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Being Fake?
My best friend is Bi, she smokes weed, she cuts, and is into the whole "Emo, scene, be yourself type of phase"
She thinks I'm fake because I love to dress up nicely, wear "preppy style" clothes, and I like country music. She thinks everyone is really bi, and if you don't admit it youre fake. I'm sick of her and her other bi friends ragging on me cause I'm not like them! They're all like "hardcore" and they hate it that I'm friends with all sorts of people. I just relate to everyone a little bit, I'm just the type of person that will talk to anyone, they think I'm after popularity and I'm all fake for not sticking to one "type" How do I get them to stop ragging on me about this, and show them that this is the real me!
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I'd either try and talk to her about this, or I might want to stop being her friend. Because, if your BEST friend is calling you FAKE.. is that a best friend? I don't think so. Everyone goes through this stupid phase. She's probably just trying to seem cool but bringing others down and calling them fake and what not. And she's probably saying you're just after popularity because she's jealous that you're able to talk to all sorts of people and everything. But don't stop being friends with her yet, try to resolve it. I'd talk to her about this. Tell her if you guys are best friends, she wouldn't be ragging on you all the time, and neither would her friends. She should just like you for you, and you're not fake. You just like to be friends with everyone, and what's the matter with that? And then if you guys continue to be best friends and everythings good, I'd try and help her more with her cutting and smoking, because that's not healthy at all. But if she still keeps ragging on you, I'd just move on and let her go and rag on others and let her be her "hardcore" self. I hope I helped.
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Even if she is your best freind,i think you should stay away from her.If they want to beilive your fake then they can beilive what they want.Youve told them more than once that youre not and they refused to beilive you so they can beilive what they want.I think youre freind here is jealous of you and thinks youre fake because she cant beilive that someone can be all pretty and popular like you,because shes depressed and hates her life.KEEP AWAY from her before you turn into one of them.Best freinds ALWAYS influence one another in SOME way.
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Tell them to get over themselves: that the world doesnt revolve around them; not everyone has to be like them. Ask them if they are so hardcore, then why are they preaching conformity. Call them posers and whiney little brats who don't know how to solve their own problems.
THen you will never be bothered by them again.
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I understand that she is your best friend but is it really worth it? I mean, going around just dropping your best friends is never a good thing,but she odviously doesnt like you enough to respect you. I know that sounds harsh but anyone that cuts and smokes weed has a serious problem. You NEVER have to stick to just one group of people! I wear preppy style clothing and i love country music,but i also like Hot Topic and emo music. Being yourself is never wrong. Odviously people like you more because you talk to everyone like you said and im guessing not tons of people talk to her? She might be jealous. Dont worry about it and maybe just tell her how you feel. If that doesnt work just go on doing what you do and dont let her or anyone else hold you back because then you might end up just like them with all that low self esteem.
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Honestly, I think you should find new friends. If your best friend thinks your fake, how does that make her a good friend? Different people have different opinions, you're allowed to do that and you don't have to change for her. The next time she says something to you about country being fake, try throwing it back in her face. Simply say, well I think emo is fake. She'll probably throw a huge fit about it because it's not what she wants to hear and it's what SHE likes. But don't argue back with her, just say well country's what I like, just like you like your stuff, and move on.
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What's left to be proven? You know who you are and if she can't figure out you're as real as it gets, then forget her. I mean, she does drugs and cuts...she can't value herself too much-surrond yourself with better influences. & I don't see any harm in dressing nice, so I like your style. Plus, country music isn't fake it's actually deep most of the time!
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They dont sound like real friends if their ragging on you for not being like them..Friends should like you for who you are and not try to change you. Im not sure how to make them stop nagging you but maybe if you ignore it and act like it doesnt bother you then theyll stop. If they dont, find new friends.
hope i helped
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Well, to tell you the truth, i think they are jealous of you. But anyway, There are two things that i would choose from.
1. Ignore them. Don't even talk to them at all- not in the halls, lunch...nothing.
2. Make fun of them back. Well, there's not much to say to explain this, but they seem like there's a lot to make fun of. So, if they are making fun of you, do it right back to them
Ok, if you have anymore questions just put somethin in my inbox, i will answer! HOpe i helped...tell me how it goes!!
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