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this guy and I have been talking for a while. We have gotten real close and he asked me out today.
Okay, that's all good until he said 'Love you'
and that he wanted to kiss me.
How do I tell him that I want to slow down?
I'm used to waiting months for a first kiss.
I may be old fashion.. is this how relationships are .. nowadays?
I want to say it in the nicest way so he doesn't get embarrassed.. because I think.. he might take it as rejection. "No, I don't want to kiss you."
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Just tell him that you really want take things slow, and say to him, I wanna do it when the time is right, I dont want to ruin it - but I DO like you.Something,All relationships are different so there is old fashioned or new fashioned realtionship - if he dosnt accept your feelings and choices he may not be that person you thought he was.Also I guess he wants to kiss you as he has been waiting for so long, and may not no how to handle a realtionship either.
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It's totally up to you. Let him know how you feel about the fact that he said it, and that he was already going in for a kiss. Let him know that you're old fashioned & would like to wait for those things. Usually, that's how girls are nowadays, but if you tell him how you feel, he should understand. And if he really likes you, he'll respect your decision.
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everybody is different when it comes to that. one of my good friends waited almost 5 months before she ever let her bf kiss her cuz she wanted to make sure he really liked her, and he totally respected her and never tried until she was ready because she meant that much to him. it is kinda noticable that he sometimes gets annoyed with too many "rules" and they do tend to fight more over it. but if this guy you're with really likes you and respects you, then he'll be willing to wait. just tell him you wanna get to know him better before you start to get more attached
i, however, kissed my boyfriend on our first date and we had only known eachother maybe 2 weeks i guess. this seems to be more of the "nowadays" way, but of course never do anything you don't want to...
i hope i helped!! =]
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tell him that it's too fast; and that you arent comfortable with the "i love you's" yet; because it takes a lot to actually love someone (and that he doesnt NEED to say it yet)
i know a lot of people who do the "i love you's" just cause they are in a relationship and it bugs the crap out of me; so i get what you mean lol...
just tell him you need to slow down; and be sure to tell him it's not because you dont like him or that you dont want to be with him; you just arent ready. (or used to it moving so fast)
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Just simply tell him that I dont want to move too fast and explain to him why think of the reasons and carefully explain them to him and tell him that it is not because anything is wrong with him it is just for your benifit to make you comfortable in the relationship (because you don't want to start doing things you dont want to do in relationships and letting people rush and pressure you so you have to tell him how you feel.) If you are old fashion that is fine you don't have to compare you and your relationship to any body else always stay true to yourself especially in relationships trust me because if you don't they'll end up in destruction anyway
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