about

My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

advice

How much eyeliner is too much? How can you tell? (I know this sounds really retarded, but I don't know!!!)

You really cant go wrong with eyeliner but if it looks chunky,smeared and thick layers then its too much. Just put one layer and its perfect. ex__oOh ♥

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hey, iiM wiTh thiS bOy .. thaT ii reLe lOve .. ii mean .. itSz tha firSt lOve ii`ve evR haD .. Liike .. taLk`n tO hiim juS makeSz mE smiLe .. nOw ii knOo he lOveSz mE baQ .. `nD ii knOo wha we havE iSz suMthiin reaL .. ya sEe .. we weRe 2qeTha fOr abOut 8mOnthSz .. ii qOt reaLLy siiCk `nD he LiiveSz a whiLe away `nD iT waS qeT`n haRd fOr hiim tO aLwaiiSz cOme sEe mE `nD he waS maDd he coOdn`T b thea fOr mE .. sOo we tOok a bReak fOr abOut a mOnth .. we end`d uPp qeTT`n baQ tOqeTha .. Late aT niiqht on tha phOne juS taLk`n aS uSuaL `nD he aSk`d mEe .. sOo oF courSe ii saiD yeSs .. nOw abOut a LiddLe oveR a wEek Later .. uMm we qOt intO thiS huqE aRquemenT .. ii thOuqht hE miiqhT b cheaT`n .. ii yeLL`d `nD ii sCream`d `nD ii curSed evRy biT oF anGer ii haD tO hiim .. `nD he toL mE we weRe duN .. a mOnth aFta tha .. we bOth reaLized the strOnq feeLinqSz we haD fOr eaCh Other .. evn thO we weRent iiN tha saMe tOwn .. evRy 1 thiiNkSz iiM crazii cuS he miiqht b cheaT`n `nD aLL thaT shiiT .. they try `nD puT thiinSz iiN my head .. buh ii truSt him .. heSz tha onLii quy ii woOd truSt wiiD my Life .. heSz dOne sOo muCH fOr mE .. ii beeN thrU aLot .. `nD weN iT caMe tO kiLL`n a niqqa 4 mEe .. my babii diid iT .. he waS dOwn 4 mE nO maTTa wha .. ii`D dO tha saMe 4 hiim .. wha wE haVe iSz reaL .. we`ve beeN tOqeTha nOw siinCe 6.1o.o5 `nD tha firSt cOupLe weekSz we weRe qReat .. buh nOw iT seemSz we aRque aLot Ovah duM shiit .. `nD we bOth knOo we lOve eaCh Otha .. `nD ii mean ii LOVE jOkinq arOun .. ii lOve lauqh`n .. ii meaN whO doeSn`t? buh ii lOve beiinq siLLy .. `nD he jokeSz aRoun wiiD me aLot `nD ii can`T teLL iF heSz pLay`n sOo ii miiqht taKe iT seriouSz .. `nD then we`LL qeT intO an aRquement .. y dO we dO thiS sOo muCh?? ii knOo we lOve eaCh Other `nD itSz reaL .. buh caN yu heLp me?? y dO yu thiiNk we dO thiS?? `nD hOw can ii stOp iT cuS ii reLe juS waNna b wiiD my babii `nD qOo pLaceSz wiiD hiim `nD taLk Late oN tha phOne wiiD him .. WiTHOUT arqueinq `nD mE enD`n uPp sad .. thankSz ..

You argue because you love each other. I mean no realationship can be perfect and everyone wishes it could. I mean you argue and thats normal. If you love to play around and just joke around.. just try not to take it so seriously.. Dont belive what the others tell you. I mean its awesome that you trust him a lot and thats good. But if you feel like its something that will ruin your relationship then you should talk to him about it. Just tell him that sometimes you take it seriously and that you really dont mean to. He will understand and he will know not to make a big deal out of it later. Good luck! ♥ ex__oOh

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I know what masturbation is, and that if you are a girl you stick your finger up the hole and move it up and down fast for sexual excitement, but can anyone tell me exactly how you masturbate? Like do you need to use lube or something?

WILL RATE 5'S =D

What is up with all these mastubation questions? Just do it how ever you like. It would help if you are horny so yea. But have fun! EX_OH ♥

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i was wondering cuz my friend is having a problem with a huge bladder control and somebody told me that before you start ur period you might get a bladder infection is that true?

You dont get a blader infection but you just have to use the bathroom a little more often. L0L. ♥ ex_oH

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can a doctor tell if a girl has been touching herself?

Noo.. unless its like infected. You have nothing to worry about. ex_oOh

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ok, i here from my friends its ok, but im confused, are girls allowed to masterbate? like how many girls do? does anyone here? please help!

Yes its defenetlly normal. A lot of girls do it and its just a way for girls to pleasure themselves without the guy. If you do it then dont be ashamed of it. ex_oH

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Can someone please give me an intellegent answer to y people cut? It makes no sense to me. The only conclusion i have come to is mental/emotional weakness.

I knew a lot of people who used to cut. People do it because of depression. They feel bad and they hate everything about them selves and their lives. They think that its the best way to cut and that it will make their pain go away. I also dont understand it. I mean there is defenetlly other ways to releve stress and get through depression. But see.. people just think that its worth it. Later they will relize that it doesnt help and thats its really worthless. It just leaves bad scars on your skin and then again your problems will never go away because of it. ex__oOh

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how do i get back at my ex-boyfriend

Well.. what did he do??

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why dose it seem like my bf dont really like talking to me? he seems like hes mad.?

Guys sometimes do that because they dont have the same interest in you as before. He could be mad at you for something so you should talk to him about it to make sure. Im sure that it isnt nothing serious.. just comfort him. Good luck! ♥

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Is 13 old enough to wear makeup? I mean like light makeup, not really heavy makeup cuz I'm 13 and I want to, but I'm not sure if it would look weird on a 13-year-old?

Not at all. Ive been wearing makeup since I was like 4! L0L! Wearing just like eyeliner,mascara and lipgloss is enough. You could wear like eyeshadow and such. ex__oOh

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theirs this boy and he wants to go out with me for the 28th time.i really like him but i jus know he is gonns dump me again for a dmumb reason. i dont know what to do.
help me!

Defenetlly no. I mean he doesnt treat you right it doesnt matter how much you like him. You deserve better. I mean the 28th time.. You would just end up getting hurt again. ♥

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Hey ok i just asked a question about how old you should be to wear a thong and most people said about 13 and well im 13 and i wanta ask my mom if we can get some but how should i ask??

Yea, defenetlly ask her. I mean its no big deal since they are just underwear.. They are comftrable and your mom will probally let you. Its no big deal. ♥ ex_oOh

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MY FRIEND IS ON DRUGS NOW HE TOTALLY RELYS ON IT he thinks its impossible to get off it he does pot and alcohol and HE CUTS HIMSELF HOW CAN I HELP HIM?!

You should of helped him in the begging before he got attached to all that stuff. There is no way you can help him. One way is just talking to him. Even tho he will listen but wont understand. Get him help. He could end up doing something really bad at the end that you will regret for not being there to stop it and help. Trust me .. it will be all worth it. ♥ x0`

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i cry a lot. nd i guess my x didnt kno that. but i broke up w/ him nd he used to b my BEST friend! but i broke up w/ him nd he was depressed ALL day long obviously. i couldnt bear it because I was the 1 that broke his heart nd hes my best friend! so later after school i called him so we could talk more (he told me to call him) nd i started crying. he was like "u cant brake up w/ me nd then start crying" im like "i kno i kno but. . ." nd now i feel like a complete idiot nd i dont want him to tell his friends. then i said "i kno im such a loser for crying" nd he said "no yur not a loser" so idk. i still feel like an idiot. help!

Tell him the reason you were crying was because you felt bad for hurting him and you just thought it wouldnt work out. Crying isnt a bad thing tho. Dont feel embarassed.. just tell him that and he will understand. ♥

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Hey, i need help!!! Im going to highschool in about 2 months, and I want to look good! I Know i dress really tomboyish, like with all my band shirts and dickies and stuff, but that stuff looks cute on other girls...My hair is black because I died it and its starting to get brown hilights in it from my natural hair color. It looks kool if i straighten it. I am overweight and I am extremly determined to lose weight.

I really like this guy who is going to my school and would like to impress him. Please help.

I rate 5's Only and if you wanna leave a mean comment go ahead, you'll just be wasting your time.

Starting off fresh is a good idea. I' give you some tips.

Hair-I would suggest to dye your hair a lighter color and then get higlights. If its extra long cut it right by your shoulders and get layers.

Makeup-You dont have to wear a lot but makeup makes helps a lot and its just a lot of fun. You could wear a little bit of eyeshadow,mascara is a must and so is eyeliner. Put on a little lipgloss and you're done!

Your style-If you really like being a tomboy then stay that way. Just wear cuter things if you want to fit in like some of the other girls. Wear a skirt,a cute polo, flip flops, some jewerly and there!! You'd look hot!

Now- Its great that you want to loose weight but you have 2 months left. You need to eat healthy. I know it might sound like ehh.. gross but its not. Eat white chicken, drink lots of fluids, veggies, and fruits. If you dont like fruits make a smoothie without all the sugar. Just dont eat anything fried and greesy. After dinner everynight go out for a walk. Walk for about 45 minutes. Do crunches whenever you feel bored and such. Its great way to tone up your tummy.

The guy- If you like him you have to be confident in yourself that he will like you. When you go back to school just talkt o him and he would be shocked on how great you look and he will be impressed!!! Good luck!!!!! ♥

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My family is really weird becuz they are like really mean to me but not other people in my family i dont understand why i mean they yell at me more than anybody but then 2 seconds later they expect me to be over it and accept their appology i dont understand it plz help me

All families are like that acually. They have bad times too. Just try not to make them as mad all the time even tho you might think you did nothing wrong. Are you the youngest in the familiy? You need to go to your mom or dad and tell them exaclly how you feel. They will understand and if they yell at you sometimes its not because they just want to be mean they just love you and want whats best for you. But you shouldnt really stay mad forever.. just go and talk to them. Good luck!! ex__Oh ♥

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I have Hazel Eyes and Brown hair and fair skin what kind of make up should i wear and i also have redish cheeks (nothing bad born with it) I am not dark but not to white and i wanted to kno what kind of makeup would be good for me.

Mine are the same.. what I usually wear is darkish colors on my eyes. Like purples,browns,and sometimes a smokey eye. I also wear light colors.. just depends like browns with golds and tans. Use black mascara and eather black or dark brown eyeliner. If you want to use blush then you should use peachish or redish color. Lipgloss... eather clear or light pink always looks so cute! EX__O0H ♥

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well i was walking home from school and an old man came up to me he groped me so i punched him in his nose it was the first thing that came into my head,and it started bleeding he told me he was going to press charges what should i do?

Noo.. you wont get in trouble but if he presses charges he will. You did nothing wrong because it was self defence. Tell your parents before anything else happens. ♥ ex`_`Oh

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So I am at school right now and I just found out people have been talking about me and my friend going out, but she is a girl. I am not bisexual nor am I a lesbian. People are starting rumors and they dont even know me. I am new at this school and I dont know how to cope with it. Lately everyone has been acting like they dont want me here. I've just came for advice on what I should do because right now no one will listen to me. I've tried about everything to just get friend, but I will never change who I am. I know my sexuality and I know I am straight. I wouldn't say I'm not something if I really was. I mean ever since someone started that rumor people will come up to me and ask me if I am a lesbian! It is irritating. Holyoke has been the worst ever since i moved here.Everyone who knows me is back in chicopee, and I just miss everything and the way things used to be.

Wow.. I think that thats really messed up. Those people are just really immature and since you are the new kid they will pick on you. You have to know how to stop it because if you dont say anything it wont stop. The next time someone says that you are a lesbian you have to say it in a way they can all hear and understand. By that I mean yell do whatever so they get the point. Right now you are an easy target for them. Just be sweet to everyone else around you who isnt saying anything rude. Talk to everyone and be outgoing. Just remember those who hate you and talk about you are jelous. I know it sounds dumb but they are. Just dont be an easy target for them. Good luck and hope everything turns out okay!! ♥ ex__oOh

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Okay, I know some people asked if you can like delay your period, but my question's different. I have to go on a Yacht for my friend's going away party on Saturday, and I just got my period this morning. Is there ANYTHING to maybe stop my period by Saturday morning? (Today's Thursday) There's no bathroom on the boat, or trashcan, and we'll be out there for a good 6 hours... :-\ I really want to go, so any help is appreciated!

No there isnt. I wish there was because being on your period defenetlly sucks. If you dont want to wear a pad just wear a tampon. They are comftrable and you can do whatever in them. Just take midol before so you dont get cramps. But Im sorry that I couldnt tell you that there is anything to stop your period. Have fun tho! ♥ ex_oO

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