I'm not gonna say our ages but me & my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months & today he fingered me but through my pants, I'm a virgin.. I was wearing leggings so it was a quite thin layer of ''pants''. Well he was just rubbing my vagina (sorry to have detail) but then he started putting my underwear to one side and put his finger all up in there. It felt good but painful at the same time. He did it for at least 20 mins. When he was done I noticeed it felt a bit weird & painful down there. It felt awkward to walk. When I got home I checked and there was brown discharge on my panty liner. I looked in there and my right vagina flap was puffed up & red. I checked inside and it looked quite irriated and bloody.. I tried going pee but it burned so much, what happened? Did I break my hymen? What can I do to get rid of the pain?! Help!
To see if it is you're best checking with a cotton bud. If you can (sorry if this is graphic) put it up your v with ease for 1-1.5cm then chances are its broken. If you feels a slight cover stopping you though-or see one-then its not.
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I mildly hooked up with this guy I wasn't attracted to and felt kind of violated the next morning. He didn't do anything wrong. He was actually really, really nice and that's what pisses me off and I don't know why! He was also kind of a meek p***y, which was SUCH a turnoff. I know I sound arrogant but I can't help but feeling so pissed at him every time I think about it! I'm dumb for allowing the physical stuff to happen, it was my fault. He mildly pressured me to let him stay over and I let him. Maybe that's why I'm so pissed. Is this normal?
Yeh its normal to feel a sense of guilt when this happens.
Subconciously, I think to be honest you feel guilty because you clearly wern't in a loving relationship with this guy, and wern't planning on being. So deep down maybe you're just upset that it wasn't anything special at all and was a meaningless spare of the moment thing? Or maybe you just feel like he used you and you used him for instant pleasure, but are angry because like I said before it was meaningless?
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It is difficult to write this, I'm feeling angry as I do but anyway here goes.
I'm 16 and live with my mum.
My mum is always saying that she has no money and that were moving house as a result of this but she is always buying herself new clothes, shoes and even films. I haven't had a new item of clothing in a while and every time I ask her for some she always says the same thing! "I have no money" its so annoying and gets me do angry. The other day I showed her the state my shoes were in and I had to throw them away because the bottom was hanging off, she just sort of changed the subject. Today she came back with a brand new pair of shoes for herself saying her old ones were ruined, all that was wrong with them was that they just lost their colour a little bit. I just went upstairs and listened to music.
Another thing she does is whenever I pick something up that she doesn't want me to (bearing in mind she's never told me she doesn't want me to) she doesn't say "could you put that down please" she just yells "LEAVE THAT ALONE" its so frustrating! She always blames me for everything and when I do get fed up and say "no, it wasn't me, stop saying everything is my fault!" she just laughs it off and says "someone's got to be blamed " like it's some sort of joke.
This is her nice side, believe it or not.
When her boyfriend/partner comes round she acts even worse and always takes his side.
It's not that I don't like him, because I do. Whenever he's round she never takes my side, she always takes his and whenever he says something that annoys me and I'm about to say something she gives me that 'shut the hell up' look.
I've put up with it for so long and I'm just fed up with it now. I've tried to confront her about it but I'm never right :\
I just don't know what to do.
And no, I'm not one of those people who says they want to kill themselves. Nothing will make me want to do that.
Answer with your opinions on my situation and any solutions of things I can do?
Clearly the first thing you need to do about this if you can is talk to your mum. Ask her how she is-she sounds a little stressed out to be quite honest.
Perhaps financial worries are whats stressing her out. Remember for 16 years this lady has bought you up and paid you're way etc...whats up with her treating herself to a new pair of shoes once in a while.
Also, do you have a part time job? Though hard to get, it may help her out if you actually earnt money to buy your own clothes and things. Finance can be quite a big burden.
Also whats this about not agreeing with what her boyfriend says? It's best not to take sides I think-to reduce stress for everyone. Sometimes, when I don't agree with things people say I just let it go, because an argument is not worth it, plus people just think you're having a young persons tantrum so your opinion doesn't count.
If you want me to be totally honest, I think you should stand on your own feet abit. Obviously I don't know you and your situation, but if you earnt abit of money either through ebay or a part time job, if you focus on a career to work towards and if you act mature and just let little tiffs go, relations could be alot stronger.
I understand about the shoes being unacceptable-and for as long as your mum is your legal gaurdian she should at least provide you with basics like this, however there are many kids, when I was you're age, that wern't given any kind of allowance, and no trendy clothes and have to make do with what there was. By the way I'm two years older than you.
So starting point? Talk to your mum and ask her for some new shoes! Then explain how you feel about how she treats you, and reassure her that as a loving daughter you'll support her with anything that she wants.
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I am 13 and even I have no bf.I heard that a girl get pregnant if she intercourse.I never do sex.The tension that kills me is that I have an older brother,I am afraid that if he touch his semen and then he dries his hand and touch my pen and I touch my pen an touch my vagina,is there any chance of getting pregnant.I am very afraid.Plssss help me!!!
You're 13-have you not had sex education classes at school yet?
Just wondering, not to get at you, but because one of the first things teachers tells you is that you can not get pregnant unless you have sex.
So you're fine-though you'd hope that people wash their hands in your house :)
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I got a new boyfriend but I'm not sure if my parents will approve. he is so nice but he has got tattoo's and piercings. my parents will judge him immediately and not let me be with him, even though he has got a steady job, he treats me amazingly and i love him loads. he is two years older than me and waited until i was 16 just so that it was a legal relationship too. i love him but what do i do if they won't let me see him again??!!
This is a tricky one, because obviously you think your parents have a vision of what their daughters boyfriend should looke like, and you think they wont like him because of his appearance?
Well I think the first thing to remember is that you're 16-legal, so it's kinda not their choice anymore-you just have to make them see that.
Firstly, you need to step into your parent's shoes. It's hard to do, but it should help. Think about the ideal person they would want you to be with. DOn't think about image, think about things like humour, caringness, intelligence etc.
Does your boyfriend match these qualities? If so, then it's the second part, convincing your parents.
You need to sit them down and explain you understand pre conceptions your parents may have, but to then ask if they cans see beyond them. Mention that you appriciate they want the best for you, and to be happy, and that this guy does make you happy.
If they don't come round and don't let you see them again, then I think there may be a bigger issue for you to sort out-overprotective parents?. In two years time you'll be a legal adult, and they can't have such a powerful input into the desisions you make anymore.
Also consider if this guy is really worth it, or whether because you can't be with him you want him more. Its a bridge every daughter has to overcome with their parents, and though it's tough, the sooner you do it the better relations will be I think.
Good luck :)
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how do i get a boyfriend who might not like me
Do you mean you want someone to not like you?
Or do you mean how to get a boyfriend who you don't think likes you back?
I don't know-the question isn't clear.
I'm wondering if you could perhaps provide more info some I can help you-which I will do.
Eg: age, the extent of your shyness etc.
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so i wash my teeth 2 times a day, morning before i go to school and evening before i go to bed. But every day i have i stinky breath, so i started to eat lots of gum and that works but i really dont want to go around every day eating gum. I dont know why this breath comes and stays, im asthmatic but i dont think that's the problem.
There are lots of things you could try for this, like special toothpastes or mouthwashes, but it seems to me you need to see a dentist about your bad breath. If its that bad then book an appointment, but if not then mention it at your next check up.
Respiratory problems can cause bad breath, pr you may have a slight tonsil/tongue infection.
Either way speak to a professional about this :)
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My boyfriend and i got together in december and now its getting closer to valentines day. He's 14 so what should i get him?
I've put together a list, but obviously it depends on his personality (cute or hot)
1) Chocolates
2)A nice aftershave set
3)A me to you bear
4) Just a quality card with a nice message inside
I think these are best considering how long you've been together, but obviously check out card shops for cute mugs and frames and things.
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My boyfriend is 15 and I just turned 13 a week ago and he's turning 16 in june well anyway I finger myself every night that I'm not busy with anything if a friend sleeps over or I sleep at a friend then I don't but my boyfriend and I have phone sex and I get dressed in front of him I do modeling btw and we've been dating for a year now but he's only watched me finger myself and I've seen him touching himself but we haven't done anything but we really want to!! I'm feeling so horny while I right this I always am :'(
I agree with the user below-you are too young in my opinion as well-its better to do it out of love than lust.
The thing is, you've just written a paragraph and theres no question there at all. So, seeing as this is an advice site, I don't know what exactly you're trying to ask? I suggest you rephrase this and ask a question-whatever you want to know again, because there are people on here to help you, myself included, but we can't if theres no question!
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I am 13 years old and all my friends make fun of me because ive never had my first kiss. I go out with a 14 year old and we have talked about it but were to nervous to do anything. All weve done is kiss on the cheek and thats nothing! How do i get him to kiss me?
It sounds like you're responding to peer pressure, wish is a foolish thing to do.
You need to make sure you're ready before you do it because it only happens once.
Also, obviously the friends you have have matured very early for their age, but I know of people my age (17) who havn't had their first kiss yet-so don't feel pressurised. It happens when it happens, and as long as you relax it'll be fine.
But yeh don't do it to please you're friends because theres no point with being friends with people like that but also you're in the relationship for the wrong reasons.
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okay some and my boyfriend just recently broke up because we realized we were really different. We do love each other and we already do miss each other.I have had a lot of time to think and i think that we cn make it work even though we are different. Can i make it work?
Well only sometimes do 'opposites attract', though this usually means personality wise-quiet vs loud rather than interests wise.
Obviously it has to be a mutual desision to start off with. If you broke up because you're really different then may be thats how it should be. The reason why you feel this way now is because you miss him-absense makes the heart grow fonder.
But what do you do then if you get together again and you have the same problem?
I think you're mature to realise that you're different and break up, but honestly loads of people get back together again and then realise once again it was a mistake-they just let the emotions they felt at the time take over them.
Obviously I don't know you to and don't know the circumstances, so at the end of the day it's you're desision. I guess we meet the people we meet for a reason-and if you and him are prepared to put 100% in to make it work then it'll work-but then again sometimes its best to just be friends :)
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i lik this person.there a stud. But i kniw they will never feel the same. Wait. I dont even know if i like this person. I might do or maybe its made up in my head. I cant seem to think. One minute we tlk next minute i dnt get no replys. Im onli young. All this is messing up my edducation. Its not good. I get mixed feelings around tthis person. Ive had a disagreeement with this person once beforr. I dont know wat to do. No one seems to undertsnad.. Im onli a kid in secondary I dnt know what going on in my head. I have mentoring but it does not seem to get me no where.
So what specific piece of advice do you want?
I'm prepared to help you but don't know what you're question is, which makes me alittle confused.
Perhaps if you articulate your question again, providing more details then I can help :)
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i cant store book language in my mind
I don't know what your situation is. Is it to be able to revise for exams? Is it just general knowledge?
Either way, the reason is probably because you don't understand it. We remember stuff that interests us the most and that we can understand.
So I guess it depends what kind of learner you are: visual,kinetic or audial.
If you look this us theres loads of stuff on line including help trying to work out what type of learner you are. Once you know that, you can get tips on how to learn things your way.
So if you're an audial learner, you need to get your head out of a book and watch informative clips instead, as theats how you learn.
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hello i am siddhant i want to do sex with a girl who is my negibhour how can i make him agree for this.
He or she?
Either way you can't make anyone do this, so don't even try-in England thats rape :)
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Hello Advicenators!I honestly have wave wanted to die for a while now.I am a 13 year old female and have cut myself almost everyday scince I was 11.I feel like I'm not worth thr very air that I breath.It hurts sometimes how bad it feels to be here even now.I cannot do this. I need a friend.
Hello,
Well whilst none of us on here can give you an official medical diagnosis, it does sound like you have some of the characteristis of depression.
Firstly you need to talk to someone who is qualified to help you. Even if dragging your feet to the doctors feels like the last thing you wanna do, you need to do it.
Depression is an illness that the sufferer in no way caused, and, crucially, can only recover from with proffesional help.
There is help out there-its just about motivation to get it. I'll be honest and say I had a bout of anxiety a year ago, and I felt no one was there. But to get better, it has to come from within you. You have to find within yourself that one reason to get better, that final bout of energy that you cling on to, because with that mindset, you will.
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we know eachother and shes a shy and quiet girl but adorable anyhoo i confessed my love to her and asked her out i think she likes me but idk and she said that she doesnt want to be in a relationship right now cause of school but she said she'll end up having a relationship with me idk what that could mean i thought it meant that either she wants me to wait for her or something anyhoo then i said to her that i would wait for her and she said thats really sweet so i assume she wants me to wait what do you think it might mean?
Hi,
As a shy girl myself I think I can help you
So, I think it means that she does want to get with you, but she's that shy that she doesn't want to look too easy to get-as if she's desperate.
Also, it could mean that she really does want to focus on her studies at the moment, but is willing to make you her priority after school work is done. It's just if she got with you now, you'd have to come second best-and you or she don't want that.
So yeh I'd definatly wait for this girl-she sounds genuine.
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Theres a guy I met last year. At first he would never talk to me just stare at me all the time. It was little creepy but I didnt mind it too much because I was attracted to him. Then one day he came up and started talking to me and from then we would say hi and make small talk. Over the months he gotten more comfortable around me he talks to me more he jokes around and sometimes he even flirts with me. I feel like he likes me but I'm not sure. I found him on facebook and we became friends on there and I message him on their and he answers me back but he never messages me first. He hasnt asked for my number either. The other day we were talking about basketball and he said he wanted to play one-on-one with me. I asked him when he said anytime just let him know. Could that be his way of asking for a date or he is just asking as a friend. Should I use a one-on-one game as a way to get closer to him. What should I do and What should I think about him being so friendly towards me?
Hey,
I sounds like he does like you, but he's shy. I get that he's shy from the whole not messaging you first and needing to get comfortable with you.
It depends really-you know him better than any of us on here! Does he have many friends who are girls? Does he talk about deep things to you sometimes?
I suggest that you definatly accept this basketball game (date) as soon as possible.
If you don't mind me saying, hes probably trying you out to see if you're dating material. And of course this wont be judged by your ability to play basketball-it'll be down to if your a good sport and things. So if you want to get with him- and its sounds like he's interested too, then nows your chance to impress! And why don't you show him abit of interest by asking for his number? It'll serve you great favours!
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How do you know when a guy is crushing on you?
I'm not a guy-awkward! But anyway I've asked
this question myself in the past on here, so I'll tell you what I know kinda happens:
If he's confident and things he'll always try to speak to you, and be in your eye line. He may joke with you alot, or lightly touch you on the shoulder or something.
I guess the main one in that you'll catch him looking at you all the time-or just be aware of it in your peripheral vision.
Also, you may see his friends look at you differently, and watch his body language-are his toes pointing towards you when he speaks? If so then it's positive he likes you.
All I'd say is that girls tend to have a 6th sense about this kind of thing-its like instinctual-if you think he does chances are it's true. Hope this answers the question
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So I am 13 and am in eighth grade and I applied for a specialty center for the health sciences. I am so nervous. My interview date is January 19th, 2013. I need help on interview wear because I have chosen just a plain shirt, a nice jacket that is very interview worthy (VERY) and some concert black pants.
The second thing I need help on is how should I go through the interview like this? I want to become a doctor and I get honor roll and good grades, but I don't know much about health sciences. Like I just understand the gist and if they ask me questions that I need to answer on the spot than I will probably be slow because I need to think through things. There will be one judge and three people including me. I know how to enter and exit, shake hands, thank them for their time and keep eye sight.
The very last thing I need is help on my interest servery. I am probably just going to answer all the answers they want, because if I don't like certain things then I'm not made for that school and I HAVE to get into this school. If don't my dreams will shatter. And I need help. At open house in my group there were about 10 of us. like 8 out of 10 of them were in Honors Society. I'm not in H.I. and I need to get in. They have a bunch of volunteer time and I mean what the heck, were only in middle school and they give more opportunities to the special kids who are gifted and field trips. So I mean my parents can't drive me everywhere to get volunteer time. It's unfair. So I have to show these people that I am worth giving these special opportunities too, I will give it my all, then give more. I will try my hardest and be the best and I will shine. I want to succeed. I can't do that if I look foolish or childish or fail my interest survey and answer questions and be very open and active in the interview.
Thank you in advance and please help me.
Well I was going to say how mature for your age you sounded...untill I read the bit about gifted peole getting all the opportunities.
If you take that attitude then it won't do you any favours-as a doctor you have to be much more empathetic than that!
Anyway...you need advice.
In terms of the handshake bit. Don't shake an interviewers hand first-they always go first as they are in the position of authortiy. At least that's what we do in England.
But make sure the handshake is firm, should you shake hands-it shows confidence. When you walk out, try not to never have your back to the interviewer. Don't walk backwards! But try to be side on-you can practice this, as it shows your an open person. As for eye contact-get the balance right. Much like a first date-too much and its scary, too little and it looks like disinterest.
So long as you smile and are able to maintain healthy eye contact, your body language is telling the interviewer that you like them, and they will warm to you more.
As for the interests bit of the question-you need to find your own examples to express your interest. If you can not pysically get anywhere, then write a blog about it, write articles online about the subject, even carry out some research. Even if you don't intend to publish it, it shows that you are interested, and also if you do stuff other kids havn't done, you'll get noticed.
You have to act mature, be confident, be smiley, and be intelligent.
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Hey everyone! I have this mood problem and I don't know how to stop! I don't wanna see a doctor and I am completely fine well when I'm at school I can't stay positive I try to but I'm always negative about school and confidence I wanna be happy I have way to much worries in my head I have this voice that talks in my head negatively most of the time I just want it to go away. sometimes when I stop worrying I start thinking positively I went through depression in the past. When I think negative I get this attitude but when positive I'm happy. my happiness doesnt last that long anymore my mom and everyone I know are amazing and nice to me. Except for my dad he divorced my mom 3 years ago when my depression was bad. I dislike my dad he doesn't care about my family hes a selfish person but that does not effect me or mom we just want to him away from us as possible. Yeah Sure i wish my dad was different but he's not i don't mind it as much any more but all I need is a way to make money to help out my mom with out leaving my house I can't drive I'm only f17 I mean i can drive but it will take a while till I get my permit well thats I'm gonna go
Have advice for me comment bye
I'm 17 to and have an anxiety disorder.
The thing is, if you live with too many problems for too long, they'll manifest themselves eventually-usually into some form of mental illness.
You need to speak to a medical proffesional about this-or maybe you're mum or someone who you can trust?
And what was that about needeing to make money? You could try selling stuff on sites like ebay or amazon. Also, most seventeen year olds feel the need to learn to drive as soon as they are legal to. But if you/your mum needs money is this wise? Insurance is high, car costs are high, petrol costs are high. Isn't public transport an option?
To be honest I don't know what you want advice on-it's not clear, it's just like a load of problems. I suggest you ask another specific, clear question on here so people can advise you on what you wanna know, because the question ways to make money from home is veyr different to how the question began, to sort your mood out!
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