is their anyway to reduce the size of a labia, without surgery?
Question Posted Friday December 10 2010, 5:47 pm
i'm 15 years old and my boyfriend and have been going out for 5 months now. we are now at the stage to start doing 'stuff' but i'm too embarrassed too because of my oversized labia. it is so disgusting and i want to find a way to shrink it. i know you might say that he won't notice it and if he does he won't care but all the guys at school talk about the over sized labias and call them 'granny flaps'. I'm not sure what to do, do i go ahead with it? or do i just refuse to do it? i really need some good advice.
Most men won't be taken aback by it at all. In fact, they may think you're going to judge their bodies and how their parts look. As far as those who tease people about it and have a nickname for it know that they are immature and ignorant.
The thing is before you want your boyfriend to become okay with it you need to become comfortable with your body and see that there isn't a solitary disgusting thing about your genitals. Get to that point before you have sex.
If you are so concerned talk to your boyfriend and tell him what people at school say about this and that you're self-conscious about it. I'm sure he will set your mind at ease. Start talking about what is bothering you before you go any further intimately. [ solidadvice4teens's advice column | Ask solidadvice4teens A Question ]
orphans answered Sunday December 12 2010, 11:35 am: I'm not going to tell you to just get over it and who cares, because I know what it's like to worry about the way you look all the time. But just let me tell you that when you're 15, little things are made to be a big deal. These "boys" don't know what they're talking about. They are only kids still and they clearly know nothing about women or sex. Your boyfriend has probably never or rarely ever seen a vagina before and I'm sure once he sees yours, he will be too excited to notice anything. When you are an adult, you will learn the men don't care about stupid things like that. Who's to say that a large labia is a bad thing? Them?!? They have no clue and they shouldn't be talking about it. In 5 years from now, half of those boys will have encountered much worse than a large labia.... There is nothing wrong with you. Some guys actually really like them. There are men out there who would like just about anything. Vaginas are vaginas and they are all pretty much the same. Your boyfriend will love it and he will be so psyched that you're letting him touch you and he will love you for it. Unless it's hanging down to your knees, then your fine! I'm sure he doesn't have a huge 9" penis.... So maybe he's afraid to let you see him too. Just lay back and enjoy your boyfriend and let him enjoy you. There's is nothing to worry about. I promise!! Good luck hun [ orphans's advice column | Ask orphans A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Sunday December 12 2010, 10:06 am: I'm old enough to be your grandfather so I will offer you some grandfatherly advice. Don’t be embarrassed by what I say here. I believe in supply facts as I know them or have researched them. I believe the more facts a person has the better decisions they can make.
Not long ago the Discovery Channel did a story out of Great Britain about Women’s concerns over how their labia have looked. They even had doctors there who charged huge sums for a five minute procedure to trim their labia. The women who had the procedure said never again, it was a very painful recovery.
Search the Discovery Channel on-line you may be able to watch the documentary on line. You find out that you are not alone with having long labia or as some of the women interviewed thought they had an ugly vagina. Speaking for the male of the species; and after some research there are I have found four general types of vagina's, I have not yet met a vagina I have not liked.
So just what is normal? If you ask a guy he will tell you a guy with a big long, thick penis is normal. If you look at medical evidence the average vagina can only accommodate about 6", so is that what the normal length of a penis should be. Which one of the four types of vagina's is truly the norm?
The nice thing about the human body is we are all different. So you have a longer labia; big deal. All that means is there is that much more to suck and nibble on during oral sex. Unless the longer labia causes you pain or other problems during sex I wouldn't worry about it. If some boy should say something about it in a derogatory way he is not only a fool but sexually inexperienced.
lovealways1221 answered Sunday December 12 2010, 1:54 am: wow... seriously.. you're 15. who cares..?
i'm 18 and i've done stuff with guys and honestly... if the dude doesn't like it, he shouldn't have to look. why do you care so much what other people think...? who are you trying to impress??
why would you change yourself just to please other people??
if people dont like the size of your labia, tell them to stfu because their opinions dont matter.
its like someone saying "i dont like that you have brown eyes"..
if i were you, id just say "then dont look at me. there problem solved" honestly, why do you care?? its labia. its not the end of the world. life goes on. you'll survive.
let me ask you this, if someone was laughing at you because you have brown eyes.. wouldn't you think its ridiculous?? thats what i would think. if someone laughs at me because of my oversized labia, i would laugh my ass off because it is a really ridiculous thing to tease and bully about..
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