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I really don't know how I got to this point, where I had to buy a pregnancy test. I've never really been a rebel, in fact I'm a good kid was a virgin until 2 weeks ago. I guess I got too carried away when my parents gave me liberty and let me sleep over my friends house whose brother is my boyfriend..bad idea. We ended up having sex. 2 times. Unprotected.( I know, I know that was stupid!) He said he never cummed inside of me, but precum can get you pregnant. I got my period last month sept 13. And its the 18th and it still hasn't come. I took a pregnancy test (E.P.T.) With my friend (she helped me, because I know nothing about stuff like this) and it came out negative . So I was off course thrilled. But that was 3 days go. And now its the 18th and I still haven't gotten my period. I'm extremely nervous. The way I took it was I peed on a cup, then put the EPT stick inside and waited 2 mins. It came out negative. I mean could my period just be irregular? Wat are some early pregnancy signs?
Something that scared me so much was what my mom told me this morning. She said she had a horrible dream that I had a baby. And she followed it with "I know that wouldn't happen, I have such a good daughter" go figure. I really hope that's just a coincidence. I pray that it is. Please don't say go to the doctor because my mom has my insurance and she will suspect if I just ask for it. Also, If I am pregnant (which I pray I am not) I heard there is a pill you can take if its early enough? How much is it? Ahh!! I'm so nervous and scared. Please any information would help me. Thank you. (link)
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Okay first off relax.
Sometimes your period may not happen due to the fact of you stressing out. So try not to think too much about it.
The pregnancy tests aren't all accurate its always better to go to a doctor and get blood taken or have them test you just to be sure. There is the morning after pill but that's not an option since you can only take it five days after you've had sex.
You said you don't want to go to the doctor because of your mom well first off your visit with the doctor is between you and the doctor no one else. And two if you are really concerned I would go to a clinic if I was you and get tested there.
My advice is go to a clinic and try to get tested to see and be sure and if it comes out negative relax and try not to think about it. I knwo tis easy said then done but if you think too much about it, it will affect when your period comes. Good luck!
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what do you do after you've said yes a guy that just asked you out. do you walk away, hold hands, stay with him and your friends? i just think it'll b 2 weird to hug him that soon. what should i do? (link)
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I think you're thinking way to into this. Once you say 'yes' than you become boyfriend and girlfriend. He takes you out on dates. Depending on how comfortable you are you can hug whenever you want, hold hands, or kiss him on the cheek.
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I'm 18 years old and a freshmen in college.
I met a guy and were hanging out and we hooked up. Later on I asked him if it was a one night stand and he said, "Honestly I don't have time to start anything right now but if I did, then things would be different." Then he said we would be "friends for now." I'm hoping this means that down the line, things could work out. Not necessarily a relationship, but more than just a one night stand. We live in the same dorm building and he is a Photography student taking all sophomore level classes as a freshmen, so he's very busy. Photo majors here are the busiest people ever, it's not just him. All my friends who do Photo are pretty busy too.
Do you think he's just trying to get me off his back as a one night stand, or if he's being genuine in his reason, cause I like him. Before we hooked up he had been complaining about how he doesn't like the way his roommate talks badly about women and he hasn't brought a single girl back to his room (except me, of course).
I like this guy so I want things to work out. (link)
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As I have said to the people looking for advice I'm going to be honest with you.
If the guy was really into you he wouldn't give you any kind of excuse he would just be with you. It sounds like to me he jsut wants to be friends with you. You should just try meeting other guys on campus or something.
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My boyfriend have been dating for about two months now, and usually I wait to have sex, but he and I have been best friends for so long, that I'm totally comfortable and feel safe with him, and we decided to have sex on Friday. We used a condom, and it felt good at first but we didn't have a lot of time because his mom came home, so we stopped and just hung out for a while.
A few hours later, we messed around for a little bit, and he told me he wanted to do it without a condom. I trusted him, and told him it'd be fine as long as he knew how to control himself. He stayed in for about two minutes but promised he was very careful and far from cumming. I don't know if it's my paranoid mind, but I've been worrying about that since the day after. My period is very inaccurate and skips a day or two than normal, so I never really know when it is going to show up, but this time I counted ahead. It should come sometime this week, but I'm letting my worries get the best of me. My boyfriend is very responsible and fatherly to my sister, so if chance happened that I did have his child, things would be fine...
Anyway sorry for the long question, but any advice to ease my worries? (link)
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Okay first off I don't care how long you known him or how close you are this should teach you to ALWAYS wear a condom. The pull out method is not a good way to prevent pregnancy. By the way did you know that guys can pre-cum and not know? So yeah that's something to think about too.
Second it's too early to tell you said it happened on Friday. If I were you I would go to a clinic or drugstore and get the morning after pill just in case. Don't wait until your period you need to get that pill and then talk to your boyfriend about being safe during sex.
Go to the store or a clinic and get the pill! Good luck!
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Hi ! :) So I have thought about this for a long time but I just don't know what to do.. Maybe you have a solution?
I am a girl, 16 years old. I am beautiful, well lots of people say so. I just feel insecure about my body and personality. I only feel good with the right clothes and the right make up. I have never really had a real boyfriend but lots of flings, one night stands and stuff. Lots of boys dissapointed me and broke my heart. Not only boys, lots of friends did the same. They dumped me for someone better and just left me. When I was younger I was naive and gave my heart away easily. But now I don't really dare to have a real boyfriend or a real date because I am afraid they don't like it if they really get to know me. And I just don't know if I can take it anymore, those heartbreaks. It hurts so bad, I really hate love. I build up walls so no one can see how I feel about them, but still; I feel lost. So there have been boys I really like but I am just too afraid they will hurt me, so I just tell them I am not looking for anything serious. But when I hear they have a girlfriend I am totally crushed. I know it's stupid, because I have pushed them away myself. I really hate myself for being such a drama queen, I know lots of people have it so much worse, but I can't help the way I feel, I guess. So what do you think, should I first work on myself, on my confidence or just take a risk and not think about the consequences? (link)
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Hey! :) I know how you feel I've been there and done that. Heck I'm still working on trying to be more confident in myself. No matter what my friends or boyfriend says I sometimes don't believe in myself like they do its weird. When I was 16 I was in the same boat but never got a boyfriend because I was either scared or I had no interest. One thing I've learned is that you have to take risks. If you don't then you'll never experience anything and you're only limiting yourself. Risk sometimes unfortunately comes along with hurt and no one likes hurt. It's better to have feelings and experience then feel nothing at all and isolating yourself from everyone. I've put my heart out on the line many times and I've been both rejected and hurt. It's not fun. After being hurt though, I eventually get back up again and move on. Just because things don't work out doesn't mean its your fault it just means it wasn't meant to be.
You need to be comfortable with you and how you feel about the situations. Be positive and confident in yourself. Take risks and take the opportunities that come before you. That doesn't just go for boys it goes for the things that might come your way in life. If you don't take a risk, instead you're going to be dealing with regret. Good luck and keep your head up!
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I've been with my boyfriend for a year. He currently lives with me and my parents since his mom left him homeless. We are both 18; we don't fight a whole lot, just the typical agruements.
Well, he's been complaining that I'm not as affectionate as I use to be, and that I never want to have sex with him and stuff.
He's afraid its because I'm not attracted to him anymore, but I know I am.
How come I don't have urges to have sex with him as often as I use to, and how come I'm not all lovey dovey with him like I was when we first got together?
*Ever since he's been living with me, is when I stopped being so affectionate. I just feel akward doing it in front of my parents. I like to give them respect, ya know?
*Sometimes when he tries to lay on me, or touch on me, I get irritated, and I don't understand why. Any help? (link)
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Well after a year the "honeymoon phase" in a relationship is over. Not that you can't have romantic moments but they aren't all the time. This si where you discover you and what you want out of your life. This is also where you two learn more about each other and figure out if you want to stay together. He sounds like he's missing the "honeymoon phase" which is understandable. When you first fall in love with someone it feels great but being in love is great too. It will be 2 years that I've been with my boyfriend in January. We have our moments but we also are crazy for each other. I love him and I can't see him not being in my life.
I understand how you want to respect your parents and their house...that's very mature of you. You should talk to him about that and tell him thats how you feeling. I guess a little hand holding wouldn't kill you though, right? Try to compromise a little.
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OK so im 15 and female and im having a serious problem. It feels like there is a hole in my chest, not physically though. I mean it feels like somethings missing. I dont understand, and whenever i think about it i feel like im gonna cry. I know im not depressed because i can be a very happy person but its always at the back of my mind. i see people together on the street and it makes it worse. Whether it be a couple, a mother and daughter, or even just friends i get this heart whrenching feeling. I dont get t cuz i have amazing relationships with my parents and friends. Im confused. Whatswrong with me? (link)
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I mean it's hard to say. I'm not a therapist or anything. Why don't you talk to someone? Maybe a guidance couselor at your school or maybe a therapist in your area. Maybe something happened when you were young or something that may have caused this.
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So im talking to a few different guys, and none of them know each other at all. One of them is divorced and has kids but is only 25, just turned actually less than a month ago, I even asked him to come over and I gave him birthday sex. He usually comes over when me and him can which is REALLY LATE AT NIGHT. I dont mind that but when he comes we talk for hours and we really click, he can tell me anything & i feel the same with him, until he starts staring into my eyes with his beautiful big green eyes and starts kissing me and every once in a while it leads to sex, sometimes oral, not always tho. He told me before that since he is recently divorced he's not looking for a relationship but i am dieing to call him my own. I KNOW im ready but it seems like he will never be because of the scars left by his ex. What do I do?? And the only reason I talk to the other guys is to keep my options open but he is the one I want to be with. (link)
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I'm going to be honest with you like I would be honest with my friends.
He's using you as a 'booty call'. He's coming over "really late at night" "says all these things to you, that you want to hear", he likes you but doesn't want a relationship right now, and giving you more excuses.
Point blank and I know you don't want to hear it but move on. He's playing with you and he sounds like he has baggage. A guy will say anythign to get his way and it sounds like he's dragging you along. Don't get caught up in that!
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Hey im 14 i need advice!
My ex asked me if I wanted to make out with me and he is one of my best guy friends. and i aked him why and he said that cause I didnt do it when we were going out so now i wanna. My friends tell me I should. But I find it werid thats all but he doesnt find it werid i Havent answered him yet...
WHAT SHOULD I DO???? (link)
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Your ex probably still has feelings for you. Why is he your ex? Think about the reason why you broke up. You have to decide what you're comfortable with!
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Hi. So I've been on and off talking with this guy Matt for about a year now. We were on towards the end of school and beginning of summer. Off for summer. And then back on for the beginning of school. He would text me more than he ever had. Ask me to hang out more than he ever had (even though it never really worked out that we could) and he asked me to wear his jersey to his game. He also hugged me whenever he saw me and confided in me about stuff.
Well. There this girl. I used to go to camp with her when I was like eight and she moved here this year. She's the grade below me, a sophomore. I'm a junior and Matt's a senior by the way. And at one of the football games I was cheering at she was talking to Matt in the stands. Apparently one of Matt's friends wanted to set them up. She got a ride with Matt and one of Matt's guy friends to a restaraunt where all us students go after a football game and when I met him there he took me to their table. It felt awkward so I left, and he wasnt very happy about that. At practice later that week (Im on varsity cheer so thats why I was cheering at that football game and the new girl is on JV, but on the squad) the new girl was talking about this guy she liked. Guess who it was. Matt. Apparently they went out to lunch that day. That pissed me off. Matt told me at the beginning of school that he couldnt go out to eat during his soccer season. I didn't talk to him about it and later that day at school he came up to me and was like guess who I went to lunch with (cause he knew I was already kind of jealous of her). and yeah another girl went with them but still. He texted me that night and asked if I was mad. He basically made me admit I was jealous but then told me he didn't like her at all. Well since then it's just been weird. I feel like everything I say is wrong and that he's losing interest. And I don't know what to do. He say's he doesnt like her, and we aren't dating, and I have no claim to him. But still! What should I do? This is a very awkward situtaion because she doesn't know that I like him... and ughhh. Help? (link)
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Matt sounds like an immature guy and sounds like a definite player. It sounds like to me that he's flirting with you and this other girl and keeping you both interested in him. In case one of the flings doesn't work out he's got back up. Some guys are jerks like that. I would talk to Matt if I were you and tell him how you feel. Do you want to be with him? Do you want to be in a relationship with him?
I'm not sure if you would with the way he's acting now. Matt is being shady and sneaky by talking to this other girl and thinking that he can get away with it. I would tell him how you feel and if he continues this behavior ignore him. Be with a guy who doesn't play games be with someone who is straight forward and cares about you. If he cared about you he wouldn't treat you like this. Stand up for yourself!
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Okay so yesturday i had a question about my dream that i had about my ex-boyfriend , who is no longer an ex-boyfriend as of today. Well my question is am i making the right decision? I mean i really like him and i want to go back out with him but the way i see it is that there are a couple ways that this can turn out to be. 1. we break and it ruins our friendship that we've had for 3 yrs. But if we break up it could make our relationship even stonger / will be closer to each other , after all we are bestfriends. Just please help , i really need some guidience. (link)
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There is really no way of telling you how its going to go. Either you want to be with him or you don't. You have to way the pros and cons before getting back with an ex. I had to do that with my recent boyfriend we broke up for a bit and I was unsure of whether we should get back together at first. I weighed the pros and cons though and I loved him. Relationships are work and they take time. Go out and have fun. If there is something stopping you I would re-think your decision. Don't base the friendship on getting back together with him because that'll hurt the friendship more. Ask yourself do you love him? Do you see him in your future? Does he make you happy? Think about it.
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Boy's want my sister but not me. Don't know if it's cause of age(I'm 14 and she's 16) or what. But a lot of pepole say I look a lot like her(I can't see that)
Why can't I get a boy?
For girl's only....thanks anyway. (link)
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First off you shouldn't be comparing yourself to your sister. You two are different people! Never compare yourself to someone else because no one is like you and you no one ever will be like you.
I call this the "boy crazy syndrome". It's all about finding a boyfriend and having a boyfriend. Why do you want a boyfriend? Do you think it's going to make you feel better? Do you want one because your sister may have one? Why are you asking why you can't get a boy? Do you think your not good enough?
Don't put yourself down because you can't find a guy. It's not you, its jsut you haven't found him or maybe he hasn't found you. Don't worry about ti too much. Just have fun for right now!
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Im 13 and my parents wont let me have a cell phone. They say its just because ill lose it. Is that completely unfair or completely fair? (link)
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You're 13. If your parents say no, its a no. My mother always use to say "As long as your in my house you're going by my rules". I'm sure your parents have a good reason for you not having a cell phone. It may not seem fair now but I'm sure there is a good reason.
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Im 13, female, and I live in the lamest, deadest, stupidest town EVER!!! There are like 3000 people and almost none of them are my age. They are either 6 years too young or 6-86 yrs too old. Im tryin to find the perfect boyfriend but dont know how. Any help? (link)
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Well I'm sure there is someone in your town. Do you know all 3000 people? You're 13 why are you in such a rush to get a boyfriend? Don't rush things just let them happen. And there is no such thing as perfect...everyone has their flaws. I guess if you really want to get to know people maybe go on some social networks online or something. Maybe join a club or go out to the movies with your friends. Be positive and don't be in such a rush to get a boyfriend. Boyfriends aren't everything you know!
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Im 13 and female. Girls at my new act really, really nice when they want something or need help, ect. but when i wanna just hang out they act like bitches. (sorry for the explict language.) Like just yesterday, i practically did they're whole history paper and then they just snub me. I think it might be because im emo. Can you tell me whats wrong? (link)
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Nothing is wrong with you it's them.
Don't bother doing a single thing for them anymore. It seems to me that it's either their way or the highway and that's not how it works. Stand up for yourself and don't bother with the games anymore. if they act nice to you be ncie back by saying 'hi' and 'how are you?' and that's it. Don't do anything else for them because you're being used and that's not right and nor is it fair.
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I am a lesbian and just found out my ex was cheating on me so we broke up. We have been together for a little over 2 years. A friend threw a friend contacted me on facebook (who is also a lesbian) and said she isnt good for you things will be ok and was very comforting. She didn't even know me but was there for me no matter what. She text me everyday and was always there for me. We started hanging out and getting close very quick. She just broke up ith her ex in august who had hurt her very bad wouldnt let her do things will her daughter really messed her up. After almost 2 weeks of us talking and hanging out she asked me if i was readyfor a relationship. I said yes because she makes me feel so comfy and just safe. So her and her sister and her bf got a house I took off to help them move. I stayed thre a lot and she even gave me a house key. There was some nights I did go home. We hooked up a few times and the connection was just wow eye contact the whole time and we didnt hook up unless I stayed the night cuz she said its wrong for us to hook up then I leave. I even got close to her daughter and was gettin her up in the mornings for school so my gf could sleep. All of this happened in 2 weeks thats how long we dated. Then the other day she wasnt very touchy feely and sat alone and ws playing games. I asked if she wanted me to leave she said no I just like my me time. I got a feeling so I went home that night. I text her saying I feel I worn out my welcome she said no I just like my me time you kno what I mean. I said im sry you should of just said to leave she said no thats mean. Then yesterday she decided she was gonna spend the day with her daughter which was fine with me. Well as she kept textin I said maybe Ishouldnt stay for awhile and I should get my things I said her what she thought she said i dont know. Then she said she isnt ready for a relationship she thought she was but isnt and sh was sorry that I didnt deserve this and she felt bad but she just not ready. she said its her and there isnt no one else. I asked if we could talk face to face the next day she said ok. So the next morning I saw on facebook where sheput she was back to being single and someone commented and she said shen ot ready to be tied down. She wouldnt talk to me unless it was about me commin to get my stuff. When I got to her house she done left and my stuff was on the porch. She let me go inside to make sure she didnt forget anything (which she did) and asked i brought a few of her things in and I did. I told her when I left and I said so now what she said we could be firends I saidin the future a relationship? she said friends. Well last night she went to the bar with some friends and put on herfacebook had a great time glad to kno i still got game if i wanted to use it has a few beautiful ladies tell me my eyes was sexy. I dunno what she meansby that! She wont talk to me when I say I miss her or I wish we could work on things. But she text me when i said i forgot her jacket in my car and said shed let me kno when i could bring it by. is it a good thing she not talkin at all i mean she could be like stop i dont wanna hear it? i just miss her and ish we could work things out please help me and i really like this girl but dont know what to do! (link)
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It sounds like the girl doesn't know what she wants and you sound like you do. There isn't much else you can do because you're letting her know how you feel and she's just not into being in a relationship. I know it hurts but I'm sure she's at a point where she doesn't know what to do whether it be she is still hung up on her last relationship or she wants to concentrate on herself. Who really knows except her. You should back away from her and try to start trying to see other women. I know you care for her but she doesn't seem to want a relationship so its best you give her some room.
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helpp. so theres this guy i met at the end of last year from school. we started talking on facebook mostly and only a little at school since were shy. we talked alot online and i found out hes soo sweet and said really nice things and we went on a date once but i went on vacation the whole summer and now its a new year at school but he hasnt said a word to me yet and all he does is look at me. also whenever i send a message to him online he just logs out and doesnt write back. i cant believe it since he said such sweet things last year and he really seemed to care about me alot! what goes on in a boys mind?? PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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Try confronting him at school if possible. Who knows what goes on in boy's minds...boys can be weird and I'm sure they think the same for us girls. If you really want to know though put him on the spot at school or maybe write him a message on facebook asking him what the deal is. Maybe he's afraid to get rejected? Hard to tell what he's thinking so you should ask him about it.
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What should be our song on how we were, we were enemies to friends to lovers? Can you please help me find a song? (link)
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Sometimes instead of picking a song for you and your significant other isn't how it works. Sometimes the song chooses you, I know that sounds weird but sometimes it just happens. For example my boyfriend and I have a song. Our song is "Hey There Delilah" by The Plain White Ts. I couldn't tell you how this song became our song but it just did. We listen to a lot of music and a lot of songs remind me of him but at the end of the day "Hey there Delilah" is our song.
Another tip is to maybe goole lyrics that include what you're looking for.
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This is going to be SUPER long, but i'm need of some serious help. i'm 17/F and my bf is 21. ive been with him for 1 year, and its literally been the best year of my life. he has made me happy in so many ways i didnt even know were possible. along with that, he's also brought me down to my lowest. the thought of losing him seriously gives me suicidal thoughts, i have cried for 7 hours during arguements and yesterday it even got physical. it got so bad i started punching him and telling him he was an ass****, i attempted jumping out of his car, he put me in a chokehold and called me a slut. i seriously lose myself when i fight with him, like i black out and i dont see anything but pain. on top of me and him having horrible fights, i have this extreme jealousy towards his ex of 4 years, because they were super serious and she is still crazy in love with him. i'm terrified he'll leave me and get back with her, or that she'll convince him to cheat on me with her. i dont know if i would be more miserable with him or without him. i feel like he's my only choice, i live in a small town and i know i will NEVER find anyone like him. i'm just too crazy in love with him. i want to learn how to fix this without me being so crazy about everything, and maybe stop caring less? PLEASE HELP. (link)
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You really want to be in a relationship with a guy who treats you like this? A guy who puts you in a chokehold? A guy who calls you a slut? I'm sure you love having a boyfriend but that doesn't mena you have to deal with someone like that.
First off no one is worth suicide. Why would you kill yourself just because of someone? No one is worth taking your life for. I mean I would take a bullet for my friends or my boyfriend but that's very different.
This relationship sounds both dangerous for you and for him. It soudns like you are emotionally damaged and that he's emotionally abusive to you. My advice is to break up with him and move on. Maybe start talking a therapist or guidance couselor about how your feeling. You're not helping yourself by staying a relationship like this you are only hurting yourself. By staying he's just going to continue to treat you like he is now. There is this guy who dates my friend and he is a jerk. He's a complete jerk. She kept giving him chances and he changed for two seconds and then went back to his old ways. People don't changed and if they do its a long while before they can completely change. You think that staying in this relationship is going to change things but its not going to and things will get worse. He needs help and lessons on how to treat a woman especially when its his girlfriend. I'm sure you want to hear ways on how to fix this but I'm going to be honest you are better off just moving on. Good luck and keep your head up!
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now, and i seriously believe whole heartedly that we are meant to be together
we are two of a kind, and we have fallen for each other so quickly. He treats me absolutely amazingly and always puts me first.
The only thing worrying me right now, is i dont know how to deal with my feelings when he rejects my advances in bed. I lost my virginity to him, and he told me that anytime im in the mood, or i just want to explore his body i can. He told me i could touch him anywhere, anytime and that his body is mine now, as mine is his also.
but the last two times that we've woken up beside each other, and ive been in the mood, my advances got rejected...ive never been rejected sexually before so i felt a little bit upset that he didnt want to have sex with me. again, i feel bad and i would never force him to do something he doesnt feel like doing, but it just stings hearing 'stop' and 'calm yourself down' when i even kiss his neck. Its very difficult for me to turn myself off when im in the mood and i usually get in a bad mood and roll away from him, left awake thinking ive done something wrong for wanting him.
Should i just back off and not show him any affection in the mornings when we wake up?
I just find it hard to control myself with how insanely attracted to him i am, and how much i want to make him feel even half as amazing as he makes me feel. (link)
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Maybe you should take it easy because sometimes too much of a good isn't good. Have you talked to him about how it makes you feel? It's better to speak up and tell him then to just roll over and keep it bottled up inside. If you truly feel like he's a good boyfriend then a good boyfriend will do anything to make you happy. Maybe he was tired? Maybe he's not in the mood? It's not you. Don't go blaming yourself. Sometimes it's just the way it is. Talk to him about it.
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