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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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Well i'm going to my boyfriend's homecoming.
i'm pretty much excited =)
but i need help..
i want a black dress. or do you think i should wear another color?
it doesn't matter as long as its cute you know i was just tryin to be simple.
but do you know any websites i can look at for dresses?
& i also want my hair down not up..& i would really love for it to be curly!!
so can you give websites for ideas on how i could do it?
thanks alot in advance!

A few tips before citing links are if wearing black it can make you slimmer, and it does give a simple look to your body shape.

If you like to be creative, wearing bright dresses are nice, and some bright-colored shoes can make you get noticed.

Websites for styling tips:
http://beauty.about.com/od/homecominghairstyles/qt/alittleheat.htm
http://beauty.about.com/od/homecominghairstyles/
http://www.promadvice.com/homecoming/homecoming-looks-2005-index.shtm
http://dir.yahoo.com/Society_and_Culture/Cultures_and_Groups/Teenagers/Prom_and_Homecoming/

Hope I helped. Good luck =)

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What is a good eyeliner that goes on smooth and smudges easily? I also need one that stays on for a long ammount of time. I have an estee lauder one that i put in my bottom lid and it always comes off and smears down below my eyes.

Pretty much any name brand liquid eyeliner can stay on like all day long. Maybelline is especially good.

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I am 13/f about to be 14 in October, and I am a 32A. My mom is only a 34B, is it possible I could get a C cup?

What age do breasts stop growing, approximately?

It is still possible..

It ranges from each person but usually the average is like 16 to 18 years old. Give it time, though. Trust me, you are only 13, you got awhile to go.

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My friend threw me a suprise birthday party this past weekend and her birthday is next weekend. I would like to do something for hers (she'll be 17). what could i do besides through a party?

What would be really great is if you took her out to eat. Something decent but nothing too fancy or cheap. Then later take her shopping and let her buy a few things that she really loves..

If you are on a tight budget but want it to look creative is if you throw her a cute, small birthday party with nice decorations and bake a cake and design it yourself. Then as a gift, you should make a picture frame with you two together and the frame created yourself (like out of wooden popscicle used from a craft shop or stickers).

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I'm a teenage girl. I'm single, and a virgin. (and sick of it) For the past five years of my life I have wanted to commit suicide because I have recently discovered that there is no point in living.

I'm very overweight and I'm ugly. The one boy who has ever loved me was a liar and he had a mental problem. (not being sarcastic) I have no friends and I really want to die. I've been working as a stage actress for a while but I realized I have no talent at all.

My point is: No one loves me and no one ever will. I can't live any longer without being loved. What should I do? How can I survive without love?

Everyone treats me like I'm seven years old. I look a lot older than my age and most people ask me if I'm in college. I hate my life so much. Oh, and I do masturbate regularly so don't say that I should try that. It's not a substitute for a partner or for real love. Also: all of my peers have boyfriends. So I'm the only one who's single and a loner.
By the way, no one ever listens to me when I talk so that's another reason why I want to kill myself.
Please give me advice.

I have experienced what you are experiencing now. I have had so many issues in my life and just wanted to permanently end it. Nobody cared and I was on the edge of ending my life. I have tried every method you can think of to kill myself.

I am overweight too. I don't get a lot of guys, but I am sure that there are guys out there who like me, and I am sure it's the same for you.

But what made me changed my mind was God, and He really did change my life. I don't know what your religion is or if you an atheist but getting into religion REALLY helps. Because it helped me.

You may think getting into that stuff is worthless, and many of my friends thought that too. I just really wish they would give it a chance.

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Is it safe to sex during pregnancy?

Yes it's completely safe to.

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I read in a website that a pregnancy test can be negative one day and positive two days later.If i have done a urine home test,do i still need to see a doctor to do a blood pregnancy test for me?

It would probably be better to, because that is what my friends did to be for sure if they were pregnant, since a lot of times urine tests can be not accurate. I mean it's not mandatory to go see a Doctor, but for the best results you should.

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This question has probably been asked a million times so..sorry to ask it again.
Somebody said that it was proven that dry humping can get you pregnant. is that true or is it just a myth to scare people away from it.

It depends actually. If you're having intercourse without clothes on (possible way of dry sex) it is fairly possible yet uncommon. Although it has happened before many times, but your chance of semen entering inside of you is slimmer compared to real sex. But with clothes on, chances are extremely slim. Probably 1 in a billion kind of things. But never think it's considered to be safe sex because it can happen. Any kind of intercourse is a possibility. The only way you can't get pregnant is abstinence.

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ok well you know for the abercrombie kids some of the shirts say Est. 1892 ? well does that mean that they had abercrombie in 1892? lol please help, i'm really confused!

Basically. Est. is short for establish/established hence meaning "formed" or "founded". So yes, it was made in 1892.

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I have an under-the-skin pimple on my forehead. It is really painful, red, and it sticks out too much to cover up (right in the middle of my forehead so my hair doesn't cover it). I've tried tea tree oil and other acne treatments but after three days it just seems to be getting worse. I don't have much money, but does anyone know any treatments, homemade or storebought, that could help?

Ingredients such as Salicylic Acid and Benzol Peroxide can be useful for treating pimples right before they get to the surface of the skin. Products such as Clean&Clear, Neutrogena, and Stridex can help. The minimum amount they can be is 2 dollars.

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okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.

thankss

I think you should give him another chance. He sounds like one of those people who just gets confused on whether or not he needs a girlfriend. He sounds like he just wasn't sure what he liked or not.

A lot of guys are a bit like that, so don't be surprised. But however try talking to him about your likes and dislikes and tell him if he really wants to be with you, he needs to accept you for who you are. Don't let some guy change you. So if he can accept your style, or interests, then give him another chance. If he is still giving you a hard time about it, give him a little more time to grow out of it.

I hope I helped =). Good luck!

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hey i noticed you were into a lot of the same things as me well anyways this might be long so i better get started...i have a ton of problems and sometimes it gets so out of hand i think of suicide but i can' imagine myself doing that just becus it scares me really badly and i wouldn't do such a thing to myself really i wouldn't trust me though i would never do it becus i am a baby and i can't do that.

1. well it all started wen i was about 8 or 9 i began eating obsessivly and was one of the heaviest in my class now im not huge but i'm almost average for my age and i am so self consiouns. i really avoid almost anything (wat to wear wise) but i'm getting better it just kills me cuz i want to look so good and have a nice body but it's really hard for me. and i eat all the time luckily i don't gain really bad but i'm in softball and i rodeo so i'm somewhat active. but my question is is how can i lose weight that would be easy for me? (and i don't stick with things very well)

2. I have ADD. it's a mental thing that keeps me from paying attention. i can't stay focused i get bored with things very easily and make bad grades becus it is so hard for me to focus. but i've told my parents that is why i'm making bad grades and they don't believe me but trust me it's true. i really need help with this one becus it's my main problem. wehn my teachers are teaching i can't pay attention unless they are constintly saying kay(

Wow. Well I know exactly what you are going through. Don't feel alone because I feel I have ADD as well, but my parents won't believe me; they think I am just making up excuses for the heck of it. So for that situation, contact your school and talk about the problem you are having. Maybe even a teacher. They'll help you handle it.

And the eating thing, yeah I can relate. I have done diets but can never stick to them so what helped me was to just slowly change your diet. You never want to go from all junk food to all healthy food because that will just mess your diet up. Just startting by decreasing the amount of food you eat real slowly. Like, maybe you usually eat 3 servings of a snack each day; maybe tomorrow do 2 or 2 1/2 and by next week go to 2 or 1 1/2. Just try slowly decreasing portions and meals. And don't push yourself too hard or you can just end up gaining more wait at the end or in the longrun.

About your boy problem, try talking to him about how much you care about him and love him, send him letters, call him, or send emails every now-and-then. If he will keep refusing to go back out with you after awhile then it's probably time to move on and find someone else. I know this sounds pretty lame because you love him a whole lot. I've been there before and it's so hard to give up someone you've been with for a long time. It's never easy; I know. But if it can't work out or nothing gets better it's probably not a good idea to keep trying. Or rather just give him some space. Since he's deressed, he probably just needs a break. Give him some space and he may just be ready to get back with you after he's had his space. Some people just need a break. But know that's OK. Every relationship needs it sometimes.

And about your brother, I understand it's hard to get over such a tragedy like that. And having to deal with the criminal to that crime. Not all criminals get what they deserve and not all innocent people deserve what they get. Understand that justice is sometime not fair, and what that person did is going to have to deal with what he has done. Don't try to make him feel hell, or verbally torture him. Just like how I dealt with my Aunt getting poisoned by a nurse. My aunt was mentally handicapped and died a painful death. I felt soo horrible what that nurse did. I wanted her to die. But I realized life isn't fair sometimes and you just need to remember all the things you had with that person that died. People can be cruel, oh I know. But don't let your brother's death ruin your life and make you angry all your life. Let that person feel the mental and emotional pain of killing someone.

And about your friends, try talking to them that you have your differences and they have theirs. Tell them you want to have fun in a different way, and that you are OK with their way of fun if they are OK with yours. There are many things I like doing and things my friends don't like and vice versa but we're fine with each other. A real friend would accept you for who you are. But don't let them change your lifestyle. If you like to party on occasion go ahead. If your friends get mad about it, tell them it's what you like to do, and that you should be able to since you deal with what they like and you don't. It's OK to be different.

I hope I helped. I'm sorry about what's going on, but it'll turn out fine. You aren't alone since I can relate! If any other problems come up you are more than welcome to leave a message.

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Hey. Alot of girls at my school are being really mean to me. I didnt even do anything. Can you please help mee?

This is what they just typed too me ;


kkay bitch well im with torie right now at lindsays house where you were not invited vicotria is poretending with you!! please i never talk to you i try and ignore you like thyt day sittin on the bench and your like ium pale cse of my hair and i was like woah bitch dont put your feet all over me and you asked lisa to go to the band room and lisas like the band room and your like the band room yeah like it was you idea and no i do hate you you are an anyyoing slut whore and lidnsay says your a tramp and torie was laughing cse you called me a lesbian when u go and make out with girls to get boys to think your hot and they onbly like you cse you ahve big boobs okay and there not big cse your mature the fatter you are the bigger pyour boobs are oh yeah let me tell yeah torie hates you summer emma emily and like a hole shit load of ppl okay and you wouldnt know thyt cse she dosent like you and she dosent trust you with anything cse she knos you'll go tell everyone









Help. Im crying my eyes out.
im 13..

These people sound like jerks to me. Well one thing I am unsure of about your situation is, were they at one time your friends?

Whether they were or not, they probably want to fit in with popular or "cooler" people and when people, particularly girls, do that they probably don't want to hang out with former friends or people they once hungout with.

Or rather they are the type of people who just like to start crap for no reason at all.

In that case, either 1-ignore them and hang out with your real friends, or 2-contact a teacher or principal or talk to them privately and tell them what's going on. Harrassment is illegal in schools and outside of school. And you have every right to report it. If they don't do anything contact the police. They'll not only take care of the problem but take care of your school's policy.

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Okay, I'm 13/f
My names Jennifer but my friends call me Safire. I love animals, people, sports, and everybody is my friend, is nice to me, and respects me, including my cousin. When I first started scool I was all hyped up about being in 7th grade yippy you know I still am too I love it. But On the first day of school I walked by my cousin Billy who's in the 11th grade, I said hi and he just ignored me. Hes NEVER ignored me before, even in front of his friends. Well his friends said hi how are you, the usual, and he didn't even LOOK at me. I Asked his mom about in and she said he might be mad at me, And I was trying to figure it out and My friends and I came up with this: Until lately I was jealous of my brother, mean to him banning him from my room and everything like that, because he's always getting more attention than me because he's 4. I asked Billy's best friend and Sam(his name) said Billy didn't ever talk about me like he used to. Sam also said that whenever they were talking about me Billy changed the subject. And the other day I went up to ask him about it and Billy pushed me out of the way. Luis and Diamante( my best friends in the whole world) caught me from falling and Sam and Jonathen(billy's other friend) asked Billy why he did that and he just said I got to get to class. and left. Why is he doing this to me. I love him so much I would die for him. He means everything to me. He's my favorite person on earth, and everyone knows that... I just want to know why and how to get him to stop ignoring me and pushing me around, I hate being pushed around. He knows that as much as my BFFs do. Please help me,
Safire

It seems to me something aboud Billy is bothering him a whole lot. A lot of things could be affecting his mood towards you. Like, have you done anything to upset him recently? Is he having trouble with anything in life, like stress, depression, or anxiety? Which could be primary causes of random anger. Or maybe he's afraid to be around you because of something he did or say that could later affect your friendship.

What I would do is try talking to him. I'm sure you tired before. But this time, write him letters and pass it on to him, asking what he wrong, and telling him whatever is bothering him can be a secret between you too (because it could be something private), or if you have AIM or some internet instant messaging program that you both have, try IMing him. Maybe even some e-mails. If he won't fess up to you, get some of his closest friends to get him to explain.

If he won't cooperate with you trying to help him, he probably needs some space. He is probably one of those people who shut people out when he's angry or upset. Give him some time alone. There are also times when you did what you oould but all you can do is give it time.

I hope I helped. I'm deeply sorry about what's happening, and whether or not my advice helped, I hope this situation get's better.

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last night me and my friend tried to die the bottom half of our hair black, and the die just ended up making it dark brown. and it is not even that dark. we bought jet black hair dye. my hair is light brown normally, and hers was like a dirty blonde, and niehter of them came out black. does anyone recommend any good dyes or tips cause we are re-doing it tonight. and yes, we completley saturated our hair in dye, and we left it in long enough.

You probably didn't keep the dye on long enough. For the full effect you had to keep it in your hair 30-45 mins, depending how light your hair is. Or rather it probably wasn't high-quality dye. Usually the ones that are cheap.

Next time try keeping it in longer, or buying the high quality dyes like Loreal or Herbal Essences.

Just wait at least 5 weeks to dye your hair again, or seek a professional hair stylist. You don't want to lose or damage your hair from the ammonia or peroxides.

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i just got a dawrf hamster and like ive had hamsters b4 just not dawrfs so its kind of weird cause they are small! and like i dont know i just got it like yesterday but i mean it like seems to hate me or whatever..any hints? please i dont want to give it away or anything!!

I currently have a dwarf hamster. She is pretty cute, but she is mean as well. Dwarf hamsters particularly, can be mean and it can be for the following reasons: Hamster is either not used to the scent of you or dislikes the scent of your hand, hamster could be just a baby (4 weeks to 3 months) and babies are picky about scents and environment, and the hamster could be scared or nervous around you.

Some ways that helped me was to first feed it through his/her cage by giving them treats or seeds. Then slowly try picking the hamster up. But first make sure there are no fragranced scents on your hand. Hamsters hate it. So wash your hands in just water to get it off if you have any.

Don't disturb it during the day as much as you can since hamsters are nocturnal (sleeps during day and is awake during night) and during the day they can get grumpy. So if you want to pet your hamster or play with it, try the evenings. I know Dwarf hamsters can get even more grumpy when awaken sometimes.

Hope I helped =)

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i got my eyebrows waxed today and there is red part on one of them, maybe because it was pulled too hard but its not like bleeding on the outside or anything its just red underneath and im afraid it will turn in to a scab because it happend before is there anything i can do to calm it down or make it less red to not form a scab

Aloe Vera or Hydrocortisone cream - Both soothes skin and reduces inflammation including rashes or red-looking areas.

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Hi, im having trouble with my internet, i have a wireless broadband connection. when i first got my wireless connection my online gaming worked and my torrents program and limewire all worked perfectly. one day my computer froze so i switched it on and then off at the mains. now my interneet explorer is working fine but online gaming is lagging so much i cant play and my torrent program or limewire does not connect properly and downloads things at 1kbps! can u help me????

Since you reset it, the connection setting probably changed or was set back to default. Try going to settings and click on wireless broadband connection and restart the program. For online games try changing your connection settings by going to control panel and internet options.

If you tried this already, then I suggest resetting all of your connections to default. Other than that, contact your ISP (Internet Service Provider.)

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i sort of have a weird problem. I always sorta had thick theighs, mainly from being on the swim team and dancing. well last year i bought a whole bunch of hollister jeans and they fit great. Although i acually lost weight this summer i got a job wear a stand and walk alot so my theighs have gotten more muscular. The problem is i no longer fit into my hollister jeans. The waist if fine but its tight in the legs now and it looks bad.

What can i do? i can't stop walking and standing at my job, we aren't aloud to sit or anything and i can't invest in more hollister jeans because they were expensive and i have like 5 pairs that i don't want to lose!

any advice on how to thin out the muscle because my legs are solid!

First off, when you are gaining muscle mass, it's usually from exercising (from your experience), taking way too much protein, since protein can increase muscle mass.

Some tips on how to do this; do the opposite of the above -- Decrease your consumption of protein (like fish, meat, dairy products), and decrease (but slowly) your exercising.

Rapidly decreasing protein intake and exercise can hurt you severely so I strongly suggest taking one step at a time.

Also, contact a Doctor if he/she can prescribe medicine to decrease muscle mass. There are stuff out there for it.

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Which makeup do you prefer best?
Like, should I splurge for the ULTA brand of Bare Minerals? I breakout somewhat often, but I want to bring a natural glow and high light my eyes. Thanks!

Well, you really want to use makeup that's non-comedegenic so it won't clog pores, and it's oil free because that can cause breakouts as well. What I prefer to you is to use makeup that contains NO fragrance, and that is states that it's non-comedegenic and dermatologist tested.

Some good products are: Wet N' Wild face makeup, [some] Olay products, and some CG (CoverGirl) face makeup -- those would be good.

And to brighten up the eyes, bright shimmered eyeshadow would do great like metallic silver, pink, and blue.

And for some natural glow, use some lightweight loose powder.

Good luck.

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