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Alright, so my boyfriend and I of 11 months we were having phone sex, and apparently I was getting to loud at it and my father..which was next door he called attention to my mom, and after I got off the phone, she started yelling at me over it, and asking why I changed my underwear, and I was utterly embarrassed, so when mu bf called back he felt bad, and he said it was his fault and he would tell her we weren't doing anything, so he did..but than afterwords my mom kept bitching saying " I know thats not the truth" and she says I best tell the truth, it will make things better so I decided to tell her the truth. Now its the next day and she won't stop saying " I'm disappointed in you." " Thats so slutty to do." All those things. Also we were planning , sense my boy friend doesn't have such a great home life, his grand mother is all he has and she leaves him for months with no moeny and sense my boyfriend is a senior after this year he was going to move in. Now she says not until shes trusts us again. Now I don't know what to do now? All this is my fault according to her, my boyfriend and I were just expressing are feelings for each other, we don't have sex..we feel it wasn't anything bad. What is it that you guys think? Now I feel horrible, and embarrassed. :/

Q: He had me text her to ask what she thinks of him: So here is what I texted, "I work with someone I think you know, what do you think of him, would you ever go on a date with him?" and she texted back an hour later, "No thanks." I never brought it up to her again. It's been weeks and it's been awkward at work. All he talks about is how great she looked 2 days ago when he saw her again. He has had rejections like this before and has taken it really hard. Poor self-esteem. How do I break it to him that, she's just no that into him, softly?

Q: Is it a good idea to pursue a high school relationship during senior year? I can't predict the future of this relationship, whether or not it will last, but in all likelihood we will be separated by college. I'm going on to college and the girl is still going to be in high school. Is it worth it?

Q: im in my 30 single mother of 2. i had a very difficult life. a lot of hardship n obstacle. one bad relationship after another each left me with a child. 2yrs have left me with 13yrs old boy. 9yrs a 9yrs old daughter n a miscarriage. i quit my job n spend 2 miserably yrs taking care of my mother in law sick with cancer. seeing someone u care for slow deteriorate had put a emotional toll on me. ive been through so much that living everyday life is a struggle. i use what i had left and push through. i was content with working n come home to my kids. the life was about living n making it through day.life was always unkind to me.i felt bless i found someone. i fall deeply n passionately in love. i never love any of my pass relationship as much as i love this one. once again pregnant n abandon by him. i have nothing left in me to push through in life. its not becuz of the break up but what life offers. one sad event obstacle after another. jobless no health insurance kids with school problems car broke down pregnancy health problems everything piling up all at once suffocating me. my heartache my mind n body is exhausted. i dont know what to do no one to turn to. all i want to do is sleep n not wake up.

Q: i'm 41 years old i'm married for 17 years and i have two teenage daughters i'm living with my husband and i feel that our marriage at the moment is falling apart he has always put his family and his mother before me and treats me as if i mean nothing to him my mother in law is a huge obstacle in our life she creates unecessary problems but as usual he will always part with her every tragedy i have been through in my life i had been through it alone but he is always there for his mother and always puts her first can somebody please help me i can no longer live knowing that i am inferior to another person i just want to feel loved by my husband

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Q: short version: 20 yr old step daughter torturing us. tried everything, almost out of ideas. she\'s distroying our marriage. any ideas to stop her appreciated!

long version: i\'m a 32 yr old female in the us. i started dating a guy 5 yrs ago who had full custody of his 16 yr old daughter. he\'s 16 yrs my senior. soon, she began a quest to break us up. she was rude, ruined our dates on purpose, etc. he was blind & didn\'t see it. she\'s very sneaky & hid it well. eventually, i told him about her actions & when he confronted her, she was proud of her behavior!
when she was 18, he proposed to me. we had been together for 2 yrs. i agreed to marry, but only when she moved out & quit causing trouble. he gained control for a short while & i thought it was over. she moved out at 18 and we got married. he let his boundaries slide & her quest to torture us continued. he talked to her many times, but she had no remorse. she said she had no choice but to be this way because it\'s the only way to treat a stepmom. he has asked her many times if i had ever done anything. she quickly said \"no, her only crime was loving you.\"
i\'ve been called &^*&(@#(*& so many times and until recently, my husband wouldn\'t stand up for me. he also expected me to not do anything to her in return, so out of respect for him, i didn\'t.
she\'s 20 now (will be 21 in 4 months.) this past saturday, his daughter got drunk and called my hubby & asked him to come over & not judge her. she thought he wasn\'t coming & cursed him out. she called him everything from a sperm donor to a effin\' a$$hole. i heard her call me an effin\' b#$ch. when he arrived to her house, she was drunk, in her panties, lying face down on the floor, throwing up and cursing her mother on the phone. he yelled at her not to speak to her mother that way, took care of her, put her to bed & left saying \"i don\'t deserve to be treated this way. we will talk tomorrow.\"
on monday, he confronted her, but she was arrogant and angry. she said her fear with me is that we will both need him at the same time & he will be there for me. she was very self righteous & showed no remorse. he told her he would slap the $hi% out of her if she ever spoke about us that way again.
i\'ve never done anything to her. infact, i tried to be super nice & pray for her in private. then i moved on to ignoring her & avoiding her. next was trying to protect myself from her actions. now, i\'m flaming mad & need this to end or i\'m leaving!!! my curent idea is to make her scared of me. i don't know if it\'ll stop her from hurting us, but idk what else to do. i was in the marines & i am good at intimidating. i hate doing it, but i don't know what to do.
my husband & i are in marriage counceling & struggling due to the damage she caused.
so, last night, i went to her house and put stink things under her doormat & garage. when she steps on them, they\'ll make a huge stink. then, i went to her work & while in the parking lot, i poured one of the stink viles on her car, so she smells it at both places. i confronted her in the parking lot, telling her she doesn\'t know what an effin\' b is & i\'m going to give her an education. she just got all weepy & ran in her car saying \"i don\'t want to talk to you.\" i\'m planning to do a few \"revenge\" type things to her so she\'ll be looking over her sholder all the time. maybe, she\'ll be too scared to mess with us anymore. since she wanted an evil stepmom, will giving her one help? what to do??? if i do nothing, my marriage is over.
i don\'t want to be mean. honest to God i don\'t. i want to be a good stepmom, love her and be kind to her. but i\'ve taken all i can take for almost 5 years. all opinions appreciated. thanks in advance!!!!!!!!!!

Q: My story is too long to fit in this message, so I can't explain the reasons WHY I've fallen into this, but I can describe where "this" is. What this is.

I'll try to keep it short but I have trouble with that, because I type like I talk - it just comes out. So I'll try.

I have PTSD and Agorophobia. I have scoliosis, sciatica, and cervical facet syndrome. I am in pain all the time, and I'm afraid to leave my bedroom.

I mother my children from here. They're good kids - I'm doing ok there. But I'm losing my job. I'm a contractor and work from home. I can't go to the office. They still give me work, but it's intermittant. When I don't have work - I don't get paid. The work is dwindling.

My medication for the pain is $600 a month. I can't get help with it because I made too much last year. My husband is a disabled Vet in the middle of his VA claim; he cannot work. He cleans and my 17 year old cooks. I can rarely leave the house without panic attacks. I was on Cymbalta for three months but it did no good. I went to three appointments with a sliding scale clinic - but if you miss two appointments they won't see you anymore, and I missed two. One of them I'd just gotten the time wrong. But I don't think they understand what a monumental effort it was to just go OUT the door, get in the car, and go INTO the office, to go to the appointment. It's horrible. They diagnosed me before I missed the second appt; but now I don't have anywhere to get help.

I don't have insurance so can't do anything more about the sciatica, scoliosis, and cervical facet syndrome. Or maybe disorder - not sure what it's called. I'd gotten shots that helped about a year ago, but they've worn off, and with no insurance I can't get more. I see a pain management person and the meds are 600 a month. With my job dwindling I don't know how I can keep taking them. If I stop I'll go into withdrawals.

I am on Suboxone because I had been on vicodin from 1998 to 2005, but in Jan 2006 a whole lot of stuff began to happen. All that happened is why I have PTSD. I lost my control over the meds and started hurting more - and taking more - until about a year ago they took me off of them and put me on Suboxone. It helps some, but not much. It seems to be rotting my teeth. And no insurance. And job dwindling.

I can't cook dinner for my family. I can't take my kids to the movies, or go to their school festivals, I can't even leave the house most of the time; when I do I have to take a cane, because if I start hurting I need it to walk. I think I should try to get my social security disabilty - but I've always stood on my own two feet and taken care of myself and my family, and I just can't accept that I'm not able to anymore.

I just got over another panic attack from taking my fourth grader to school and having to wait for a line of cars to go by before I could turn. I felt like everyone who went by was staring at me. I felt like I was made of cracked stained glass.

I hope someone out there can help. Maybe a professional. I don't know what to do anymore.

Q: ok so my ex boyfriend who is a total asshole is having a house party this weekend and i want to call the cops on it and get it busted. there will be underage drinking. i am not against underage drinking or anything but i do hate him and want to get back at him after he sent nude pictures of me around after our break up. so my question to you guys is whether anyone could find out that i did it. i wont tell anyone i did, but could they some how find out it was my number who called in? i really want to avoid drama which is why i dont want anyone to know. also do i just call 911? i am positive i want to call the cops and get it busted, i just dont know exactly what to do.

if you guys knew him you would hate him too. total douche bag.

Q: Okay, I was dating this guy for about a year. Long story short. I was at his house the night i was robbed. My furniture, washer, dryer,iron and some jewelry was taken from me. I could not believe that he stole from me he seemed to be so sincere. He even helped me with bills and cooked and cleaned for me. I know he didn't do it personally , but i do believe he sent some guys to my house to take my things. So, i left him alone for a good six months now hes back to calling me again. I'm trying to be JUST friends with him, now he is offering me to come over and hang out, spend time with him. My question is what should i do? Of course he tells me he had nothing to do with my house getting broken into, but my gut is telling me otherwise.

Q: I'm 15/f and my bf is 17... sorry if this is long bt i really need help..
okay so i have a daughter she is my world she will be two tommorrow and my bf (baby daddy) abuses me everyday for no reason we live together i got kicked out of my house when i was 13 my mom died when i was 12 and my dad wanted nothing to do with me so i moved in with my bf Dametrious i love him so much we have been threw hell we been together for three years. he hits me hard he leaves bruises and scares yesterday he burned me with the iron i have tears running down my face as i write this he hurts me really bad he got mad because some guy texted me saying that he got my numb off of myspace and my didnt believe him ! im scared that if i keep letting him hurt me then he will hurt my daughter too !! he slaps me in front of her calls me a bitch he spit in my face i have no where to turn what do i do? i have no family!! and all my friends cut me off when they found out that i was preg. ohh ya and my bf cheats on me all the time like about a week ago he brought some girl named asia over our house and told her i was his sister and my daughter was his niece !!!! wtf?? im really crying right now how could he do this to me ? and after that he went upstairs and had sex with her i know because you could hear them !!! what do i do !!!! help !

Q: Ok, so the story is that I live on a military base because of my dad. While I'm out here, I met a marine that I like a lot, and he likes me. Unfortunately, it's not exactly...allowed for us to be together. He's not the kind that is only interested in me for sex, especially since he hasn't gotten any and it's been two months. But since it's against the rules, he refuses to ask me to be his girlfriend, even if we keep it secret. He says it's so that if people ask me if I'm with him, I can honestly say "no." At least for the next two months, which is when I turn 18. I want him to be mine, which he says he is, and I believe him, but that title is important to me. Should I tell him that it's either all or nothing? Or that I should wait until I'm 18, and see how it plays out. Help please >.

Q: I was stressed out today and i came home and wrested. i laid in my bed with the tv on, my cell phone on, and my laptopp on. i don't know if any of that has to do with anything but i woke myself up form my nap with my head shaking. at first i was like, wtf? haha and then i forgot if it was the morning or what day it was. then i was like ohhhhhh hey it's monday! i was tired! and i woke up from my nap! but now the back of my head kinda hurts and my ears. is it stress? allergies? i don;t even know if i fully took a nap. i wrested my eyes and my mind started wondering. i remember i started thinking about EMF waves and Tests and and then i guess i fell asleep for a few minutes, but i woke up to my head shaking. is it head trauma? what is that anyways? i'm so confusedd on what to think. my mom thinks it's too small of a problem to see a doctor for so that's why advicenators is where i am turning to, because there are some doctor's on here i guess. i am really scared to fall asleep tonight, because i'm scared of seizures and brain aneyorisms and tumors. what do you think? i am so scared those are my worst fears. Easy 5 points

Q: When I was in 8th grade, there were...issues that I couldn't handle on my own. That was when I started cutting. I quit after a couple of months, and I haven't had a single urge since. But lately, my step-mom and I have been getting into more and more fights. The fights have me getting majorly agitated, and the urge keeps cropping up. For the most part, I can find a friend to distract me long enough to pass the urge. Unfortunately, there are times when that isn't much of an option. No matter how hard I try during these spouts, I always end up cutting. I need help, but I can't go to my parents. I'm a senior, and I can't screw up. Not in their eyes, or else it's off to the Looney Bin for me. Advice, please?

Q: Me and my boyfriend were raised very differently. No one in my family smokes, and Ive never wanted or needed to and in the event it would simply not be allowed. My boyfriend's whole family, parents, stepparents, siblings etc all smoke, and he used to smoke himself a few years ago. He still had the occational social cigarretes, but after we've been dating for a while I told him that I dont want him to smoke at all. We have now been together for 2 years and even though he smokes every now and then 'because he cant help it', he is mostly off of smoking because he said he'll try not to. The only problem is that he really wants to smoke. He says he loves it and to his friends it seems ridiculous that I dont let him to do what he wants... I wish I could tell him that Im totally fine with it and he can smoke whenever he wants, but I cant get myself to feel like its okay. I really want him to take care of himself, many of his family members have had cancer and its possible that he is susceptible to it. I hate the smoking lifestyle, I hate how dependent people can be on something that damages themselves, I hate how much money they 'need' to spend on it (and he always complains that he is broke), I hate the smell... etc. And we talk about getting married, but I dont want a smoker's home for myself one day. Do you think this means that we cant have a future together, or must I suck it up??

Q: Ever since I was little , these group of guys have been bullying me , and it came to a conclusion they disgraced my family , friends , they paintballed my house , they egged it , tried to throw stuff at it , and this was 2-3 years and still going on. Ever since an indicent happened at school because me and my friend got suspended because my friend was drunk and I tried to help her and so every day they go up to us and its all the guys in our grade and call us sluts alcholics and so on , today I went on a walk with my friend and there was a car and they said sluts so i go over to the car again and i tell them to shut the fack up and mature a bit and not hide and first you go and call us and then hide and they kept calling us greasy dirty fat ugly hors sluts skanks hoes black something and they stopped and they reversed like they wanted to run us over and i was like i will call the cops on you hes like go ahead and they drove off and the guy is like shut the fck up your ugly and this happens constantly
i really want this to end i know i shouldn't ave said it again , but i really dont know what to do i want it to stop , can i charge them? do i tell someone?

Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. I've never been with a guy this long, so I was wondering what kind of changes are normal when you've been with someone this long. It seems like the romantic and honeymoon stage is over. He doesn't say most of the sweet things he used to. He doesn't tell text me good night or good morning like before, or even text me very often. Is that normal? He used to talk about us being together in the future..like kids and a house. And he used to say how he wished we could live together and that he wants to spend all his time with me. But he doesnt tell me any of this anymore. Is this normal? What kinds of things changed in your relationship after a year? Thanks.

Q: I live with my bf of 2 yrs and i am 8 months pregnant. He has totally ignored me for the past few months. He does not help me or has bought the baby anything. I feel so sad I do not know how to fix the problem. He wanted a baby and begged me for one. Now that he is acting like this I am so mad. I wish I could fix this problem. I am 30 and he is 39. I thought with his age he would be more mature. I do not know if I should stay and somehow fix the problem or just leave him.

Q: I always wanted to be a blond but I have really dark brown hair. I tried to dye my hair one time like 2 years ago and it ended up being this weird orange like color. It was really crappy and I had to dye over it again brown to get it to cover up. How can I get my hair to be blonde though without it turning weird and orange looking?

Q: I'm 16/f and 3 months along pregnant. Today I woke up and haven't been feeling good but not the usual morning sickness feel. I'm having these weird cramp like pains in my lower half and I spotted blood all day now. I am afraid to tell my mom because I just told her I am pregnant and she's really freaking out about that. What do I do? Do you think I'm miscarrying? What are the signs of a miscarriage? I don't want to lose my baby and I'm scared.

Q: I swear I'm not a freak but ever since, well, for a long time now I've been humping on this teddy bear I have. Today I was thinking about it and I was wondering if this is safe or if it's going to affect my health badly? I hump on his nose, usually, and I wash the bear like once a week or 2 weeks at the very longest. Do you think this is dangerous?

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