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hey i noticed you were into a lot of the same things as me well anyways this might be long so i better get started...i have a ton of problems and sometimes it gets so out of hand i think of suicide but i can' imagine myself doing that just becus it scares me really badly and i wouldn't do such a thing to myself really i wouldn't trust me though i would never do it becus i am a baby and i can't do that.
1. well it all started wen i was about 8 or 9 i began eating obsessivly and was one of the heaviest in my class now im not huge but i'm almost average for my age and i am so self consiouns. i really avoid almost anything (wat to wear wise) but i'm getting better it just kills me cuz i want to look so good and have a nice body but it's really hard for me. and i eat all the time luckily i don't gain really bad but i'm in softball and i rodeo so i'm somewhat active. but my question is is how can i lose weight that would be easy for me? (and i don't stick with things very well)
2. I have ADD. it's a mental thing that keeps me from paying attention. i can't stay focused i get bored with things very easily and make bad grades becus it is so hard for me to focus. but i've told my parents that is why i'm making bad grades and they don't believe me but trust me it's true. i really need help with this one becus it's my main problem. wehn my teachers are teaching i can't pay attention unless they are constintly saying kay(<<my name) after every sentence and in my face to. well my parents won't get me medicine for it until october and i can't wait this is keeping me behind bad so my question is for this on is..how can i get my parents to realize this is hurting me so bad? and i need the medicine?(im not a drugy but i realy want valadictorin and since i'm a freshman i need to start good grades right now)
3. Boys...i have this boy who has been my boyfriend for 5 years(on and off) and i love him so much but we broke up and now we can't seem to get back together. i love him x 10000000 you can't even explain how much i love him and he loves me but he acts weird. i'm depressed over him and he is depressed over me but we can't get together and thats all i want is to be with him but i don't know how to tell him...wat do i tell him?
4. i'm not the type of girl who parties all the time but i would like to go to a few and stuff but my friends are all goody tooshoes and i can't figure out how to have fun becus anything fun i like they hate. it really sucks and they don't aprove of partying but trust me i'm not goint to like party hard drink all night and next morning wake up with somebody i don't konw. but how do i tell my friends i'm not a goody tooshoes i want to have fun?
5. my brother died from a drunk driver a year ago and well the kid who did it hasn't cleaned up his act. and my parents were so nice to him they let him have only 3 MONTHS in jail! thats pretty considerate of them. but now he still party's and we told him if he did that that we would do anything to put him in htere longer but he just keeps doing it. and when i see him i can't help but cry becus i saw my brother die for 3 days all becuz of him. but wen he sees me he just stares at me like why are you looking at me. i hate him i really do! when i see him i just wanna kill him (again im a good person and i wouldn't kill a soul i cry when people kill a cat or something on TV) so anyways i can't get over how bad i hate him...how am i suppose to get over him?
thank you so much for taking your time to look at this please answer i really need help thank you so much!
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Wow. Well I know exactly what you are going through. Don't feel alone because I feel I have ADD as well, but my parents won't believe me; they think I am just making up excuses for the heck of it. So for that situation, contact your school and talk about the problem you are having. Maybe even a teacher. They'll help you handle it.
And the eating thing, yeah I can relate. I have done diets but can never stick to them so what helped me was to just slowly change your diet. You never want to go from all junk food to all healthy food because that will just mess your diet up. Just startting by decreasing the amount of food you eat real slowly. Like, maybe you usually eat 3 servings of a snack each day; maybe tomorrow do 2 or 2 1/2 and by next week go to 2 or 1 1/2. Just try slowly decreasing portions and meals. And don't push yourself too hard or you can just end up gaining more wait at the end or in the longrun.
About your boy problem, try talking to him about how much you care about him and love him, send him letters, call him, or send emails every now-and-then. If he will keep refusing to go back out with you after awhile then it's probably time to move on and find someone else. I know this sounds pretty lame because you love him a whole lot. I've been there before and it's so hard to give up someone you've been with for a long time. It's never easy; I know. But if it can't work out or nothing gets better it's probably not a good idea to keep trying. Or rather just give him some space. Since he's deressed, he probably just needs a break. Give him some space and he may just be ready to get back with you after he's had his space. Some people just need a break. But know that's OK. Every relationship needs it sometimes.
And about your brother, I understand it's hard to get over such a tragedy like that. And having to deal with the criminal to that crime. Not all criminals get what they deserve and not all innocent people deserve what they get. Understand that justice is sometime not fair, and what that person did is going to have to deal with what he has done. Don't try to make him feel hell, or verbally torture him. Just like how I dealt with my Aunt getting poisoned by a nurse. My aunt was mentally handicapped and died a painful death. I felt soo horrible what that nurse did. I wanted her to die. But I realized life isn't fair sometimes and you just need to remember all the things you had with that person that died. People can be cruel, oh I know. But don't let your brother's death ruin your life and make you angry all your life. Let that person feel the mental and emotional pain of killing someone.
And about your friends, try talking to them that you have your differences and they have theirs. Tell them you want to have fun in a different way, and that you are OK with their way of fun if they are OK with yours. There are many things I like doing and things my friends don't like and vice versa but we're fine with each other. A real friend would accept you for who you are. But don't let them change your lifestyle. If you like to party on occasion go ahead. If your friends get mad about it, tell them it's what you like to do, and that you should be able to since you deal with what they like and you don't. It's OK to be different.
I hope I helped. I'm sorry about what's going on, but it'll turn out fine. You aren't alone since I can relate! If any other problems come up you are more than welcome to leave a message.
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