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Ok, so i moved from California to Ohio this summer, mid July, and i didnt really meet anyone during the summer because there wernt really any oppotunities. So i thought ok i will make friends when school starts, well i started wednesday. No one has even attempted to talk to me there, not even say hi. So when lunch comes around i sit at an empty table and eat by myself. I feel like such a loner. At my old school i had soooo many friends. What am i doing wrong? People tell be just be friendly, well of course im friendly but whenever i try to talk to people i feel out of place, like they are thinking, "Who is this weird new girl?" Im tired of not having anyone to talk to or hang out with, Ive cried all my tears and I just want to know, Is Something Wrong With Me!? Thanks for reading.

There is nothing wrong with you. Everyone faces this problem-I did this year..I'm 15 also and I went to the same school as I did the year before. I knew a lot of the people around me, but somehow I felt like something was missing and I cried the first day. Just be caring. If someone runs out of paper lend them one of yours. Of course, don't let yourself be taken advantage of, but be known as a thoughtful person and be polite to your teachers and they'll always put in a good word for you. Join activites and don't worry about attempting something new you can always refer back to these experiences as guidance for when times get tougher.

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16/f

i wish i would have more friends...all the so-called popular people at my school make me feel so retarded! they talk to me and stuff but i never hangout with them- i DONT want to be like them... i mean im not a geek at all but im not someone you would call popular. im a prep. i have my few close "girl" friends. not many guy friends i dont know why? but i feel like such a loser when all these people go out and hangout every single day but the stupid thing is they have to drink or get high to have fun which is stupid to me and thats why i dont care about hanging out with them. but everyone is out partying and hanging out -even the people who dont do drugs and stuff and im just sittin at home with my mom and on the computer! i never know what to do. i dont have many friends i can call. im not able to join a club or a sport (dont ask why). i am getting a job soon and school is starting up in a couple weeks. for some reason im getting really depressed over this..ive never had a boyfriend but most people tell me im so gorgeous or hott or beautiful and sometimes i believe them but i just dont know whats wrong with me!!

any suggestions to turn my life around? and just have more fun. my brother is 19 and he even makes fun of me and says im a loser and have no friends and just sit at home and i know its true and i hate hearing about it.

find an interest to keep you busy. You don't have to join anything, but make a collection, play with a yo-yo..sing, dance, act..anything!! There are so many people who you could potentially be friends with who don't make dumb descisions like drinking and doing drugs. I'm sure there are people who you've glanced at, but haven't given them a chance. People can surprise you sometimes and you could be really compatiable with someone you never knew was even around.

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Hey :) i am 14 years old and i collect stickers........ i was just wondering, am i too old to be collecting stickers??? i love it..... am i too old? or is it all in my head??

thx

No. Collecting anything gives you character and I don't think anyone can be childish. Just like watching a certain TV show doesn't make you immature. I think what you're doing is cool!

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so at times i get sooo depressed that all i do is cry and yell and im never fully happy and i think there is something wrong with me. one time i even took pills not to kill myself but in hopes id end up in the hospital just so people would finaly notice i exist (my friends. and family) what can i do to be happy? i want to be. but i cant talk to my friends or family about it..

The thing is you have to learn to accept yourself-you are good at something and maybe you're not paying enough attention to yourself to figure that out. Make some "you" time and you'll realize how much you appreciate yourself. The thing I've learned is to stop craving attention from others-if you want to be noticed then get to know youself...Self love is just as important as anything anyone else can give you. Keep a positive attitude. Get all giddy for things that most people would overlook. There is so much to love about this world that we don't invest enough of our time to. Reach out to others and be the one people could turn to. If will give you a lot of confidence to find out how many people will look up to you and you'll feel more caring too.

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i have never ever babysitted beofre and my friends neighbor who lives a few hosues down the strret wants me to bayist thier daughter. I have NEVER even considered babysitting. I don't know anything about it. PLEASE HELP ME. The girl is 9 and loves to dance and is very loud and playful and wild and crazy nobody really likes her cuz tehy say shes annoying. I don't see it yet but maybe i will. How do i ask about money? What do you we do? Should i get any ifnormation down before i come? Should i Bring anything? Help!

Check for food allergies & emergency phone numbers: this will impress the parents. All kids are annoying to a point, but you're there to entertain not punish, so try not to put her in time-out. If she's kept busy she probably won't break many rules. Dance, Draw, Sing..don't be afraid if she gets dirt all over her or just messy-as long as you clean the place up while she is eating or doing something for 10 minutes within view. Help her read and maybe even make a play-give her the chance to show you how creative she can be. When they ask you how much you want say $5.00 an hour..I've been babysitting for about 3 years, but have plenty of experience with children especially volunteer work and get paid $6.00 an hour, but you don't get the raise right away. Don't be afraid to act silly and let go of insecurities because these kids are going to wan't to be foolish, but it's really funny!!

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Hey i am going to be a freshman this year and i am starting in a week i know there are a bunch of other questions like this but... i am really scared, when we had orientation i made like only 1 friend not even really... i have no friends going to the school i am going to! i do not know how to open my locker! and i have no clue where or when my classes are.... junior high was SO much easier!!! I came from a catholic school before this so it is WAYYYY different from classes to no uniforms and more!!! i am soo afraid of getting on the bus and sitting with no one and also very very very afraid of going to lunch and sitting by myself eating!!! i am terrified and i know i will get trampled in the hall ways... are there that many people in the hall way? like seriously is it full?? Ahhhh i am sooooo nervous not to mention i had a bad memory wif the boy across tha street and we will be getiing on the same bus! and he will be seeing me for like the first time up close in like 3 years!!! PLZ HELP and plz tell it like it is don't lie to make it feel better i need the TRUTH!

sorry it was long

Just be ready to introduce yourself. People will want to meet you if you present yourself the right way. You're not the only one who's confused & everyone is looking to make a friend. At times I can be shy, but highschool has made things way easier when communicating with people I just met.

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This is for girls...

I'm 13 && female. I have hair between my breasts. Its not too bad, but I was wondering if its normal. Like, you can see it if you're right next to me and I have a low shirt on, but if you're more than a foot away you can't see it at all. I was wondering if I should shave/dye this??

Another question while I'm at it... I have a thin strip of hair on my belly, and it gets thicker and goes beneath my navel, spreading from side to side. I don't think its pubic hair, because it goes too high. I'm very self-conscious about this, and am careful about shirts rising above my jeans/shorts. Is this normal, and should I shave/dye it?

Thanks

Oh, under your belly button. I don't know if this is the accepted term, but I call it a "happy tail" it's normal to shave it, but as for between the breasts that's not typically shaven and I guess everyone has hair there. It just depends how dark.

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Okay, I'm scared to tell my mom... I think I might be bisexual.I'm afraid to tell anyone but my one close friend. So what should I do because I know it's a sin. Help!?!?!?

It's not a sin. Love is never wrong!! I know it's a touchy subject, but it's also a good way to see who will stand by you no matter the choices you make.

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okay.. im going out with this guy.
he lived in ohio and i live in colorado.
i have never met him
we met on myspace
im 13 and hes 14..
how long do you think we will last?
honestly?

I'm pretty sure he's in his late fourties & you're putting youself in danger. All you're going to get is words with this guy-no affection. It's going to be a waste of your time if you continue this. You need to end it because you might not be dealing with a teenager.

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My best friend is Bi, she smokes weed, she cuts, and is into the whole "Emo, scene, be yourself type of phase"

She thinks I'm fake because I love to dress up nicely, wear "preppy style" clothes, and I like country music. She thinks everyone is really bi, and if you don't admit it youre fake. I'm sick of her and her other bi friends ragging on me cause I'm not like them! They're all like "hardcore" and they hate it that I'm friends with all sorts of people. I just relate to everyone a little bit, I'm just the type of person that will talk to anyone, they think I'm after popularity and I'm all fake for not sticking to one "type" How do I get them to stop ragging on me about this, and show them that this is the real me!

What's left to be proven? You know who you are and if she can't figure out you're as real as it gets, then forget her. I mean, she does drugs and cuts...she can't value herself too much-surrond yourself with better influences. & I don't see any harm in dressing nice, so I like your style. Plus, country music isn't fake it's actually deep most of the time!

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hey im 13/f
my mom says if i ever get a boyfriend and she knows about it, shell be really pissed cuz im not aloud to be dating yet. i really like this guy and theres a rumor going around that hes gonna ask me out. well my best friend said and these are her words.."ill make sure your mom knows." i cant not tell my best friend that i have a boyfriend and even if i dont, itll get around. i just dont know what to do.

You're 13 things aren't going to last. I'm 15 and I believe the same for me. At our ages it's all about status. Wait for a few years, you're not missing out. What more can a boyfriend do for you that a friend can't do? I mean, you shouldn't really be getting physical. You know?

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I've completely given up junk food. I don't eat fast food, candy, sodas, french fries, pizza, ice cream, potato chips, donuts, all that stuff. So anyways, today my dad, my brother and I went to McDonalds for lunch and I didn't get anything, I said I'd wait to eat lunch when we got home. Then my bro said "You're just afraid of getting fat. And he waved a french fry in my face." I didn't know what to say... and it was embarassing. I'm not afraid of getting fat. I eat plenty!! Just not junky stuff. I want to live a healthy life. And some of my friends joke that I'm anorexic cause I won't eat popcorn at the movies or drink sodas with them. What do I say when they do that??

I think you've made a wise choice for a healthier lifestyle. Tell the people who are being unsupportive that you'd rather them keep their comments to themselves if it's only to criticize you. Don't let them bring you down.

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Ok to start 14/f
Before I ask my question I'll give you a backround
Today i woke up and i was pissed because i got little sleep. My little brother was talking to my dad about how i dont go to sleep when im supposed to (12am) because I get on my computer and stay on there till about 2 or 3 am. My dad was pissed and said that when school starts for the first 3 months he will cut off the internet. Then since I was still pissed I was ranting on about how school sucks and that landed me a 15 min lecture about how if i didnt go to school I wouldnt be smart and get a good job. Later today my older brother started thinking that im turning anerexic because I had not (and still havent) eaten anything all day. I kinda blew that off and then my mom said that I dont like my family because eariler i said that its not really that cool to go to the bowling alley with my family and not my friends. Shes says that im lazy and just dont want to get any exercise (even thiugh you dont exercise at a bowling alley) so now im thinking that my family is out to get me into the loony bin

So now my question is
do i apologize for being a sort of smartmouth
or just leave it alone and let them apologize.

I rate depending on the quality of the answer.

Thanks, DarkChocolate794

You definetly owe them an apology. I'm not going to force the blame on you because I take my family for granted too. I go bowling with my family and I promise you they are the most humiliating factors in my life, but it really is exercise for the mental and physical state. & midnight is way ridiculous to be staying up. It seems to be making you push away what's most important. You have no clue how lucky you are that your parents give you lectures. It really means they care about you not only now, but later on in life. I don't mean to make you feel like you're being ungrateful, but before it's too late you have to change your ways. I haven't completly myself, but I know how it is and how it should be.

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I can't stand my parents! I'm 15 and have only 3 years left of high school but I don't think I can wait that long. My parents continuously call me nicknames I've explained to them I don't like being called, and they never listen to me. They always say I do things that I don't and I'm always the first one blamed for everything, regardless of the situation. They do not support any of the things I want to do- particularly with music and sports- but I love doing what I do and I'm actually good at it. My twin sister is never treated like I am- they act like she's the Perfect Child. Plus, my dad has a serious anger problem and my mom is an in-denial alcoholic, so they always over react to the littlest things lots of the time. I feel like I may end up hurting or even killing myself because of them because they're the reason I used to cut! Though I've gotten a lot better with my best friend's help the problem started with my parents and it's because of them I may start again. Please help me.

I'm 15 too & my family is alright, but I know what it feels like when people don't think it's convinient to give you support on something and it can be discouraging. I really think family counseling isn't too bad of an idea. Sometimes you could think you're making a point, but parents have a way of tuning it out because they're too apathetic. You need outside help in order to enjoy life more. This doesn't mean cut or think of ending you life. You'd be surprised how easily and fast things could change if you take my advice

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okay, i'm not sure what catagory this belongs in.. but anyways, i am stuck at home with absolutly nothing to do! the weather is yucky so i dont want to go outside. my stomach hurts so i cant really jump around and be active. whenever i'm bored, i find myself sitting on the computer all day! i cant go anywhere because both cars are gone. all of my friends are on vacation so i cant hang out with anybody. PLEASE HELP!!! i am soo bored. any suggestions would be so great! thanks bunches!

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If yoou aint in that many of ya good friends' classes in high school does that mean you wont be friends?

It's actually better. I don't have classes with a lot of my good friends, but I get a chance to make new ones and still continue to hang out with the ones I've made before.

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College starts Monday and I'm having the same feeling I had the day before freshman year started in high school [really scared and in one week I already knew it was easy]. Is it the same going from high school to college [you're worried but soon learn how much easier it is than you thought]?

I'm just a sophmore in highschool, but here it goes. Freshman year I was fearless-ready for anything..Yesterday, I broke down crying because everything seemed to have changed. Today, as my third day of school I realized it was me not being myself and being way too quiet. and once I opened up I made a new friend and stayed closer with the older ones. Change is good-you just have to welcome it!!

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Lately I haven't been able to fall asleep til like 6 oclock in the morning.

I don't mind staying up till 12:00 or 1:30 but this has gotten ridiculous. I can't sleep, and when I do sleep I sleep til all hours of the day.

It seems like I can't get enough sleep when I do fall asleep, and I'm very groggy.

HELP? I need advice on how to make me tired, or what is causing this.

Same exact situation over here. Make sure you have had a busy day..Running erands-exercising, doing something productive with a friend. Also, eat things that would give you energy...Fiber, calcium.If you watch TV when you're going to bed put on something that doesn't interest you, so that you'll be bored. You might want to try flipping your mattress it could be more comfortable.

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ok. i am so VERY shy!! and i hate it. well most of the times. i mean sometimes i dont mind being shy but other times i hate it!!! so how can i like not become shy1!?!?!?!?!like for my sport that i do EVERYONE is so loud and stuff and im like not. so i feel left out. and im not very outgoing like how do i become more of that tooo? lol i dont know if you can change that... but i was just wondering.

Don't force yourself to be someone else. I know where you're at. Maybe you're just soft spoken-always smile and have something to say to lift the spirits of others. People will admire you for that. Being loud just isn't your thing which is good because sometimes really loud people are obnoxious. lol

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Everytime I shave my crotch area, I get little red bumps. What are they and how can I stop them from happening?

I don't know if it helps, but try exfoliating over there to remove dead skin cells to make shaving easier.

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