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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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16/f
So I like this guy. He's one of my really good friends. He's 18 though. I guess its not too much of an age difference. Well I've liked him for over a year. I had a boyfriend for 10 months and still had a small crush on my friend. After we broke up a few months ago me and my friend told each other we liked each other. So I was pretty happy and kinda amazed. We would text all the time but we didn't exactly talk about anything with us so I kinda just assumed he didn't really like me anymore. He's leaving for college in a couple months anyway but it's not like I'll never see him again.
Well I started liking a guy at school and this guy asked me out and I said yes. So then my friend was all mad and stuff and I got confused. We worked it out though. I'm not sure what I was thinking, I mean I still liked him but I guess I wanted to get over him if he didn't like me so I decided to go with a guy I kinda did like?
Me and this guy have been together for a couple months now. I am not over my friend. My friend and I have made out before too so it really doesn't help when I'm just sitting there thinking. I really do like my boyfriend, so much, it's just it seems like I either won't let myself get over my friend or something.
Well, me and him are still cool and everything. It's just he likes someone else. I am extremely jealous. He said he still likes me but I can so tell he likes her way more. It'd totally be hypocritical if I got upset for him liking her since I like another guy.
I messed it up with him big time. I mean we could have had something in the future, I do know that. I can't turn back though. So what do I do? I've been trying so hard to get over him, we don't really text anymore, just every once in awhile. It hurts really bad.
I also want to know why it's actually hurting this much. I mean when things didn't work out with other guys, I've never sat there and cried forever. But with my friend I was like in tears and it really hurt. It still bothers me when I think about it.
What do I do?
i believe that you are scared to let him go. i've been in the same position. i was dating a guy but cared about another guy at the same time.. i had to pick 1 of them and ended up staying with my bf. it was hard to let go of my friend whom i cared about but i survived AND it made me STRONGER because i learned how to let good things go to make better things happen.
you want to know why it hurts that much? because you care about him. you are a very caring person and it hurts you to know that you two aren't together. but that doesn't mean you cant be friends!
my suggestion: stay with your boyfriend. going out with your other friend is not worth all of the drama and stress (breaking up with your boyfriend and then him breaking up with his girlfriend etc) its not worth it. but i think you 2 should stay friends. its obvious that you 2 have feelings for each other. yes it might be hard because it might be more than friends feelings.. but its better than not talking at all..
whatever happens happens. everything happens for a reason. if it was mean't to be, then fate will figure things out.
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Ive known this guy since 6th gradee, and we have dated since then, a little affer last Christmas we were dating&i ended up screwing up andd left him for someone else which was a mistake. We finally started talking these past few weeks or so andd seeing&talking to him made me miss and want him back so much more, but unfortuantley he's dating someone now. I want him to be mine for Christmas again, what should I do?! Could there be any creative or cute ways to get him back?!
Could i please get feedback asap!!
just talk to him and let him know you're interested again.. BUT don't interfere with him and his girlfriend. don't "try to get him back" because that will cause MAJOR drama between you and his girlfriend and him. trust me i've been there done that.
just talk to him and let him know you still have feelings for him. but after that, back off. let him decide who he wants to be with. don't force him into anything. its his decision.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions.
17/f
I'm just curious. I want to know why do people have sex with others if they already have someone that they like? Sometimes in a relationship, but mainly just that I have someone they like in general. Why do people have sex with others other than the person they like?
i have no idea but its stupid and ridiculous. sex to me is something very valuable. i dont get why people now a days are just doing it like its nothing.. like it has no value.. like its nothing special..
i dont get it either. you're not the only one who thinks that.
and i really hope you aren't like that.. i'm not like super religious and i dont think you can only have sex after marriage.. but i do believe that you should have it when you're ready and when its with the right guy. i hope you aren't thinking about doing it with some random guy.
sorry if that didnt really answer your question but i just wanted to let you know that i find it ridiculous and it is a very confusing and controversial topic.
16/f
there is this guy that i like who i found out something today. one of his good friends told me today that his girlfriend of almost 2 months is cheating on him and claims to be a virgin and doesnt cuss when she is not a virgin and cusses when he is not around. the guy i like (lets call him t) doesnt know that i like him and neither does his really good friend (m) who told me this. I have no proof that t's crush is cheating on him but from several other friends of t's, it sounds pretty convincing. I want t to know but i dont want to be the one to tell him. I feel like if M is a good friend then she would tell him herself. What should I do? I was cheated on her several weeks and no one had the guts to tell me when three of my friends knew. Please help, I am desperate. (Also T knows that I know that something is going on because he say that M was talking to me, my crush asked me what was going on and I kept denying that something was going on but then he guessed that it was a secret about him)
you need to tell him..
reverse the situation. how would you feel if people were talking about you behind your back? and nobody wanted to break the bad news to you? wouldn't you feel bad? imagine how he must be feelings. noticing that there are people talking about him behind his back... he must not feel very good.
do him a favor and end the misery.. yeah i know you dont want to be the one to break the news, but who else will have the courage to do it? do you really want to chicken out and risk getting his heart broken? or do you want to step up and be a man and tell him whats going on?
btw, he won't be mad at you for telling him... he would be thankful. its not like you're the one cheating.. you're just merely telling the truth.
that is, after all, what a friend does. they got each others backs. if you like him and have ANY respect for him at all, you'd tell him. he would thank you and would realize that you care about his feelings. unlike his other friends who hesitate to talk to him about the truth.
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i'm 15 years old and my boyfriend and have been going out for 5 months now. we are now at the stage to start doing 'stuff' but i'm too embarrassed too because of my oversized labia. it is so disgusting and i want to find a way to shrink it. i know you might say that he won't notice it and if he does he won't care but all the guys at school talk about the over sized labias and call them 'granny flaps'. I'm not sure what to do, do i go ahead with it? or do i just refuse to do it? i really need some good advice.
wow... seriously.. you're 15. who cares..?
i'm 18 and i've done stuff with guys and honestly... if the dude doesn't like it, he shouldn't have to look. why do you care so much what other people think...? who are you trying to impress??
why would you change yourself just to please other people??
if people dont like the size of your labia, tell them to stfu because their opinions dont matter.
its like someone saying "i dont like that you have brown eyes"..
if i were you, id just say "then dont look at me. there problem solved" honestly, why do you care?? its labia. its not the end of the world. life goes on. you'll survive.
let me ask you this, if someone was laughing at you because you have brown eyes.. wouldn't you think its ridiculous?? thats what i would think. if someone laughs at me because of my oversized labia, i would laugh my ass off because it is a really ridiculous thing to tease and bully about..
if people are THAT concerned about a girls labia.. they have no lives...
I have been using this self tanning lotion which is really good and i am very happy with it. The color is great and it doesn't leave me with streaks. The only problem is, my whole body is tan except for my hands. This is because I wash my hands throughout the application process to avoid having them turn orange. But now I have the opposite problem. They have no color on them at all! It looks weird. Any solution to this problem? Thanks!
don't wash them as thoroughly. like do a quick rinse and a squirt with soap and just quickly wash them and pat them dry. try alternating days too. every other day wash them.
Hello my mothers friend is 30 and she has a rare form of breast cancer. The doctors have told her she only has about 3 years left to live. They want to get her into this experimental treatment that so far shows a success rate of 50% of increasing her life span by 6 months. All of her doctor visits are really getting expensive right now its up to $3000 a week and that doesn't include any blood tests, scans, or medications. She has a 2 year old daughter and starting to get her things in order and prepare for death. I know there is no cure for cancer but i'm hoping with these treatments it will expand her life. We're holding a benefit dinner this weekend for her and we have cans placed around local businesses for donations. Is there any other way I can raise money for her so she can help pay these medical bills. She's basically given up because she cant afford to go to the hospital and get chemo, and the experimental test insurance wont cover it. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Thanks and please keep Melanie in your prayers!
wow. you're so inspirational.. good job that you're trying to help her. that is so incredible. the world needs more people like you..
what you can do is try going bigger.. go to the local radio station and ask to make a shoutout. or place ads in the newspaper or tv. have a huge pasta dinner/festival fundraiser. its basically where you sell pasta and have music and dancing and games and people pay to go there and youd raise a ton of money. try selling things like coupons. go to restaurants or companies and tell them you are trying to raise money for a cancer patient and was wondering if they would be interested in selling coupons to fundraise. if its not too cold out, try having a car wash. or a garage sale. or sell things on ebay. have a bake sale (bake cookies/ cakes and sell them)
advertisement is key. you need a ton of advertisement if you want things to work out good. more advertisement=more money.
be creative and talk to other people like your friends and ask them if they have any ideas too.
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best friend- queen.
its a classic.
So I have liked this guy for about 3 years now and were the best Of friends. Then he found out i like him and he feels that our whole friendship was a lie :( I tried to tell him no but he wouldn't believe me. Over time things got better I could finally be friends with him then they got worse cuz my other bff started to like him. The worst part waz that he had liked me and that he has for a very long time but my friend convinced him that I wnt go out w him so he got over Me and moved on to her :( so they decided not go out and I thought we could be friends again. But 4 some reason he's mad at me! Now I find out that he's spreading rumors about me and when unasked him he denied it. I really miss him and I've never felt this wat bout someone. Should i get over him or try to be friends with him? If do try to be friends with him how do I talk to him? Pleez respond
i think you should talk to him. tell him this- i just need you to listen to what i have to say first. and then you can tell me how you feel. but just listen to what i have to say. no interruptions. then you can say what you want and i promise i wont interrupt you either.
then after that just talk to him and tell him everything how you're feeling. that you miss him and what not.
after you tell him your true feelings, and he still is mad.. i would say move on. no guy is worth your tears. if things are this complicated right now, chances are they will still be this complicated as time goes on. do you really want to deal with that much complications and stress?? or do you want to be free of that drama and be an independent woman?
good things fall apart so better things can fall together. everything happens for a reason. some things are just not mean't to be and you're just gonna have to accept it and move on. life goes on. you wont die. people go through life not knowing things all the time. for example, people wont know why someone passed away. you just have to pick yourself up on your feet and move on. you'll be fine :)
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I have sooo many whiteheads on my face. They are on my nose, my cheeks, and my forehead. How can I get them off without having to use a prescription or going to the drugstore or like that? ((I am 13))
steam cleans out the pores. acne is bacteria in your pores. buy a face steamer and basically you just fill up something with water and the machine makes steam out of it and you stick your face into the machine thing and the steam opens your pores and kills the bacteria.
if you can't buy one of those machines, showers work just as well. take a hot shower and take a hot towel and rinse it under hot/warm water and place it over your face for a few minutes. i also recommend washing your face in the shower. the shower steam helps clean it 1000 times better. i use clean and clear face wash.
note- this wont go away in a few days. it will take a while so be patient. don't forget to moisturize after showers to prevent your skin from drying out!! and another tip- dont stop doing it after your acne clears up. you have to keep doing it even though the acne is gone.. because otherwise the acne could come back and you want to keep doing it to prevent it from coming back.
I just got out of a relationship where we were planning on having sex. He had me looking forward to it, and now i have no one? I dont know what to do.. all i have is fingering myself. I enjoy it,. but i cant get a toy cause my mom finds everything.. helllp?!
whatever you do... DONT hook up with a random guy.
A. you'd be using him
B. you'd feel guilty afterwards
C. would you really want to remember your first time with some random guy you dont even know?
D. don't you want it to be special? something memorable?
in my opinon, i say wait it out until you find the right guy. yeah you might be ready.. but that doesn't mean you have to do it right now. i'm ready to go to college right now but that doesn't mean i should leave in the middle of my senior year.. same thing with sex. you could be ready for it, but why would you do it if its not with a guy you're interested in?
its just sex.. you wont die if you dont do it. life goes on. there will still be a tomorrow. who cares if you cant do it right now. and trust me when i say this.. you will be so happy and grateful that you waited for the right guy. my best friend did it with a random guy and she cried for a month straight saying she wanted to kill herself because she felt so guilty for doing it and wished she could take it all back.
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Ok, so my family has some....legends that are told to every generation. I always thought that they were just that: legends. But tonight I found out differently, and I am kind of freaking out. Anyone have any ideas on how to be able to...."sponge" this? Sorry, I know that's the wrong word, but that's how freaked I am.
just take a deep breath. take some more deep breaths. and relax. loosen up your muslces and shake out the nerves. laughing is the best medicine for anything. so try to laugh at a funny joke. try distracting yourself for a while.
and just like the other person said.. be happy that something interesting is happening in your life. i go through life invisible and nothing ever changes in my life. its so boring and you have no idea how badly i wish something interesting could happen to me haha. the most interesting things that usually happens to me is when i get a letter in the mail or if i get a facebook message from a friend.
just relaxx and you'll be fine.
Helpppp. Ive been going to an all girls school for all my life and for highschool ill be going to a co-ed school.how would i be able to get used to guys?when would i know that itll be a good time to date?and how would i be able to get their attention?
By btw im 14 and female
the most important thing is to just be yourself. don't try to change yourself just to impress guys.
one more tip coming from a high school senior.. high school is about school, academics, getting into college, and being successful. don't get caught up with social statuses. thats what i did my first year in high school. i was so worried and stressed about cliques and being in the right group. my second year i realized how stupid i was to be that concernced with it.. its honestly just a waste of time if you worry about it that much.
so yeah, just be yourself. be nice. friendly. be who you are. let the dudes come to you. don't go looking for them. same thing with friends, let them come to you. don't be desperate.
as for dating, you'll know when the right time is. after you meet a few guy friends and start connecting with that one guy and you feel special around him and he makes you smile, then he could be the mr special. just dont stress about it. let things happen naturally
I know everyone is just going to say "eat!" but that's not what I need people to be telling me. I think I need serious help. I haven't been "starving" myself yet but I have begun to try to limit myself to only eating once a day to lose weight. I know that starving yourself is bad for u obviously but I'm so desperate at this point that I don't even care anymore. I'm not overweight I dontthink but I hate the way I look. I'm 5'8 and 120lbs. I can't look at myself in the mirror without wanting to cry and have found myself browsing through pro anorexia websites and pictures. I have nobody to talk to about this! What do I do?
you REALLY need to talk to someone about this. SERIOUSLY. tell your parents. i'm not joking. you need to tell them. if you aren't comfortable with telling them, tell a sibling, relative, teacher, counselor etc. but you HAVE to tell someone..
i suggest that whenever you think about not eating, subsitute that for exercising. so if you think "dang i shouldnt eat this" you should change your mind and think "i can eat this BUT i have to work out after"
in my opinon, why would you go through all the pain and sufferring to starve yourself.. when all you should do is eat and then exercise? its so simple and wont hurt you.. starving yourself=hurting you. eating and then exercising=not hurting you
why would you want to hurt yourself..? don't you want to look better?? i thought thats what the point was.. to look better.. how are you supposed to look better if you're hurting yourself??
another thing. i'm so sick of people thinking "i dont like the way i look. i dont like this about me. blah blah blah" seriously.. this is the way you were born. DEAL WITH IT. some people are born with disfunctions like cleft lips, mental disorders, mutated faces etc. thats the way they were born.. they have to deal with it. this is the way YOU were born.. deal with it. why would you change yourself in the first place? who are you trying to impress? a guy?? if you really wanted a guy to love you, wouldn't you much rather know he loves you for YOU and not some fake girl who is trying to change her natural self??
i just think if someone is trying to change their apperance, its the most ridiculous thing ever. yeah someone may be overweight and want to lose a few pounds, thats great! but you're 120 pounds. you're the same exact height as me and i weight 135 pounds. i'm pretty skinny too.. my jean size is size 5 or 7. i just think that why would you want to change yourself if you are perfectly fine?? your weight is fine.. why would you want to change that?
try making a list of things you dont like about your body. what SPECIFICALLY don't you like. your nose? your hips? write down what you would like to change about that. narrower hips? smaller nose? then think about it logically. HOW are you going to change that?? how are you supposed to have bigger curves? how are you going to get a bigger butt? how are you going to get a smaller nose? losing weight..? that is not the answer. losing weight won't help. especially if you're at a perfectly normal weight for your age.
then write another list of everything you DO love about yourself. doesn't have to be apperance. it could be your personality. what you love about your personality. stuff like- i'm a hard worker. i never give up. i love to sing. i have a great voice. i am a great drawer. i am a great writer. i dont complain. i am a leader. whatever. just make a huge list of EVERYTHING you love about yourself and you'll see that changing who you are is not the answer to your problems.
this is who you are. accept it. don't try to change yourself just because you are dissatisified with your appearance. deal with it. there are people all over the world who have to deal with a messed up face or mutated body. i'm pretty sure if they can deal with it, you can deal with whatever your problem is.
btw, you have NO idea how lucky you are... you should really take a good look in the mirror and be thankful that you look the way you do. i know people who would KILL to have a body like you probably do. i know people who don't have arms. i know a person whos face is mutated and messed up. i know someone who is a siamise twin (one lower body, but 2 heads). they tell me over and over how badly they wish they could just be normal... you have no idea how incredibly lucky you are to look the way you do... be grateful for that...
Alright this is a long story so get ready for a hard one.
I am a 17 year old guy
Basically my whole life I have been a worrier when it comes to who my friends are and what/who i am going to hang out with on the weekend. I think I get it from my mom cause apparently she was the same way when she was younger. I am from California although I moved to NJ when I was 12 and starting 6th grade. In NJ middle school were "the golden years" espically 6th grade. I had a large goup of solid friends and I guess you could say we were "popular" I did 9th grade over there in jersey and that was a good year as well. I had a good group of friends and I knew i was moving back to California the next year so I made sure I had a good social year with my friends and it was great. In NJ i had three main best guy friends acquaintances and chicks who were my friend to. I have ALWAYS been a fun sociable person and I do all the normal stuff a teenager does.
10th grade I moved back to L.A to a different school district though. I adjusted the first year OK. I got connected with a small group of isolated people called the "drama nerds" I am not sure how this happened cause they are very different than me but they were the nicests and most welcoming. This is what screwed me over cause I think I have had met the right people in the begininng I could have gotten into the more popular/social groups. However I did have a solid group of friends even tho they were kinda different. Things fell apart and towards the end I had a drive to make next year different.
11th grade was academically challenging so social things came 2nd for the first time for everyone and things were kinda "slow". I hung out primarily with the same people but began to branch out. I tried to get in with a new group of "more social" people and they liked me but including me didnt really catch on since they had all been friends for so long. The new norm for me was having a few good friends here and there but not a solid group. I am black and the closet thing I had to a group of friends were all the black people cause we hang out at school alot but they hang out wit people out side of school. The good turning point came in March when I met a guy named Tony. Me him and a guy name Brian clicked well and we because really good friends. We all kinda came from different background but we got along well and smoked and drank together. I met a lot of new people through tony and i got my name out there really well. Although these people were always just acquaintances I could see them in school or at a party and they might invite me everyonce in a while but that was it. All in all 11th grade introduced Tony and Brian
This year Senior year the end!! It started out good but now i am in an odd spot and it sucks espically since this is suppose to be the best year. I have a good amount of friends here and there but we dont all really hang and stuff. Tony kinda moved on to "cooler" people and he dont like brian no more cause he doesnt go for chicks and doesnt like to be social. Me and Brian are still best friends though. To hang out I have to rely on brian and he isnt very social and doesnt mind not going out when I hate staying home. Tony and I hang on occasion but rarley now. That solid group of friends from the begininng is long gone so thats not even an option and its Senior year so how can I get included and become friends with groups that have been around for 4 years!!! Basically at this point im just counting down till college for a fresh start and all will get better but I have 6 freakin months somethings gotta give I will take any advice suggestions anything to make a difference. For all of the cool things that are going on I wanna be a part of them and go but I dont have anyone to GO with. I am well known this year the best so far tons of people KNOW me but I dont hang out with these same people. I try to convince brian to go and hes not down and i try to ask my friends that are scattered about but they are not always interested.
Thanks
so i'm an 18 year old girl and i just wanna say...
why the fuck do you care what other people think..? why do you care about which "group" to hang out with..? why do you care so much about hanging with the "cooler" people..? seriously.. its your senior year. mine too. why waste your time stressing out about friend groups.
just make friends and be friends with them. stop stressing out about groups and cliques. its all pathetic and immature. what are you going to do in college?? how are you ever going to be independent if you don't experience it now in high school? i'm not saying you dont need a friend group. friend groups are nice.. but why would you put so much effort and stress into finding the perfect group? why does it matter? you're never going to see them again after this year.. who are you trying to impress??
cliques are so junior high.. grow up and be mature. stop thinking about fitting in and being "popular". who cares?
Hi, 16 female. Not sexually active. Periods do not come regularly yet.
I was just wondering...For some time now, maybe less than a year, I've had "down there" issues. Nothing that truly concerns me (theres no severe irration, discoloration of pee, very strong odors or anything like that). But I've noticed I have very have discharge. Its particularly been acting up lately. its INCREDIBLY uncomfortable-it feels like i'm having my period or a peed myself, but i didn't, its just discharge. i literally cant go a day without wearing a panty liner otherwise the discharge would probably soak through. I really cant even get through the school day without it feeling wet and gross and sweaty...there. Its very gross and uncomfortable and im tired of it. once again, however, there is virtually no pain or severe itchiness or anything like that.
Should i be concerned about this? I would rather not see a doctor about it, but its strongly recommended i will. also, if seeing the doctor isnt necessary, what can i do to make it go away, or at least reduce it?
thank you
no something isnt wrong with you. it happens to every girl.
let me ask you this..? have you ever worn a tampon?? because if you have, it something that shouldn't really bother you. discharge is something that comes out of your vagina. tampons come out of your vagina. so basically, they are similar. if you can wear tampons, i'm sure you can get over the uncomfortable ness.
if it really bothers you that much then i suggest carrying a purse with you and sticking a few pantyliners in there and whenever you feel some discharge come out, go to the bathroom and change the liner.
hate to break it to you but there's nothing you can do to stop from discharging. every woman goes through it. you'll get used to it though.
18/f, ive been with this guy for 8 months now. i can't seem to believe in him, or trust him. he tells me that i'm the only one for him and that i have nothing to worry about, but sometimes i feel like its too good to be true. he tells me he doesnt think anyone else is hot or attractive at all. i dont think thats even possible :/ he's a man, and every guy ive ever been with has cheated on me, except him. before him, every guy i had ever dated has cheated on me. I guess that's where this all started, and now whenever he even says hi to a girl i cant help but get upset. I dont know what to do, i've tried everything. any advice? i know i need help, but i just dont know what to do anymore. i know its not right to get this jealous or upset, but i feel like i cant control it anymore.
please help,
Gina
i'm kinda in the same boat as you. i find it extremely difficult for me to trust anyone. boyfriends, friends, other people.
you just have to accept the fact that trusting is risking your heart to get hurt.
do you want to risk getting your heart broken?
if its yes, give him a chance. tell him how you feel- that you want him to prove to you that you're the only girl. tell him that you're unsure if you can trust him. but also, YOU have to change too. he cant just do all the work. you have to realize that you can't change the past. the past will always be there to haunt you. but you cant dwell on the past either. move on. yes, they cheated on you. but is your current boyfriend the exact same guy as your ex boyfriends?? no. he is a completely different person. so stop dwelling on the past and allow yourself to trust him. take a deep breath whenever he talks to a girl and just remind yourself that if its ok for you to talk to other guys, then its ok for him to talk to other girls. its just "hi".. its not "lets have sex". just relax.
if your answer is no. you don't want to risk getting your heart broken. then i suggest you break up with your bf and just say 'hey i'm not really ready to be in a relationship right now because i am too scared to have my heart broken again and i dont know if i can trust you anymore" then take a break from guys. a long break. not a few weeks.. i'm talking like a few months or even a year(s). get to know yourself again and take a break from guys. then when a new guy comes along, remind yourself that you cant dwell on the past and have to look forward at this new guy.
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A guy just sent me a massage and he said you want to meet but i don't want to be fast but i still want to go out with him. What should I tell him so he will know to still talk?
say you're not comfortable with meeting him face to face yet and just want to talk some more to get to know each other and build up some trust and respect for each other.
UtIm17 and I'm a junior in hs and there's his Guy who is constantly staring at me he started doing this since the beginning of the year and he doesn't only stare during English class he also stares while we are walking to class and he used to look away when he knew I caught him staring but now he makes eye contact and I think he was talking with his friend about me cause I saw him poining at me once But other than the. Staring there was this one time he played a joke on me and he was staring at me with his eyes wide open with a smile on his face he also has tried to bump into me once or twice when he could go a different way.my friends all say he likes me and say he's only too shy to talk to me and they want me to tell him I like him this Friday should I or should I not..........PS I think he tried talk to me once cause I heard some one yelling wait and footsteps be hind me and when I looked back. It wad him but with like a worried face
do it :)
whats the risk..? he says he doesnt like you.. big deal. move on. rejection is part of life. people get rejected all the time- jobs, relationships, banks etc.
you're 17. you're gonna have WAYY bigger problems than this. Take baby steps and get the courage to tell him how you feel. you can't stay a little scary cat forever you know.. time to grow up. he's just a boy. he wont bite you or attack you i promise. unless he's been bitten by rabies but i doubt that. nothing bad will happen to you. yes, your feelings might get hurt.. but you have to learn how to deal with that. if you cant deal with something so small as this, how are you ever going to deal with bigger things in life?
the way i see it, theres a 50-50 shot he likes you or doesnt. don't you want to find out? instead of just sitting there like a duck and wondering..?? I would never want to sit there and wonder "what if i told him how i feel"
and hey, you never know.. he could just possibly like you too :) don't you want to find out and potentially be happy if he likes you too?? if he doesnt, move on. its just a guy. you can find other guys better than him and make sure that you don't get crushed my him. dont let his decision put you down. if he rejects you, you have to think- ok well whatever its just a guy. the world won't end. i wont die. life will go on.
good luck. inbox me if you have more questions.
I am still extremely close friends with my first love. I never really stopped loving him. We lost contact for 2 years, but we have been back in contact for a few months now. We both moved on after we separated. Both of us have been married and divorced, and I have a 4 year old. He lives in another state, and we have not seen each other in person (just video chat and talking on the phone) for a little over 8 years now. He is in the army, and is going to be shipping out after Christmas. I want to tell him that my feelings for him are still here before he leaves, because if something happened to him and I never said anything I would severely regret it. What is the best way to tell him? I don't want to compromise our friendship, but I have to tell him, so how should I do it?
nobody on this website can give you a script and say "here tell this to him"...
you have to just speak from your heart. say what you feel and dont have any regrets. don't hold back on anything. yes, you might say something that he won't agree with.. but would you rather have him disagree with something you said, or to wonder everyday what he would have said..?
just straight out tell him how you feel. something along the lines of "i still love you" or "you were my first love and i never really got over you and i'm still emotionally attached to you" or "i dont want to let you go because you mean a lot to me". just let your heart speak.