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crush's gf cheating on him
16/f
there is this guy that i like who i found out something today. one of his good friends told me today that his girlfriend of almost 2 months is cheating on him and claims to be a virgin and doesnt cuss when she is not a virgin and cusses when he is not around. the guy i like (lets call him t) doesnt know that i like him and neither does his really good friend (m) who told me this. I have no proof that t's crush is cheating on him but from several other friends of t's, it sounds pretty convincing. I want t to know but i dont want to be the one to tell him. I feel like if M is a good friend then she would tell him herself. What should I do? I was cheated on her several weeks and no one had the guts to tell me when three of my friends knew. Please help, I am desperate. (Also T knows that I know that something is going on because he say that M was talking to me, my crush asked me what was going on and I kept denying that something was going on but then he guessed that it was a secret about him)
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you need to tell him..
reverse the situation. how would you feel if people were talking about you behind your back? and nobody wanted to break the bad news to you? wouldn't you feel bad? imagine how he must be feelings. noticing that there are people talking about him behind his back... he must not feel very good.
do him a favor and end the misery.. yeah i know you dont want to be the one to break the news, but who else will have the courage to do it? do you really want to chicken out and risk getting his heart broken? or do you want to step up and be a man and tell him whats going on?
btw, he won't be mad at you for telling him... he would be thankful. its not like you're the one cheating.. you're just merely telling the truth.
that is, after all, what a friend does. they got each others backs. if you like him and have ANY respect for him at all, you'd tell him. he would thank you and would realize that you care about his feelings. unlike his other friends who hesitate to talk to him about the truth.
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If you want to maintain any sort of relationship with T, you can't tell him.
First off, you have no solid proof; only rumours that sound convincing enough for you to believe them. If you were to go to him and say "I've heard that your girlfriend is cheating on you", he'd want proof to back it up. If you couldn't present, you'd look like a fool.
Secondly, even if you did have solid proof, you would forever be the girl who ended that relationship. That's not a good place to be if you want to date him in the future.
Soon enough, his friends will man up and tell him, or he'll figure it out on his own and dump her. Unfortunately, the best you can do is be there to help pick up the pieces at the end of it.
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