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17 with a Marine
Ok, so the story is that I live on a military base because of my dad. While I'm out here, I met a marine that I like a lot, and he likes me. Unfortunately, it's not exactly...allowed for us to be together. He's not the kind that is only interested in me for sex, especially since he hasn't gotten any and it's been two months. But since it's against the rules, he refuses to ask me to be his girlfriend, even if we keep it secret. He says it's so that if people ask me if I'm with him, I can honestly say "no." At least for the next two months, which is when I turn 18. I want him to be mine, which he says he is, and I believe him, but that title is important to me. Should I tell him that it's either all or nothing? Or that I should wait until I'm 18, and see how it plays out. Help please >.<
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I hate to break it to you, but you should DEFINATLY wait till your 18.
1. when your 18 youll probably be alot closer
2. if you realy love/like this guy then you need to trust that you can be together for that long!
3. if you dont follow the rules and wait till your 18 then there could be some serious consequences and you could end up getting him in alot of trouble.
4. if hes willing to wait to have sex with you and doesnt pressure you, then you should pressure him into asking you out, and breaking the rules.
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You should wait until you are 18. He could lose his career and be in trouble for being with you and his career is what will support you when you to are official for now say your "friends" if you love him you can wait.
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Two months? Seriously?
He's worried about the job he's signed up for. Criminal charges could very, very easily ruin his life. Get over your impatience, wait two months for the title. It's really immature to question something like this when you flat out know you could fuck his life up with statutory rape charges.
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This is hard to answer because he could be stringing you along. But you say that you truly believe he is interested in you as a person and not for sex (which in all honesty I suggest you keep things platonic and not sexual until you are 18 for his sake and also to ensure that his interest in you is legitimate.) If you really feel that he isn't just stringing you along and not be honest about his feelings, then I would make him wait until you are 18 and then bring it up again. If you are 18 there will be nothing left for him to say as a reason why you guys cannot be together. And in 2 months he still doesn't want to make it official then he wasn't being totally honest with you as to why he wasn't wanting to date you in the first place. I really believe he is just not trying to jeopardize his career and getting in trouble legally, so if you really care about this guy and are willing to put your heart on the line for 2 more months, then just wait it out and see what happens when you turn 18. He may also want to wait a little bit after you turn 18 so it doesn't seem so suspicious that as soon as you turn 18 you both are dating out of nowhere. So just try to consider those reasons first and good luck!
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