people might feel the need to wear really extravagant clothes, some people do a certain activity that gets them attention, some people behave badly... etc; well, I personally for some odd reason find this in injuries. Ever since I was little I have always really wanted to break an arm or a leg or something, something that people would pay attention to... Like I wouldn't care about the pain or anything, I just have always wanted somthing like that to happen. I know it is terribly wrong, I know that some people really suffer from that kind of stuff, but for some reason I just can't stop... Recently I sprained my ankle pretty badly (for real) and I was on crutches for a few days, and I like REALLY didn't want for my leg to heal so soon. Sometimes I find myself hoping that I will somehow get in a car accident and get hurt or something... And like I said, I know that is TERRIBLY wrong, and i would never do anything like that to myself on purpose, but I just find the attention that I get for it so rewarding... haha, I know this probably sounds really weird... I just wish I knew a way to stop thinking like this, because obviously if something really bad really DID happen to me I would be pretty miserable...
thanks
You're right. You're lacking attention and have been for years, it seems. You need to understand the things that you can do to get positive attention. Not sympathy, but true proud attention. Getting good grades, going to college, getting an aesthetic hobby. All of these things can get you good, admirable attention. Sure, getting hurt would make people feel sorry for you, but wouldn't you rather people look up to you and be proud of you? I don't think you really want to be hurt. I know you're saying you want to get in a car accident and get a broken leg and whatnot. But that's not really what you want. You just want people to notice you, and being sick or in pain is the easiest way to do it. But if you do something truly great, like graduate college or do volunteer work, you'll see that positive attention is much more rewarding that sympathetic attention.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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so this guy and i have been together on & off, mostly on, since i was 15 & he was 16. now i'm 18 & he's 19. we're both still virgins and have only done things with each other. well we broke up in march but we're starting to kinda talk again and he really wants me back, i don't wanna lose him for good but at the same time after all the stress and hysteria from the last time we broke up i don't want to get back into a relationship either. i've been thinking lately though that i still want him to be the one i lose my virginity to because he's my first love and i know i wouldn't regret it. and he feels the same. the problem is that we're not together. a few days ago i was over at his house late and we fooled around but didn't go all the way. he never tries to because he respects me and we've talked about things like that several times so i know he wouldn't just do it. i honestly wouldn't really mind us not being together when i lose it to him, but how should i approach this? even though we're totally comfortable around each other and open to talk about anything, it'd be pretty awkward to just ask. and if i initiate it, he probably wouldn't go through with is until we had talked about it. so how should i approach this? any ideas/thoughts/input? thanks
You may feel like you can handle it now, but when it happens it could be a very different case. To make sure you're ready to lose your virginity to someone you're not dating, ask yourself some questions. How are you going to feel if you lose your virginity to him and next week he's dating someone else? How are you going to feel if he ends up wanting to be friends with benefits? Remember that you are broken up now and he has no obligations to be committed to you.
If you still think you want to go through with it, make sure you talk to him about it first. It may be awkward, but if it's what you really want, it must be talked about. Especially if he's going to not want to do it until you talk about it. Just say, "I can't imagine losing my virginity to anyone but you." Heavy hinting like that will get the topic into the open and he will get the idea soon enough.
My honest advice is that if you don't think you're going to date him again, don't lose your virginity to him.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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what are the implications of a 26 year old guy dating an 18 year old girl? i know its not illegal but is it okay, acceptable, could it ever work out? what if love was involved?
It all depends on the individual people. It works for some people. Others it doesn't. As the person below me said, most 18 year olds are at different points in their lives that 26 year olds. That doesn't go to say that you can't be supportive and understanding of where each other is at and continue to grow together, at different places. I don't think it's unacceptable. If you really care about the guy, give it a try.
Darby(:
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how did cavemen.,.,i mean cave-girls deal with their periods? like we have pads and tampons, what did they do. I have always wondered.
Rags. That's why people say now when a girl is acting snippy, "Jeez, someone's on the rag." They used cloth and just cleaned them after use.
Darby(:
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where can a 13 year old boy get a job at
It would be very hard for a thirteen year old to get a job for a company or business of any sort. Even fast food restaurants require you to be at least 15. Truthfully, it depends where you live.
But you could deliver newspapers, do lawn work, or help clean things like garages and attics for people in your community.
Darby(:
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basically i bought a "bomber" type jacket from topshop that is black grey and red (in case any of you have seen it).
it looks like those jackets american football jocks wear and give to their girlfriends after a game =)
the problem is i do not know what to wear it with.
all suggestions welcome.
Thanks!
It would probably actually look okay with anything. I would most likely wear it with skinnys and a tee shirt underneath.
Darby(:
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I found out that I have chlamydia. My doctor just called to tell me. I know it can be treated and so on. They also wanted to know my partners name. My bf and I broke up and I dont think I should give his name or information out about him. He doesnt even know that I have it. Also I dont even know if he is the one who has it. I looked it up and found out a lot about the disease. But my question is, how do i know which guy gave it to me. Obviously i am sexually active. and have had sex with three different guy. Can the doctor tell me when i got this disease or if i have had it for a while? I dont want to tell all three guys that i have it and they need to get tested is why. Thank You very much.
There is no way of knowing when you got it or who you got it from. You need to contact all three of your sexual partners and tell them to get tested. It could have happened at any time because chlamydia often shows no symptoms. If you don't tell them, they are going to keep going on not knowing that they have an STD. They will then spread it to their sexual partners, who will spread it to their sexual partners and on and on. Even though it can be treated with meds, if it goes untreated, it can have severe consequences. It will be hard and most likely embarrassing, but you need to tell all three of these guys what's up. (Especially if they were all three unprotected at any time) If they're not prepared to handle the consequences of sex, they shouldn't be having it. Don't blame solely yourself because you were all willing participants.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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My friend and I always have "queefing contests" and the other night we were all sitting around with friends, having some drinks - and she told me to queef - so I did. Now the guy I'm into won't talk to me. He's grossed out! WHY?
That's really gross to guys. Especially when girls randomly do that for fun. It even grosses me out, to be honest, ha. My friends were doing that at a party once and we all thought it was really awkward. That's just weird to guys and he's probably not comfortable with it. He most likely thinks you're immature now so he's not interested.
Darby
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Ok, so the title kinda gives it away. I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend (21) on off for 4 years. We have our 1 year anniversary (for this time round) next month.
I met this guy at work and OMG, I'm so drawn to him and I don't know why. He makes me laugh and makes work fun. He flirts majorly, all these lines rolling off his tongue, saying I bring out the worst in him. He makes me feel so good about myself and we joke and we are so on the same page. I feel like putty seriously. I dont make it obviously though lol.
I feel terrible. It took me by suprise, I've never remotely thought of anyone like that when i've been with my boyfriend. I love him.
Basically. Because I was so suprised by my lack of self control to distance myself for this guy at work, I text a friend. She's in a long-term relationship and I just asked whether she has ever liked anyone. I then told her about this guy and she told me that i'm only human and its what I do that counts.
Good advice I thought and I was going to mull it over. But then my boyfriend picked me up from work. I left my phone in my car (I KNOW RIGHT? HOW STUPID CAN I BE?) and he read my texts. He sends me romantic texts in the mornings and I keep the ones I like. He said he was just going to check which ones i kept so he could send ones that meant more to me.
He was really hurt. He cried and... It was a long night. It felt so stupid. The whole thing. This guy at work seemed to insignificant, you know? I told my boyfriend that I was pissed at him because I caught him reading my diary, and that i set the text-convo up with my friend and left the phone in his car on purpose to see if he would read my messages.
He believes me, sort of. I think he wants to. I feel terrible but believe me the truth isn't worth it. It would just make me feel less guilty and thats selfish. It would kill him. He's only upset because he's worried about losing me. And now he is the most insecure person I know.
He gets all upset and insecure when we dont have sex and he texts me a million times a day and hes always hugging me and kissing me and telling me how much i love him and this would be flattering but... I feel so suffocated. But I can't tell him I need space because he's so insecure.
I'm not gonna leave my boyfriend for this guy at work. I just want to be happy with my boyfriend, but at the moment I just seem to be happy with the other guy... *sigh* Help?
You and your boyfriend have been in a relationship for a very long time, especially for your age. You're just getting curious. It's completely natural. But, you do need to check these urges. Ask yourself how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. If you found flirtatious text messages back and forth from your boyfriend to another girl, what would you be feeling? Would you be insecure and hurt? I'm sure you would. This guy at work looks great right now because he's something new, fresh, and exciting. Write down all the reasons you love your boyfriend. Why did you start dating him? Why have you stayed with him for so long. He sounds extremely sweet (sending romantic texts every morning, crying because he's afraid he's going to lose you, not even being too angry about the texts, kissing and hugging you often). These are all positive things. There are plenty of girls that would cut their feet off to be in a relationship with a guy that is that sweet and caring. You need to remind yourself of how lucky you are.
You need to sort things through in your mind. It's not fair to your boyfriend to keep heavily flirting with your co-worker. It's okay to be friends with him, but the text messages must have been fairly bad to make your boyfriend cry, right? You need to get your self-control back. Hopefully once you remind yourself of all the good things your boyfriend does, these urges to flirt like crazy will stop.
If they don't and you feel like you're being suffocated and are ready to have a new relationship with this guy at work, do it 100%. Either be fully committed to your boyfriend, or leave him. It's not fair for you to be able to heavily flirt with other people if he can't.
But I really think you would regret it if you left your boyfriend for your co-worker.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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okay. so i am a 19 yr old girl and i've been with my boyfriend for 6 months. my ex, was my first boyfriend that i have been on and off with since i was 15. well the problem is he is really prideful.. i don't know another way to put it. he's the type of guy that never says sorry, or calls first, or buys you anything. well when we were about to get back together, i started talking to my (now) boyfriend because he had been hanging out with this other girl he claims is just a friend. so when my boyfriend asked me out i said yes. (with mixed feelings). well.. i've cheated on him with my ex twice and i know it's wrong but everytime i try to forget about him i can't. and i don't want to hurt my boyfriend, he says he loves me and i know it's the truth. whats worse is they (my ex and my boyfriend) used to be friends and my ex feels bad about the whole thing. my boyfriend doesn't know anything though, and anytime i think i should leave him for my ex, i feel really bad..i don't know what to do or who to ask for advice! who should i be with? can u really love two people at once? please help!
I agree with all three answers below. You need to take some time out of the picture to sort through your feelings. You're getting so tangled up because it's like you have to make decisions now, now, now. Without really having enough time to think things through. It's very stressful because you feel love for both of them. I think the reason you keep going back to your ex is because of your history together. Since you dated on and off for 4 years, you have a lot of memories and good times spent together. He's been your support system for the past four years (possibly longer from your additional info) and it's really difficult to let something like that go. You feel like you're going to be missing out either way you go.
What you need to do first, is tell your current boyfriend what has happened. Tell him about both times and tell him how you were feeling, emotionally, at the time of the cheating. He is undoubtedly going to be very hurt and angry, but he has the right to know. He will probably break up with you, but that's what you need for the time being.
Once this happens, take a step back. Think about all the pros and cons of each guy. Think about why you and your ex broke up in the first place. Think about why you and your current boyfriend started dating. Ask yourself if you can see yourself with your current boyfriend the same as you were with your ex (possibly better). Give yourself a chance to straighten things out emotionally. You're only nineteen. Don't be so hard on yourself and definitely don't make a rash decision. You have time.
If either of them really love you, they'll stick things out. If your current boyfriend does leave you and you decide you want him back, you have to understand that it's going to be a long, hard road. His trust in you is going to be completely broken, and trust is very hard to regain.
Just try to stay positive and be patient with yourself while you sort through your feelings.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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I'll warn you-i used a lot of detail in this semi-lengthy story...if you could let me know what you think...it would be great, thanks.
I'm an 18 year old girl...turning 19 in 3 days. I was at a party with one of my good guy friends and I met a wonderful guy...he is 30. We had a bit of an innocent makeout-fest and he gave me his number and told me to call/text him anytime. We texted off an on for the next week...then I went home for the weekend (i'm currently in college and am living 3 hours away.) he got ahold of me friday night and asked if i wanted to hang out. I ended up over at his place at about 1:30 am..because he asked if i could pick him up from the bar. We talked for quite a while-and in this time frame i ended up being really into this guy-we'll call him Shawn. There was no pressure to do anything more than simply talk-er hang out like normal friends do. I initiated a kiss...this simple kiss propelled things to be taken into his bedroom..and you all know what happened next. After we were done-he laid there with me..I was wrapped up super tight in his arms...it felt so right. I had to be home before day break-so I left not too long after. Before I left-we kissed...and I said "I really don't hope I have to regret this..." Shawn said- "you definitely don't." He also told me he was into me. And He stated the fact that he doesn't care what others think of hte age difference.
Ok...fast forward to saturday night.
Shawn sent me a text relatively early that asked what I was up to...we had a bit of a short conversation via text message (i know, its an effective form of communication...((note:sarcasm.))...) and he invited me over for movie night. During the first movie, he sat in a chair next to the couch that I sat on...he got up to change DVD's and nonchalantly came over and laid on my couch-his head on my lap. We watched the movie cuddled up on his couch... To me this seemed rather reassuring to me because it felt so right...so couple-esque.
Right?
I figured that rather than seeming like the needy-immature-never-really-hooked-up-one-night-stand kind of girl...that i would talk to him on monday.
I sent him a message monday evening...and he said he'd get ahold of me later that evening.
He called me monday night. He explained that he couldn't be on the phone for long because he left his charger at home (he works out of town) and that he needs his phone for work. He also said he would get ahold of me...
And thats where my story ends.
I don't quite know what to think...because... A) I could be being over-analytical and stupid because maybe he really is into me or B) I could be analyzing correctly:the fact that it simply was a one night stand.
Thanks again for taking the time to read this-because the whole situation is driving me insane and this feedback will help me deal.
It sounds like he's into you. If it were a one night stand, he wouldn't have told you to call him. He wouldn't have gotten in touch with you. He wouldn't hang out with you and just watch movies. Plus he cuddled with you and told you he was into you. From here on, I would play it smooth if I were you. Don't call him or text him anymore. Just wait for him to get in touch with you. You don't want to seem self-conscious or clingy. Put the ball in his court and let him make the next move. If he calls, great. If he doesn't, lesson learned. You'll have to move on from there and be careful about who you sleep with. But, in all honesty, this doesn't sound like one night stand material at all.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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why do guys give us the silent treatment? It has happened once I told him its a pet peeve of mine that he didnt mean to do it just had a lot on his mind, but its been 3 days since ive heard from him. whats the deal?
Some guys just don't want to talk about things. When something goes wrong or when they're thinking about things, they like to be left alone from time to time. He is probably too embarrassed to depend on you for support or open up and tell you how he really feels. Make sure you give him time and space. Sometimes it's best to let people come to you when they're ready to talk. He may be confused about whether or not he likes you. Or it might be other things. The next time you talk to him, ask him if everything's okay. And if he asks why, say that you asked because you hadn't heard from him in a few days. This will show that you care how he's doing without sounding pushy or clingy. If he doesn't want to talk, he's not going to. Trying to get him to will only make him further seclude himself.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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I am starting to doubt my belief. I have been growing up Presbyterian (christian) and i want to know more about Catholicism to see if i like that more. What are differences between christian and catholic?
Catholicism is a branch of Christianity. Just as Presbyterians, Lutherans, Baptists, etc.. So what is really being asked here is the difference between Catholics and Presbyterians. Take a look at this link I'm about to give you. It has a table set up that compares Catholic beliefs to Presbyterian beliefs:
http://www.religionfacts.com/christianity/charts/catholic_protestant.htm
Hope this clears some things up!
Darby(:
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Ok, so i want a ouija board but my mom and dad don't want me to have one because they think it's too dangerous. I know if i disobey them, i will get grounded. I know at school if i bring it, i will be labeled a "satanist" which i know isn't true because i believe in god, but what can i do? I mean, i really want one and have for a year or so but my mom keeps saying no. Every time i ask her she says "If you get one, you have to move out of the house." I am only 15 and have no job and go to school when i am supposed to. I do my chores with barely any complaints, so why can't i get a ouija board because i am responsible. Should i disobey my parents and get one because i feel the need to talk to spirits, or just settle for "not getting in danger of demons"?
If it's honestly a big enough deal that your parents are going to kick you out of the house if you get one, don't do it. Wait until you're eighteen to get a Ouija Board. If you're still that into talking to spirits then, you will have the free will to get one yourself. Don't risk breaking your parents trust and getting into big trouble just to talk to dead people.
Hope this helps,
Darby(:
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I have a boyfriend named K(We'll name him K). I tell him that i love him and he just says "meh" and doesn't say it back. I went over to "K"s house and he completely ignored me. I told him that i wont kiss him for a week, but he said that he doesn't care if i kiss him or not. When i told him that i was mad at him, before i could explain, he went to his basement. I have 4th block with "K" and i think i have to break up with him. I most likely will lose him as a friend and i can't afford to lose another friend. After i break up with him, should i try to be friends or just forget about it?
I think breaking up with him is a good idea. He doesn't seem that into you. He doesn't act like he cares one way or another whether you break up with him or don't. As far as being friends goes, see how he reacts to the break up. If he's immature and gets mad about it, just give him time to think things over. Let him come to you when he's ready to be friends. If he doesn't come to you, he's not worth having as a friend. If he handles the break up well, you can still be friends with him. But don't be clingy or controlling. Don't expect him to want to hang out all the time and don't get mad when he dates other girls.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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ok so me and my friend are the only ones out of like 20 of our friend without a date
i feel pathetic
my friend doesnt want to go, and if she doesnt im all alone.
i wanted to go with a few people
but none of them asked me, and asked other people.
there is one kid that wants to go with me
but hes a completely joke, a goofball, class clown, that would just be kind of embaressing and possibly annoying.
my question is, should i go alone? or should i not go? or should i just go with the weird kid?
but on the other hand i dont want to leave my friend alone
but she doesnt want to go in the first place
HELP PLEASE!
Ask your friend if she wants to go with you. Three of my friends didn't have dates this year and they just went together and had a great time. You two won't be the only ones there without a date. Plenty of people go and just dance with their friends. Definitely don't go with the 'weird kid' if you think he would be embarrassing or annoying. It's not worth ruining your night just to have a guy to go with.
Have fun!
Darby(:
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