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I want him :( But it has been 7 months since we did anything but text!
(I am fifteen/F my ex is sixteen/M) My ex and I had a really messy breakup. Right before summer started. Over the summer we both did our share of hurtful stuff. He was a jerk, I was a bitch... so on and so forth. I used to blame the entire relationship failure on him. But looking back on it, I see something completely different. I've realized how much I've changed since we broke up but now... I'm looking bakc and I realize that when I changed was when I was dating him. The last two months I became a different person. I was clingy and stupid and whipped and I honestly can't blame him for a lot of things I used to... When I realized this last weekend we were already on okay ish terms. Not really though. I apologized for all the stuff I jsut explained and he admitted he still thought about "us" sometimes. And he we had a nice conversation... I guess. But then he stopped replying. And I tried texting him yesterday and got two answers "yup" "yeah I guess" and then no reply. And I just don't get it... I thought we were okay? I don't know... There is SOOOOO much shit just looming above us still because there were things he did that weren't my fault and that hurt me and I just want to talk to him but I htink he hates me... Ugh I don't know.... I want to talk to him again, like in person but we havent had a real in person conversation since we broke up. Like seven months ago... and we dated for like seven months... we went to third. I still like him or I htink so. GOD I'm just so confused and I don't know what to do. None of this makes sense and I'm miserable... Please help....
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How is it that you "want him" exactly?
Do you want him back as your b/f, sexually or the closure of talking through the problems of your former relationship?
Also, it is not clear to as whether you love this guy or just miss him being your companion either?
And I'm unaware of the "hurtful stuff" ya'll both did to each other, but it seems to have "resentment towards you" on his part all over it.
From your statements, I believe that you are confused because you do have some clingy tendencies left over from that relationship. Which is common. SO... you just need to exhale and try not to push too hard into something you may not fully understand. It might do more harm than good. Besides, it's been seven months or so since you've broken up, maybe it's just that he is interested or involved with someone else currently.
Answer the questions pertaining to you first though... one-by-one. Like what is it that YOU want?
Once you gained the clearness needed to NOT be "confused and miserable", THEN you contact him. But not with the heavy stuff just yet. Let him know that you still care about him "without" bombarding all the emotions still lingering. From there... its a day at a time.
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hmmm well thats good he changed you and you have realized you still love him , but maybe he is still mad at you but is just saying its okay to make you feel better, but thats good you guys had a good coversation but it doesnt seem the greatest since you said '' i guess'' i suggest if he really likes you he'll make time for you and wont be so rude and not talk maybe he was busy or maybe he just didn't feel like talking dont worry it will getbetter trust me :)
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