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No Friends
Alright this is a long story so get ready for a hard one.
I am a 17 year old guy
Basically my whole life I have been a worrier when it comes to who my friends are and what/who i am going to hang out with on the weekend. I think I get it from my mom cause apparently she was the same way when she was younger. I am from California although I moved to NJ when I was 12 and starting 6th grade. In NJ middle school were "the golden years" espically 6th grade. I had a large goup of solid friends and I guess you could say we were "popular" I did 9th grade over there in jersey and that was a good year as well. I had a good group of friends and I knew i was moving back to California the next year so I made sure I had a good social year with my friends and it was great. In NJ i had three main best guy friends acquaintances and chicks who were my friend to. I have ALWAYS been a fun sociable person and I do all the normal stuff a teenager does.
10th grade I moved back to L.A to a different school district though. I adjusted the first year OK. I got connected with a small group of isolated people called the "drama nerds" I am not sure how this happened cause they are very different than me but they were the nicests and most welcoming. This is what screwed me over cause I think I have had met the right people in the begininng I could have gotten into the more popular/social groups. However I did have a solid group of friends even tho they were kinda different. Things fell apart and towards the end I had a drive to make next year different.
11th grade was academically challenging so social things came 2nd for the first time for everyone and things were kinda "slow". I hung out primarily with the same people but began to branch out. I tried to get in with a new group of "more social" people and they liked me but including me didnt really catch on since they had all been friends for so long. The new norm for me was having a few good friends here and there but not a solid group. I am black and the closet thing I had to a group of friends were all the black people cause we hang out at school alot but they hang out wit people out side of school. The good turning point came in March when I met a guy named Tony. Me him and a guy name Brian clicked well and we because really good friends. We all kinda came from different background but we got along well and smoked and drank together. I met a lot of new people through tony and i got my name out there really well. Although these people were always just acquaintances I could see them in school or at a party and they might invite me everyonce in a while but that was it. All in all 11th grade introduced Tony and Brian
This year Senior year the end!! It started out good but now i am in an odd spot and it sucks espically since this is suppose to be the best year. I have a good amount of friends here and there but we dont all really hang and stuff. Tony kinda moved on to "cooler" people and he dont like brian no more cause he doesnt go for chicks and doesnt like to be social. Me and Brian are still best friends though. To hang out I have to rely on brian and he isnt very social and doesnt mind not going out when I hate staying home. Tony and I hang on occasion but rarley now. That solid group of friends from the begininng is long gone so thats not even an option and its Senior year so how can I get included and become friends with groups that have been around for 4 years!!! Basically at this point im just counting down till college for a fresh start and all will get better but I have 6 freakin months somethings gotta give I will take any advice suggestions anything to make a difference. For all of the cool things that are going on I wanna be a part of them and go but I dont have anyone to GO with. I am well known this year the best so far tons of people KNOW me but I dont hang out with these same people. I try to convince brian to go and hes not down and i try to ask my friends that are scattered about but they are not always interested.
Thanks
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I understand what you're saying. Did you ever think about dating? Maybe a girlfriend would be a nice change for you, I mean.. you're getting older now and everything. Maybe finding a high school sweetheart would be more worth your time than finding a new party buddy. Girlfriends like to party, too :)
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so i'm an 18 year old girl and i just wanna say...
why the fuck do you care what other people think..? why do you care about which "group" to hang out with..? why do you care so much about hanging with the "cooler" people..? seriously.. its your senior year. mine too. why waste your time stressing out about friend groups.
just make friends and be friends with them. stop stressing out about groups and cliques. its all pathetic and immature. what are you going to do in college?? how are you ever going to be independent if you don't experience it now in high school? i'm not saying you dont need a friend group. friend groups are nice.. but why would you put so much effort and stress into finding the perfect group? why does it matter? you're never going to see them again after this year.. who are you trying to impress??
cliques are so junior high.. grow up and be mature. stop thinking about fitting in and being "popular". who cares?
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