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I messed things up with my friend and now I can't get over him!
16/f
So I like this guy. He's one of my really good friends. He's 18 though. I guess its not too much of an age difference. Well I've liked him for over a year. I had a boyfriend for 10 months and still had a small crush on my friend. After we broke up a few months ago me and my friend told each other we liked each other. So I was pretty happy and kinda amazed. We would text all the time but we didn't exactly talk about anything with us so I kinda just assumed he didn't really like me anymore. He's leaving for college in a couple months anyway but it's not like I'll never see him again.
Well I started liking a guy at school and this guy asked me out and I said yes. So then my friend was all mad and stuff and I got confused. We worked it out though. I'm not sure what I was thinking, I mean I still liked him but I guess I wanted to get over him if he didn't like me so I decided to go with a guy I kinda did like?
Me and this guy have been together for a couple months now. I am not over my friend. My friend and I have made out before too so it really doesn't help when I'm just sitting there thinking. I really do like my boyfriend, so much, it's just it seems like I either won't let myself get over my friend or something.
Well, me and him are still cool and everything. It's just he likes someone else. I am extremely jealous. He said he still likes me but I can so tell he likes her way more. It'd totally be hypocritical if I got upset for him liking her since I like another guy.
I messed it up with him big time. I mean we could have had something in the future, I do know that. I can't turn back though. So what do I do? I've been trying so hard to get over him, we don't really text anymore, just every once in awhile. It hurts really bad.
I also want to know why it's actually hurting this much. I mean when things didn't work out with other guys, I've never sat there and cried forever. But with my friend I was like in tears and it really hurt. It still bothers me when I think about it.
What do I do?
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i believe that you are scared to let him go. i've been in the same position. i was dating a guy but cared about another guy at the same time.. i had to pick 1 of them and ended up staying with my bf. it was hard to let go of my friend whom i cared about but i survived AND it made me STRONGER because i learned how to let good things go to make better things happen.
you want to know why it hurts that much? because you care about him. you are a very caring person and it hurts you to know that you two aren't together. but that doesn't mean you cant be friends!
my suggestion: stay with your boyfriend. going out with your other friend is not worth all of the drama and stress (breaking up with your boyfriend and then him breaking up with his girlfriend etc) its not worth it. but i think you 2 should stay friends. its obvious that you 2 have feelings for each other. yes it might be hard because it might be more than friends feelings.. but its better than not talking at all..
whatever happens happens. everything happens for a reason. if it was mean't to be, then fate will figure things out.
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Well first off, tell your boyfriend that you still like him or love him (witch ever you prefer) alot and say you need some time to sort things out. Then tell "your friend" what your feeling, and tell him your not mad at him for liking the other girl at all but that you are jealous.... and you really wanna talk about this. and go from there.
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