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I want to know if Margie and Luke won the Amazing Race?
they are so cool! but i missed the final episode.
can you help?
Tammy and Victor won. It would have been so neat if they Margie and Luke won! I was hoping they would :)
Well, in my numerous other questions I stated that I liked my band drum major. I do, still, now I would like to go about this that I can be a good flirt without words, I don't want to be the girl to show a guy I like him with words. So, my friend says he looks at me whenever I look away or at someone else. She said when he looks at me it's like I'm the most important girl on the Earth. She said he just gets this look in his eyes that is unexplainable. When I look away, she looks at him and she also stated that every time I am not looking at him, he looks at me and smiles HUGE. Another thing that makes me think he has a minuscule amount of feelings is, he talks to everyone in the band like his best friends and when it comes to me he doesn't talk to me he is such an outgoing person but when he gets to me, he's so shy, heck maybe that means he doesn't like me, i just don't know! he also doesn't yell at me if I do something wrong (he yells at anyone in the band who is goofing off, except me). I think he likes me, to be honest. It's hard to tell though because both of us are shy kind of people that don't confront the person we like. However, we have so much in common, our favorite number is 8 and our favorite color is green, we are both in band, he's quiet around new people as am I. We both know how to have fun and we both don't care what others think. People, please, don't answer this 'he likes you, talk to him' like I said, I don't want to be the overbearing crush that never leaves the boy alone. Tell me how I can be a better flirt with JUST looks and things from far away. I am never close with him, one on one because he is always on the podium conducting and when he isn't conducting my band director has him doing something else. So, tell me how I can flirt when he's on the podium and I'm on the ground. Also, tell me your take on if he likes me or not.
->thanks to anyone who read this! I appreciate it!
Hi,
It definately sounds as if he likes you! A guy wouldn't be looking at you when you look away if he wasn't interested. He is obviously shy and really wants to say 'hi' but is too shy to. Also, the look in his eyes.. and the HUGE smile.. they are SURE signals! The reason for his talking to you quietly, could be that he is unsure of how to approach you, doesn't know what to say, or is nervous. You have to remember, he is a shy guy :) and is probably going through some of the same things as you.
He doesn't yell at you because he wants to be respectful to you, not scare you away, and he wants you to respect him and know that you can come to him; that he is not someone who is scary or angry. He wants you to like him.
If you have so much in common, I am glad that you would like to give him signs back.
When He looks at you, hold eye contact for as long as possible and smile while doing so. This will show Him you have confidence AND are interested. Majority of guys always notice your eyes or wonderful smile first. You could also look at him,wait until he looks at you,wink,smile,and look away quickly. This will leave him thinking about you. You could play with your hair while he is looking or flip your hair, it really does work.
If you ever think you will get a few moments with him and have the courage (which you are capable of!), you could make a note saying 'Hey, I really like your (blank), would you like to get together sometime?' (or something simular) sign your name with a heart beside and slip it into his pocket or a place you know he will look.
When he knows you are interested and feel the same way as him, he will make a more clear effort to show he wants to be with you :)
I wish you the best of luck
I want to write a nice song, but everytime I go to write it seems like I just blank out. I want to write a song about how I feel when I'm with my bf, how in love I am with him. But when I put words on paper and read 'em out loud...I fell like it's stupid. :/ Or lame...How can I get started? I'd like to write amazing lyrics like Owl City does, or Lights. Y'know people that have such beautiful music. Anyone able to give advice whom's had experience with song writing and such greatly appreciated! I'm 16 and a girl Oh yeah I play accoustic guitar, and am learning keyboard :P
Hey,
Song writing always comes from the heart and soul. When you are writing, try not to say that it is stupid. If YOU BELIEVE and have FAITH; it WILL work, no matter what.
You can get started by writing all your thoughts onto a page (or pages!). Say everything thats on your mind. And when I say everything, I mean EVERYTHING; even the real simple things. You can always edit later. Do not leave out the simple things for,they always count the most in a relationship and are what are treasured forever.
Write your thoughts about love,your relationship,your time together,and everything He does that makes you: smile laugh live and love him for who He is. Write about the things He says that inspires you to truly live life and want to live it with Him. All songs start from your thoughts,your expieriences,your life,what makes you smile,and what makes your heart all warm inside ;)
It is awesome that you play accoustic guitar and are learning keyboard. Hopefully that will help inspire you as well.
Remember this: Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent.
what are some economics, religious, social and artistic facts about qin dynasty?
Hi,
There are probably a ton of things I could find out for you. But for better detail, try these websites: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Qin_Dynasty or http://www.absoluteastronomy.com/topics/Tang_Dynasty_art or http://sun.menloschool.org/~sportman/westernstudies/first/1718/2000/cblock/qing/economy.html or you can always go to google.ca and search anything you need.
Hope you find what you need :)
Well,I've never been the one to "talk" to someone i've never met before but I guess you could say im giving it a shot.
This guy is 19 and lives in Georgia but is moving here in my town ,right near me...tomorrow!
I've met his grandma,whom he is going to live with for the time being.We have been talking online and in texts etc and he's pretty nice and cute from what his pictures show.He seems equally as interested ,we both have been talking daily for a couple weeks and now he said we should meet.I really do want to meet him !I don't know if its a good idea or not..The only reason I even began talking to him to begin with was because I met his grandma and she was telling me about him.I don't know her personally ,ive just met her once randomly.
What should I do?
Hey there,
If he is really nice,cute,and you have already met his Grandma, I would say 'Give him a chance!'. You shouldn't judge him, without really getting to know him and since he is going to be living close to you, you are going to see him almost everyday anyhow guaranteed.
But, in the end it is all up to YOU. Trust your instincts. If you want to meet him, there is no reason why you should not. You are not a risk of losing anything, just gaining a new friend, an awesome neighbour, and a sweet relationship :) If you do decide to meet him (which I recommend), and it does not work out, you can always tell him you don't wish to see eachother.
As I said before, Go For It! It is always nice to meet new people and fun to learn more about someone you are interested in :)
Remember to smile!
okay. so im 17 female and hes a 17 male. weve been together for almost 9 months. and were starting to get into the physical part of our relationship. meaning were getting more touchy and grabby with one another. we havent had sex yet though we both want to. and we both want kids. well he always seems to hurt me. like stepping on my toes and pinching me and biting me and all that stuff. i asked him why he is always hurting me and he said its cause he loves me. i told him my number 1 rule with my body is he can touch and rub and do whatever he wants to it. but not to hurt it. well he still will sometimes. and i get mad. well im the kind of person im more into like the rubbing and the sucking not really the biting cause he does it hella hard. well my question is what would you guys do if you were more the softer one meaning you like rough but soft like sucking and rubbing and all that. and he was all rough and biting and pinching. how would you guys do things or hangout together without one of yall getting mad everytime they hurt you or there not being rouch?! please help me. thankyou in advance
Hey,
If someone loves you, the MAIN thing they WILL NOT do, is hurt you. If a person TRULY loves you, they will respect you, comfort you, hold you, cry with you, be honest, and be there for you.
If he does not respect your wishes and continues with hurting behaviour, you have got to tell him to lay off! EvErY couple needs RESPECT. You have to be heard and know that he will respect you, before you can even move to the next level. Otherwise, it will not be worth it.
Communication is key as well. If you want to get along and hang out without fighting, talk about what needs to be changed in the relationship, make sure (correct) changes are made, and that they are enforced. Once you are both on the same level, you will find that you get along better, understand eachother, are happier, and will have more fun in the bedroom ;)
And I am sure you may know, but 17 is a young age to get pregnant. You have a whole life ahead of you and you do not need a child to pull you back, not just yet. So be aware.
Communicate and everything will work out in your relationship
Hey im that guy whio asked the question on how to get the girl at work's number, then i posted another question the day after saying how i had gotten her number and asking somthing else.
i then sent out thank you letters to the people who answer'd saying how we went to a club the day after and we woke up on my sofa which my mum found us both asleep on the sofa, well this is an update
She's leaving for uni and she wanted to spare me the pain and frustration of a long distance relationship and has decided to split up with me. Ill be honest i saw it coming a few days ago... but i didnt think it would hurt this much while wanting her so badly. i havent stopped crying for the last 4 hours.
we both still love eachother very much and are going to stay in contact but just not be together. I think its a good idea but as much as i hate to admit its a good idea i hate to see her go too.
really im asking what do i do now? wait the 2 years out till she comes back from University? or do i just try to move on, we have such a connection i havent felt it this much with any other person ever and im not exaggerating.
Ps: thank you very very much for your help in previous question's. the last 3 weeks have been the happiest i have had in a long long time.
Hey,
You don't necissarily have to "let her go" just because she is going to be a (few) miles away. Long distance relationships do work out! I personally wouldn't move on so soon, expecially since you have a connection with her. You could keep in contact by having conversations through email, you can send her cards,letters,and special things though snail mail, and you can call her anytime she is free :) Just because a person is not right in front of you, does not mean that you can't be with one another ;) Good luck! I'm sure things will work out
15/f.
i have a crush on this guy at my school. hes smart cute easy to talk to hot nice athletic funny. the total package i guess you could say.
but the thing is i'm so overly shy i can't talk to him because i don't know what to say. so i had my friend go and say that she was doing a poll for a class and have her find out things about him. (stupid i know) so anyway he found out the truth about the reason why she did this. i don't know how because i didnt tell anyone and he found out that i liked him but he just thinks of me as a friend. which was a relief because i knew he could have said he hated me i was planning on asking him to sadie hawkins and become good friends with him before i ask him but i'm too embarrassed to even say hi to him because of what happened so i feel that its impossible for me to ask him to sadie. and i'm worried he might think of me as a coward or a liar because of the fake interview. did i ruin my chance of being his friend, asking him to sadie hawkins, and possibly having a relationship with him? how can i get over my embarrassment to talk to him and should i confront him about what i had my friend ask him these questions thanks for your time :)
p.s i know you guys probably think i'm an idiot for this but i am so shy it's not even funny please try to understand
Hey,
Smile at him in the hall, wink at him, give him a glance, and he will get the hint ;)
Honestly, he probably thinks it is cute that you tried to find out more about him. But in the future, try to ask him in person. I really doubt you ruined your chances. If you explain everything, including that you are shy, he should be fine with it, and he may think its cute that you would try so hard.
Gather all your courage and just talk to him one on one, that way it will be more sincere and you may be more comfortable with no one else around. Then you could ask him if he would like to go with you to the dance. If you want/have to, you could casually talk to him, in front of people.. he will listen and understand if you are honest. He won't hold it against you if he is as nice as you say he is.
No matter what happens, keep the interaction with him going and you will be likely to become good friends :)
No. I do not think you are an idiot. You are just love struck. Have you ever heard the saying 'people do crazy things when they are in love?' it is SO true ;)
Hi I'm from india I was late to collage cos I met with an accident I joined my collage a month late due to tis it's been almost 1 and a half of me goin to collage but I can't make any friends though I know many people frm outside my class I don't knw anyguy frm my class.my class room is always occupied ppl hav already made a particular spot wher they sit the only place that's vaccant is the first bench wer I sit alone I really feel depressed no one sits next to me and no one talks to me as I sit alone I even the teachers look at me in a very sympathetic way cos I'm always alone I don like the way the students look at me no one wants to be my friend and I can't sit with them cos all the benches are occupied so I hav to sit alone wat should I do i've tried bt Ty just ignore me is it too late as I' spent two months in collage and still don't have even one friend what should I do don't feel like attending collage anymore due to tis
Hi,
I know what you mean, but sometimes you just have to put yourself out there! Build up your courage and say 'hello', 'nice shirt', or 'hey what is up?' to anyone and everyone. Sit in the seat by the guy/girl you want to get to know. Be yourself, smile, go over to the crowded bench and introduce yourself. You CAN do it. Just so you know: 'You have to be a friend to make a friend'. So just GO FOR IT! You shouldn't let this stop you from doing anything, for you CAN do anything. People will accept you once they see how friendly, nice, and outgoing you are. It may seem impossible at first, but if you consistantly keep at it, you will have friends in no time :) Believe in yourself
Best friends would be an understatement.
Alot has been going on between us, we knew eachohter when we wer younger, when i was inthe 7th grade, and he was in the 8th grade, but then we stopped talking for three years,and now wer always together, and now im in the 10th and hes in the 11th
Hes always asking about me [non stop] and if im not online hell tell my friend to call me, and if she cant reach me to , to reach my sister to reach me, anything just to talk to me, and he always wants to see me, and when wer together he holds my hands and looks me in the eye and tells me he loves me, and he hugs me so tight i cant even breath, he lost alot of things in life, and last time he wasi nlove with a girl, he never told her because he didnt wanna lose her, he was inlove with her when we first met, but these days he told me he was over since he met me cause he stopped thinking about her ever since, and also whenever i talk to other boys, hes like tell him to back the fu%% off, and will like scare them away, or get mad at me if i talk about another boy and be all mean to me, im definetly not going to make the first move, no matter waht anyone says haha cause it wud be too akward and hes like my best friend you know, but i just want to know, what do you guys think of this?
boys is it normal to hold ur best friends hands, get jealous,tell her you love her and all that?
please someone explain this to me cause im mad confused, i really appreciate whoever read this , thank u in advance :)
Hey,
He sounds like he really wants to be with you, but maybe doesn't want to lose you as a friend, it may be awkward for him to ask you since you guys are so close, or he is shy. A guy who wants to communicate with you alot, asks about you, hugs you tight, holds your hand, and looks you in the eye, is a guy who is giving you all the signs that he loves you.
It sounds as if he is very protective of you, but you should tell him that if he wants to be with you, then he has to let you keep your other guy friends, lay off a little, and let you talk a little about them when hes around because you need your guy friends the same as he does. He needs to respect you and your friends.
If you do date him and he has problems with you communicating with other guys, reassure him that you will always have many guy friends, but he will always be your *special* boyfriend. Treat him different then the rest and let him know hes the only one on your mind. If he still is over protective, you may have to tell him its not working out, because you should be able to keep all your old friends while still having a boyfriend. He has to know 'you gotta give a little to get a little'.
It is completely alright for you to make the first move, but if you don't feel it is right or it would be awkward, then you can hint to him that you would like to be together :)
I am not a guy, but in my opinion, it is normal to hold hands, get jealous, and tell her you love her, when you are a couple ;)
I think: He definately loves you!
13/m
aaaaaaaaaahhhhhh i got myself into crap with a friend of mine
her names Andria and i only met her this year and we walk to school sometimes with each other and we were pretty good friends
but then my friend ill call adam came over to sleep over one night (who is a year older than me) and he was talking to her on msn and they were hittin it off good cause he's good at talking to girls as he says, that was about two or 3 weeks ago and they both told me that they like each other but haven't even met in person but they apparently do have feelings for each other and i kinda teased Andria about it just mucking around though but her friends that are now my friends to, said that she was really serious and i didnt realise how serious until today i was texting her and asked her if shes going to try to see him on the weekend and she just got really angry and told me to leave her alone shes sick of me always saying stuff and things like that and i texted her back im sorry i was only joking when i said it and i wasnt even trying to make her angry but she wont text me back and i dont know what to do or say that will make her stop being angry becasue im not good at those type of things
and before they met i had feelings for her but she always thought i was joking when i said it but...ah i just dont know what to say to her anymore it seems that i just always make her angry
Hey,
I think you should have a one on one talk, face to face with her. Just the two of you alone, or else it might not seem like you really mean it. Be sincere, tell her you are sorry and you didn't mean to do any of the things you did. Say you would like it if she gave you a second chance to be friends, and that when she is ready, to tell you she is willing to become friends again.
Give her all the time she needs (don't be too pushy, just give it time). If she really is your friend she will accept your offer eventually and it will all work out for the best
ok, so i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. he left for college almost 2 weeks ago and wont be home for another 2 because of the fact that his schools 3 hours away and he doesnt have a car. i miss him sooo much. he's always on my mind and i just want him back here so much. i know that nothings gonna changet the fact that he's gone and so i've been trying to just live my life and be fine but its so hard. we used to talk all the time and now we dont talk nearly as much as we did. i understand he's in college now but like. ok the past two nights i've called him to say goodnight like i always do and he's been like ok i'll call you back in a few minutes and then he never does.. i just dont know if i can do a relationship when we're this far apart. its to hard and like. i love him with my whole heart i really do. and before he left we told eachother that love would be enough to get us through anything.. but i just dont know if it is anymore.. i have no idea what to do. could someone please help me.. :(
Hey there,
If you trust in your heart that he loves you no matter what and will not think of anyone else, then no worries. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Do not hold back your feelings! Tell him exactly how you feel and what you are thinking.
He may tell you he is going to call you back, and then he doesn't for he may be busy or get distracted and forget. This does not mean he doesn't remember you, it just means that he can be forgetful. Everyone can be from time to time. Just call him back once and a while when he doesn't return his call and ask him why he didn't call you like he said he would. He may be hoping you will call him back or he may be going through the same thing as you and is unsure of what to say.
After a while, you can ask him if he doesn't mind if you call him every night to talk for a little while since you do miss him or you can ask if he could call you so you can hear his voice. I am sure he will be fine with it if he has free time.
I know how you feel. Be patient, respect his space, tell him you really care for him, express your emotions to him, and be there for him. He may be going through hard times in his life right now as well with his schooling and such.
If he loves you he will respect you, he won't mind if you call him every now and then, he will make time for you, and he will hear whats in your heart
I have a keyboard and the keys are laybled A,B,C,D,E,F,G and stuff because it was part of a starter kit to play piano. I can't read sheet music. Can you teach me how to play "Bella's lullabye" Using the letters on the keyboard? I just need like an ordered pair or somewhere that will teach me to play. Don't say youtube. Have any questions juat ask.
Do you know how to play any songs in general? and do you know how to chord? I could maybe help a bit if you would tell me ~ gr8fruit
hey i asked this question that you answer'd this isnt really a question as it is a thank you note because i dont know how to send messages.
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=570334
just wanted to thank you personnaly, i found a way to get her number through the next day and then we went clubbing in town in the evening. then all her freinds had to go and then mine had to go but were too busy having fun to leave.
we talked in a club for a while then we started getting closer and it just happend, we made out for a while untill the club closed in the early hours of the morning which was when we wnt back to my place and talked through the night till the morning were mum found us both asleep hugging eachother on the sofa.
she stayed the day after were we both found out how much we had in common and how she actually had a crush on me the minute she saw me as it was for me about her. we fell asleep togther again that afternoon listening to her favourite jazz track's which must have repeated through and through till she had to go home.
i havent had a girlfriend in 6 years and that was the best time of my life, thank you for helping me its nice to know that even complete strangers out there care so much about helping people.
thanks again
Matt
Awwe! You sound perfect for eachother :) Yeah, it is nice knowing other people care
so theres this guy that ive been friends with for 3 yrs & we talk a lot, and flirt a lot. we basicully went out last year for about 5 months then we stopped talking becuase i couldnt take it anymore. hes soo good looking and he clearly knows it and gets whatever he wants. then we started talking like about 2 months ago and im like back inlove with him again and he aways says he likes me so much and he wnats to be with me and can see us being together and what not. like he is so perfect BUT the one huge flaw he has is being a player i guess you could say. okay if he likes me so much, why does he talk about hooking up with other girls? like he tells me he fucked some bitch last night, um okay like i care? & he told me theres this girl who is so sexy but he cant get with her becuase of his bestfriend long stupid story but he was all i wish she wasnt so sexy. she jus showed me a picture of wat shes going to wear when we hangout and i think i fell inlove. like wen he said that i jus left & balled my eyes out. i do act like i dont care and i say stuff like good jobbb, and nice one. but it really hurts me so badly. like WHY does he do that, like i honestly dont think he does it to make me jealous becuase he can talk about it so easily. so i cant even tell if he likes me or not. what do i doooooooo? what do i sayyyyyyy? =( help
Hi,
Im not exactly sure what you meant when you said 'she showed you a pic of what shes going to wear', who are you talking about? His other girl? Anyhow, I would ask him straight up if he likes you and if he says yes, tell him he does not act like he does. Talk to him about all the other girls and say its not right. Tell him that if he wants to be with you he should be committed to you, not cheat, treat you special, and to not be with any other girl while you are together because you deserve to be his number one, not 2 or 3 or 4.
If he does cheat on you or treat you badly, you have to move on. Remember this: If he cheats on you once, shame on him. If he cheats on you twice, shame on you. It is not right to have to put up with that kind of behavior/attitude. You'd have to tell him its not working out like you discussed and that you will find someone else that wants to be committed and honest.
You shouldn't act like you don't care if you have feelings for him and want him. If you want a relationship, you have to be honest too and give your half of the effort. Communication, trust, and honesty keep a couple together. If there is none.. you know what happens.
19/female. usually i'm a confident girl, that is only when i KNOW i look good. if i'm having a bad hair day, or my make-up doesnt turn out, if i don't have anything cute to wear it has an effect on my self-esteem.
& the real problem is with this guy i like. well i have mixed feelings, i'm really attracted to him. all the girls love him! me and him are kinda close friends and so he's seen me with no make-up on and my hair NOT done, and i felt so ugly! everytime i feel good, i never see him and it seems like everytime i feel horrible, i see him! and it's not helping the situation.
why can't i see him when i look hot!? hahaaa.
it's ruining my game!(:
Hey there,
I know what you mean, and its pretty much coincidence. But, if you want to prevent seeing him when you don't feel your best, always be wearing a little make up, and carry a clip/ponytail in your purse/vehicle so you can put your hair up quickly and easily.
You know what? I don't know why girls fuss about how they look all the time.. because the first thing and the main thing a guy notices about a girl, is her SMILE! (And then her eyes, or visa versa). If you smile big, you are basically guaranteed that he will hardly notice you even feel gross.
You shouldn't worry too much about how you look anyhow. Confidence always wins a guy over more than looks do. And if he is a sweet guy that likes you too, he won't even care what you are wearing/look like. It is what you offer and what is inside you that matters ;)
how long is normal for a woman to have discharge after sex if she isn't pregnant or has no std?
Hey,
It all depends on the female, really it does. But in general, it usually lasts about one day.
15-F
I HATE my height. HATE it.
I'm 5'5"
And a buncha people are shorter then me. I feel like I tower over them.
Is there any natural way to make myself shorter?
I doubt it, but I'm really tired of my height.
Hey there,
The only thing I can think of, is wear flats. There are not any other ways that you can do make yourself shorter.
You know what? You should never be ashamed of your height. I know a ton of people, and there are a lot of people too that you know (but don't say anything) that (secretly) wish they could be as tall as you, but have to live with being shorter. I know because I am one of those people. I am going into grade 12 and I am only 5'4. All my years growing up, on picture day at school, they would line up all of my class from tallest to shortest.. and I was always last in line from grade pre.k to 10. Then one year it changed and there was one person shorter than I. But you know what? That did not matter, for you get used to being shorter, or taller, or the one with a birthmark, or the one with a different hairstyle, because it does not matter.
Accept who you are and appreciate the things that you may find annoying now, Because later in life people always realize that it is the person within that counts. No one will ever judge a person because of their height or anything. If you make a deal out of your height, other people probably will notice. Otherwise it just seems normal to everyone. Do not slouch, it shows you are unconfident and lazy.
Believe in yourself and show everyone how fearless you can be standing up tall! You are lucky to be tall, and unique. Don't ever forget that
I have a job of 2 years...i make a decent amount of money, but i would really like to earn some more cash. I really need it right now, cause i just got out of high school. if anyone has any good ideas, hit me up and let me know.
Hey there,
You could create an online business, walk dogs, if you are good at making things you could put up posters and sell stuff you make, clean houses, sell baked goodies, wash vehicles, buy those 24 pack or whatever packages of water that are on sale then sell them for a buck at a park, pet-sit someones animal, recycle all your cans/bottles/jugs you'd be surprised how much money you can get by doing this, house-sit, babysit, tutor. You can also save money by budgeting. Hope this helped, good luck :)
Is it a coincidence that the cycle of the full moon and a woman's reproductive cycle are both 28 days? Do any other natural occurrences happen every 28 days?
Hmm.. it is kind of like one of those 'lifes mysteries'. I believe it may be the only natural occurances like this.. I cannot seem to find any other occurances. This is an interesting question.
You know what though? First Nation's People, they call the 'time' a female is on their menstual cycle, their 'Moon Time'. Which makes sense to me now, haha (People could never explain to me why this was before). First Nations People know alot about nature and natural occurances. You can learn alot from them. Hope this helped :)