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attention


Question Posted Wednesday May 6 2009, 9:37 pm

18/F

I have noticed that everyone has their own little ways of soaking up attention when they lack it in their childhood or something, for instance if they do not get enough attention from their parents or something some people might feel the need to wear really extravagant clothes, some people do a certain activity that gets them attention, some people behave badly... etc; well, I personally for some odd reason find this in injuries. Ever since I was little I have always really wanted to break an arm or a leg or something, something that people would pay attention to... Like I wouldn't care about the pain or anything, I just have always wanted somthing like that to happen. I know it is terribly wrong, I know that some people really suffer from that kind of stuff, but for some reason I just can't stop... Recently I sprained my ankle pretty badly (for real) and I was on crutches for a few days, and I like REALLY didn't want for my leg to heal so soon. Sometimes I find myself hoping that I will somehow get in a car accident and get hurt or something... And like I said, I know that is TERRIBLY wrong, and i would never do anything like that to myself on purpose, but I just find the attention that I get for it so rewarding... haha, I know this probably sounds really weird... I just wish I knew a way to stop thinking like this, because obviously if something really bad really DID happen to me I would be pretty miserable...

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Darby answered Thursday May 7 2009, 12:26 am:
You're right. You're lacking attention and have been for years, it seems. You need to understand the things that you can do to get positive attention. Not sympathy, but true proud attention. Getting good grades, going to college, getting an aesthetic hobby. All of these things can get you good, admirable attention. Sure, getting hurt would make people feel sorry for you, but wouldn't you rather people look up to you and be proud of you? I don't think you really want to be hurt. I know you're saying you want to get in a car accident and get a broken leg and whatnot. But that's not really what you want. You just want people to notice you, and being sick or in pain is the easiest way to do it. But if you do something truly great, like graduate college or do volunteer work, you'll see that positive attention is much more rewarding that sympathetic attention.

Hope this helps,
Darby(:

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TheTruth answered Thursday May 7 2009, 12:10 am:
You more than likely suffer from Münchausen syndrome. Here's a definition.

Münchausen syndrome is a psychiatric disorder in which those affected feign disease, illness, or psychological trauma in order to draw attention or sympathy to themselves.

It's a way people get attention. They don't actually enjoy being sick/injured but rather the attention they receive when they are/think they are. A psychologist could probably help you with this and I would consider seeing one if it ever gets to the point where you actually consider intentionally hurting yourself. If you get to the point of habitually injuring yourself, fairly soon doctors and hospitals will refuse to treat you. You do not want to be diagnosed with this disorder.

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