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I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.

Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.

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There's this girl, Rayna. She's so mean. And anyway, I was talking to this guy on facebook whos really great, and she comments him and tells him that he should stop talking to me and that shell "explain later." and ive never even talked to her, so shes just doing it to spite me. So anyway, would it be a bad idea to message her saying "what did rayna say about me?" And should i say something else?

Show her you mean buisness and your not going to take any rubbish from her.Your gonna ask him with confidence and tell him that she has been on your case for ages and you havnt done nothing.Your gonna hang with your friends and you gonna igonre here??She just dosnt start being to you for nothing but because you havnt, I suggest she's jealous of you because you with him.Go up to her and ask what her your problem?Just ignore she is just jealous.

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my dad just relized my birthday was 2 days ago its only me and my dad i ve been talkin about it for a long time and he forgot for 2 days he said he was sorry he relized it when i was crying sayin you didnt remember my bday all my friends called and sang and talked and everything but my DAD didnt i cant get over it he forgot last year too ITS EVEN ON THE CALANDER im cryin i just cant get over it

Hey.I am so sorry.It must feel alwful.Now you know that your dad loves you and dosnt mean to hurt you and there is no way I am going to say what he has done is right but you need to talk to your dad.Theres something going on with him to because parents just dont forget.He's probarbly having a rough time and i think you just talk to him and have a good long talk - you might already do this but you need to become FRIENDS.This way everythings remembered,out in the open and your feelings and his feeling come out too...Dont ignore him because he puts a roof over your head, be appreciative - not that Im saying your not.This happened to someone I know too, you should just in future plan things with your mates and go out together.Talk to your dad and make him a nice meal and sit with talk.You'll feel better.

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theres this girl i like and i think she likes me too but she said she cant have a boyfreind till shes 16, i want to ask her out but shes a realy nice girl and i am kinda shy what do i do?

Dont pester her about it.She'll see what she's missing ha.RESPECT her opnion, but you can always be a really sneaky boy and win her heart even more by putting a little something in her desk at school, or just "can I walk you home?".You can always just ask if you'd like to study together, that way her rents know what she's upto and probarbly know, that she has a "crush" on you as embassring rents call them.Just ask if she'd like to go the cinema as mmates then.....If she dosnt know she like you just talk to her and just ask her out - you never know,considering she might like you - she might say yes.

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I like a guy he is a blonde surfer type of guy. most of my freinds who are black all tell me that surfer guys only like whit girls with blonde hair and as i am colored they said he would never in a million years go out with me. Are they telling the truth?

This is what annoys me
A, DONT CARE WHAT THEY THINK.Who are they to judge, they should be happy for you no matter what
B,SO WHAT IF YOU ARE DIFFERENT COLOURS, though it can be hard because of different cultural backgrounds,eg:If he cheats on you your family may do something cultural
Your mates obviously need stop bringing in race into this and no they arent telling the truth, they are telling their OWN OPNION.Which is natrual.If you like him go for it.And it is a bit offensive, because not ALL WHITE people LIKE BLONDES.And what do you have to lose??Your mates obvioulsy have some "sterotyping" problems and need to sort them out because they come across as slightly racial though myself am n ot offened.Have a go, do they know him?NO.So you go girl and win his heart.Dont change youeself for anyone.Dont care what your mates think.

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what exacly does understanding means? can you give me an example?

im from korea

Understanding means when your getting what people are saying, you are following what they are saying.

Ie : Are you understanding this maths question?
Means: Are you following,getting this maths question?

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so the problem is that I AM A GIRL and i hate other girls. i can't stand them. i think their so weird and discusting. and i am a girl myself. and i only have guy friends. and i only like guys.
seriously i think guys are the only normal creatures in this world. and it makes me so angry hearing girls talking about girl stuff. it's just SO anoying. and when they scream cause they are so excited over something. it always makes me pissed. and seriously i am obsessed with guys. i dress like a guy , i act like a guy a lot , and i only have guy friends , and i am so crazy about guys haha
and i don't get myself.
is this behavior normal? or am i a weird person?

Some girls are like - I kind of used to be like you!Sterotyping you - you'd be called "a tomboy".But it isnt weird at all and your perfectly normal - you just have different interests and prefer to hang with people like yourself.Your you and there is nothing wrong.You have more of a masiculan side which is nothing to be ashamed of.Heck, what would you rather be an annoying squealy girl who goes "he sooooo dreamY" or be you who just down to earth and dosnt get over excited.Your fine, gIRl

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Okay so I am the biggest complainer EVER. I complain about EVERYTHING, like when I'm talking to someone, without even thinking I just start going on a complaining rant. Idk why, my life isn't that bad and other people are probably thinking that I have a horrible life or something. Ahh. It's just a bad habit, though... sometimes, I try my hardest to act all sunny and positive but in reality I'm just pessimistic and I HATE it! I wish I could just appreciate my life and not complain so much because I know it can be much worse. And now everyone feels all bad for me because I always complain and they're like "aww, I'm sorry you're sad" or whatever. I don't want people feeling bad for me! How can I stop complaining and being so negative??

Tell your mates and family to be honest with you.Because they probarbly want to tell you to hush up and stop going on.But they cant.If you do complain , just say to whoever your with - Im sorrY FOR being moany, I'm just being silly and laugh it off.If you feel you need to complain start free online blog or journal to get your stress out.Just be careful on blogs though.Your obviously a very stressed out, a bit impaitent person??Who speaks what they feel??Just read a book, use a stress ball or have a nice hot bath/shower with nice oils and scented candles,when your feeling stressed.Dont act different just be yourself.

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what do you think is the biggest problem that faces teens today? like in the early teens or so.. from ages 12-15ish i guess, or it could count for everything in general i guess. its for this research paper thingy in my 7th grade literacy class and i dunno what topic to choose! i thought of sports cuz sometimes you get rejected and you have to try real hard but i couldnt really think of alot of ideas for that.. it has to be 1 specific thing. cant be like "family problems" has to be specific like "divorce". so whats your opinion? i'll use the best one here. thanks!

I think it is mainly sex and self respect(Im 13)Teenagers have no respect for themesleves these days.They'll do anything for a bf,gf or to hang with cool kidsThey'll flash for bf/gf which isnt right because we are too young to be doing this and it quite filthy.The bf/gf only want them for one thing.The relationship will never last so why bother even doing something like.They thinking doing something sexual will impress people but its dirty and fitlhy and parents do not know about their online blogs,msn - dirty messages on phones and piczo,mysapce sites.It is absoloutly dreadful.Teens are getting preganant because they are in a realtionshop which mainly includeds pressure than anything else.Most teens can cope with parents and divorce.But sex is the worst.They have no repsect for their body.they might as wellbe prostitutes,Im glad Im not like that.

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this guy and I have been talking for a while. We have gotten real close and he asked me out today.

Okay, that's all good until he said 'Love you'
and that he wanted to kiss me.


How do I tell him that I want to slow down?

I'm used to waiting months for a first kiss.

I may be old fashion.. is this how relationships are .. nowadays?

I want to say it in the nicest way so he doesn't get embarrassed.. because I think.. he might take it as rejection. "No, I don't want to kiss you."

Just tell him that you really want take things slow, and say to him, I wanna do it when the time is right, I dont want to ruin it - but I DO like you.Something,All relationships are different so there is old fashioned or new fashioned realtionship - if he dosnt accept your feelings and choices he may not be that person you thought he was.Also I guess he wants to kiss you as he has been waiting for so long, and may not no how to handle a realtionship either.

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I realized, I flirt a lot, with just about EVERY guy in my school..and i have a boyfriend..what are some ways that I could stop flirting.. I feel bad.. but sometimes I can't help it..i'm a natural flirt..thanks.

There isn't anything wrong in beibng flirty as long as its not too much, but if your feeling guilty, how about texting your bf now and then - so it can remind you of him - make sure you have a pic of you and him on your phone, and purse etc.And maybe a locket - then how you can you possibly flirt when you have your "bf" all on you ha!

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iv'e been going out with this guy since x-mas. we're going out for valentines day but i seriously have no clue what to get him........he has lots of aftershave already so i didn't want to get him that i really don't want to get him clothes either.... i'm soooo stuck on what to get him.. his style is kind of gay because he knows what he likes... is there anything mutual that any guy would like that i could get him....

please reply soon so i can get it thanks so much

How about a good book?

Why dont you get him a mug with his name on - or personalise it!You can do it online.Make him a photo album with loads of pics of you and him and scrap words or pics he likes.Make him a cd of love songs or songs he likes and get him a cd he likes

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people always say im random... i dunno, how do i not be random? i guess its just myself, but sometiemes i say things and my friends are like "that is soo random" and im like.. "how is that really random?" because it was in my head, and when theres nothing to talk about, you bring up a subject! sometimes its kinda annoying.. ugh... so.. well.. how do i stop being so random? how do people become random anyway? answer anything related to this paragraph.

Im exactly the same.And you are you why change yourself for others??Has it ever occured to you that if your friends didnt like your randomness they wouldnt be with you??Being random is perfectly fine and friends love it!!!!!!You go out there and be random - my randomness makes people laugh.And I'm sure you'd know if you were annoying people.The way to stop being random is to Keep Quiet ha!

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okayy im 13/f and i reallllyyy want to get my belly button pierced but of corse my mom wont let me. so i was wondering is the anyway i could do it on my own?

You should never do it by yourself.
Also DO NOT go behind your mums back and lose her trust becaue your to silly enough to lie and lose your trust over some piercing.Im 13 too and I know what it feels like but you'll just have to wait it's fair to your mum - I'm not suggesting that you ARE going behind her back, but I'm just saying incase.

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My grandmother just passed away, and our family needs music to play at her service. I need at least more than one song, please. Any slow music, even with good lyrics would be really good.

Thanks!

Through the rain - mariah carey

It's slow and it's about getting through things and you'll be strong.

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hi i'm victoria.
i like this guy but i don't know how to tell him i like him.and he is in 8th grade and i'm in 6th grade.so how do i tell him before he goes to high school?

It may sound harsh but why tell him??He's much older that you for a start and boys like girls their own age or older.You'll never really see him.And he's gonna grow up a lot - he might not wanna be with you.Also even if you went out with him - he's gonna find someone else because they'll be his age.It's just a crush.Not real love.And you're gonna find someone you're own age.I know you want to get it off your chest but there isnt much point.This sounds harsh but its true.AND you dont know if he feels the same way - and how akward will this be for him too.You'll hardly ever see him when he goes to high school - so any chance you do see him , he might just wanna hide away because he's embarrased because of what you said

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Is it bad to have confidence and think you are pretty?

This is coming from someone who had low confidence for a large number of years. I would never call myself pretty.

but this is a new year and the past is left behind.

and I'm a lot happier now. It's scaring me I guess. I'm happy when I go out and I smile ...and feel pretty?

Is that bad?

I mean.. confidence in everything.. that you think you are good?

It feels.. really weird/wrong.

My adivice?? Go out and be pretty and confident.Why shouldn't we?Because I dont think there is a law saying you cant feel goood about yourself.When someone knocks you back, just get up.It isnt wrong to feel confident and pretty.Women should deifnatly feel great about ourselves!And it is what matters on the inside not outside.

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im an 18 yr old female. i have a friend angela, she was seeing this guy, brad. they broke up, but they were still having sex. 1 nite they were bout 2 get back 2getha, b4 brad hooked up wit emma, angela's friend. angela 4gave them both. on angela's 21st brad decided he didn't want 2 go out & basically ruined her bday. last week we all spent $60 on tickets to a rave. brad was suppose 2 b coming but didn't show up & didn't call. afta 5mins of being there angela decided she wanted 2 go home.i went with her. on the way out brad called her. she had a fight with him and started 2 cry. brad said he would come pick us up, when he got there she got in the car with him and drove off on me. i made my own way back 2 her house & yelled at brad as he had ruined our day yet again. then we all went out. all nite she made out with him, then when we got bak 2 hers she told me 2 sleep in the lounge so she could have sex wit him. at 1st i said no, then she cracked it saying what a bad freind i was, so i slept in da lounge. i left the next morning. as soon as i left, she started bitching bout the fact i went off at brad. then she fones me up 2 say she wants all her clothes bak, including a top she lent me 6 months ago. i took the top off & left it in my room, which i was sharing wit a girl, jess. i got kicked out the same week & wasn't allowed bak 2 get da top. a week l8r jess moved out, taking da top. then she disconnected her fone, so i cant get in contact wit her now. now angela is saying just 2 give the rest of her clothes bak & stuff the friendship. am i in the wrong?? if so how??

Your not in the wrong, and if she was your friend she wouldnt be doing this stuff to you.Basically I say what I'm thinking and I mean what I think/say . tell your friend to go shove the top up her bum and go on being the slut that she is - I mean why have it with someone that you broke up with?And you can tell her she's the most rudest disgraceful cow - how can she just kick you out and make you sleep in the lounge.Boys come and go but friends are forever.Now the advice that I just gave you - save that until you get to the arguement point.

But for now I suggest you just give her back the stuff.Just carry on as normal and talk to brad too.

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13/f. when i babysit in the evening from like 6 to 12 or so i get really nervous when it turns dark after i put all of the kids to bed. even though the people i abysit for arre right across the street from my house i still get nervous. im parenoid that a burgular is going to come or something. im scared that i want be able to defend myself. how can i get not so parenoid?

Have the doors locked, have your rents and police on speed dial.Just chill.Watch a Romantic Movie - not a scary one.Read a book.And eat.You'll be fine.God is with you too xx

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OK, so I'm kind of interested in my ex again. We recently started talking after two years, and I think I might have feelings for him again. He's just taking a 'break' with his girlfriend. We flirted a LITTLE, but How else can I just drop him a couple hints?

No wait a minute.He is having a break with his girlfriend and you think it is acceptable to flirt with him?Especially as he is feeling or sorts of things - its not fair on him and its no fair to you either.

Why did you break up in the first place?Why?What about if it happends again.I think until this guy actually know what he wants , you cant do much.Flirt with him if he has decided he dont want his gf.And if you confess youir feeling to him now, he might not know what he wants.

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15/f. I have a conflict with my best friend, who is 14/f. First of all, I am not your average teenage girl: I'm artsy, I would like to become a professional musician, I've never had a boyfriend, and I don't consider shopping a hobby. My best friend is the typical prep. I don't have a problem with this at all. My problem is that she is always telling me that I need to get a boyfriend or a date to whatever formal, or that I need to be more like the average teenage girl. But this isn't what I want at all, and I am completely happy with myself at this point in my life because instead of concentrating on boys, I concentrate on what I love to do: music. So it seems as if my best friend is trying to control me. Lately, she's obsessed with having a boyfriend, no matter who it is. And that's her business, but she drags me into crap like that. I never give in to her controlling manner, but it gets freaking annoying to the point where I don't even want to be around her anymore. How can I tell her to not be so controlling, yet still keep our friendship? Thank you!

First of all, if she gets controlling her say "No" keep refusing until she gives in.Dont give in - its what she wants.I guess she wants a sort of "side kick" not a confident friend who has her own self and isnt sucky-up "I'll lick your shoes alana!" kind of girl.

Still have fun with her - if she wants to go shopping?Maybe if you said yes, this will maybe make her feel that you are still close.
This happened with my friend.But eventually we broke away, (we're still friendly and say hi)And I went into what I wanted to do - performing, but she got into over exceesive amounts of makeup and boyfriends every week.If you feel its too much, just do what you want to do.You want to do sometihng in your life - go for it

You can tell her no, and that your not really interested.If your friendship is breaking down to the point where an arguement is occuring tell her that

-you're thinking of your career
- there more to life than boys
- your not a slave

Be pround and stand up.But sometimes just do what she wants to do, and tell her she has to do something you want to do !

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