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Moving out!??!
I have problems at home and i wanna move out...my boyfriend says to move in with him...im 18 now so i would be able too...is this a good idea? or what should i do?
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Well,
I'll start by saying that no one can really tell you what is wrong or what is a good idea, it just has to come from you. If you are serious with this guy, then consider it. But if you guys have just met and need some more time to get to know each other, I would say...you guys should get to know each other. I actually have a sister that has the same problem. If you have a decent job, you could get an apartment, but I also know how it feels to have too much to deal with at a young age.
I wish you best of luck.
xx
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I can tell you from experience that it is not a good idea. I wrecked a relationship doing nearly the same thing. Maybe my story will help...I had lots of problems at home, so I started staying over my (now ex-)boyfriend's house several nights a week- to the point where I was pretty much staying there during the schoolweek. Before this, we didn't have a bad relationship or anything- we were both crazy about each other and mostly really happy. However, being together so so much was awful for us...we got bored with each other, never went anywhere or had any fun, ended up just spending all our time arguing. And I know it contributed greatly to the eventual breakup.
Keep in mind, we'd been together for over a year. If you had asked me before, I never would have thought that would happen. The majority of relationships, especially when you're young, aren't ready for something like this.
I understand needing to get out of the house- maybe try staying over once a week or so, it helps. But don't move out without a backup plan, whether it's another place to stay or not burning your bridges so you can still come home.
Best of luck.
-Krista, 20/f
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Hey there,
Okay since you haven't given much background info as to what is actually going on at home its hard to give accurate advice.
Well basically It depends how bad things are at home.
I have had plenty of times where I have had fights and wanted to move out honestly some where I cursed my own family and the fighting was distracting from my studies.
It helped having my boyfriend there to support me but instead of moving out permanently I Stayed with my aunt for a few weeks until we worked out things at home. It cleared my mind and my families mind and we were able to stop fighting. Its nice knowing there is somewhere I can go to escape if things get too heated.
It again depends on your situation.
Moving in with your boyfriend has its negatives and positives. Its great you will get to see him all the time and be away from the stress at home but if its a permanent situation you may start to get sick of each other or get on each others nerves.
I would suggest you maybe sit down with your family talk about whats going on let them know in a mature way you need some time to yourself as you can't handle whats going on. Maybe move in with your bf for a few weeks and in the meantime try to work through whats going on at home.
Thats what I did and honestly things have never been better. It can be your bf grand parent aunt cousin anyone. As long as you have someone to go to it really helps.
Do what feels right for you. What feels best at the time. Trust your instincts.
I hope this helps and that things work out for you.
Please feel free to inbox me anytime
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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