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Mixed Signals!
16/F(me!)-I have a close friend (16/M)who I have strong feelings for.We spend lots of time together and text alot and recently I had no choice but to tell him about the way I felt (he'd heard from one of my so called 'friends'). He told me he just wanted me as a friend.
But then he comes to my house at bizzare hours and says he wants to talk! And if I mention that I want to get out of the house he'll immediately say "me too, meet up with me".
But at school he largely ignores me. And he flirts with just about every girl he sees- constantly!
Also, when we were applying for colleges he convinced me to apply to the same college as him- he said he didn't want to be without me. I got in but now he doesn't mention it and is considering accepting a place at a different college.
What is going on? Does he like me, does he not? Is he using me as some kind of back-up plan? I'm so sick of hankering after him. Sometimes I feel like I just want him out of my life. Then, other times, I think he likes me to and we could have a future together.
I'd just like your opinions on his behaviour please, every observation or piece of advice is welcome!
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You know why?
Because he himself is unsure of his feelings for you.
In his mind, there must be some prettier cooler girl out there.
But at the same time, he cannot deny how cool you are and how fun you are to be around, and how compatible you two are together. But despite your coolness and everything, he does not have that sort of emotion for you, because he kinda knows that you are as perfect as things can get for him, and is afraid that "hey, i fell in love early so now wild parties with a lot of girls in my life".
So There is a part of him that likes you, but it isn't sufficient. This is because he feels there is something more to life "parties!".
That is why he goes around to other girls, they are prettier and might offer that exciting future. but somehow, they are not as friendly as you are. (so that bugs him)
So now he is stuck, and he probably knows he is stuck, but can't help it.
I am sorry for you, and I hope you understand that he is just kinda in limbo, and hopefully he figures out what's up soon enough.
Cj
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He could be flirting with these other girls in front of you because a) he likes you & wants to make you a little jealous..or b) he's just a natural, shameless flirt. It's hard to say if he has any feelings for you or if he just wants to be close friends. The best thing you can do is talk to him & ask him for yourself. If he still says he wants to be friends, then accept it as that & don't get frustrated. Also, don't get your hopes up. He probably just wants to be close friends.
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He might like you but he also ignores you and flirts with other girls right? I think you should ask him if he likes you and see what he says. Or what may be better if you have a friend go and ask him because he might tell her what is going on. So either talking to him or having a friend talk to him would probably help.
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