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16/F(me!)-I have a close friend (16/M)who I have strong feelings for.We spend lots of time together and text alot and recently I had no choice but to tell him about the way I felt (he'd heard from one of my so called 'friends'). He told me he just wanted me as a friend.
But then he comes to my house at bizzare hours and says he wants to talk! And if I mention that I want to get out of the house he'll immediately say "me too, meet up with me".
But at school he largely ignores me. And he flirts with just about every girl he sees- constantly!
Also, when we were applying for colleges he convinced me to apply to the same college as him- he said he didn't want to be without me. I got in but now he doesn't mention it and is considering accepting a place at a different college.
What is going on? Does he like me, does he not? Is he using me as some kind of back-up plan? I'm so sick of hankering after him. Sometimes I feel like I just want him out of my life. Then, other times, I think he likes me to and we could have a future together.
I'd just like your opinions on his behaviour please, every observation or piece of advice is welcome!
He could be flirting with these other girls in front of you because a) he likes you & wants to make you a little jealous..or b) he's just a natural, shameless flirt. It's hard to say if he has any feelings for you or if he just wants to be close friends. The best thing you can do is talk to him & ask him for yourself. If he still says he wants to be friends, then accept it as that & don't get frustrated. Also, don't get your hopes up. He probably just wants to be close friends.
ok soo heres what going on. my and my bestfriend (that i have been friends with for 3 years now) are trying to become friends again. after she kissed my boyfriend and slept over his house while i was going out with him at the time. he broke up with me last last monday and went out with my bestfriend!! and they both never even told me and i aksed her 3 times and she dennied it all 3 times!!! and then i found out and she was like lahh i`m sooo sorry and she tried to turn it all around on me but it didn't work! and she would talk shit behind my back and just yesterday she messaged me on myspace and was like ahh i really wanna be friends again blah blah blah ( a huge paragraph) and i was like idon't know i don't really trust you and you talked shit about me and now its like we never even met. i miss her sooooo mucha dn she misses me more then ever! and i just don't know what to do! it was the most bitchiest thing someone has even done to me!! really i wanted to die! and it wasn't just that i had a lot of other shit going on too! sooo should i be her friend again?
Personally, I believe in second chances over the minor things in life. But not this. What she did was completely ridiculous & if you try to fix things with her, you're only giving her the opportunity to walk all over you again. How do you know she's not going to pull this again? You don't. There are a lot more nicer friends out there who wouldn't even think about treating you that way. She's everything, but that.
ok so me and this guy have been dating for almost three months. ever since we have dated i have had random blocked phone numbers call me saying i am a dick and not to hurt him... and how much they hate me... so i told my boy and he took care of that.. and latly the people have been spreading rumors that i am cheating on him and saying shit behind his back... and he is starting to double think our relationship... and he says he loves me to much to let me go but i am really scared that he is and i want to keep him cause this is the first boy i have really like this much... so what should i do to have them stop saying stuff to me and make my boy not believe it?? please help thanks
Let the people say whatever. They want you to overreact, fight & ruin your relationship out of pure jealousy. By letting it bother you, you're only letting them win. I know you're probably extremely mad at these people (which you have every right to be), but unfortunately there's nothing you can do about it. If your boyfriend feels secure in the relationship, he should trust you & know that you would never do such a thing. Reassure him that these people are clearly spreading rumors about you & you would never do such a thing. I hate to say this, but: if he can't take your word, then there's not much more you can do. Atleast you know the truth. Hope all goes well!
This guy i like, he knows i like him, we go to the same school and we speak on msn etc. The thing is on msn he kinda acts like he likes me, like i once done this favour for him and (on msn) he kept saying 'oh, your the best, your so great' for about an hour!!! But then, the next day he didn't mention it at all, he didn't even just say 'thanks'.
He won't have a proper convosation with me in public but on msn he won't stop talking to me. Like, he would talk to me in public like just messing around, but in class (he's in nearly all mine) all he would do is just give me a little smile but not say hi or anything. We sometimes hang out at lunch, but in a big group so we don't speak that much. But, when we mess around he like takes things from my pocket and that.
Is he doing this on purpose?? And what does he mean by it???
Please help xxx
When you're talking to a friend online, it's much easier to have a longer conversation..whether you're shy or not. I know that in the past (when I used AIM to talk to my friends, close or not), we could have conversations for hours. But in person, they'd never be nearly as long. Also, it's much easier to open up to someone online because you're not face to face. When he sees you in class, he's probably too nervous to come up with the words to say to you. To answer your question, I don't think he's doing anything on purpose. I think he's just being himself (shy, drawnback, maybe somewhat nervous). & there's nothing wrong with that. Some people just take awhile to open up to. I know I am one of those people. Just give him sometime, initiate the conversations (to give him some relief) & he'll eventually open up to you. :)
me and this boy are about to date. we talk about having sex sometimes. i asked him last night if he uses condoms or not. he says he doesn't like to, i do respect that bC i have had sex with out a condom, but the guy pulls out ((i know all the lectures people so please do not give them to me)) i told him i wouldn't mind him not using one as long as he pulls out he said that was fine. then i said i was on birth control, he then said that there is no reason for him to pull out, i'm on the nuva ring, i've been on it since november, i honestly dont trust birth control, but how much is there a chance of my getting pergnant by being on the nuva ring?
i am 18 female.
Birth control is about 98% effective with perfect use & 92% with typical use. (A majority of people don't use it perfectly every single time, so you would go by the typical use.) Although your likeliness of getting pregnant is unlikely, the chance is always there. If you don't trust your birth control, take an extra precaution by using a condom or having him pull out (although it's not guaranteed to work every time.) Also, I know you are taking pregnancy precautions, but you should also consider protect yourself from STDs. If you are set on the idea of not using a condom while having sex, then atleast have him tested beforehand. Respect & protect yourself.
ok so im gonna get my cartilage pierced at Claires tomorro for my birthday..They pierces it with a gun and i heard that bad..but how bad is it what will happen if its done with a gun??
Claire's is the last place you want to get a cartilage piercing. If you do a little research on it on google, you'll realize the differences between the two. While needles are sterilized, stud guns are only sanitary (yes, there's actually a difference.) With a stud gun, you can be left with excess scar tissue & a shattered cartilage. It's just much safer to go to a professional piercing place & use a needle. (& anyone who knows anything about piercings.. knows this, so take my word for it.) You'll be paying about the same price anyway.
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/82/97376.htm
http://www.homiegfunk.com/gunssuck.htm
I had sex a few days ago, and now I think I might have a urinary tract infection or something of that sort. Do the two go together or could this be something else? It burns a little when I pee, but nothing else seems to be wrong and I'm just worried.
I do believe (don't take my word for it) that the 2 go hand in hand. (But you an still get an UTI if you don't have sex.) If it burns for more than a day or two, it's probably an UTI. I'd schedule an appointment with your doctor as soon as you can. It can cause some serious problems if left untreated.
what do ladies think semen taste like and if you are experenced in the field do you spit or swallow?
It's said that semen supposedly tastes similiar to what the guy eats. (Ex. If he eats sweet foods, he'd taste sweeter.) I don't exactly agree with that statement. There's really no way to describe the taste. It's something you have to taste on your own. Spitting or swallowing is your personal preference. Most guys enjoy it when a girl swallows. Other guys don't care. Either way, it's totally up to you, not the guy. :)
who said this
I like the kellogs box because in th middle of the word kellogs it says ello, like a british greeting, ello govna
is it dane cook?
Actually, it's the Kellogs commercial. & this doesn't classify as advice, so google it next time.
& yes, I am genius because I found it on the first search & you said you didn't.
Hello. It's me again. I was reading your questions and it said that you have been taking birth control for a little while now. I have a question. Does birth control make you gain weight? I have talked to a few people who are "bigger" who take birth control and they said the pill made them gain weight.
Thankyou =]
Yes, that's a common side effect. But from my personal experience, I didn't gain a pound for being on it. Infact, I probably maintained my weight because I didn't have too much of an appetite. But since I've been off of it (for a couple of months now), I've noticed I'm more hungry more often..causing me put on a couple pounds. But every person's body will react differently. The best thing to do is talk to your gynecologist & try to find the brand that'll work best for you. Give it a month before deciding whether or not that birth control is good for you. If not, you can go back to your gynecologist to try another one. :)
i plan on starting to go to the tanning bed sometime soonish and i was wondering where i could get a good lotion. preferable an indoor/outdoor combo, because i heard that outdoor lotion doesnt protect against tanning lamps, but i heard that indoor lotion doesnt have a sunscreen [not to mention the fact that i dont have oodles of money to spend on the salon stuff] and id like a sunscreen in it to help protect against getting cancer. so what can i do?
I've been going to tanning beds on & off for 3 years & I've never heard of an "indoor/outdoor combo" lotion. The tanning lotions are either made for outdoors or indoors. & sunscreen in a tanning bed won't really protect you. But if you go to Walgreens, Walmart or any grocery store they MAY have a couple tanning lotions for a decent priced, specificially made for indoor tanning. But if you want selection, you're going to need to get it a beauty supply place or the tanning salon. When you go to a tanning salon, there's really no way to protect yourself against sun cancer besides by limiting your sessions.
is there something you can do so that people cant see all your friends on myspace?... like when you hit view all of ...'s friends... is there a way to disable that? thanks!
You can hide your top friends & the link to "view all friends." The code is at: http://www.myspacesupport.com. But the page with listing all of your friends won't be disabled for view. Although the link won't be on your page, if someone entered the URL on their own, they can still access your list of friends.
where can i buy cute black flatts? (any kind) thats not a lot? link please :]. thanks !
I saw some on sale for $10-$20 @ Bakers. I was @ Target today & I must say they have a pretty cute selection. :) If you're wanting to spend a little more, I suggest Steve Madden. :)
um.. this is seperate questions, all under the same topic. each paragraph marks a seperate question. thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :]
I have like lines on my neck.. like different sections of my neck, that are different colors, kinda. i used to think it was normal, till i noticed nobody else had them. my mom says its okay and shes a nurse, but i dunno... why was i like this? is it really not a bad thing? im black, too.
also, i have like little pimples on my face. i try doing things to wash my face, but they've never completely gone away.. I've had pimples since 4th grade, but they were small, well sometimes they got kinda big, but you could still see them. what can i use? it cant be too strong or it will probably like peel my skin, cause im only thirteen.
also, when you get a pedicure, do they also like clean your toes, and not just the toenails? cause my toes look pretty crappy right now, and i wanna get a pedi so i can show them off soon in sandals in spring, lol. how much is a pedi anyway? I've never had one.
LASTLY, i have kinda like a few hairs in the middle of my eyebrows. it stinks cause it makes that park look darker kinda, and sort of uneven. and my eyebrows like kinda stick up at some points so its pointyish. my mom and sister dont pluck their eyebrows but how can i learn to do it or get them done (for free or something?) so i dont have this problem? i'll probably look so much better once they're done. and like how much money is it to go to the mall in some makeup store and have them try some make up on your face that fits your skin tone and such? i dunno how to use make up, haha and my mom doesn't use like eyeshadow and stuff, which I wanna see how it looks on me.
THANKS for replying to this long question!
1.) If she's a nurse & she knows what she's talking about, it's probably nothing to worry about. But I'd suggest seeing a doctor just incase.
2.) I don't normally get acne. Actually, almost never. But when I have, I tried multiple products that never worked. The best one, I've came across is Oxy. For more serious acne, I'd suggest Proactiv.
3.) Yes, they clean your entire feet. & sometimes even massage your lower legs. Most decently priced places charge about $25. If you want to save money & give yourself a pedicure, follow the steps I gave someone in another advice question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=469804
4.) For eyebrows, go get them waxed. They cost about $6-$10 on average. After they're waxed & shaped, just maintain them by plucking. For makeup, some places won't charge anything. & some won't charge anything as long as you buy a product. Just talk to one of the lady's at any makeup counter in a department store & they'll pick out your perfect shade & suggest colors that best suit you. :)
Guys answers will help!!!Okay my boyfriend is coming over tonight and i am cooking for him and we might watch a movie. My ? is what are some things we can do besides just making out, i mean like things i can do to him to suprise him..haha some tricks or somethings he wont even be expecting. NO sex, bj's or hj's just like kissing tips i guess stuff likie that or games we could play ~wink, wink~ Like guys what are somethings that girls do to you that drive you good crazy(not pyscho crazy haha!!) just give me some advice please!!! anything will help
Wrestle with him, tickle him, tease him, look at him in the eyes, give him a massage. Be confident & don't be afraid to get ontop of him or pin him against the wall & kiss him. Guys like when a girl takes charge every now & then. :)
ok. i run track but i am soooo out of shape.. my friend and i are getting in shape and track tryouts are in less than a month. making it is not the problem.. i no ill make it i was on the teamm last year and my coach always talks to me and my friend about what events we are doing this year. but anyway. i guess u would have to no us to understand but our track coach expects ALOT from us so in gym we have to run a mile and he wants us to do it in under 7 minutes b/c we are in 8 grade and he said track runners in 8 grade should be able to run a mile in under 7 min. well we both have no endurance and are strictly sprinters. anybody have any tips in running a mile?
sorry its so long
There's no trick to becoming faster unless you get into shape & practice, practice, practice. Learn the proper way to breathe (if you don't know already) to help you get through that mile faster. Get out there & run a mile everyday with your friend until tryouts. Time eachother & set new goals each time & by the time tryouts come, you should be fine. Good luck!
If I have been on birth control for one pack already, along with 2 weeks into the next pack, do you think I'm safe because my bf came in me last night and I'm not positive. Also, I've never missed a day but I've been about 4 hours MOST off from taking it. Like I take it at 9 but took it at 1 but took it at 9 the next time I took it. Do you still think I'm safe?
It's said that after the first couple of weeks of perfect use, you should be fine. But it's recommended to wait till after your first month to use it alone - just to be on the safe side. If there's ever a time you forget a day, don't rely on birth control alone until a week after perfect use again. Since you have been on it for over a month & have had perfect use (Those 4 hours is not a big deal AT ALL), you should be fine. But since oral contraceptives aren't 100% effective (just like any other birth control method), you are not 100% safe. I'd suggest using a condom & birth control together. That way, incase one form of protection fails, you always have the other to back you up (& there's no worrying about whether or not you were protected). But to answer your question, the likeliness of you getting pregnant is pretty low. I've been on birth control & am pretty familiar with all the circumstances, so I consider my advice reliable.
Ok, why do those type of kids, act like they HATE getting judged, & they HATE when people are mean to them because they dont even know them? & why do they put people down [like preppy kids..or just kids who like abercrombie] & then get all mad if you do something like that to them?
like, one. i don't know really any people that much that are mean to goth kids or whatever.
but those goth/emo kids, seem like they do it constantly to preppier kids.
why is thaT?
whats their problem? its bugging me.
i never did or said anything to them, for them to be mean to me.
I'd just like to say to be yourself & don't care what other people think of you. Once you're out of high school, none of this will matter & you will laugh at how ridiculously immature people are at that age. & how it was never worth getting worked up about in the first place. The end. :)
im going to a party tonite and i was asked to bring music.
i need really good upbeat dancing songs.
as many as possible.
thanks a ton!
Most upbeat/"party dancing" songs are rap/r&b. But mix it up with a few rock songs as well. Turn on the radio or go through your iTunes & find out what makes you want to get up a dance. If that doesn't help, leave a message in my inbox & I can actually send you a list of my personal favorites.
I start school in 2 days. The problem is that I am pregnant and my morning sickness is horrible. (It really shouldn't be called morning sickness, it should be called ALL DAY AND NIGHT LONG sickness but I digress). I have tried everything to not throw up all the time and so far, nothing is working. All my classes are far away from bathrooms so I won't have the luxury of being close to a toilet.
Does anyone have home remedies that work? Or experience managing morning sickness?
Any help is appreciated.
I researched the topic & got these results:
http://www.webmd.com/hw/being_pregnant/tn9084.asp
I also came across a book called "Managing Morning Sickness" by Miriam Erick, R.D., M.S. Here's a link for more information about it: http://www.bullpub.com/morningsickness.html
Hope that helped. :)