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awkward question
so this guy and i have been together on & off, mostly on, since i was 15 & he was 16. now i'm 18 & he's 19. we're both still virgins and have only done things with each other. well we broke up in march but we're starting to kinda talk again and he really wants me back, i don't wanna lose him for good but at the same time after all the stress and hysteria from the last time we broke up i don't want to get back into a relationship either. i've been thinking lately though that i still want him to be the one i lose my virginity to because he's my first love and i know i wouldn't regret it. and he feels the same. the problem is that we're not together. a few days ago i was over at his house late and we fooled around but didn't go all the way. he never tries to because he respects me and we've talked about things like that several times so i know he wouldn't just do it. i honestly wouldn't really mind us not being together when i lose it to him, but how should i approach this? even though we're totally comfortable around each other and open to talk about anything, it'd be pretty awkward to just ask. and if i initiate it, he probably wouldn't go through with is until we had talked about it. so how should i approach this? any ideas/thoughts/input? thanks<3
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You may feel like you can handle it now, but when it happens it could be a very different case. To make sure you're ready to lose your virginity to someone you're not dating, ask yourself some questions. How are you going to feel if you lose your virginity to him and next week he's dating someone else? How are you going to feel if he ends up wanting to be friends with benefits? Remember that you are broken up now and he has no obligations to be committed to you.
If you still think you want to go through with it, make sure you talk to him about it first. It may be awkward, but if it's what you really want, it must be talked about. Especially if he's going to not want to do it until you talk about it. Just say, "I can't imagine losing my virginity to anyone but you." Heavy hinting like that will get the topic into the open and he will get the idea soon enough.
My honest advice is that if you don't think you're going to date him again, don't lose your virginity to him.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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